relaxing after work

[countrygirl]

Hello ladies,

I have not posted in a while. Amanda made an appearance tonight after work. It is so relaxing have Amanda here. Ben (my male name) is just so stressful but Amanda is relaxed and enjoying the rest of the night. I only wish I could have Amanda here 24/7/365. Just had to tell someone. If I only could get the courage to go out as Amanda.

[Katey888]

Welcome back Amanda... :)

Sweet sentiments - and it's good you're relaxing again...

I feel the same but I suspect if it were 24/7/365 all those stresses (and more) would remain... whereas now, it's that little pocket of escapism that allow all the cares to slip away... make the most of your relaxing time.. :D

Katey x

[wanda66]

Hi Amanda
i know just how you feel , like Katey said take and enjoy this time. Use your time as Amand to relax and enjoy

[flatlander_48]

Small Steps, Grasshopper, Small Steps...

[Marcelle]

Hi Amanda,

I am glad to hear you had a chance to relieve some stress of the day in Amanda mode. Going full time might not give you the stress relief you are looking for though sweetie as I find that the more I go out as Isha and the longer I present, the stress of my actual life begins to seep into my girl side from my boy side. Remember, taking a couple of hours or so to enter girl mode takes your mind off your day to day pressures because it takes great concentration to go from boy to girl (make-up, clothes) and once you are complete you are basking in the glory of being "en femme" . . . the net effect is to bury your worries in the moment. Not saying that is bad as anything that relieves stress in your life is good. Just wanted to point out that the longer you present, the more your day to day stressors will creep back into your life . . . especially once you are no longer concerned with what people think of you while you are out and about dressed "en femme".

Still . . . glad to hear you are finding peace. :)

Hugs

Isha

[franlee]

Cding can be just like any extra curricular activity/hobby what ever you want to call it. If you over indulge it losses it's euphoric effect to some degree and can bring on it's on stress and troubles. But when you use it to your advantage and manage your passions it is hard to beat. Best therapy I ever endured, and self regulated at that!

It is not an overly expensive art if you don't go over board and can even become fun doing the gathering and creating your own style and accessories. But then if you lose control it can cost a fortune. I find it much more affordable than alcohol or drugs and safer too. With no physical side affects. After 44 years I have had no ill effects but fantastic anger management and stress control and still effective, plus the urgency for a fix is farther apart the older and more experienced I get.

Also note that I am referring to crossdressing not transsexual issues or any other classification or term than just old fashion, man wearing a dress (of course this includes the complete outfit if that's your desire) for his own pleasure. These are different and much more complex issues than I am capable of interjecting on.

[CherylFlint]

It’s the PERFECT time of the year. What you need to do is to do what I did a few years ago. I asked this girl that I had an opportunity to enter a Halloween contest, and it was to be of guys who could dress the most like girls. There was no contest, but she helped me with the skirt and the makeup.
I didn’t have any crush on her or anything, I just needed that little extra fem touch that you just don’t get from SA’s at the makeup counter or Lane Bryant, if you know what I mean.
I went to her place about 10 times, usually for an hour or so, and dress in the bathroom and then she’d watch while I put on the makeup and correct my mistakes.
She would say, “Oh, that skirt is too long, or too short, or those shoes don’t work with that outfit.”
The last time I was there she said “You did it!” and it was really neat because I left her place dressed!
One heck of a good memory.
When she asked about the “contest” I said something came up and I couldn’t make it, but it was a lot of fun playing “dress-up”.
I wonder if she ever really knew.
Anyway, ALL of us need help in getting “it right”.
You can do it.
The first time out, I mean by yourself at the mall, is an outing that you’ll never forget.
And as far as dressing and being able to relax, I think that’s why we all do it, I know I do. Besides, I never had more fun being a “real” girl.
Stay safe and have fun!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Amanda, Dressing is like having a security blanket it just makes everything great.:daydreaming:

[JuliaM]

My wife commented she hadn't seen my boy side in a long time. I'm finding Julia is present most of the time without the need to be dressed. It's a state of mind and a very happy place to be!

[Krisi]

If you want to go outside as Amanda, you can do it. Go to a different town or city, dress in the car or get a motel room, wear sunglasses and get a wig with bangs and a different hair color from your natural hair.

Dress like a normal woman your age, forget the mini skirt and six inch heels, and walk in the park, business district or tourist area.

[Amanda M]

Did you not know that us Amandas have no trouble out there? We have a particular immunity from funny looks, double takes and so on. How about you think about it (for at least two milliseconds) then DO IT. Big hug, Amanda M

[Beverley Sims]

Ben,
Amanda will get out when she is ready.
You do not have to push her and 24/7 is not all beer and skittles. :)