mannerisms

[lynda]

hi girls, do any of you ever feel like when your in male mode , you still sometimes walking ,and sitting and moving your hands in girl mode. ill be sitting someplace in guy mold and ill have my legs crossed or my kness togeter.oter times im walking and i just feel like im walking like a women. has this ever happed to you love hugs lynda

[Stephanie Julianna]

Yes. I find that I almost always cross my ankles under a chair which tends to bring my knees together. My female nursing shoes have a bit of a lift in them that has changed my walk over the years and I find I take smaller steps now. Nothing terribly effeminate but note butch either.

[Tina B.]

I guess it happens to anyone that dresses a lot, it becomes so natural feeling.

[Kate Simmons]

Not really Hon. I've more or less trained myself to walk in the particular mode I'm presenting in so that's it's second nature for me.. Women walk from the hips, one foot in front of the other. Guys walk straight from their arms. :)

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Oh god yes, my left arm has a mind of its own- it loves to let my hand dangle from the wrist, fingers extended. If I'd been a girl, I'd have been a very girly girl.

[Beverley Sims]

It happens all the time.

[Teresa]

Last time a question like this came up I related to a story in a builder's merchant ! I was searching the shelves and a voice behind the counter shouted are you a tea pot or a tea cup ? Without thinking I'd put both hands on my hips ! I replied that I hadn't decided but whatever it's going to be, will be an antique at my age !!

[samantha rogers]

Not too much boy left in my boy mode. Lol

[Isabella Ross]

Absolutely. I know that I am sometimes feminine in male mode. Love those leg-crossing or feminine hand motions when they pop up on a construction site or in the bar after a golf game. Embarrassing.

[Jackie7]

All the time. What Kate said about guys walking from the shoulders while women walk from their hips. plus my favorite female gesture is reaching inside the neckline to adjust a shoulder strap, since I wear camisoles and usually a bra even in guy mode, I do it all the time too. And have trained myself to get into a car while wearing a short skirt by sitting sideways knees together then swiveling in.

[IdahoPanty]

even though I am not out, there are times when I know that I am walking differently, maybe a feeling of self-confidence, and it feels good.

[Tina_gm]

I don't actually have a boy mode/girl mode. Dressing of course I am expressing my femininity, and while I do not go out in public, I am assuming that my feminine mannerisms are likely more prevalent. Still, in general I have a lot of feminine like mannerisms. Always have had them. Some on here write posts asking on advice on how to achieve them. If anything I would ask advice on how to mask them.

[Cheryl T]

Not so much that it bleeds into drab mode, it's just kind of always there and more noticeable in drab at times...

[Cheryl Ann Owens]

All of my mannerisms are feminine whether dressed or (rarely) drab. It's just my natural self coming out. I don't try to act "male" in any situation. I just let my fem self be. Yes, I have gotten some mild reactions but no one has said anything. I love who I am!

Cheryl

[Angie G]

Oh yes. When I walk sometimes I do feel I'm walking more girl like.And I do cross my legs at the knee now and then.:hugs:
Angie

[Tina_gm]

Oh yes. When I walk sometimes I do feel I'm walking more girl like.And I do cross my legs at the knee now and then.:hugs:
Angie

Walking, sitting, standing, my hands, how I talk with them, there are a lot of fem mannerisms I have. I have been called out at times because of them. It used to hurt a lot. At work and just in general I do try to cover them up, not always succesfully, and especially when drinking.... At a party at my sister in laws, she said to my wife, "is he gay, look at the way he is walking." I had many drinks in me when she said that. oops

[Savannah_Skye]

Lately I found myself in the habit of smoothing my skirt while I am sitting down...when I am wearing pants. But yeah, the rest of the gestures and mannerisms noticeably carry over.

[Maria 60]

I find I am crossing my legs a lot more these days.

[kimdl93]

Probably. I don't make an effort to disguise the way I sit...or the way I move otherwise. Who can keep track of all that!

