Who wears the pants in the family?

[Ilsa]

Do you or your wife wear the pants in the family? If she does do you you find it emasculating to the point that it makes you want to dress.

[CynthiaD]

Well, let's see ... At the moment I'm wearing a skirt and my wife is wearing pants.

I try for an equal partnership. On a few rare occasions I've put my foot down and said, we're going to do this. Where "this" is something my wife doesn't like. The reverse has also happened. I married my wife for her assertive personality. I'm the same way. I don't see why an intelligent person should be forced to be subservient to another. That's a waste of talent, and a waste of life.

No, it doesn't have anything to do with my CDing. If anything, my CDing is a manifestation of my assertiveness.

[Allison Chaynes]

It was always me, until I lost my job and she became the breadwinner. I'm happy to wear the dress, now if only being her housewife was a paying job :)

[MissTee]

For the most part, I am head of household. Breadwinner, repairman, protector and defender, keeper of the check book, and provider extraordinaire.

That doesn't make me superior to my SO. She likes me to be in charge and gives me permission to do so.

[Marcelle]

Hi Ilsa,

Well in a way we both do as we have cover different aspects of our lives. She looks after the finances as I am away a lot and to be honest she is better at it, I tend to do all the household repairs because to be honest, I am better at it. We both do the housework and we both do the yard work and we do it wearing pants :)

Hugs

Isha

[Laura28]

My wife does and I like that way. I do all the cleaning shopping and I like to spoil here but I am also the type who like to do everything I can not be sitting still so I do most of the household chores inside and most out side whe have a Gardner who does a lot of it. Tried a maid. But couldn't find one who would clean tou standard. My always tell every one that she doesn't do because no one can so it up to standards so I let him. lol

[Emi_]

I prefer jeans to skirts myself. Cross-dressing isn't a rejection of my manhood - it is a rejection of what the world tells us men should be. Cross-dressing is not the one's failure to be masculine.

[muslegirl]

For me we share it. She is a acountant so money is her thing. I can fix anything and im a motorhead so.... repairs me money her... great split!!

[Tiffany Jane]

Although the man is supposed to be the king of his castle, the queen sure has a lot of great looking stuff. Don't mind my wife pulling on the household pants when needed. But if someone takes advantage of that(car repairmen, salesman, etc) needless to say I know where the a**hole switch is in those pants. Only thing worse than a woman scorned is a caring husband who loves her.

[Jonithan]

My wife and I both wear the pants. Once without knowing it, she put on mine and thought she lost a lot of weight. As the morning went on, I asked her where my jeans where. She was crushed that her diet wasn't the cause.

When everything boils down, I usually end up doing whatever it is she wants me to do.

joni

[noeleena]

Hi,

Is this about whos the man about the house or the one who runs it , like who did the cleaning cooking washing and having the kids ready for school packed lunchs and every thing about living and then doing homework and then kids off to bed , and outings for the kids and the list goes on.......

oh.... and getting the food in , it becomes one long day after day week on week ....... real life real time ,who gives a dam who wears what ,clothes dont matter they are last on the list except the school clothes for the kids ,

...noeleena...

[susan jackson]

I wear the trousers in this partnership...that is, when Chloe lets me!

[Teresa]

I've tried to go for the quieter life and let the wife wear the pants, it gets confusing when we both try and do it !

She does step back when I get the chainsaws out, her only concern is what's he wearing underneath if he has an accident !
I have found a great range of gear for women, a chain proof cami and stockings ! They also make for very interesting evening wear if you're into Goth !!

[charlenesomeone]

We talk about everything. I lead but she has input. I prefer to wear a skirt!!!

[mariehart]

I defer to my wife in most things. She's a gentle soul but a strong person. Better than me mostly. But I will take charge when it's needed.
She is the main breadwinner too. That always means she has the power.

She hardly ever wears a skirt as it happens.

[Eringirl]

Truly shared for us. We discuss all major things. That being said, I do all the cooking (my SO doesn't like to, or do it very well) and I do most of the grocery shopping. We split house cleaning chores, and she does laundry. I still do what she calls "blue jobs", such as lawn maintenance (though we have a service now), and minor house repairs. However, nothing major, as me + power tools = an insurance claim waiting to happen ;)

I do like to putter on my cars and hers as well, and do oil changes and minor tune-ups etc. The bonus is that our youngest daughter is a real "Petrol-head" and loves being around cars and super cars, so it is a good way to spend time with her when she is in town.We both contribute to the household finances, but have separate accounts to fund our hobbies (hers is sports and quilting), mine is cars.

Anywho, long answer, but we do share.

best,

Erin

[JenniferR771]

Ms. J. is highly dominant--wears the pants. Does all the finance and bills, highly organized. Mows the grass, has her own power hedge shears. Never lets me drive her car--unless she has a broken leg. She deals with repair men. I am accustomed to it now. Still--I have to kill the spiders and bury the dead squirrels. I don't feel emasculated. I help with the laundry, but she puts her own clothes away, as knows as a cd I am at times fascinated by her clothes. Still--perhaps I have influenced her--sometimes she wears a really nice dress to church.

