Men in Skirts, What an Idea!

[AlanaG]

I read Underdresser's post about wearing a skirt for 6 days. I found this to be intriguing because although I like to dress in female attire, I would never pass. But I think I would like to be a man in a skirt. I Googled "men wearing skirts" and found this web page; http://www.picturetrail.com/patagoniakid. It has a lot of pictures of men in skirts.

In Underdresser's post, there were some responses that indicated that some members here do go out into public as a guy in a skirt. I'm wonder just how many there are around. Because I don't recall seeing any men in skirts myself except for one individual about 35-40 years ago that I saw on a somewhat regular basis.

Do you wear skirts as a guy? Care to share pictures? Have you seen guys wearing skirts?

[dsmth]

I have seen a few over the last few years yes. One looked to be wearing a black simple skirt (probably it was a type if kilt?) at a bar and the person was part of the band. Another few times over this summer I saw men wearing a heavy looking kilt on a hot day. Actually it did not look comfortable to me as I don't think that a thick, heavy wool kilt would be on a hot summer day (unlike a decent skirt probably would). Recently I saw a web site where someone is designing a skirt to be worn specifically for men. And it looks good! And stylish actually. I'm all for it!

[Lady Catherine]

One of my favorite outfits is a black skirt with a concert T and flip-flops. I pick my wife up from work like that often. Comfy.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Define skirt , as in skirts made for women or you get into my background as a Scot,and what we wear to us its a Kilt to the English its a skirt , and going back some 3,000 years, what did men wear any way,

...noeleena...

[AlanaG]

I mean female skirt. Not a kilt. Besides they are way too expensive.

[RylieCD]

I know I do not pass, so yes sometimes (going to DR. Appt, or taking the dog for a walk) I will wear a skirt which could be mistaken for cargo shorts from a distance. This allows me to be me (somewhat) and still go about my day. Sometimes the little things can make one feel good about themselves.

[chrism]

Do you wear skirts as a guy? Care to share pictures? Have you seen guys wearing skirts?

Alana, come on over to SkirtCafe dot Org and you'll find a lot of us, and happy to discuss it at length.

Chris

[Joni T]

The only time I wear a skirt in public in guy mode is when I'm wearing the kilts, and it's kilts, NOT a cheap-azz skirt that I'm trying to pawn off as a kilt. My bagpipes are also usually in tow.
Jon(i)

[jjjjohanne]

I have visited skirtcafe before and saw how they were wondering what happens when you go out in public. So I posted about my experiences going out in a skirt as a man. My post was deleted because it was too much like crossdressing. A long time later, I posted something else there and they zapped me again. It is a nice place for guys who wear skirts. But if you are a guy who wants to wear women's skirts and other stuff, they might censor you. So watch what you say. :)

Joey

[JayeLefaye]

...Have you seen guys wearing skirts?

Three years ago, I was in Cleveland for a weekend, and at 11:00 a.m on a Sunday morning, I saw a guy striding through a mall with a shaved head, a shimmery silver skirt, a black blouse and 4 inch heels. I thought he might just be the bravest person I had ever seen.

At home, I dress softly and mix and match, and I enjoy my outings en femme. But every now and then, I try to channel the Cleveland Dudette's attitude and just mix and match and let others try to figure me out....And if they ever CAN figure me out, then I hope they'll let me know, because I haven't got a clue:-)

Jaye

[jennifer1958]

Three times this summer I wore a jean skirt with a golf shirt and boat shoes to go to a local ice cream shop on an island off the coast of Maine. Didn't seem to make much of a scenes Felt so nice...

Jennifer

[mechamoose]

I can and do, but I will be honest, I go for the above/below the knee-line. I don't feel comfortable in a mini... it is like a 'flashing' incident waiting to happen.

Thanks for the skirtcafe link!
- MM

[JayeLefaye]

I can and do, but I will be honest, I go for the above/below the knee-line. I don't feel comfortable in a mini... it is like a 'flashing' incident waiting to happen.

Thanks for the skirtcafe link!
- MM

And on behalf of the viewing public, THANKS MM!!!....:-)

Jaye

[lpjamey]

I love the concept.. but

[Jason+]

AlanaG,

I'm guilty as charged. I'll happily wear a skirt as a man or a dress and heels if I feel that way! I haven't seen many others like that in real life. I also checked out skirtcafe but read enough to realize like Johanne that I'm not woman enough for this site nor man enough for that one. :D

There are plenty of picture of me about on this site. Some better than others. :)

[mechamoose]

And on behalf of the viewing public, THANKS MM!!!....:-)

Jaye

Now if I'm doing a Pride/Fetish event, I will do the shorty-short skirt bit... but if I'm going to the market? No.

