If money was no option....how far would you go....who would you help ??

[mykell]

so im a sucker for the big lottery jackpots, very modest lifestyle from the economy at this point but...

if i had the means to i would love to perfect my look, have a little work done, tweak things up a little for sure,
but the one thing i would want to do is start a resort for folks like us....a safe haven, it may be a little self serving as i picture it as a business with makeup studio, transformation photo access and a bed and breakfast format for couples with family workshops, some professional therapy access if possible..... so i would have access to a wonderful closet of clothing and activities myself, but to be able to help younger and faltering who feel unsure fragile about accepting this state of gender identification would surly feel fulfilling....would have loved something like this when in my younger days.....so that would be my dream fulfilled if a huge capital gain came about, im sure the only problem would be where to locate it....i have a fondness for boating and would need access for the watercraft.....my fog is thick....

how far into the fog do you think you would go if such a scenario presented itself.....

[Mollyanne]

The VERY FIRST thing(s) I would do is make appointments with gender therapists, surgeons, hair stylists, make-up artists, wardrobe consultants and anyone else that could help me achieve my goal of womanhood. Am I vain????? the answer is YES!!!!! I know this may sound trite but I have been helping people all my life and have NEVER asked for anything in return but if I could acquire the wealth it would be me first then others second.

Molly

[NicoleScott]

There's nothing wrong with a little enterprising. Making money is not a bad thing. I suspect if you price it right you will get business. Those online crossdresser clothing/shoes sites do OK even charging a premium over the same stuff sold elsewhere. The market will decide....
I hope you take into consideration us part-time dressers. I would love to take advantage of what a lake has to offer, but only in guy mode. If the amount of makeup I use washes off, there might be a big fish kill. haha
It would be fun to go out uninhibited, especially those of us who CD in the closet.
I play "what if I win the lottery" all the time. It's fun. But my state has no lottery....

[heather ann martin]

Breast implants so I could look more feminine. The rest? Givitaway, givitaway, givitawayah!

[Amy Lynn3]

Mikell, I'm with you. I have often thought about the same idea of creating a safe haven for us cders. I think going global with resorts for our use would be a good option. Also they would be staffed with all the best make up artist, designers in the world.

We could offer all the medical staff needed for transition if any wanted to follow that route. Now since we are wishing.....I wish I was young again and I would consider transition myself. Now where is my loto ticket.

[Beverley Sims]

Probably not much further with dressng, I maybe would refine things a little and invest money in a business that would help me carry on.
Maybe I would but VS and forever 21 and live out all my fantasies. :)

I would help my family financially.

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Mikell, Hey Hon if you do make it big and open a resort for our kind of folks, keep me in mind for working there. I'm taking a home study course on cosmetology so I could do some of the transformations.I'm learning a lot on how to make people beautiful. I'm retired now but would gladly come out of retirement to help my fellow CDers. :battingeyelashes::)

[Jaymees22]

I most certainly would go as far as I could, how much time do I have left? After taking care of my families needs the idea of setting up a safe haven resort is appealing as long as I don.t have to run it I'm basically lazy.

[Megan70]

A Nose job, face lift, Lifestyle Lift etc. weight training to be 155 lbs and stay there. 31" waist( right!)n After establishing a healthy annuity for us to receive perpetual monthly checks i would set up a college trust fund for my 3 small grand kids.

[mykell]

The VERY FIRST thing(s) I would do is make appointments with gender therapists, surgeons, hair stylists, make-up artists, wardrobe consultants and anyone else that could help me achieve my goal of womanhood. Am I vain????? the answer is YES!!!!! I know this may sound trite but I have been helping people all my life and have NEVER asked for anything in return but if I could acquire the wealth it would be me first then others second.

Molly
no need to apologize molly, one only has to take a trip to the gallery to see how vain we can be here...