[Sarah Beth]

My wife rarely wears a dress in fact at times I have been in a dress more than she has. As to who runs the family it's a mutual thing. All the big decisions are discussed by the two of us and we come to a mutual conclusion. As to how the work around the house breaks down, I do the repairing and fixing up, work in the yard (we do have a service mow, for us I work a lot and really don't have time and with her allergies she can't do it) fix the car. She does the laundry and most of the housekeeping now that she isn't working. So in terms of someone being he dominant person in the realtionship there really isn't one.

[Allison Chaynes]

I told my wife this morning that I am the queen in this house, because my pantyhose say so.

[Ashley Lyn]

she doesn't like skirts or dresses.. I am fascinated by women in dresses, and wonder how I would look in them!
I am happy to wear the skirts and dresses as often as possible.. she prefers jeans and shorts!
Happy arrangement.. We pretty much split the in-house chores except for laundry.. (she makes her own soap, etc. - confuses me)
I do most all of the 'out-door' stuff, and really enjoy it.. (if only I could be dressed:o)
I enjoy doing dishes and cleaning the house, and I am really good at it when dressed! Not saying its a womans' job, just that I'm more comfortable in skirts/dresses.. PANTS: only if I have to :battingeyelashes:

[Zylia]

I don't have a wife and probably never will, so I have to do all the pants wearing myself :(

[Anna H]

we're both loving capris right now...

But we both take care of what needs to be taken care of. I wouldn't
be much without her...and i think she likes me too! lol!

:)

[phylis anne]

sadly in my position as the wife has been visited by dimmentia/alzheimers I tend to wear both not at the same time of course as that woud be a heck of battleLOL
phylis

[suchacutie]

all three of us wear pants when we wish to :)

two of us wear skirts when we wish to :)

only my male self is stuck with pants whether he likes it or not.

[Jilmac]

I live alone so I wear the pants and the panties.

[lexivanderpump]

My wife "wears the pants" in the family and I wear the panties in the family. I wouldn't want it any other way.

Love,
Lexi

[Carol Elizabeth]

let's see:

I do the laundry, she helps fold the laundry --- I wash the dishes, she dries the dishes --- I do the shopping, she comes along with me --- I do the cooking, she warms left-overs --- I do most of the house cleaning, this may change soon because she recently retired --- I wear skirts more often than her ergo she wears pants more often than me --- We share lawn work --- Shoveling snow is my domain --- clearing snow off the cars is her domain --- She has girly hobbies --- I have mostly guy hobbies --- We share major financial decisions --- but who wears the pants?

Push comes to shove - I think we really share the "pants wearing" or "head of household" in more of a partnership. When we go out together, it is in the traditional roles expected for our gender - just another part of our unspoken agreement.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Ilsa, I can't remember the last time that I've seen my wife in a dress or skirt outfit.

The operation is a 50/50 thing we both share the whole program.

[Ilsa]

Good Morning Blue, I'm wondering when is the last time your wife saw you in pants.:heehee: As for myself I don't get to be scrutinized by my significant other, because I have none, so I'm pretty much free to be Ilsa whenever I want. It has for me anyway, been more of a novelty, to be that person who wears the pants of late. Of course in a couple of weeks when my sister comes to visit I'll need to remember to wear the pants. I wouldn't want to forget who she thinks I am and greet her as Ilsa. That would probably spoil her vacation.:silly:

Have a nice day,

Ilsa

[Madilyn A.]

My wife usually wears the pants, which I prefer. Occasionally she tosses them to me and I have to wear them, but so much more prefer my dresses.

[Alice Torn]

I never had a wife or SO. One elderly British customer of my former business told me, "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world." In my single household, my two cats "wear the pants." Especially the big gray one. I suppose i share wearing the pants with them, when they let me. And i wear the skirt, when i get a chance.

[Leslie Langford]

..We both contribute to the household finances, but have separate accounts to fund our hobbies (hers is sports and quilting), mine is cars...Erin

What??? No separate account for your crossdressing activities and purchases, or is that covered under the "hobbies" category along with "cars" (and according to which prioritization?)... ;)

[Nataliebabe]

(in guy mode) I wear the pants! she controls the zipper.......

[Cheryl T]

We both do.
Sometimes we both wear slacks, sometimes both skirts, sometimes whatever.
Doesn't bother either one of us. We share the duties of our life together and work together to make it better. Who wears pants never enters into play.

[Marsha My Dear]

Hillary Clinton described Bill as 'a force of nature'. So it is in our house, a hurricane would steer clear of her. I am comfortable in a submissive role, especially around the house. It suits us just fine.

