What to do when flirting becomes more serious?

[gwenrob43]

I need some help. 1) What would you do if you were out clubbing with a group and a guy asks you to dance? Even after you tell him you are TG he still wants to dance, so you do. 2) What do you do if he comes back ? 3) If he wants/tries to kiss you? Any comments or advice!

[Maria2004]

I need some help. (1) What would you do if you were out clubbing with a group and a guy asks you to dance? Even after you tell him you are TG he still wants to dance, so you do. I'd dance (2) What do you do if he comes back ? I'd dance again (3) If he wants/tries to kiss you? I'd flatten him Any comments or advice!

Life is short, have fun.

Love
Maria

[sandy_folsom]

I think it depends on how you far you want it to go. If I was attracted to him, I would kiss him. So far, I've been heterosexual but am willing to try something different.

[Miriannah]

Only you know what your personal boundaries are. So don't ask us so much as ask yourself, how far would -you- be willing to go with the man in question?

For what I would do, I'd dance with him, kiss him, and maybe even consider dating if he asked me to. With enough dating, I might even...uh...but only if I decided I liked him that much. ;) This all applies only if I got a good first impression of him though.

That's what I'd do though, not necessarily what you would do.

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

Assuming you're not interested, do like a GG would. Tell him your flattered but your not interested/you're already seeing someone. Repeat as necessary. Do not engage in any other conversation. If they still won't take no for an answer, ask one of the bartenders to have security help you out.

If you are interested, go ahead and have fun. Just because you dance with someone doesn't need you need to kiss them. But realize you may need to put the brakes on later. There are few princes among admirers who act like gentlemen, but most of them are just frogs who want to get into your pants -- or more likely you into in their pants.

[Lindahexi]

If I was asked to dance I'd be flattered if the guy seemed nice I'd go for it, the kiss is something else; I have never been in that situation, but it's possible I'd respond positively if it was just a friendly kiss.

[uknowhoo]

Eeeeeuuuwwww, boys have cooties :-

That said, I'm with Marlena.;)

T

[swiss_susan]

Personally, not being interested in guys I would politely refuse. Though never having been out really I have never had to deal with that, beside I don't really see any guys finding me attractive.

Susan

[Billiemarie]

I would love for a guy to ask me to dance, buy me a drink and start getting comfortable with me. As long as he knows what all is included with the package.

[MsJanessa]

Darling you didn't say if you are interested in him or not---assuming youre gay or bisexual---if you like him, flirt back, dance with him, whatever--it will probably go where you want it to---if you are straight (heterosexual) go to the closest lesbian bar and dance with the Sisters---and be firm with him--remind him that no means no. ps if you aren't gay or bisexual you probably would be better off not dancing and flirting with guys. :dom: MsJanessa

[Nikki Dee]

Gwen....I rather think you already know the answer.!!!!
Nikki. xxx

[Tiffy]

Life is short, have fun.

Love
Maria


I agree, if you are finding his attention pleasing then go with it. If not put distance between you. If he does not buzz off you have feet honey, walk away. If he follows, after you tell him no, dial the cell phone.

But most of all, follow your heart.

Kisses, April Marie

[Amelie]

Gwen, if your going to let the guy kiss you and other stuff, it's usually best to collect the 100 dollars before he starts. it's tough getting them to pay after the deed is done.

[pattied]

I need some help.
1) What would you do if you were out clubbing with a group and a guy asks you to dance? Even after you tell him you are TG he still wants to dance, so you do.

I would dance with him... I am a horrible dancer, and that in an of itself might scare him away. If I was not even remotely attracted to him, I might even step on his toes. :angel:


2) What do you do if he comes back?

A glutton for punishment? Depends on my level of interest...

If I am not interested, I would thank him for the dance, then explain I was not interested in dancing any more with him that night. If he continued to come back, I'd likely dismiss him, ignore him, or even leave possibly.

If I was interested... well who knows... I might just 'dance the night away' and enjoy it. Regardless, I'd likely not let it progress much beyond dancing that night... If I was genuinely interested, I might even take his number (not give him mine - no way) and maybe call him, date, etc...


3) If he wants/tries to kiss you?

A well placed kick would do the trick. Or just slobber all over him:D grossing him out. As I said above, I would not likely do anymore than dance that night...

And in reality, I am quite happily married, so I would not do anything to jeopardize that... making this a moot point in my situation.:)

Hope this helps!:p

[pattied]

Gwen, if your going to let the guy kiss you and other stuff, it's usually best to collect the 100 dollars before he starts. it's tough getting them to pay after the deed is done.

:lol2:


:yrtw:

um... and make sure there is a hotel room that he pays for...

[KathrynW]

Gwen, if your going to let the guy kiss you and other stuff, it's usually best to collect the 100 dollars before he starts. it's tough getting them to pay after the deed is done.
Hmmmm...and what would be included for the $100? ;)

[MsEva]

Eeeeeuuuwwww, boys have cooties :-

That said, I'm with Marlena.;)

T

Soooo funny! :cheeky:

I guess it depends upon you...girls have the right to decline or accept...the ball...pardon the metaphor is in your court.
;)