Marcelle
10-04-2014, 07:08 AM
Hi all,
Well as many here know I am a bit of a nerdy social scientist when it comes to being TG (sorry goes with my academic background). Last week I had the rare opportunity to enter a military establishment dressed "en femme" to meet with the policy holder of the Canadian Armed Forces TG Policy. It was my first foray as Isha into the work place. This meeting ran about an hour and was followed by a visit with people I know both as "boy me" and as Isha. One of the things we discussed at the meeting was inclusiveness of the TG policy applied to those in my situation who present "female" part-time and the right to wear gender specific civilian clothing on those days when civilian clothing is authorized.
So a bit of background. I now work in a Headquarters environment and Fridays are normally authorized for civilian clothing with the exception of my workplace that is (still uniformed on Fridays). Now we agreed that wearing the opposite gender uniform is a no go zone for part-timers like myself and will remain solely for those TS who are transitioning (i.e., they wear the target gender uniform as part of RLE). However, I wanted to trial the civilian clothing to see how it would be accepted at the workplace but cannot at my own workplace. In essence I could not help but wonder . . . If I were presenting female would people be less inclined to take me seriously as a subject matter expert because I am TG?
Luckily to aid in my experiment, I am currently helping a colleague (who knows about Isha) with the design of a selection/training process for her environment (Navy) and her headquarters allows civilian clothing on Friday. So I hit on the idea of running a follow-up working group on Friday with me dressed as Isha. Now the people on this working group have all interacted with "boy me" (last working group) and see me as a subject matter expert in this area but have never met "girl me". I called my friend and put the proposal to her. She ran it by her supervisor and a green light was given . . . so yesterday, I spent the entire day at work as Isha.
While it seemed like a simple task planning was a bit more convoluted than I thought. The working group started at 9AM and I live an hour outside the city and then have a 30 minute bus ride from where I park my car to her building. So, doing a time appreciation taking into account make-up and preparation, I had to wake up a 4AM to give myself plenty of time. Clothing choice had to be appropriate female attire but I did not want to be too over the top less it make some people a bit uncomfortable seeing a guy in a dress and heels. So I opted for black dress pants, white blouse, black short boots and a blazer (sorry no picture as I was running late that morning so no time for a fashion shoot :heehee:).
Now I have dressed plenty of times but this time was very nerve wrecking. I wanted my make-up natural and my first attempt was a disaster (nerves I think) :eek:. So I had to decompile and start again (much better second time around) :battingeyelashes:. Luckily the laser treatments have made the application of foundation much easier :). I was running late when I left the house, sped to the city and caught my bus. It was rush hour, the bus was packed and I had to stand. Lots of close up scrutiny, odd looks but in the end no real issues or cares from those around me. I got off at my stop and entered the building, presented my male military ID and got a building pass from a very confused security guard who manage to squeak out "Have a nice day . . . Ma'am?" . I took the elevator up to my friend's floor and went to her desk. She had already talked to people on the floor and all those attending the working group about me. We also went around and did one on one introductions with those attending the working group so they would not feel awkward when things get started.
All in all the day went well. There were a few awkward moments and this is the first time I have used my femme voice for a length period of time and near the end of the day it was starting to falter. However, once people got comfortable the working group just proceeded as any other working group would. I went to lunch with some GG friends who know about Isha and returned to finish the day. A lot of people came up afterwards and shook my hand letting me know that they were glad to have met me (some very senior people included). With the day finished I left, caught my bus . . . rush hour again but at least I got a seat. By the time I got back to my car I was exhausted both physically and emotionally. It was quite the high to spend and entire day working as Isha and being tolerated/accepted but it was emotionally draining. I took a quick look in my car mirror and saw my make-up had reached "critical fail" so I just went home, showered and crashed the rest of the night over television and wine.
So the question is . . . Would I do it again? Yes, I think I would given the right opportunity.
Hugs
Isha
Well as many here know I am a bit of a nerdy social scientist when it comes to being TG (sorry goes with my academic background). Last week I had the rare opportunity to enter a military establishment dressed "en femme" to meet with the policy holder of the Canadian Armed Forces TG Policy. It was my first foray as Isha into the work place. This meeting ran about an hour and was followed by a visit with people I know both as "boy me" and as Isha. One of the things we discussed at the meeting was inclusiveness of the TG policy applied to those in my situation who present "female" part-time and the right to wear gender specific civilian clothing on those days when civilian clothing is authorized.
So a bit of background. I now work in a Headquarters environment and Fridays are normally authorized for civilian clothing with the exception of my workplace that is (still uniformed on Fridays). Now we agreed that wearing the opposite gender uniform is a no go zone for part-timers like myself and will remain solely for those TS who are transitioning (i.e., they wear the target gender uniform as part of RLE). However, I wanted to trial the civilian clothing to see how it would be accepted at the workplace but cannot at my own workplace. In essence I could not help but wonder . . . If I were presenting female would people be less inclined to take me seriously as a subject matter expert because I am TG?
Luckily to aid in my experiment, I am currently helping a colleague (who knows about Isha) with the design of a selection/training process for her environment (Navy) and her headquarters allows civilian clothing on Friday. So I hit on the idea of running a follow-up working group on Friday with me dressed as Isha. Now the people on this working group have all interacted with "boy me" (last working group) and see me as a subject matter expert in this area but have never met "girl me". I called my friend and put the proposal to her. She ran it by her supervisor and a green light was given . . . so yesterday, I spent the entire day at work as Isha.
While it seemed like a simple task planning was a bit more convoluted than I thought. The working group started at 9AM and I live an hour outside the city and then have a 30 minute bus ride from where I park my car to her building. So, doing a time appreciation taking into account make-up and preparation, I had to wake up a 4AM to give myself plenty of time. Clothing choice had to be appropriate female attire but I did not want to be too over the top less it make some people a bit uncomfortable seeing a guy in a dress and heels. So I opted for black dress pants, white blouse, black short boots and a blazer (sorry no picture as I was running late that morning so no time for a fashion shoot :heehee:).
Now I have dressed plenty of times but this time was very nerve wrecking. I wanted my make-up natural and my first attempt was a disaster (nerves I think) :eek:. So I had to decompile and start again (much better second time around) :battingeyelashes:. Luckily the laser treatments have made the application of foundation much easier :). I was running late when I left the house, sped to the city and caught my bus. It was rush hour, the bus was packed and I had to stand. Lots of close up scrutiny, odd looks but in the end no real issues or cares from those around me. I got off at my stop and entered the building, presented my male military ID and got a building pass from a very confused security guard who manage to squeak out "Have a nice day . . . Ma'am?" . I took the elevator up to my friend's floor and went to her desk. She had already talked to people on the floor and all those attending the working group about me. We also went around and did one on one introductions with those attending the working group so they would not feel awkward when things get started.
All in all the day went well. There were a few awkward moments and this is the first time I have used my femme voice for a length period of time and near the end of the day it was starting to falter. However, once people got comfortable the working group just proceeded as any other working group would. I went to lunch with some GG friends who know about Isha and returned to finish the day. A lot of people came up afterwards and shook my hand letting me know that they were glad to have met me (some very senior people included). With the day finished I left, caught my bus . . . rush hour again but at least I got a seat. By the time I got back to my car I was exhausted both physically and emotionally. It was quite the high to spend and entire day working as Isha and being tolerated/accepted but it was emotionally draining. I took a quick look in my car mirror and saw my make-up had reached "critical fail" so I just went home, showered and crashed the rest of the night over television and wine.
So the question is . . . Would I do it again? Yes, I think I would given the right opportunity.
Hugs
Isha