Feeling sexy?

[cassandra54]

So here's a loaded question. While many of us like me, dress to pass or blend in, how many of us feel sexy? And beyond that, what defines sexy? I googled the word and had to type in "definition" afterwards. I know everyone has their own definition, based on reality, fantasy, experience, gender, and even where you live. But here's a loose definition that I found.

"adjective
sexually attractive or exciting.
"sexy French underwear"
synonyms: sexually attractive, seductive, desirable, alluring, toothsome, sensual, sultry, slinky, provocative, tempting, tantalizing; nubile, voluptuous, luscious,lush, hot, beddable, foxy, cute;"

When I dress, I try to exude these qualities, sexually attractive, desirable, alluring, nubile, cute and so on. And really not in the Fredrick's of Hollywood kind of way. To me the everyday housewife who's wearing just a simple dress, underwear, (not lingerie) can be sexy to me. And it's not that I'm looking for intimacy while I'm dressed. Even though I would consider myself bisexual, I'm currently in a monogamous relationship with a GG, who's very supportive of my dressing, dressing and intimacy do not go hand in hand with me.

My girlfriend, like many is not attracted to women. But she's attracted to me. We've snuggled and kissed in my bed while I'm dressed. I told her that I would dress in a way that i would hope she would find sexy. It's kind of strange I guess, but when intimacy starts out for us while I'm dressed, it's almost like we are lesbians.

Here's two kinds of sexy for me. One was wearing a simple red and blue striped dress. Red bra, matching red panties. No slip, no hose, and some cute sandals. The other is of course the same dress with hose and a slip. And it can be pantyhose, thigh highs or tights.

I don't always feel this way. Some days I just feel downright unpretty. So what say you?

[sabrinaedwards]

I do feel "sexy" when dressed. I always wear high heels, makeup, styled wig, and a dress that is flattering. I typically recieve compliments on my presentation. Of course I am relating to my going out while dressed.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Cassandra, When I dress I always try to look the best.

[Kate Simmons]

Well the props help of course but I think sexy is defined, for myself at least, as air, attitude and feelings we exude when out en femme. :)

[Tonya Rose]

cassandra.. i agree with ya go gurl.....

[ReineD]

Feeling sexy to me, means being in the mood for sex. It's about brain chemistry and hormones. When this happens I naturally gravitate to things that enhance this state of mind. We're all different and for me it has very little to do with how I look or how my SO looks, other than wearing things that enhance accessibility. :) It's more about setting the right mood, having the right touch with one another, etc.

Do I find my SO sexy when she is wearing feminine things? No more than when he wears guy things. It's about the internal self for me and not the package.

[cassandra54]

Feeling sexy to me, means being in the mood for sex. It's about brain chemistry and hormones. When this happens I naturally gravitate to things that enhance this state of mind. We're all different and for me it has very little to do with how I look or how my SO looks, other than wearing things that enhance accessibility. :) It's more about setting the right mood, having the right touch with one another, etc.

Do I find my SO sexy when she is wearing feminine things? No more than when he wears guy things. It's about the internal self for me and not the package.

You are correct and this is something I should have made a little clearer, when I stated not being sexy in the "Fredrick's of Hollywood" kind of way. But it's definitely an innate quality and like you said, something that has to come from within.

[AletaHawk]

I don't go full out yet, but I definitely choose panties and bras based on how sexy they make me feel. Especially panties. I get that extra kick out of looking at my posterior in the mirror, and thinking "that'll do" :)

[Marcelle]

Hi Cassandra,

I can't say I feel sexy when I am dressed in that sense. For me it just feels right and I am inwardly happy.

Hugs

Isha

[Katey888]

Cassandra - I don't recall seeing a whole lot of boiler suits and dungarees in the Gallery lately... or granny flats or granny dresses (thanks Wild... ;)) for that matter...

