Saying Hello...Again!

[JuliaM]

Hi girls...been close to 9 months since I came out to my very supportive wife. Did some therapy, came out to some close friends, and really learned to love myself for who I am. What I've learned is that I like my "middle" self best, coming to terms with my sexuality, gender, and cross dressing. I've been working on being more myself around co workers and family, which has created some much needed confidence as to where I want to be. For me, I've learned that its not the clothes that make the girl, but they help bring her out - Julia has been there my entire life, and now that I have accepted her I am much happier than I ever have been. Its what has been missing from my life for as far as I can remember, and now that I've realized this, I can explain many issues that I've had in the past that have been a mystery up to now.

Looking to the future I want to bring Julia out in the open, not as full time, but for fun, as that is why I dress. I've decided not to transition as i enjoy my male side also, and have now issues flowing freely between both genders in my mind. My therapist was the greatest help with this - I can't recommend this enough to those who need some help.

I've kept up with the site over the past few months but haven't really contributed. I'm not experienced like some here but feel I've passed the point of turning around and caring what others may feel. This was the tipping point which has brought me back to post and say "hi!". I'm planning on contributing more and hope to share my experiences with the group...isn't this why were are all here?

Hugs,

JuliaM

[bridget thronton]

Glad you have reached your happy place

[Katey888]

Julia,

It is always a Good Thing to hear that someone here has found that place of harmony and balance we all aspire to.. :cheer:

It's different for everyone, of course, but it's also a generous and caring sentiment that you do want to come back here and share your experiences and perspectives with others... and however experienced or not you think you are, the fact that you're prepared to do that, is priceless for those who are prepared and need to listen... :hugs:

Katey x

[Suzanne F]

Julia
Welcome back! Your confidence is inspiring. I have been through the process you are beginning. It has been so worthwhile! Good luck with everything.
Suzanne

[CynthiaD]

Welcome back Julia! Glad you're getting it together. It's always nice to hear about others' experiences. Thanks for sharing.

[Brianna_H]

Julia, welcome. I'm new here myself and just started my trans* journey several weeks ago. Your post was very interesting to me. It's amazing to see how many different paths and destinations there are in this gender universe.

It's great that you have a supportive wife. It makes such a difference to me not to be alone in life.

Do you find the need to identify as anything in particular? Are you happy as a crossdresser or do you consider yourself transgender? Do you still use male pronouns? Sounds like you switch between, depending on your mode.

[Adriana Moretti]

Ahh....a happy story....I like those....glad you were able to find a balance.

[JuliaM]

Thank you all! I like the happy story too...its been an interesting ride to this point!

Brianna, I consider myself gender fluid. I've purposely stayed away from labels, choosing to roll with what I'm presented or present at a given moment. I still have a lot of exploration with Julia, but I am excited and more importantly, becoming less afraid the more comfortable I become! :cheer: