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SusanaO
09-21-2014, 11:16 PM
I do. Not just majority, but vast majority. 95% of my cell phone contacts, Facebook friends (that I actually talk to), close friends, and even less closer friends are all women.

I was a very shy kid, and usually only had one or two friends at a time. This continued until middle school, where I went from a small grade school to a large middle school. It was there that I really started to learn to talk to people. However, in the 8th grade, I noticed something... I had more fun hanging out with girls. It was fun with the guys; afterall, going through puberty and noticing girls (and most importantly talking about them, and internet porn was born), getting into competitive sports, getting taller, etc, but somehow I was more at ease when I was with a few GG friends I had made. I never paid much attention to why, I just went with the flow. High school was the same; I had two close male friends, but by then the amount of girls I hung out with far exceeded the guys. And boy, did that play a role helping me get my first serious girlfriend!

I'll just make a note that while my freshmen year in college (before dropping out, only to return later), I wasn't very social because of my overly-attached gf, but I later realized part of the reason she became overly-attached was the fact that a lot of women wanted to befriend me, especially the some of the few female engineering majors. For some reason, I was the go-to study buddy, and I wasn't even a good student. During the following years after leaving after just one year of college, I became very social. I made friends left and right, but the ones that actually stuck for a long time were the girls. It go to a point where my male buddies would hang out and not invite me. But I didn't (and still don't) care because I have more fun with the girls. I came back to college, and sure enough, some of the ladies in my major come to me to ask how I went about a particular problem.

Here's something I should point out: out of every wonderful relationship I have had with a girl (whether it was friendship, dating, and whether or not the relationship still exists), it has been SHE who initiates conversation. I still don't know why; sometimes I wonder if it's because they sense my girly side, or if because they sense I can often be a jerk (I can be when I let my logical side dominate), and as you know, women love jerks. I actually had one GG friend tell me she started talking to me because she thought I seemed like an ***hole. Another possible reason is they simply get the impression that I'm very confident. I recently learned that I'm dyslexic, and in retrospect I believe my shyness as a child came from being unable to formulate spoken words as a result of my dyslexia. But, I believe, I have gotten lots of practice over the years and though I may not be the first to speak in a conversation, I love giving solid opinions.

I have never asked a girl for her number, but they're always willing to voluntarily give it to me. :D


Any of you ladies the same way? Do you feel GG's sense the woman inside your otherwise male persona?

Kate Simmons
09-22-2014, 04:43 AM
Women can sense a genuine person. It's part of their interpersonal skills package. This is why women tend to gravitate to guys who are basically sensitive and caring. My friends are 100% women and it has nothing to do with my femme side.:battingeyelashes::)

mariehart
09-22-2014, 05:27 AM
Most of my contacts are male merely because of nature of my job. I have few real friends, no really close friends anymore. But the closest were always women. That's not an option anymore when you're married. My wife was my closest friend once but of course that goes.
So I'm really quite isolated socially.

LilahH81
09-22-2014, 07:22 AM
90% of the friends whom I would consider "close" are ggs, so, yes, that's definitely a majority

Dorit
09-22-2014, 08:32 AM
Just about all of my friends are GG girls. This is partly true because as we age the men die off first! Even in my youth and college days, I had mostly girl friends. To me this is part of my personality in that I love being with women as friends, and not as objects of sexual interest. Women are more expressive of emotions and feelings and are more open to intimacy, and I seem to fit in well there. My best girl friend is my wife, and we can chat for hours like sisters. I recently went on a one week trip with other men, and felt I could not get close to any of them; they just were not interested in that kind of talk. Also among my adult children, I have much more closer relations and intimacy with my three daughters than with my two sons. I do not know if this is genetic, or it is because men are so emotionally repressed in western society.

Beverley Sims
09-22-2014, 02:01 PM
I related to girls more so than guys when I was younger.
This gave me an excess of girlfriends on occasions. :)

Kim_Bitzflick
09-22-2014, 06:02 PM
Why yes! Yes I have.

In high school, my mother gave me a lecture about having too many friends who were girls. In 8th grade I was invited to a party and I was the ONLY boy there. I had a great time.

carahawkwind
09-22-2014, 06:49 PM
When I was school age all my friends were guys, but as an adult they've almost all been women.

BOBBI G.
09-23-2014, 05:02 AM
All my life the majority of friends have been female. Now, I can say that, truthfully, all my friends are female. I myself am transgender and I am proud to say that I also have a girl, like me, in that list. There are no males that I would consider friends, and I only can think ot two in my entire past, and they were in high school.
I have one I am on the phone with, daily, and those last anywhere from a 1/2 hour to, in excess of two hours, and another regular phonist for usually an hour or more. I have been blessed tho have folks like these in my life. They tend to be my biggest support network.