Hi Mikell, Hey Hon if you do make it big and open a resort for our kind of folks, keep me in mind for working there. I'm taking a home study course on cosmetology so I could do some of the transformations.I'm learning a lot on how to make people beautiful. I'm retired now but would gladly come out of retirement to help my fellow CDers. :battingeyelashes::)
kate, would hate to pull you out of retirement for such a plan but we can always set up a concession for you, would plan to hire many folks from the forum, lots of qualified compassionate people hang out here...


I most certainly would go as far as I could, how much time do I have left? After taking care of my families needs the idea of setting up a safe haven resort is appealing as long as I don.t have to run it I'm basically lazy.
i will be overseeing the complex, but i will have a vast staff, cant be all that lazy jamie, not easy for us to fix ourselves up to look pretty....but this was my vision, yours could be different....thanks for sharing everyone....

[SarahBJackson]

I'd start by having my body hair lasered off my body and hair treatment to regrow my hair on the top of my head. Then I'd have the biggest shoe collection you've seen since Imelda's husband lost his job!

[Madilyn A.]

after making my children and grandchildren financially comfortable and maybe a million for my wife. I would probably move to the Pocono Mountains on a lake. My wife hates the mountains and my family would somehow understand my wish to move there. I have always wanted to live in the mountains on a lake, no secret to my family. I would then live as a women nearly 24/7, only changing into drab when my children visited. My wife I do believe would be OK with this arrangement. I would become Danielle Crockett, stockings, garterbelts, lingerie and coon skin cap. Yep that works for me.

[Dana L]

I like the idea of the safehaven resort and I would like to do something like that. But first I would assemble a team of plastic surgeons, srs surgeon, hair and make-up team, and then off to buy the wardrobe of my dreams to flatter my new body of my dreams.

[CarlaWestin]

I'm sure the only problem would be where to locate it....

Of course I'd do all of the transformational self serving stuff. I would certainly have some large beautiful implants and my family would be financially comfortable.

I would locate my main resort some place beautiful, like Malibu or Coronado. But I would have well funded subsidiaries in the heart of hater country. I would also take applications from all of us that had faced hardship either because of our unacceptance or misfortunes in our lives that made us feel somehow guilty of our desires. The most deserving would be taken care of financially and emotionally. Let the government continue to take care of the greedy and the lazy.

[Launa]

I would start by setting up a safe haven in my city for folks that need to transition. Probably buy a house and section it off with rooms for people to stay there. Make sure there is someone to run the house. Young folks that need to transition could stay there until they could be stable enough to get on their own feet and start a life for themselves. There is still too many young kids that need to transition, their families disown them, they have no place to go. I would want to give them sanctuary and set them up with direction for a new life.

[Sarah Doepner]

After spending the money on attorneys and qualified financial advice, I'd look to meet the needs and a good share of wants for family and close friends first. Then it would be a good donation to Trans support in my area, maybe even with some grants to help those in dire need, but that wouldn't be in my hands to decide, the local group would have that resource to work with. Once they were all set I'd get started on doing things for me. There would be a lot of other money given to non Trans causes as well, I do have other things in my life that interest me beyond crossdressing. I'd work on those things that have kept me from feeling confident as a crossdresser first. After a chance to live with fewer barriers to exploring the world as Sarah or Dave, I'd be in a better position to decide if going farther down that road was warranted.

[Seana Summer]

One of the things I would do with a big windfall of cash is start a boutique for large (by that I mean tall and big boned) women and fellow Crossdressers. With a tailoring service on site and perhaps a custom shoe making service.

What I have in mind is something nice with a range of styles, but still keep prices in line, thus the need for the lotto money to subsidize it. The Crossdresser clothing stores I have been in so far have been ok, but could be much better as far as how they are furnished, stocked and maintained.

I am still not a fan for shopping on line, and I think a store where one could be properly measured and fitted with helpful and courteous staff could be something quite useful to many other CDers as well myself. I am just very doubtful that it would be profitable enough to invest my own earned money to get it going.