If looking good equates to looking sexy - then yep, I'm certainly in that camp. :D

If you think about a lot of how and why women's fashions are designed, you can really only answer 'yes' to this question... Many fashions are non-utilitarian and designed to enhance features that are simply sexual in nature - viz:

- Makeup - lipstick, eye makeup, blusher, nail polish, some jewellery... all used to accentuate female sexuality
- High-heels - bad for feet, but 'good' for posture, particularly one that enhances distinctly feminine movement and to enhance leg length and portray a slimmer figure - also said to promote vulnerability - and not really practical... ;)
- Figure-hugging dresses... short skirts... low cut tops.... clingy clothes (leggings.. ;)) The list goes on...

Aren't these just fantasies and mind-games we play with ourselves sometimes...?

And anyway... who wouldn't want to feel sexy....? :devil:

Katey x

[Eringirl]

Ditto to what Isha stated....

Erin

[Tanya+]

Lovely question. I try not to get too turned on when i dress, otherwise i get pretty uncomfortable in my panties. Yet, i dress to feel sexy, in a way that attracts my inner man. So 4" heels, hose, shapeware, corset. Makeup and jewellery are next.

[Candice Mae]

For me feeling sexy is know that my GF finds me sexy.

[katie elouise]

Hi Cassandra when I am dressed I always try to be at my best, to look as passable as possible with this brings a complete sense of calm and inner peace when in this state I cannot help but feel feminine and sexy .
It really is how I wish to be Katie x.

[Isabella Ross]

I tend to agree with Katie on this, except I'd inverse her thoughts. When I dress, I always feel sexy...not in an aroused sense, but in the sense that when I feel pretty and feminine, I feel sexy. The click of heels, the feeling of gloss on my lips, the fragrance of perfume, the swish of a short pleated skirt on nylon legs...these make me feel sexy. And as a result, I feel whole -- that's the complete sense of calm and inner peace that Katie is referring to.

[Lexi Moralas]

Cool thread !
I always want to feel like I look sexy when I dress; with my whole presentation
To me feeling sexy isn't about wanting sex. It's a state of mind and it feels good.
I think there are different kinds of sexy too. Classy sexy , everyday sexy , and trashy sexy.
Most often ,I shot for every day sexy, skinny jeans high heel booties nice sweater , hair , make up jewelry , maybe a cute hat of some kind. But once and a while I would be in a trashy mood and wear the school girl skirt and thigh high boots. But that kind of out fit limits the places I could go. And I just don't have any were to go dressed classy so. That's that. And here comes my usual disclaimer. I am speaking from past experience , as I am very rarely able to dress these days.

[tammie]

HI Luvs: Yes oh my yes , wearing a bra (short for brassiere I love that word even), still revs my motor even after 50yrs , and makes me feel "sexy" ie desirable .

Le me share the old lyric from Fleetwood Mac song ,"don't tell me that you love me, tell me that you want me". One kind of love is esoteric and the other is physical, wearing a bra is a physical

feeling of love for me , feeling desirable.

[DebbieL]

Do I feel sexy when I dress? It depends on who I'm with, what I'm doing, and what I'm wearing.

When I'm dressing to go shopping or to a casual restaurant, or even to go to work (I'm full time), I'm not planning love or romance, and I'm going to try and balance looking nice with comfort and appropriateness. I don't wear a short skirt, thigh highs, and 3 inch heels to Walmart. At work, I often keep a pair of 2-3 inch heels under the desk and walk to/from work in my flats or even trainers. I'm usually OK in 3 inch heels for about 12 hours, but if I want to walk a mile back to my hotel, I'm not going to do it in pumps.

Even when I first started dressing, when I was 5, it felt good, but it wasn't "sexy" it felt more like being hugged by my grandma or just sitting next to a friend I really liked a lot.

Now, if I'm planning a hot steamy night of fun and fantasy, and I want to get into the mood, I DO like to wear a skirt that's a bit shorter, hose that make my legs look great, heels that aren't made for walking, and a dress that's going to make me feel good as well as look good. I might even go for some exotic underthings rather than Spanx to enhance the figure, and the bra might even be a bit more accessible. It really helps me get into the mood when I'm wanting to get frisky with the person I love.

Role play can also be fun and dressing is often part of that, but that dressing STARTS in the bedroom and stays there.

In other words, I'm like most healthy (relatively) young women.

