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Megan G
09-03-2014, 05:44 PM
So as the title says I am now officially out to my immediate family. My father passed away 6 years ago so that only left my Mother and brother (who is also alone as his wife died at 35 a few years ago leaving him with 2 young kids).

I told my mother a few months ago by email while I was working away from home, she has known about my gender issues since I was very young. Infact she used to threaten me that she would take me to the doctors so he could fix me (and not in a good way). When I told her she did not understand at first and then when she finally clued in I got all the usual questions (are you gay ect) and even pleaded with me to reconsider as no one in their right mind would break up the "perfect family" (her words not mine) and asked many times why I could not just forget abut this. It took a lot of explaining but she finally understood, I think...

And today I sent the same email to my brother, we are close but not close enough for this to be a comfortable initial conversation in person. Only time will tell on how he takes it...

That only leaves my 8 year old son. I have been doing a lot of reading on here about how many of you dealt with telling your young children. By far this is the most stressful part of it. He idiolizes his dad, does everything that I do, mimics me to a tee..... and I am about to tell him that Daddy is going to transition?!?!?! OH GOD this is not going to be fun!!!

Megan

Leah Lynn
09-03-2014, 05:51 PM
Megan, I do not envy you with that task. Much of my family knows about me. My daughter is my greatest supporter (of course she is; we wear the same size!), but I don't know how to tell her eight year old son. So, I'll see how it goes with your son...

Hugs,

Leah

Suzanne F
09-04-2014, 06:08 AM
Megan
I have posted a few times about my 11 year old son. You can do it and he can be ok. Be loving and honest! But only when you know it is time.
Suzanne

kimdl93
09-04-2014, 06:58 AM
I'm certainly no expert, and would encourage you to consult with one. Still, my instinct is to let your son know earlier rather than later.

Nigella
09-04-2014, 11:43 AM
Kids are quite resilient, it is always better, IMHO, to let them know early, before prejudice and peer pressure shapes them :)

I think that the best thing you can tell him is that you will always be there for him, no matter what. Some may not be able to do this, but I told our daughter that I will always be her dad.