Decision making when dressed

[nacracat]

I used to get a bit irritated by past GF's when we were going out. I'd get showered and dressed, pulling something out of the closet that was clean and hey presto, I was ready, 10 mins tops. GF's were still trying stuff on and not knowing what to wear an hour later.
When I am in male mode, I can make quick decisions on clothes without any problem but since I've started dressing, I can't make a decision to save my life. When I have a day to myself, I have to start planning a few days before or I would be in the bedroom for hours....!!
Amazing how the mind changes when the alter ego comes out. Anyone else suffer with this?

[Janice An]

I too find it harder to pick out something to wear now. Never had that problem before. Maybe its just because we have more choices.

[Martina]

I have found when in male mode just put on shirt, trousers and shoes and you are ready, not even having a shave.
But when you are in fem mode or a GG then there is so much more choice and a girl just wants to look her best for you or others around her and this can't be done in the click of the fingers.
Just think how long it takes you to look your best when dressing en fem and you will understand.

Martina

[iGenny]

Absolutely! I'm much more patient with the wife than I used to be before I started dressing. In fact, I ask to see and offer opinions.

Now that I think about it, I haven't heard, "You're no help!" in a long time!

[Amanda L.]

This is so true. It blows me away sometimes , just how different my mindset an be. As guy me no probs, throw on what's nearest, don't fuss with coordinates, shave? Well if I have to. Even if going out I try to look smart but not girl smart.
Argh! But when it's time to frock up there's planning and strategy for a full frontal assault on the bathroom then the battle moves to the wardrobe where under garments are pitched against dresses, skirts and tops for total domination. Finally the heavy artillery are brought in, shoes selected and the battle is won, until you realise that the earrings don't quite work with the outfit and the sniper has infiltrated behind your lines and unless neutralised unleashes the potential for a change of outfit unless suitable earrings are found. But "oh these are too cute"
Guy mode much simpler but not as much FUN!
Luv
A slightly disturbed Amanda

[Kate Simmons]

I think it's mostly because when dressing en femme we have more choices and options. :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Nacracat, I know the feeling, It's 07:30 and I'm already in my third outfit this morning.

[Teresa]

I think we can understand why it takes so long when we have so many problems with makeup and then a last check in the mirror, then another one ! Fiddle with a bra strap pull your skirt straight check the hemline ! Not a ladder in your stockings !!

[Krisi]

Not really. We do have to make more choices such as which blouse goes with which skirt, what jewelry coes with the outfit and whay shoes and purse. And of course what bra to wear with the blouse.

I'll pick out a color, put on the bra (and forms) and panties, pickout the blouse and put it on, then pick out a skirt to go with it. Or vice versa. Then jewelry, shoes and purse.

Some days I'll play "dress up", other days casual.

[celeste26]

If you think in ensembles rather than individual clothing items the choices seem easier. Each "look" requires certain things and given some variations even they can be included as "sub" choices easily. By making many different individual choices one can end up looking bizarrely askew. Requiring adjustment and redressing. Then again if the "redressing" is the ultimate goal then don't worry about it just enjoy the on/off of clothes.

But even "play clothes" can be put into ensembles and while the requirements may be less restrictive the difficulty of making choices is more relaxed.

[carhill2mn]

In "every day" male mode I am likely to grab something that I recently wore. I am en femme most days and even if I am home alone on a given day, I rarely wear the same outfit two days in a row. If I am going out I carefully choose what I think will look good and be appropriate for the weather and where I am going.

[Persephone]

One of my GG friends said she always had trouble figuring out what to wear with what so she got her niece, a style maven, to spend a day with her going through her wardrobe, having her try on stuff, and deciding what worked with what. When they found a winning outfit they photographed it and now she has an idea book of pictures to work from. Could work for us too.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Anyone else suffer with this?

Actually no! I've always dithered over choosing what to wear when going out, unless it's straight work clothes (I'm a typical builder, as you can see from my avatar) which I leave where I step out of them for some number of days until finally putting them in the wash.

I'm a guy who can take 45 minutes deciding on a shirt, never mind the rest of it- and I love it.

[Amy Fakley]

Options, lol. There's only so many ways tob wear a Polo shirt and khakis. Our pants are so boring we actually call them by the name of the one color they come in, ROFL. :-)

[SherriePall]

Guilty. When I know I have a day coming up to dress, I start going over the available options. When the day arrives, I am still going over the available options.

[MonctonGirl]

Yes. Damn it.
Not only is selecting what to wear in FEM mode difficult
but now I also fret about male mode sometimes.

[StacyCD]

If I had the opportunity to go out more often it might be a problem. However, around the house I don't feel too much pressure!

