Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Pintrest

[brandyred166]

Just wondering if folks that are not out as CD/TG/TS/TV have seperate profiles on the social media sites, or do you still join groups or follow folks hoping people don't ask you why you are a member of a local CD/TG/TS/TV group or why you might be following a famous CD/TG/TS/TV?

[~Joanne~]

I have absolutely NO social accounts. Too much tracking, criss crossing of information, and "suggesting" on their part to ever not get outed in time. I understand that pretty much every site online tracks and stores information but they take it to a whole new level. I do however have a femme email account but that's as far as I will go at this point in time.

I am hoping that at some point in time I am comfortable enough with myself to take part in a local, semi local, group and experience some outings and such but, again, I am not there yet either. While my SO is amazing and will go out with me pretty much whenever I get "the itch" (as she likes to call it lol) it's not quite the same.

[CynthiaD]

I agree with Joanne. I have a facebook account in my male name which I almost never use, and a twitter account that I absolutely never use. I do have separate male and female Email accounts, several of each. Anyone who wants to "out" me is going to have to go to the local mall, rather than look me up on line. :)

[Michelle (Oz)]

I've become more relaxed about social media as a consequence of my wife knowing I dress (but DADT) and having formed friendships by being out so much that it makes for an active forum. So I have separate Facebook and Twitter accounts as well as developing a swish website. Supporting Joanne though, it is interesting the suggestions that come up on my femme Facebook from my male domain.

[Helena Gwyn]

Only a separate mail account and pinterest account for Helena.
Facebook, Twitter, G+, ... under my male name.

[Jodi]

I also have no social accounts. I don't need nor want them.

Jodi

[KaceyR]

Well, my main aspect is that the only ones left that don't already know about Kacey are some coworkers.
Everyone else knows pretty much all.
Then the second aspect for me personally is what I've learned on my sexuality and being a bit high on LGBT advocacy and sexuality openness.

Soo.. I have my male FB account.
Then I have other Kacey accounts both on twitter and FB (see sig) linked so twitter posts end up on FB and many FB posts on twitter.
Gotta say, while my male account does get political, and with LGBT advocacy...
My Kacey FB/tweets I push open sexuality issues more and can be a bit kinkier at times as well :)
(Oh, and with some reposts of great looking shoes/heels/boots at times when I see them in my feeds too :))
Most RL friends are friended on both FB accounts.

I also have Kacey on a few other social sites not as mainstream (think more like fetish or social like dating).

All in all, I'm in a mode of not caring if people get upset over me in a dress, or my discussions on sexuality.
And since I'm a bit financially limited to get out and do as much as I'd like, I do it thru the net.

(Oh, forgot about my Tumblr, Instagram, google plus, and youtube.. But none of these are used yet really.)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Brandyred, Those four things scare the livin $#!+ out of me.

[PretzelGirl]

Just looked and Sue's Facebook is almost four years old. Not a leak the entire time. Since I am soon going to bag the second account and invite everyone over to the other, I am starting to let the security go. About a dozen of my family is now friends with Sue so they can see my transition posts and a couple of close friends of Sue's are now friended with Steve so they can see that side of things. I did make my friends list invisible to everyone because of the cross-connect. One account will make it simpler from the aspect of not having to keep up with two, but I never really had a problem keeping two up and secure.

[Ann Thomas]

I used to keep separate accounts where necessary, but now am only continuing the Ann accounts. I've been on hormones since last December.

Ann

[Lady Catherine]

I've had two accounts on Facebook for a couple years now. No cross over what-so-ever. I don't care if there is, but there hasn't been any.