"Whatcha gonna do with all that junk, all that junk you got in your trunk?"

All my junk ain't in the trunk, and therein lies the problem. Even with longer skirts, I still have the 'crotch lump' issue. Tucking only helps so much.

My wife likes the little flirty skirts on me, but that is purely for the 'home' viewing audience. (Rated 'R', no animals were harmed in the production of this picture)

- MM

[JayeLefaye]

Kudos to your Missus!

Wear it loud!

Wear it proud!!

Jaye

[annecwesley]

I have some ambiguity about cross dressing as in "transforming into the image of a woman" and cross dressing as "wearing clothing generally associated with the opposite sex. I suspect that if it was completely "acceptable" for a man to wear skirts and pantyhose, then I would never be seen wearing anything else. I might not bother trying to look like a woman (which I really can't anyway).

On the other hand there is a certain pleasure in emulating femininity, or looking (or feeling) pretty. I would still prefer to present shapely smooth legs in footwear that is delicate rather than "clunky". And I still love the satiny feel of woman's panties in preference to cotton BVDs .

The dilemma is like the difference between crossdressers.com and skirtcafe. The one group tries to feminize the man, the other tries to masculize the skirt.

[jjjjohanne]

I find that when I am out as a guy in a skirt that it feels freer than when I have gone out trying to pass or while wearing androgynous clothes. I am too tall and too V-shaped to pass. I have never had a wig that was very good looking. The only reason I ever presented female was so I could wear the clothes. I have never cared for being a girl. I just like the clothes. When I have gone out, I was always scared because I knew if anyone got close or took a good look, they would know the truth. I would be "made". When I have gone out in all men's clothes with pantyhose on, the same fear prevailed. I was worried that people would discover the truth and it made the outing stressful. The same is true for when I have gone out in a ladies outfit of pants and a plain top. But, when I have gone out in a skirt, there is no hiding. I am clearly a man and I am clearly wearing a skirt. One simple glance and the viewer knows everything. Somehow that is less stressful. I still feel stress when the first few people see me during an outing. But there is no "secret" that will be discovered. Somehow, for me, this is better. It is more pleasant. I suppose it is possible that as I have simply become more comfortable with my own dressing, that I am just less stressed in general. If that is true, then I would feel equally comfortable now no matter what I wear. But, I have my doubts that is the case.

Am I the only one who has experienced this?

[Billie Jean]

Check out my avatar. I wore this to a club. I was complimented on my ability to coordinate my outfit right down to my peeptoe pumps. I went there another time and wore a ruffled black skirt with gray straped pumps. Billie Jean

[mechamoose]

I have some ambiguity about cross dressing as in "transforming into the image of a woman" and cross dressing as "wearing clothing generally associated with the opposite sex.

Crossdressing is just that.. wearing clothing associated with our opposite gender. Some of us are lucky enough to *look* like the opposite gender when we do it.

- MM

[chrism]

Yes, exactly jjj... I can't pass - the einstein mustache would have to go - but as a man in a skirt I get along just fine. I have worn skirts to professional associations, to work, to play, I even have a picture of me wearing a skirt at a speech by the US Secretary of the Navy. And I get no flack for it, and I get no professional repercussions.

And this then leads to just what you are saying: Whereas if I were fully crossdressed I would be tense with fear of being made, when I am a man in a skirt I am relaxed...just me.

[AlanaG]

Your post resonates with me. I could never pass. But I do like women's clothing. I have women's trousers that I wear regularly as a guy along with some heeled ankle boots and pantyhose. So I know what you're saying. I think I'll try the skirt as a guy someday when I'm feeling brave.

[Wasia]

I was thinking about starting topic on kilts, but...

I did try to wear kilt on the streets. Feels nice and comfy. Love it.
Unfortunately, being a "closet one" and not having any Scottish ancestry I cannot justify a kilt to my family. So even an official male clothing is kinda "closet" in my case.

Few weeks ago did a visit to a landmark (green-black tartan kilt with a greenish shirt). I noticed that some people did turn around and gave me a second look, one guy even sneaked a photo of me with his iPhone. That I believe was weird :)
And I had only one comment. A lady with two teenage daughters waked past me, the lady said:
"Nice kilt"
"Thank you"
"Very sassy"
Then I heard that the older daughter said something to her mother in hushed voice and the mother exclaimed, "That's what I said".
So for the rest of the day I was wondering what did she mean. Is her "sassy" good or bad?

[JayeLefaye]

I think, Wasia, that the "sassy" was a compliment. The mother initiated the conversation, and it sounds to me like she was trying to set a good example for her daughters. Politeness, compliments, open-mindlessness.