[Jaylyn]

Cassandra whenever I dress to the extreme in my heels n garters hose and just the smell of makeup with a low cut form cleavage I seem to feel an arousal of inner sexual feelings stirrings. I can and do sometimes just put on panty hose and my work jeans and slip on my lowest heels to clean the house in with a men's t shirt over my bra and forms. When doing this I don't feel that inner arousal that I'm a sexy gal. It seems for me when I dress in my tallest heels, thigh highs, garters, short skirt, my favorite pink low cut bra and forms, wig, and all the makeup in place do these stirrings begin. I have made love to my wife dressed like this and we even have played lesbian lovers before. I think in my mind it's the situation and how I am feeling inside that defines my sexy or not.

[Wildaboutheels]

GGs often want to know "how do you stop a CDer".

Pretty simple. Take away all their mirrors and/or cameras. Less effective on TG folks.

It's no coincidence that the vast majority of CDers on the planet are perfectly happy in their closets and all the lurkers here support it.

And... that their fave clothing items are what you might see a typical centerfold or hooker wearing. Of course, countless responses and profiles indicate this begins to change for MOST here at around 45-50 ish when many seem to lose interest in trips to Oville.

I'm not changing my name to FixatedonFlats anytime soon.

[Beverley Sims]

I always felt sexy around my girlfriends, they hyped me up and put me in the mood. :)

[docrobbysherry]

I'm not sure what "feeling sexy" is like. Looking sexy I understand!

And, I don't know or care if others find Sherry sexy. Dressing to blend drives me bats. Passing is impossible, so I don't try.

I only care that Sherry passes with, and excites ME. That's the main course. Everything else is just gravy!:devil:

[ArleneRaquel]

I feel uber sexy when I'm dressing enfemme. Others, you have seen me in person, may find that hard to believe. But how I feel is what counts.

[mikee82]

well i don't just dress to blend i also enjoy the sex appeal i get after i buy a victoria's secret teddy and a pair of kneehighs and he gets a surprise when he gets a mikee striptease before sex !!!!!!!!!! also the feeling of naughty when i am shopping and the clerk asked if i need help and i explain what i am shopping for and why !

[Bima]

Have neve felt sexy as a male in my entire life.
Dressed (or imagined dressed) as a woman, I can feel sexy (apart from many other feelings).
However, I don't strive to dress sexy.

/Bima

[Raychel]

Do I dress sexy or to feel sexy.
Nope not at all.

I dress how I feel most comfortable, I would never blend in.
Preferred style is semi-formal dress, nice dresses and well dressed style,
That certainly would not fit in for that shopping trip at the grocery store.
but I dress for me, not the world.

I will leave the dressing sexy to the younger crowd.

[sometimes_miss]

Nope. No sexy feelings. All I feel is normal. Though, sometimes I feel GOOD. Really good, as in, what a relief it is to be myself instead of playing the standard issue guy all day, for a while I get to feel like I'm the girl I'm supposed to be. Weird, but hey, that's been my life. I make the best of it.

[Sarina Curtis]

We say it a lot as guys but you don't seem to hear it so much from the gg's that someone who presents as being comfortable and confident in any clothing is sexy. So I feel very sexy because I feel confident, and because I think I have great legs!

[mandm40c]

I agree with Sarina.

I don't fully dress, however, in the home on pretty much a daily basis I'm wearing a skirt, some form of hosiery, heels and of course lingerie. When out in public, I'm in lingerie, woman's jeans and heels and what ever boring male shirt that goes with the pants and weather. Anyway, I feel very comfortable and confident. I feel good about myself and I think that projects sexiness.

[GinaD]

Looking "sexy", or physically appealing, is very important to me and I try my best to be as sexy as my environment will allow without being comical or outright inappropriate. I love to get admiring looks and attention as I find these kind of things somewhat confirming that the changes in lifestyle I have made have not been in vain. I like to show as much skin and curves as I can, smell nice, and be well made up with makeup, nails, etc. as possible. I'm no Cindy Crawford, but I am comfortable with who I am.

[Krisi]

I am too old to dress or even feel "sexy". Sometimes I dress like I'm going to a nice restaurant, sometimes I dress like I'm going to the park or the mall. Sometimes somewhere in between. Never "sexy" though.