NancyJ
10-28-2014, 10:18 AM
Some of you may think this is no big deal, but for me it was a really big step. I recently had my 63rd birthday and my wife of 35-plus years has known for years that I crossdress. Although she knows that I wear only women's underwear, she has not been accepting of anything else, and although she knows that i have other clothes we have a very much DADT arrangement around my dressing. Many times when she has asked me what I wanted for my birthday I have said things like "a nightgown," or "a skirt and blouse" which she of course has never bought for me. So often I look at my birthday as a time to buy a gift for Nancy myself. This year I bought some Shadowline pajamas that I'd seen on the Her Room site, and I wanted to be able to wear them to bed w/o causing a flap between us.
Soooo...after a bithday event where she took me to dinner and a concert I told her when we got home that I had bought myself a present and wanted to show it to her. She said, "You got a new laptop?" I said that it was nothing like that, but important to me, something I have wanted for a long time and I hoped she would be okay with it. I went to the closet and brought out my new pajamas, showed her (she acted surprised, but not mad) and I asked if it would be okay if I wore them to bed. Without hesitation she said, "Okay, if that is what you want." I hugged her and thanked her and said that it was what i wanted. I wore them to bed that night, and she put her head on my shoulder and I held her and it led to more after she stroked my leg and said, "you like the silkiness and softness don't you...and you chose such a feminine color." (peri-frost--really a shade of lavender)
I've worn them to bed every night since and I am so happy. I look forward to going to bed. I have thanked her for her tolerance (in the past I have used the word acceptance with her and she has responded "well I don't accept it."
Anyway, here ais a link to the pajamas::http://www.amazon.com/Shadowline-Womens-Silhouette-Sleeve-Pajama/dp/B007AH16TU or http://www.herroom.com/shadowline-76737-silhouette-pajama.shtml#.
This is the most accepting she has been since she accepted that I wasn't going to wear men's underwear any more many years ago. I still would like the choice to sleep in a nightgown some nights, but I'm not going to push things, Nancy
Soooo...after a bithday event where she took me to dinner and a concert I told her when we got home that I had bought myself a present and wanted to show it to her. She said, "You got a new laptop?" I said that it was nothing like that, but important to me, something I have wanted for a long time and I hoped she would be okay with it. I went to the closet and brought out my new pajamas, showed her (she acted surprised, but not mad) and I asked if it would be okay if I wore them to bed. Without hesitation she said, "Okay, if that is what you want." I hugged her and thanked her and said that it was what i wanted. I wore them to bed that night, and she put her head on my shoulder and I held her and it led to more after she stroked my leg and said, "you like the silkiness and softness don't you...and you chose such a feminine color." (peri-frost--really a shade of lavender)
I've worn them to bed every night since and I am so happy. I look forward to going to bed. I have thanked her for her tolerance (in the past I have used the word acceptance with her and she has responded "well I don't accept it."
Anyway, here ais a link to the pajamas::http://www.amazon.com/Shadowline-Womens-Silhouette-Sleeve-Pajama/dp/B007AH16TU or http://www.herroom.com/shadowline-76737-silhouette-pajama.shtml#.
This is the most accepting she has been since she accepted that I wasn't going to wear men's underwear any more many years ago. I still would like the choice to sleep in a nightgown some nights, but I'm not going to push things, Nancy