I could be wrong, but I tend to assume positives instead of negatives in any situation...And "sassy" is definitely a positive adjective when applied to any kind of clothing:-)

Jaye

[Lorileah]

It isn't a huge leap from those baggy basketball shorts to a skirt...from a few feet away, they can look the same

[Kim_Bitzflick]

Yes I have seen several men in skirts in public. One time I was at a ski lodge in the evening & I saw a guy with friends. He was wearing a brown leather skirt possibly a kilt (I didn't want to stare to figure it out).

A guy I know here loves jean skirts & wears them in public on a regular basis. no problem.

[Eryn]

I don't know if I pass or not, but I love to wear skirts (and dresses, and Capris, and shorts, and femme jeans) in public.

I really don't worry about the passing part that much any more. I do the best I can and if someone "makes" me, so what? Their knowing doesn't hurt me and it might even bring a bit of TG reality into their lives.

[CynthiaD]

I saw a guy in a skirt in the Chicago airport a couple of years ago. He also had a Mohawk haircut and purple hair. He didn't seem to be trying to blend. :)

[Diversity]

Thank you for sharing this link. It gives me hope!
Di

[Jason+]

... But, when I have gone out in a skirt, there is no hiding. I am clearly a man and I am clearly wearing a skirt. One simple glance and the viewer knows everything. Somehow that is less stressful. I still feel stress when the first few people see me during an outing. But there is no "secret" that will be discovered. Somehow, for me, this is better. It is more pleasant. I suppose it is possible that as I have simply become more comfortable with my own dressing, that I am just less stressed in general. If that is true, then I would feel equally comfortable now no matter what I wear. But, I have my doubts that is the case.

Am I the only one who has experienced this?

You have gone with the "what you see is what you get approach." I am also a fan of people knowing what I am and am not. It removes the "I got duped and now I have to prove my self to somebody because you fooled me." Bearing in mind that I wouldn't fool anybody who didn't really, really want to be fooled. :D

I agree with you that it's nice not to have to worry about being discovered since it's already right there in the open. Frees me to worry about more important things like the poor choice made in stay up hosiery that didn't. :o

[Luna1985]

Been there and still doing that but not without phoned in complaints from parents calling the school district I work for. Seriously what right do these parents have to tell me what to wear. Been skirtless this week but hopefully I can muster up the courage to wear skirts next week for work.:sad:

[AngelaYVR]

I have seen a couple of guys wearing skirts. I think it makes more people stare than a full on CD going out and about.

Angela xx

[noeleena]

Hi,

I have a friend from Oamaru south of us by 1 / 2 an hour who comes to our Scottish nights most times , now he like myself is a Scot so for those of us do wear Kilts and nothing would ever be said like, a man in a skirt ,

For my self if i did not have breasts and body shape of a female no doubt i would pass as a male and those who dont know me would think that any way / maybe, though how i interact with people and my mannerism,s and talking, they would soon change their minds ,

Oh well looks like not many here will wear Kilts , well if you did it would lend it,s self later if you did happen to put a skirt on some times,

...noeleena...

[Secret Drawer]

I feel that I should speak for a slightly different group of people for a moment. I stepped away from the site (all sites actually) for a few months or more, as recommended here, to sort out my own feelings on this transgendered path. I believe that I (among others here) am gender fluid or gender queer if you prefer. I don't really consider myself a man yet not really a woman either. Thus not a true crossdresser nor a transexual. It is like a limbo between the two genders.
Wearing skirts, shaving my legs, presenting not fully, but as myself, tastefully, seems really really natural. I don't know if masculizing the skirt or going more for a blended look would make a psychological difference?
I think, from other similar threads on this subject, that the fear is that there is a certain "shock value" that some CD's and even TS's have about this blended look. There is always going to be a few that go over the top, but I am speaking from the heart as a non threatening person. Of course if you wish to not offend (most), then shaving your legs and at least tempting to tuck reasonably is favorable over the hairy leg/pantyhose look, which understandably is rather off putting.
I suppose that even a full on man in a skirt is not particularly offensive if they are mindful of the same basic guidelines that a woman would follow considering hair, skirt length, etc. (with a bit of attention to "flattening" the front).
To answer the OP, I have seen a variety of men in skirts, yet I do live in a major scandinavian city, thus it is not as big a deal as it would be in USA. I honestly can say that the ones who are presenting tastefully (Even without wig, makeup, etc) are almost unnoticed, while the ones that wish to push buttons, do.
PS: If you care to do this, then the absolute best advice I can give is to act normal! The more completely everyday normal you go about your routines, the less people will pay attention. Good luck!

