how to come out to my wife

[stuart]

Hi! I have been dressing in lingerie since I was a boy. I have been married for 10 years and I have decided to come out to my wife. Any suggestions?

How do I tell her? Should I tell her?

[Jasmine Ellis]

That is a very good question dear. That is up to you. I told my wife and she told me it's her or the dressing had to go! Well, I think you know the out come She's my ex but we are very good friends. There are a lot of girls in here who's wife's knows and seem to don't mind about it. They even go shopping for clothes which is wonderful. If you do tell, hun I wish you all the luck in the world. Think before you say anythink to her. Sorry to be a downer sweetheart but all the best

[qwen]

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Hi! I have been dressing in lingerie since I was a boy. I have been married for 10 years and I have decided to come out to my wife. Any suggestions?


hello when my wife found out she did not speck to me for three mouths be for her dauter had a talk with her. after that we took it small bits at a time till she was able to look at me fully dressed. and boath felt comfatible with it ps it may take a little time for her to come round but don,t push it on her in one go.:clap: :clap:

[Nikki Dee]

Hi. Hun...In truth only you can know if it's right...or the right time.!..but it can take a lot of patience....and slow progress...so try not to be in too much of a rush...and yes, I do know how difficult that is.!!.It can be a really hard thing for an S.O. to get their head around...so be prepared to give a lot of support.!. I have a really supportive wife...but we both had to work hard for that success...and it didn't happen overnight .!!Best of luck whatever you decide.
Love Nikki. xx

[uknowhoo]

Hello Stuart, and welcome to the forum. You will find this place a wealth of information and support. I'm sure you will have a number of helpful responses in this thread.

It seems we have had a number of threads with this same or a related topic lately, which might also be helpful to you. Here's one:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21247
And here's another with sources of information/resources for you and your wife:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21327

I wish you and your wife all the best . Good luck! Tammi

[Sarahgurl371]

Stuart, welcome. There is plenty of advice here. Basically someone here will say what you want to here, and someone else will say the opposite. Read some of the posts by the GG's. They offer a great perspective on what your wife's fears and worries may be, and that can help you allay them.

[Michelle_1010]

Tell her slowly….

I am in the process of telling my wife, she already knows about panties, pantyhose, stockings, nightgowns and even some girl shoes (open back tennis shoe kind).

It started with me telling her how lucky she was to be able to wear something warm under her jeans during the winter that is also very light weight and thin. After hinting around for a little while about that she just said one day “you know we are passing a CVS and we can stop and get you some on the way if you would like”. Of course I said yes, and from there on out I have been wearing pantyhose. Now I have like 35 pair that includes thigh highs with garter belts all the way to real thick tights, and of course every color and style in the book.

Then I had to work on panties, so again I just hinted real slowly about how much better hers felt than mine did. This took months of hinting, then one day for some holiday we were staying in a hotel with a jet tub in our room and the out of no where she brought out a gift for me..it was a silk pair of boxers….

I wore them for a while and just kept saying how much I did not like them cause they give me such bad wedgies, and that they are not the same soft material that she wore…So again a while later we were in a mall and the next thing you know we were in Victoria’s Secret buying me some panties. I now wear them all the time (except at work), and she just loves me in them…as for everything else I just slowly keep introducing new found love for different items of women’s clothing and she is ok with it…

I have not yet told her that I like to dress fully but one item at a time is good enough for me, I have a feeling that she knows and is just playing the game with me….but that is fine….

I just have to say, TAKE YOUR TIME AND TELL HER LITTLE BIT AT A TIME…. And most of the time they will ease into it and not have a problem.

I hope all goes well with you and please let us know how it is going…

Kiss, Kiss,,

Michelle

[sandy_folsom]

You can always make it her idea to have you dress up. That's what I did and it worked. It did confess later that I liked to dress up before she came up with the idea.
Here's the thread where I describe what I did: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=21605

[MisterMissy]

Now Sandy may be onto something here!
I found a pair of my wife's panties in my dresser drawer one morning, and when I told her she said she wanted to see them on me. This might have been a good time to break into the "ice" but I didn't do it. As soon as she left I put them on though!
Next time I might have to take her up on that! I already told my sister and I sent my mother a picture book, but I just don't know how the wife would take it.:o

[DonnaT]

http://www.3dcom.com/couples/vkol/TELLING.HTML

see some of the letters on their homepage as well

http://www.3dcom.com/couples/vkol/COUPLES.HTML

[Marla GG]

Hi Stuart,

Here's an article I wrote that might give you some ideas: How to Tell Your Partner (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13841)

I wish you the best. Please let us know how it goes.