[CONSUELO]

I have always had a dream of establishing a safe club for cross dressers in a large conurbation such as LA or the SF Bay area. I would work with established businesses serving the cross dressing community to provide dressing services. However the intent would be to have a comfortable, interesting and welcoming place to go, get dressed, spend time with others and if you wanted get your hair styled and makeup done professionally. For those who have difficulty dressing at home, they could rent closet space and keep clothing etc. Members could seek advice from one another on styles and dressing tips. It would be a very "girly" place.
If it was the SF Bay Area I would work with one of the well known established businesses such as Carla's to provide more space and a greater range of services.
Depending on the amount, I would of course spend some money on enhancing feminine looks for myself too.

[weyburn]

All the way for me to be the best woman I could be and that money could buy...........LOL

[Eryn]

Money being no problem can be a problem in itself. That sort of wealth can lead to bad decisions. For reference see Howard Hughes, Michael Jackson and countless Hollywood celebrities.

For that reason, the first thing I would do with my largess is to hire a well-paid minder and sign them to an unbreakable contract. The minder's job would be simple: to follow me around and tell me when I'm about to do something Really Stupid. At least then I'll have an impartial person to advise me, not just a bunch of sycophants who profit from my stupidity.

[sometimes_miss]

Oh, that's easy. I'd start a genuine free dating site for crossdressers to meet single women who are tired of meeting lousy 'normal' men, with the warning of course, as well as information about crossdressing. Most of us have lived with this for a long time, and, as such, understand a lot more about male female interaction than the average guy. If I could educate women about why it doesn't change the basic guy within, maybe more of them would be willing to try dating us. The downside, of course, is that everyone would have to list their true sex, unlike the situation at the current 'dateacrossdresser' dating site. I know from personal experience that without crossdressing in the mix, I would have been considered a good 'catch' by most women. But add crossdressing into the equation and that changes immediately.

[Jaylyn]

I would give a big bunch of it away. I've always wanted to be able to help others. I would start with my kids and Grandkids and make sure all of them have a great pension set aside they only get at the age of fifty. I believe every one should work till they are fifty then retire to live the life they choose. My relatives I would leave enough for their kids the same as mine. Then probably start a college of common sense. We have lost that in our society. I would have teachers teach things that just plain common sense that people need to be successful in this world.
Oh yeah I would go ahead and buy half of Texas and put that safe resort y'all talk about in where we could all attend and enjoy. It would include some lakes where we could all go fishing and wildlife to enjoy. I would be the one in charge and Jaylyn would rule in her bright red garters, heels, hose and her favorite mini skirt. A place where all the CD muscians could play for a few parties and in this safe haven only fantasies of CDs would be made real for them. Those supporting wives also would be invited to attend. Some of the money I would just every week find some poor random family and pay all their bills for them so they can get a kick up on their life, but only if they were trying and really needed it because of the economy. Might even give many kids scholarships to the college of common sense. Especially the sports teams we would sponsor there. The rest I would just waste on wild wicked women, booze, and my Jeep collection.

[mykell]

inspired by all the noble ideas some have shared, maybe someday it wont be a hypothetical "if only" but a "franchise" opportunity.... whatever you idea may be.....


Money being no problem can be a problem in itself. That sort of wealth can lead to bad decisions. For reference see Howard Hughes, Michael Jackson and countless Hollywood celebrities.

For that reason, the first thing I would do with my largess is to hire a well-paid minder and sign them to an unbreakable contract. The minder's job would be simple: to follow me around and tell me when I'm about to do something Really Stupid. At least then I'll have an impartial person to advise me, not just a bunch of sycophants who profit from my stupidity.

being a fan of " Hughes " i dont think he deserves to be linked to "michael" , anyone who has stayed in a hospital has benefited from his influence, he designed the prototype of todays hospital bed while lying in pain after a plane crash, and his money is still benefiting many, Michael was an entertainer....family fighting over his wealth...anyway

from what i know of you from my time here Erin is that you are very level headed and practical and you would be wasting your money on the "Minder"....may want to spend that money on a theater or restaurant inside the resort....