[UNDERDRESSER]

I do shave my legs, and I wear hosiery at home, (not in public yet) This is less about being transgendered, or gender fluid, than it is about arguing what it means to be masculine/feminine.

What is wrong with a man displaying in this way? Yes, yes, I know it isn't accepted everywhere, but in the same way some parents are trying to protect themselves from the "princessification" of their daughters, why shouldn't a man be seen as a little softer? I've had some women at work compliment me on my legs when I walked through to the bike workshop in bike shorts, (it was partly humorous, but at least one was looking with a definite suggestive gleam in her eye)

The world is changing, sometimes the female is the pursuer, fine by me!

[Beverley Sims]

I think men in skirts is not a cross dresser thing and I would not derive satisfaction out of it.
Same as buying female undies for men.
What's wrong with wearing female undies for females?

[Jason+]

Not the slightest little thing Beverly if that is what makes you happy!

There's a new comer to the female undies for men manufacturers that when I can bear to part with the $70+ for a set I'll happily buy since it will fit me like it was designed for me. Since it is! I guess I'm closer to Secret on that one. I don't like my dresses because they are ladies dresses, they just have to be dresses.

[AlanaG]

Alana, come on over to SkirtCafe dot Org and you'll find a lot of us, and happy to discuss it at length.

Chris

Thank you Chris

I've joined Skirt Cafe and have done a lot of reading. Yesterday I paid a visit to my local thrift store and scored 3 pair of women's jeans and four denim skirts. I've just got to gather up the courage to wear one in public now. Somehow the thought is both scary and exhilarating.

[Angie G]

I love skirts and would love to see this catch on:hugs:
Angie

[annecwesley]

The way to see it catch on is to do it yourself.

If my wife would not object so strongly, I would probably be skirted most if the time.

[Tina B.]

Yes 've seen a man in a skirt, in fact the first time was years ago, back in the early seventies my wife and I entered a store selling large pillows, hippy stuff, cheap way to fill up and empty apartment, and was seen as a cool way to furnish a place at the time. The man working in the store was a short dark haired man, stocky build, standard manly hair cut, loafers, and a tee shirt, the only thing strange was the robins egg blue pencil skirt he was wearing.
I hadn't come out to the wife until just before we ran in to this store, and I was uncomfortable about what the wife might be thinking, and what she might think I would be doing, so I had a hard time dealing with the situation, and left shortly after we got there. A year later, I would have stayed and talked about it with him.
I've seen CD's out and about since then many times, but not men in a skirt, until last weekend. I was parking the car down town, when a man with a beard walked down the other side of the street in a well worn faded blue denim skirt with a flair. I would have worn the dame skirt, but with a peasant top and a cute pair of boots. Oh, I almost for got, it was a few weeks ago, I was leaving Costco, when I spotted a guy up front of me in a green skirt that looked almost like it where made of canvas, a heavy working mans fabric, and a belt that looked like it could be a tool belt, very macho looking for a guy in a skirt. I guess it is getting more common.

[mechamoose]

"Game Night" this past weekend.. guys I have known for 30 years.. We played a bunch of new board games, mostly pirate themed in honor of 'talk like a pirate' day.

I wore:

Painted fingers & toes, a 'geek' T-shirt (with sports bra beneath), black, two layer ruffley skirt, ankle bracelets, girl-sandals. They know I'm bi/pan, and take 'advantage' of that sometimes...

But not a word was said. I didn't treat it as unusual, neither did they.

But we did play a round of Cards Against Humanity, and MAN did my 'answers' reflect my sexuality & presentation!!! (You gotta take it from friends, folks... they wanna hurt you in that game, but only because they *get* you.)

I'd share some priceless answers here, but I'm afraid I'd face ModRage. (F@ce full for horse ***)........

*kisses!*

- MM

[heather ann martin]

If guys want to wear skirts, why not? I wear jeans and trousers and I don't feel any less feminine.

[Kiltie]

Hi Noeleena
Ive worn kilts all my life from the age of 6. Apart from the obvious reasons in Scotland ie the kilt is the traditional mode of dress, I got to like the feel of a kilt and as you say, I have indeed worn a pleated skirt out too. It turned a few heads but I also recieved a few favourable remarks and compliments. I often wear a skirt about the house and luckily my wife doesnt mind at all.
She does however insist on appropriate underwear at all times whether kilt or skirt.

[heather ann martin]

Come to Scotland. Men in skirts welcome.

[Kiltie]

Hi Heather Ann
I'm in Scotland and I agree. I see no reason why it shouldnt be acceptable for men to wear a skirts and I personally have been very happy to be able to wear kilts for all of my life till now.

[Badwolf]

If I could fit a more artsy style of clothing I would.