Suzanne F
07-10-2014, 12:29 PM
Many of you know that I am in the process of trying to live as the authentic me. My wife and children have accepted me as Suzanne. I have come out to many friends. Many of them have seen me as a woman. Last week I came out to several friends back in Kentucky that I had been close to for several years.
Tuesday night was the biggest test yet. I have 2 golf buddies that I have been close to for about 5 years. They are a little conservative and can be insensitive to other lifestyles. They know that I am a liberal and am for equal rights or all people. We banter sometimes about issues but I love these guys. They have always treated me well and I respect their right to disagree with me on issues. I have never seen them treat any person negatively.
So I knew I had to tell them before they found out from someone else. I was so apprehensive about their reaction. They represent the group that I never wanted to face with the truth that I really am a girl inside. I always made sure to compete and win against this group. I always masked my fear with bravado. It simply scared me to tell them. I also didn't want to hurt them.
I drove over to my friend's house where I had asked both of them to meet me. Ironically, they called this the man cave.
I came in and told them that I was transgendered and explained what had been going on for the last year and a half. I told them I would be increasingly living my life as a woman. They were shocked. At first I had to do all of the talking. They warmed up and began asking questions. They asked about my wife, was I bi and would I fully transition. I explained that my wife and I were trying to work through this and I didn't know yet how far I would go with transition. They asked excellent questions which I tried to answer honestly.
One friend was adamant about how bad I must look. However they didn't want to see my picture. I have to admit I wanted to prove I didn't look that bad but didn't get that chance. I said no problem they didn't have to see me until they were ready but at some point I would be Suzanne most of my non work time. They said ok.
They hugged me and said they loved me no matter what . One friend was very complimentary of how much courage this all must take. In the end they said I was a great person and that was all that mattered to them.
I feel lighter today. The world did not end.
I know there are many more challenges ahead. I want to sit back and appreciate that I met a big one with courage and grace. I couldn't have done that if not for my girl friends from this forum.
Allie, Rachael, Miki,Debbie and Isha come to mind. There are others too so sorry if I missed you!
Tuesday night was the biggest test yet. I have 2 golf buddies that I have been close to for about 5 years. They are a little conservative and can be insensitive to other lifestyles. They know that I am a liberal and am for equal rights or all people. We banter sometimes about issues but I love these guys. They have always treated me well and I respect their right to disagree with me on issues. I have never seen them treat any person negatively.
So I knew I had to tell them before they found out from someone else. I was so apprehensive about their reaction. They represent the group that I never wanted to face with the truth that I really am a girl inside. I always made sure to compete and win against this group. I always masked my fear with bravado. It simply scared me to tell them. I also didn't want to hurt them.
I drove over to my friend's house where I had asked both of them to meet me. Ironically, they called this the man cave.
I came in and told them that I was transgendered and explained what had been going on for the last year and a half. I told them I would be increasingly living my life as a woman. They were shocked. At first I had to do all of the talking. They warmed up and began asking questions. They asked about my wife, was I bi and would I fully transition. I explained that my wife and I were trying to work through this and I didn't know yet how far I would go with transition. They asked excellent questions which I tried to answer honestly.
One friend was adamant about how bad I must look. However they didn't want to see my picture. I have to admit I wanted to prove I didn't look that bad but didn't get that chance. I said no problem they didn't have to see me until they were ready but at some point I would be Suzanne most of my non work time. They said ok.
They hugged me and said they loved me no matter what . One friend was very complimentary of how much courage this all must take. In the end they said I was a great person and that was all that mattered to them.
I feel lighter today. The world did not end.
I know there are many more challenges ahead. I want to sit back and appreciate that I met a big one with courage and grace. I couldn't have done that if not for my girl friends from this forum.
Allie, Rachael, Miki,Debbie and Isha come to mind. There are others too so sorry if I missed you!