Then probably start a college of common sense. We have lost that in our society. I would have teachers teach things that just plain common sense that people need to be successful in this world.
Oh yeah I would go ahead and buy half of Texas and put that safe resort y'all talk about in where we could all attend and enjoy. It would include some lakes where we could all go fishing and wildlife to enjoy. I would be the one in charge and Jaylyn would rule in her bright red garters, heels, hose and her favorite mini skirt. A place where all the CD muscians could play for a few parties and in this safe haven only fantasies of CDs would be made real for them. Those supporting wives also would be invited to attend. Some of the money I would just every week find some poor random family and pay all their bills for them so they can get a kick up on their life, but only if they were trying and really needed it because of the economy. Might even give many kids scholarships to the college of common sense. Especially the sports teams we would sponsor there.

dont know that you could teach common sense, would be great if we didnt have to, having a band at the resort sounds like good entertainment....


Oh, that's easy. I'd start a genuine free dating site for crossdressers to meet single women who are tired of meeting lousy 'normal' men, with the warning of course, as well as information about crossdressing. Most of us have lived with this for a long time, and, as such, understand a lot more about male female interaction than the average guy. If I could educate women about why it doesn't change the basic guy within, maybe more of them would be willing to try dating us. The downside, of course, is that everyone would have to list their true sex, unlike the situation at the current 'dateacrossdresser' dating site. I know from personal experience that without crossdressing in the mix, I would have been considered a good 'catch' by most women. But add crossdressing into the equation and that changes immediately.

sounds like a good idea for those needing help in with finding a special someone....

[VAWyman]

Mikell, that's a good idea. What would you name the place? Where would you local it? In the Midwest I hope.

Another thought, why wait for the lottery. America isn't called the 'land of opportunity' for no reason. There are plenty of people on this site with knowledge and willingness to help. Find out how to draw up a business plan and create one, seek funding and keep looking until you find a financier who will say "yes." Start modest and have a five-year plan to expand.

Only those who take a risk will succeed, and to not try is tantamount to failure.

In other words, GO FOR IT!!!

[MsVal]

After taking care of higher priority things (faith, family, friends), and realizing my own limitations, I would search for established experts to implement my dream.

They would be responsible for establishing, operating, growing, and sustaining a vast LGBTQ support network. Leveraging existing resources where available, and establishing them where needed, every LGBTQ person would have access to support and services.

I want to have major centers established in each of the nation's 100 largest cities, smaller centers in the next 400, and kiosk's in 1/3 of the country's shopping malls by 2025.

They would also exert political and social power to bring about an acceptance of us and our needs.

Best wishes
MsVal

[Stephanie Julianna]

This is a lot harder to answer than it seems at first. If money was not an issue I could fall into the trap of doing so much to enhance my look that it could screw up many of the important relationships in my life. My first thought was that I would set up a foundation to keep the Hospice I work at in the black. This would be after all my kids and grandchildren had their own trusts set up. I would make sure that my wife and I could do all the things that we want in a retirement. The trap is what would I do for "Stephanie"? If I did what "she' wants, I'd have no relationships of importance. My biggest concern is that I do feel that there is a certain amount of selfishness in what I do as my girl self. I need to feed it at times or I'll go crazy put I have to keep it in check. The lack of unlimited funds helps do that. If money was no object I fear I would be in big trouble.

[Rhian]

After sorting my family out I'd treat both boy me and girl me but I wouldn't be too wasteful. I'd have a big house with plenty of land so that I had the privacy to dress when I wanted, including a pool so I had somewhere to sunbath in my bikini during the summer (when we get one), to get those wonderful tan lines. I'd have a different car for girl me, which which would probably be a pink sports car. I'd get a wardrobe full of clothes and pay a mobile beautician to come and do my nails. make-up and wax me. That's about it really, most would go on my more dominant boy side.

