6 months since transition

[Peggie Lee]

6 months have flown by since I transitioned, my life bears no resemblance to what I had before.
So what has transitioning done for me, the first and biggest is that I am at peace and content, an end to the constant depression that has hung over me like a cloud since childhood. I am taking care of my appearance and health, my social life has bloomed, my attitudes and judging of others is more accepting and optimistic. I have become involved in life around me.
With the name change court order and my Doctors letters in hand I am headed off to the DMV get my new drivers lic. then to Social Security then the bank and the 15 others things that need changing. I have no reservation or regrets for making this change so far.

Peggie Lee
(For real now)

[dreamer_2.0]

Happy post! Congratulations!

[Frances]

Just out of curiosity, what event marked a date in your transition? It's been 6 months since what exactly? I consider myself post-transition, having had SRS and being legally female, but I cannot pin-point a starting point for my transition. It seems like a long fluid process. Are you talking about your official social transition (going full-time at work)?

[Peggie Lee]

Last February I started HRT, came out at work and have been living full time as Peggie Lee. If my life were any better it would be illegal. My therapist and my Doctor agreed I was ready to change my gender along will my name change and wrote the letters and filled out the forms for the DMV and SSA and birth certificate.

Peggie Lee

PS I have a surgery date with Dr. Bowers next year.

[I Am Paula]

Just out of curiosity, what event marked a date in your transition? It's been 6 months since what exactly? I consider myself post-transition, having had SRS and being legally female, but I cannot pin-point a starting point for my transition. It seems like a long fluid process. Are you talking about your official social transition (going full-time at work)?

I think every transwoman uses a different moment in time to define the moment of transition. I call my re-birthday July 12, cause it's the anniversary of my HRT scrip. It was a May 4 that I decided, finally, and definitively, to transition. I got my new name and ID on May 30, so that could be considered a milestone day.
Any of these, and more, could be considered a day to mark transition.

I consider myself post-transition, even tho' I have two surgeries to go. The surgeries are just physical tweeks, whereas I'm legally female, and have been mentally female since the get go.

[Angela Campbell]

To me transition is a process not an event or a moment in time.

[Frances]

I know everyone uses a different moment, Paula, that the basis of my question. I wanted to know how Peggie defined it. I keep my stats in mind, but not one of them marks a definite start of a complete thing. I started HRT December 10th 2008, I went full-time May 5th 2009 and had SRS February 21th 2011. Each of these dates marks a new beginning of sorts. The May 5th 2009 date feels the most like a start of transition, which is the same event that Peggie chose for herself.

[LeaP]

Interesting question. I consider my decision date as the start of "in transition." I don't think I would regard anything that didn't include going (real, actual, 100%) full-time as "transitioned."

[Frances]

But think about it, Lea, some trans women do not get SRS, so going full-time is pretty much it. Social-transition, the going full-time-all-the-time-even-at-work-even-on-the-phone-at-home-using-a-gender-correct-name, is the biggest thing for a lot of people, and is actually irreversible (psychologically). You can't "take it back." No one knows if you had SRS or not, especially with new laws that permit legal sex changes with surgery, like in Paula's province.

[Badtranny]

I've had lots of surgeries and lots of milestones, none of which I remember the dates of, but my transition was definitely bookmarked at the legal name change on July 12th 2012.

[Angela Campbell]

For me i spent about a year getting ready. Going to a therapist, taking hormones, getting comfortable in public, building a wardrobe, and planning. Once ready i worked things out with my employer, had some surgery, got the legal stuff done and returned to the world as me.

So even though I still have more to do, I guess I" transitioned" when I was legally Angela.

[Peggie Lee]

As I can see the word "Transition" can mean many different things to many people for me it was when I left my old life behind and faced the world as Peggie.

Peggie Lee

[PretzelGirl]

I think sequence may play a part for each of us. My name is changed, but that last day of work as "him" is still in the future. So if I could any pick day, it will be when I walk away from work the last time. Since it will be just a few days before my 25th anniversary, I will probably remember the date.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Bottom line Peggie...great for you!!! I'm hopeful that as you continue on that everything keeps going well for you

don't forget that 6 months is not a long time and make sure the ups are well remembered if you suffer any downs...yes I am a resident nervous person about this stuff...I admit it..


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It's an interesting question to me about the milestones... I don't remember any dates although I do recall there was a day that I went to the hairdresser and got my hair done and that was my Day Zero...I had been on HRT for over a year and presented regularly (whenever I was not with kids) with a wig... in that year I went to the shore with my kids and let hair grow on my legs and chest but the day after I had laser treatments and got rid of that and a week later I was living full time..

I got ffs before srs and never looked back... so I have to say my day one is that day at the hairdresser.. but I don't really care about it...I don't celebrate it or think about it...it was a month ago and I haven't thought about it this year as far as I can remember

if I can add a side note, one thing I noticed is that over time the whole transition thing seems crazy...it doesn't feel like I transitioned...i literally forgot alot of it...(same thing happened to my daughter with her anorexia...she can't remember some of the crazy stuff she did)...it feels like I've always been the way I am right now...its a very powerful feeling..its a complete feeling and I know its real because I've felt this way for years now..

Its not that I never question myself over all this...its that there is nothing to question...those are different things..

I hope every transsexual can enjoy this feeling regardless of how they pursue transition because to me this feeling I have is the whole point of everything I went through...