[Amy Lynn3]

I agree with what MonctonGirl said. I have become so aware from dressing in female clothing, that things should match. Now, I have become more aware that male clothing should also match. Before, in male mode I just wore whatever was clean and fit when I put it on. Life is grand and you gg's have made my life much better.:love:

[Contessa]

Hey This is no longer a problem for myself. I have already figured out my outfit on laundry day. I will put my pink top with my black skirt. Or greenish top with green slacks. Even more I still might not wear those outfits together. Their may be a different top I didn't wear yesterday. I love this life so much I am happy to make the daily choices. I think that no matter what every choice is great just something different might look better. It is just too much fun putting things together. Yes sure there are many choices and all could be welcome. I never liked all the drab mode choices, I quickly gave them all away so I wouldn't have to. I think it might just be joy in the hunt. Just like difference in colors, textures, sizes and all. What about this ? Would you wear anything in male mode with a pair of jeans?

Tess

[Alice Torn]

Heck, I have had trouble deciding which guy items to wear, or match, too, in guy mode, let alone in lady mode. I just thought, that what might help me, the very few times i get to dress anymore, is to put all the matching skirts, tops, hose and shoes, sweaters, coats together next to each other, in different groupings, so it will be less trouble to decide what matches. I have not been up to dressing for a month , though, because of having to care for my toxic mean father again.

[Cheryl T]

I don't believe "suffer" applies...lol.
Yes, I go through that, but I surely don't feel I'm suffering...

[alwayshave]

I cannot state that I suffer from this affliction. I don't dress as often as I'd like, so when I do, I normally have been thinking about what I'm going to wear for a few day. Also, I tends to wear dresses which reduces the amount of choices in an ensemble.

[docrobbysherry]

I feel your pain, Cat! I often start planning for a complex dressing session weeks in advance. Which should include a complete "dress rehearsal"!:eek:

Whenever I haven't done my advance planning properly? I either ended up with something that didn't work or look rite!:doh:

[Robin414]

I think I spend about as much time thinking about it as a guy and a girl. Mind you I've only recently come out to my wife so the the other side of my wardrobe is still very thin. I expect that will change very shortly though :)

[Ressie]

I hear ya. It's easier to look in the closet and decide what not to wear. Slowly narrow it down, then start over lol. Even older skirts from GW look great compared to my male wardrobe!

[Beverley Sims]

Less these days as I just need to get on with it.

Sometimes when the fog rolls in I procastinate.

[Shelly Preston]

Some days I think. Oh I know that top will be ideal for that shopping trip. On other days I feel like it takes me hours to decide what to wear, should it be a skirt & top or would a dress be more suitable.

I can have the same problem with Jewellery.

The good side of this is perfecting how you want to look before going out.

[Andrea Chenowith]

Whenever I haven't done my advance planning properly? I either ended up with something that didn't work or look rite!:doh:

That sounds like my problem yesterday... I had the day off and had planned to go get my makeup done after treating my wife to lunch. I had placed an order at Torrid and was expecting it to arrive either Monday or Tuesday. Unfortunately, I hadn't thought out my backup plan as well as I should have, so when it didn't show up, I was left a bit unfulfilled..

(Don't get me wrong, I still had a fabulous day, but it would have been SO much better if I'd been able to have my outfits picked out ahead of time instead of scrambling for something on the day of.)

[Eringirl]

yup, me too, though I find now I also take a bit more time in male mode to "get it together", but yes, less choices....it's not called "drab" for no reason! ;)

However, I am getting better as I try different combo's in my limited wardrobe and know what works, so much faster out the door these days. I was out last night and went from my male work clothes to full make up, hair, forms, etc and clothes and out the door in 35 minutes.

Erin

[Sharon B.]

For me to do it right it would take me about two hours to get ready as a woman that is including bath, shaving, picking lingerie, stockings, shoes, dresses, applying makeup, jewelry and wig. As a guy about ten to fifteen minutes.

[Laurie A]

yes, for me, i get stuck deciding, trying on different combinations, etc. so stuck, i never even make it out of the closet, lol

[CherylFlint]

Used to have the same problem until my wife took over. She chooses what she wants me to wear. She’ll just say, “Get dressed”, and then I go to the second bedroom and she’ll have laid-out what she wants to see me in.
And that’s it. Couldn’t possibly be any more easier than that.

[weyburn]

Sometimes I base make up wig clothes etc after I have decided what shoe or boots to wear
So it is becoming more of a lengthy process
What price vanity

[RobynT]

Pretty much the same for me, On the drab days ( which is almost everyday) its just grab whatever is around. on dress up days, there is a whole lot of thought going into it. Even though I'm staying inside, for me that's part of the fun of this. When I feel its time to let Robyn out, I tend to block out most other things, take time off from work, and just enjoy the whole process. I enjoy mixing and matching, trying to see what works for me