Edit: I'd also buy a little bed and breakfast with between 10 and 20 rooms specifically for people with gender issues, where people and a partner or friend could stay in a safe environment and express themselves freely among similar people. All the staff would be either trans/CD/Gender Fluid etc so that people would in no way feel judged or self concious.

[countrygirl]

Get with a transformation specialist and get my look down where I can pass.

[Claire Cook]

Buy a pink mustang and Lolita sunglasses? Seriously, if $$ were no object I'd do whatever I could to reassure people that we are not the stereotypes that Hollywood has presented all too often, and to help them to understand and accept us. But there may not be enough $$$ around for that.

Maybe I'd just settle for a day at the Emerald Fantasy in the Emerald City .... (that's in Seattle, not in Oz...)

[Jean 103]

it would depend on how much money your talking about. First I would transition. I would look to help others .then sponsor a retreat by leasing a resort once or twice a year. I would not want the headache of actually running it

[ophelia]

I'd hire an image consultant and work out a good modern look for myself, and then I would go to top pros to get what needed to be done, done. I'd get an inescapably feminine cut and colour. I adore every aspect of the spa/salon experience so I would endulge and and would get some top line eyelash extensions, some botox for my face and some restilane for my lips. Maybe some weekend breast enhancement.

[wiwaw]

I would transition. Focus all my attention to it. I have been wanting it for years. If unlimited amounts of money were available then too many things could be done to help and support you all.

[Mia Brankovic]

Hey there Mikell, pleasure to see you again.

I too purchase lottery tickets; however, I have thought about what I would do with the proceeds (you see, I'm not a Lover of Money, nor do I serve that master...I'll never be rich, and (unless Art) I live a rather Spartan existence. However, if I did win: I would open a few business'/companies (profit sharing) to help reduce the youth unemployment...my focus would be upon the arts. Since I have waited for that lottery ticket long 'nough...I've decided to take matters into my own hands...I'm currently investigating the prospects of changing my career...I now what to become a Brass artisan (molding thin brass and mounting upon furniture, engraving & etching) and Leather Shoppe (I would like to learn how to construct horse equipment, cause I plan on owning a few...down the road a ways)...I was an accounting/bookkeeper, not in alignment with my personality or my path.

I can only give you my advice based upon how I live me life: For those things that bring you peace, happiness or enjoyment, while not negatively impacting others around you, spend as much as you can afford (important key point...remain within your budget) to obtain the very best there is. and ftLoG, if you have a SO, then discuss the issue! I have found that if the person you cohabitate with is HAPPY!!, then your life becomes easy & quiet. So, my first order of business would be to financially support the hopes, dreams & desires of my SO. I enjoy contemplative, yet abhor stagnation...is there a difference between those two.

Oh, as per what I would personally do with the cash...I'd increase my annual donation budget. If you're going to be remembered...it is best to be remembered for the right reasons (lol) I don't think I would use the cash to take the easy road...I have always takin' the road less travelled, the harder row to hoe, so to speak. I learn much more navigating thru the turmoil and it builds character...always explore and expand your personality...test yourself, within reason, and softly. Be gentle with yourself and accept yourself. "You are all children of the Universe...and you all have a right to be here". This is some of what I have learned while throwing myself into the fray...my way is richer than money (IMHO) WOW, well honey darlins...that was quite the lil' rant

I would return to my roots and move to County Kerry or Cork in Ireland...spread the wealth amongst my kin. They'll work for it...'cause I enjoy workin'...I hope to never retire...another reason to open my own company.

Oh my, I need a little music...care to listen in? You'll like these, trust me

Mirusia sings "Love Changes Everything"

Luigi Boccherini - Musica notturna delle strade di Madrid

Jon Anderson & Vangelis - I'll find my way home

Very interesting thought, Mikell Thank you,
Mia