[Katey888]

I do not have any FB/Twit/Idiotgram/ or P-not-interested-in-what-a-whole-load-of-strangers-think accounts... :)

I have a separate Google+ account which I keep very private, almost exclusively for Kateymail and closed only to friends and I don't join groups, follow people or care a tuppenny duck what a hashtag is.. (I'm sure I've had one for breakfast once...:doh:)

You young folks are so happy to share everything with everybody - in fact, a lot of the time it seems to be about bragging rights of 'who shares the most with the most people'... It's a virtual, meaningless and quite sad competition, imho - with a great potential for bad doings and nasty things to go wrong with ones' personal data... And I don't need my browser telling me what I need to buy either... I like to use the capacity for choice and free thought... I am not a number! I AM A FREE WOMAN.... :cheer:

Did that answer the question? I think so... And as the question started with "Just wondering if folks that are not out as CD/TG/TS/TV...", unlike half the posters here, I actually qualify to answer... :)

Katey x

[sarahspinkdress]

I have a separate facebook and twitter and ONLY Sarah has a Pinterest. I like having them since I online game so much and such (always as girl self), if someone asks for Sarah's facebook, I don't have to go through the whole rigamarole of explanations. Plus I can follow clothing stores and such and actually like dresses and enter contests and that fun stuff. There are enough differences between my girl and boy accounts that I'm not super worried about anyone finding out anything I'm uncomfortable with, and I don't post face pics pretty much anywhere, so unless you REALLY know what my arms look like, I'm probably in the clear.

Necessary? Nah, but I enjoy it.

[docrobbysherry]

Trans don't need separate FB pages. But, us CD's do.

When I finally figured out I was the latter, I opened a FB page for Sherry about 4 years ago. Now, she has over 1000 Friends. Even after deleting a number I thot may have reported Sherry's nude or provocative photos to FB!

My FB Friends probably consist of the following percentages:

75% simple enjoy her photos
20% r interested in how and/or why I do what I do. (Probably 50% maskers/fetish/role players and 50% dressers.)
5% r actual friends

[Wildaboutheels]

I have NO social accounts and don't intend on having one. Nor do I ever carry a cell phone unless I am getting picked up/retrieving someone at the airport. It works well for me.

People in my circle "that matter" have my home phone # and email address and that's plenty enough contact for me.

When you are FtF with someone or on the phone there is a lot less "wiggle room" for people to make mistakes interpreting what the other person wished to convey. And let's face it, most people are not very good readers and/or simply do not like to read.

Also FtF or on the phone are THE best two ways to have success on ANY Dating site of any kind.

Brad Paisley has an excellent take on the matter.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UE6iAjEv9dQ

[Stephanie47]

I have zero social accounts. Email is sufficient to keep up with old friends who do not live locally. I also do not have a cellular telephone. If you know me and cannot take the time to call me, then I do not really need to keep in contact with you. I'm usually the last person in the family to have knowledge about anything which is fine with me. Also, this is the only forum of any kind that I participate in.

[Kate Simmons]

My female account on FB is not the one I use here. I have mutual friends on both accounts. They know who I am and that's all that counts.:)

[Adriana Moretti]

well...if any of you gals feel like being social...you can find me here.....
https://www.facebook.com/adriana.moretti.334
no shame in my game........

[Oh Stella]

I only have a facebook acount for keeping up on family stuff and its in my male name. It drives me nuts sometimes the way some people are just waiting to read a post from me. My mother will like a post most of the time in about 15 minutes from the time I post it. I post maybe 3 or 4 times a month. Im still in the closet so if any kind of cd stuff came up on my fb page the my mom would know right away.

I do have 2 email acounts. One for male and one for Stella. Only about 4 or 5 people have Stella's email.

I dont have any other acounts for either male or Stella.

[BOBBI G.]

Both of my internet accounts were started long before I Became Bobbi. My Facebook account is in my male name and I have really never learned how to use it. (Don't really care, either). I am not a "grouper", I much prefer one on one, (the telephone), which I tell everyone of my transition and progress.

Bobbi

[Krisi]

This comes up from time to time. If you join any of these "social media" groups as a female or crossdresser there's a good chance that this will come back to haunt you. Don't do it if you are not out to everyone.

