Birthday present dilemma !!

[biggirlsarah]

Hi all, as some of you may be aware that my wife is completely accepting of Sarah, my dilemma is that it is my birthday in a few days and I have seen a beautiful dress in a local outlet, it is black with a purple front panel, now my wife would have absolutely no problem buying me this for my birthday, she often buys me a couple of gifts one for Colin one for Sarah, I don't normally have an issue with that it is really nice to get a little girlie present, I don't really want for anything, loads of clothes shoes etc. I have said to my wife that I don't feel it is right to buy your husband a dress for his birthday, I know that many people here would give anything to have a wife who would willingly buy their husband feminine things but it is just the way I feel I don't think it is right, am I being a silly mare or being overtly moral ?
I am really after a little bit of guidance, thanks in anticipation. love and hugs Sarah xxx

[Kathryn_Cox]

Hi Sarah, my wife is like yours accepting and would be very upset if she knew that I wanted a specific dress for my birthday and had not let her know, better you get something that you really want for sure, hope it works out for you xx kathryn

[Teresa]

Sarah I think it would be a loving gesture of acceptance from your wife, if it were me I would gratefully accept it !
I've made the comment to my wife about the implications of receiving a feminine gift, just one would mean so much in the message it gave !!
Perhaps underwear would be more appropriate, she would know I was wearing it but she doesn't have to see if she chooses not to !

[DonnaT]

No problem for a birthday. Father's day would be a different story.

[Flowergirl]

Oh to be so lucky! While my wife mostly accepts/tolerates my other side, she throws a fit when I want something feminine for birthdays/Christmas. I get that she "needs" to give me a guy gift so that friends and family can see what she got me, but honestly my guy self has most everything that I want. As I am sure is the case with the rest of the people on here, my feminine side could always use something else to wear, so I long for nothing more than a nice outfit for such occasions. The ultimate gift would be for her to get me an outfit and take me somewhere, but I will probably have to keep wishing!

[Donnagirl]

My lovely SO has had a major turnaround from a very DADT to open and accepting. This birthday she bought me a string of pearls and a handbag. I'm sure that if there was a particular dress I had my eye on she would have been a little disappointed if I had not pointed it out.

[bridget thronton]

You know your feelings better than I. A gift from your wife can be secret from those who do not know you.

[Amanda L.]

Hi Sarah
You have to go with your instincts on this one. If you don't feel its right then its not right.
What do you give a man who has everything? Well nothing of course. Maybe a better gift would be to have a special evening out just the two of you either as Sarah or Colin (your call),,,,,,,,,,,,, but buy the dress anyway if you really want it.
Cheers
Amanda

[Beverley Sims]

If your wife wishes to buy you a dress and you like wearing them, go for it.

[Marcelle]

Hi Sarah,

I don't think it is silly to feel that way. My wife and I have discussed this at length as she asked who she should by for. We came to the agreement (pre-CDing days) that clothing is something we won't buy each other as presents unless we absolutely ask for it. This has translated to post-CD for me. So when my wife buys a present, she normally gets me something I like (mainly tools and computer modding stuff) and attaches a small gift (make-up, bracelet) for Isha. However, if you really want the dress and your lovely wife is willing to buy it for you . . . she is buying it for her husband. Nothing in the relationship handbook that says "Thou shall buy manly man gifts for thy fellow only". :)

Hugs and have a happy B-Day.

Isha