[angelfire]

For the most part, no. But it is something I am making a conscious effort on. My therapist recommends I try to take on more feminine mannerisms while in guy mode.

[Marcelle]

Hi Lynda,

I can't truly say I have as both genders seem to be able to differentiate mannerisms. When I am "en boy" I am all guy and when I am "en femme" my mannerisms are as female as I can make them (or at least a close approximation).

Hugs

Isha

[Claire Cook]

Me too -- more and more I find myself using "feminine" gestures no matter how I am dressed. Just seems to be more natural. Maybe just part of being "me"?

[Sallyfrillyknickers]

It wasn't till I read this thread that I realised that a lot of my mannerisms had changed. Legs crossed, walking and moving as in girl mode. I don't think I am aware of it. It just seems the natural thing to do.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I don't see leg-crossing as necessarily feminine- it's how you cross your legs that's the giveaway.

[RachelsMantra]

I don't see leg-crossing as necessarily feminine- it's how you cross your legs that's the giveaway.

I agree. I see many masculine men cross their legs. I do it all the time simply because it's often more comfortable in certain situations - I'm certainly not thinking of the action is being either masculine or feminine - it's just another way to sit.

[Tinkerbell-GG]

Out of curiosity, if you're not heading to fulltime dressing or even TS, are you happy your mannerisms are changing? Or is there a sense of loss that the boy is disappearing?

[Tina_gm]

Personally, mine are not changing. Although now that I am more accepting of myself, I allow them more. I don't feel a sense of the boy dissapearing, perhaps sharing time with my fem side.

[Carmen]

My mannerisms are somewhere in-between genders.
I always try to maintain the correct posture...lower back curved in, elbows close to body, knees closer together than most guys hold them.
So when I'm en femme and wearing heels I take shorter steps and then everything falls into place.

[donnalee]

Last time a question like this came up I related to a story in a builder's merchant ! I was searching the shelves and a voice behind the counter shouted are you a tea pot or a tea cup ? Without thinking I'd put both hands on my hips ! I replied that I hadn't decided but whatever it's going to be, will be an antique at my age !!
Seems like you'd be a more of a sugarbowl.
I really don't know; I walk like I walk; never have cared much about others' opinions, just enough to keep out of trouble.

[Anna H]

i think my default habits are somewhat girly...and have always been.
i've seen many guys sit with their legs crossed girl-style so i never
give it any thought....i just always have done that.

when i met my wifes mom the first time about 20 years ago, they
were talking about how i sat like some uncle or someone in the family
they both clearly adored. it kinda made my day and i remember that
well.....lol!

[Barbara Maria]

Sure,usually when work is slow and I have a week or so to myself and spend all my time en femme.For the first few days back at work I catch myself doing all kinds of girly things,especially the walk.

[MsVal]

I try to be "me" 24/7. As another one that does not have discrete mail/female modes, I usually behave in a manner that is much more feminine than masculine. The exceptions being those times when I am dressed and consciously favoring my feminine characteristics, and when I am out with my accepting and partially supporting wife. That's when I make a conscious effort to favor my masculine traits.

Best wishes
MsVal

[Jane G]

Not much. It's something I used to be conscious of years ago. Back then I would deliberately train to perform actions in a more feminine way and I would notice when my actions did not fit with my clothing.

That is long past though, I just do what now feels natural to me. I do get told off by my wife occasional, as a result.:heehee:

[Jaymees22]

Hi, Yes I feel this way a lot yet no one has ever seemed to notice. May be it's all in our heads.

[silkycdresser]

Yesterday when I was out walking (in guy mode) I heard a group of youths laugh at me and say "He walks a bit like a woman... saddo" but I was walking as guy-ishly as I could.

This strengthens my belief that I've always had quite feminine mannerisms. Not camp and definitely not in the way I speak, but how I walk with small steps, knees/legs close together, mainly from the hips and all that.

And yeah, this is another reason why I've always been kinda confused...!