[Seana Summer]

We both "wear pants" and I wouldn't have it any other way. I had a girlfriend once who was very submissive and it just didn't work. 2 brains are better than 1!

[Joni T]

Ours too, is an equal partnership. Sometimes we both wear a skirt and sometimes we both wear the pants.
Joni

[Tina_gm]

As far as workload, it is an equal partnership. I am pathetic with DIY stuff, so those things get a professional to do. The rest of the household chores are pretty well divided up. We generally tend to both do both, although I like doing mowing and trimming (actually my favoritie) and she hates anything of that. who would thought a farm girl would hate the outside stuff. So, she does pick up most of the laundry and a few other things. Cooking is about 50-50 and depends on what we are eating and who makes it best.

[Stephskk]

She wears the pants at home. She handles finances. I do the housework and laundry. I am without a doubt submissive to her. That doesn't translate to outside of the house. I own a business and am quite the opposite of my home self.

[BillieAnneJean]

I am VERY fortunate to be married to woman who can do some things better than I can.

She is fortunate to be married to someone who can do some things better than she can.

There are some things we do equally well.

Thank (insert deity here) we can tell the difference.

The whole is the sum of the parts.

I am more of the man than when we met,

She is more of a woman then when we met.

So there is no need for pants. HA!

Pinch myself.

She is SUCH FUN!!!!!!

Love ya babe!

[CherylFlint]

Wife wears the pants. When she wants me to dress she'll say "I've laid-out your outfit", which is my cue to go take a shower, shave and dress. She'll have it all laid-out on the bed in the 2nd bedroom. Sometimes she'll even lay-out the bra she wants me to wear, which isn't often but really gets me turned-on.
I've no problem with our arrangemnet.

[Ally 2112]

Since im single i can wear the pants or a dress :)

[Stephanie47]

I'm a retiree. My wife is still working because she enjoys her job most days. She wears a dress on special occasions only. She and I wear pants. When she is at work I become a June Cleaver clone; dress, hosiery, heels, essential undergarments and wig. I twirl through my day cleaning, laundry, baking, vacuuming, etc. I do not feel emasculated at all. I can understand some guys lose their self worth when their wives become the breadwinner of the family. It's a societal role playing issue.

BTW, my pension income is twice what she earns. That irritates the crap out of her more than me wearing a dress.

[Richelle423]

We both wear the pants in this relationship. Since she is plus size and wont dare to wear anything but grannies I wear the sexy string bikinis and thongs.She dosen't accept the fact that I wear panties but she tolerates it. I just think she's jealous that I'm thin and and look sexy in them while she's not..

[SmartDomWoman]

I prefer jeans to skirts myself. Cross-dressing isn't a rejection of my manhood - it is a rejection of what the world tells us men should be. Cross-dressing is not the one's failure to be masculine.

Wonderful and true sentiment.

[Eringirl]

What??? No separate account for your crossdressing activities and purchases, or is that covered under the "hobbies" category along with "cars" (and according to which prioritization?)... ;)

Hey Leslie....clothes purchases come out of the same account as "cars"....just didn't list TG activities/buying clothes as is not a hobby for me, just part of me....:heehee:

We have a "central account" that deals which pays the bills, maintenance, groceries, etc. Then we each have our own separate accounts for our "mad money"....

Chat soon,

Erin

[Amanda22]

Hi Ilsa, I'm not sure if you mean literally or figuratively wearing the pants, or both. As for clothing itself, I wear skirts as often as my wife. Sometimes pants are more practical, but even then I choose pants which are clearly women's or just go with tights or leggings. As for relationship leadership, I strongly prefer my wife to lead. We're very clear about this. She's pointed out that her nature is definitely more masculine than mine and she enjoys leading. We discuss things, but I really enjoy her making the final decisions. Just recently, we needed to open a new investment account and she told me she'd check it out to see what's involved. She made herself "primary" and myself "joint" on the account, and I was so happy. I thrive as the submissive partner in my relationship. It isn't for everyone, but works for me.

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

Well, I can't say with certainty which of us 'wears the pants'... But I can definitely say that I 'wear the dress(es)'. :heehee:

[reshma]

its usually her. its been like 4 years plus that i have been staying home and she is doing an excellent job as the breadwinner. Yes, sometimes it get to the point where she is assertive and may be , hmm...may be it makes me want to dress.

[MsVal]

If you mean "Who wears pants and who wears skirts?" then even though I dress only a couple times per week, my wife wears the pants 50 to 1. She has very little interest in getting pretty; her upper limit seems to business-casual. She will not wear a skirt or dress for anything less demanding than a wedding or funeral, and often not even then. That's about the same with me and a suit.

If you mean who is the more and less dominant, my wife is more dominant than I am, probably 80% to 20%. We're approaching 30 years married, and this works for us.

Since I retired I have happily taken the role of homemaker to her breadwinner. It feels "right" to dress for housecleaning, though June Cleaver is a bridge too far.