Bobbi

Jennifer Morgan
09-23-2014, 05:31 AM
i think when my GG friend starts to approach me one of them, they'd probably just see me as a gay person. And girls love the gay-friend to talk to.
So i doubt it if they sense your girl-side if you never hinted directly at it.

Nadya
09-23-2014, 11:24 PM
I've always found myself becoming friends faster with women than men. I have found that I am more reserved around other guys I think because of an expectation to act "like a man." Being around women, I feel more comfortable to be myself. Many women have told me that I'm really good at listening and am easy to talk to which I always take pride in. That could be that I'm just more empathetic than me being a crossdresser though. I'm not really sure.

carahawkwind
09-24-2014, 10:33 PM
I have found that I am more reserved around other guys I think because of an expectation to act "like a man." Being around women, I feel more comfortable to be myself.

I think this is why I shifted from male friends to female friends as I became an adult. I think I got caught up in the act like a man nonsense when I was younger, then got over it eventually and realized I didn't need to do it around my female friends. Also when I was young I played sports, but also had geeky interests as well, and in one activity you have guys trying hard to be most the physical and masculine and in the other you have a lot of less masculine types trying way too hard to compensate, so I think to hang with those groups I bought into it some at the time, but then drifted away from it once other things became more important, even moreso when I started to make more female friends who I didn't need to do that with.

If I wasn't so awkward around girls when I was younger, perhaps it would have happened sooner.

prene
09-25-2014, 02:17 AM
Besides work.
Yes, 90-95% are gg's.
I have a few who know and I get to talk to ... which is great.
I just wish I could find a gg who could be a SO.

kimdl93
09-25-2014, 05:53 AM
I'd say closer to 50:50, although my closest friends are women, and I kinda have to feign interest in male stuff.

devida
09-25-2014, 08:46 AM
Most of my friends are women or gay men. Heterosexual males are the minority.

Sissy_Michelle
09-25-2014, 09:02 AM
I was the same way Susana, I didn't have a lot of friends really but what I did have were mostly GG. I had really one guy friend that still to this day are very close. But mostly I have had anywhere between three or four close friends and yes all but one is male.

@--}----

Dawn Gurl
09-25-2014, 05:01 PM
All my close friends are GG's. They have accepted me for the person I am on the inside, without a bit of question.

Ciara09
09-26-2014, 05:15 PM
I have always socialized better with females. I'm just more comfortable around women. Nobody knows I cd so it's not about that.

I have been called "one of the girls" on a few occasions, which always made me feel embarrassed because I didn't want to be seen as a sissy.

I don't think it's related to crossdressing, I think I have a more stereotypically feminine psychology. I was also too self conscious to hang with the guys, I think women are more empathetic so they don't bully you as much.

I have ended up identifying with women more, even now that I don't crossdress anymore. Possibly the sexual tension isn't there as much for me, took me a while to admit that am I only weakly attracted to women really. The fact I get so nervous around men should have made me question my sexuality earlier, only recently have I started to realize that I'm bisexual. In fact I seem to be leaning more towards the gay side of the spectrum these days.

Vanessa5
09-26-2014, 05:31 PM
I have very few males as friends. It has always been easier for me to relate and communicate with women. For the most part I have little interest in what the average male is interested in (i.e. cars, beer, hunting, sports, ect ect...). Have been more interested in female sorts of things.

Ally 2112
09-27-2014, 04:05 PM
I basically have an even number of girls as friends as guys. But it seems once i make friends with a girl they seem to stay my friend and we can usually talk about anything that relates to womens issues .The great thing is they find this amazing which makes me very happy .Of course they do not know my secret but i think that some of them would be ok with it .Im just not ready to tell :)

SamanthaSometimes
09-27-2014, 05:59 PM
Same here - have always preferred being around and befriending women. This was true even when I was a child as I can remember that being with my mother and listening to their discussion was always more interesting than hanging with dad and his friends and male relatives. It's amazing I actually realized that at such an early age. Nothing changed as I got older. I've only had two close male friends in my life of 59 years. Being married squelches frequent female companionship but oddly enough important conversation with them more quickly ensues than with male companions. I prefer female interaction in almost any situation. However, I didn't have your good fortune to have them so friendly to me. I was an only child and I believe that guys who grew up with sisters have a huge advantage at relating to the female population.