[Alice_2014_B]

I just have one FB account.

[Kate Simmons]

My guy account on FB is to reassure my friends and get my points across. My girl account on FB is strictly for fun with my TG friends.:battingeyelashes::)

[Tina G]

I am out.. I have a few accounts to keep in touch with lifelong friends and i'm done hiding.

Tina

[Tallulah Rose]

None at all - quite happy without them!

[Nadya]

I agree that Facebook has way too much tracking of information. I don't think that I would do such a thing for a my fem persona. I have though of using Pinterest under my fem persona but that probably has the same amount of problems as any other social media site.

[natcrys]

Since I'm not fully out.. I do have a separate accounts: Facebook, Reddit, YouTube and the other usual accounts.

There is no overlap in contacts, even though most of my guy-mode friends know about Tassia. I'm sure the NSA, MI6, Zuckerberg, etc. could figure out the truth.. but I have been using these accounts for both guy-mode and girl-mode and I haven't experienced any strange things. I'm still careful and mindful, since I do work in a field that also concerns itself with cybersecurity.. so I realise what's out there.


As a sidenote,.. I like social media! I have learned a lot from it, have met wonderful people through it (some of whom I've consequently met in real life). And when I started posting my own stuff,.. the response and the feedback was so awesome that it did wonders for my self-confidence. I am 100% sure that I would definitely not have grown into the Tassia I am today (whatever your opinion is about that ;) ) if there hadn't been social media.

Sure, there is a lot of clutter.. and self-promotion, but I'm okay with that. Like some have indicated here.. you don't have to participate. And if you don't like something, just don't click, watch or read it.

It's that simple. :p

[Adam7]

I have a pintrest account, but I would NOT post any of my own pictures or things I find there and for anyone who does I would advise you to A) read the terms of agreement very carefully, B) Google it and why most attorneys don't use pintrest. Now beyond that, I think I might make a secret tumblr/instagram (need to read TOS on Instagram first) and then go through all the settings, but... I generally stay as anonymous as possible on my social media anyhow...

I am a marketing / PR professional for a living, social media is one of the many things I deal with. My personal Facebook for instance, while it has my name, has no other identifiable information about me except for the city and state I live in and how old I am. Furthermore it's completely private to everyone but friends. Reason being is I just say and post things (violence/crude humor/real world problems) that may offend my work or professional life. However, I don't think even my friends can see my likes or groups as I have them hidden. Either way, everyone who knows me knows I am an avid LGBT supporter, so if I posted CD stuff, they probably wouldn't blink an eye (I know, I know, it's just the stereotype).

[AnnetteC]

As a very closeted person, I stay away from all those social sites and apps. There would be a lot at stake should I be outed, and I even keep separate cellphones. I do have my femme email address, and now I'm here, which is very cool!

[Rebecca Cross Bracer]

I have separate facebook accounts. Although, after seeing the direction this thread has started off in maybe I need to reconsider that?

[Tracii G]

I have guy and girl FB accounts and no problems with crossing of info.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

I do NO SOCIAL MEDIA of any kind!

Part is I'm old fashioned and part I'm not interested. I see tooooo many people spending tooooo much time doing nothing but stay on Facebook or some other site to the exclusion of everything else in the world.

Lastly, I am still closeted and don't want anyone getting any ideas about my feminine side. I have one separate e-mail account for Linda and that is all.

[Raychel]

I do have a face book account for the guy side of me, Raychel had an account but they started getting inter-mingled.
so she no longer has one.

best to keep her out of that world, Dad is there and he may not know about this side of me.

[Daisy41]

I have a separate Facebook account only because Daisy has a bigger online presence than in "real life". I do post Daisy related stuff under my male account, but I post nothing Travis only related as Daisy to protect those would would want to friend me but are afraid of being tracked through my friends and what not.

[Beverley Sims]

This is the socialist I get, I do not need to leave a vapour trail.....

Anywhere....