curious

[lisa72]

I have noticed since I have been dressing and reading posts here that I look more closely at people, females and wonder if it's a crossdresser. It's a strange feeling. Dose anyone else have this feeling.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I reckon the Chancellor George Osborne. Definitely a girl.

[Jorja]

I can't say I look any closer. If you are presenting as female I treat you as female. If you are presenting as male I treat you as male. If I find you someplace in between I will treat you as a person until I know for sure how you want to be treated. I hope that makes sense.

[BLUE ORCHID]

I always love watching females to see what they are wearing and get new ideas.

[Lorileah]

I noticed that the harder I looked to see if a woman was a CD, the more they looked at me...so to make us both comfortable...No I don't look, I don't guess, I don't care

[stephanie71]

I think I check some people a bit more, but even if I figured it out that they were a crossdresser, there is not much I would do about it, other than say hi, just like I would to any other human. I would not make anything out of it, unless the dressed up person was very open, then I would open up to them. I do not go out dressed, because for me this is something I do around the house for fun and excitement with my GF. So in the street, no one would know I dress (unless they notice that I shave my hands about 2 inches up past my wrists.

[Dana Nichole]

I don't look for crossdressers, but on a couple of occasions in the last few months I've noticed one whereas before I'm sure I would not have.

[Linda Leigh]

I look at women to see what their clothes look like and also their makeup. Of course if they are wearing heels I look:) Otherwise I don't really care if they are or are not a crossdresser.

[Kate Simmons]

No, I don't do a "once over" on a woman to see if she may be a CDer. Why should I care anyway? I accept everyone for who they are. :)

[justmetoo]

Yeah, I just take people on face value, as it were. I just never really thought seriously about trying to spot other crossdressers.

[StephanieinSecret]

I only look when they appear androgynous. Even then, it's impolite to stare.
Plus, I find androgyny attractive, so I'd probably be looking anyway :)

[Robin414]

I completely agree, I do find myself looking more often since being here, and yes I notice ALL women in heels too;). That said I haven't had a lot of opportunities and no 'reply stares ' per say but a genuine smile in response would go a long way I'm sure

[ReineD]

I don't either, because the majority people do present as their birth-sex. Looking for CDers is like looking for a needle in the hay-stack.

[Barbara Maria]

For some reason I've had cds right in front of me and didn't notice until someone else pointed them out.I do,and always have,enjoy watching women,but lately I find myself studying how they walk and move.Of course I still appreciate their beauty too.

[Teresa]

Lisa ,
I tend to look at people closely it's just a habit after being a photographer for thirty years ! Now I do it because of painting portraits !

Just the other day I saw a woman in a shortish skirt, good legs and long blond hair as I drove by she was older than expected and looked fairly masculine in the face ! If it was a CDer the short skirt gave it away !

[Lacey New]

I don't look for crossdressers but I do look at well put together women, the hair, the make-up, the clothes. And I do admire a nicely fitting dress or a skirt and a blouse. I do like white blouses that simetimes hit ant nice things underneath.

[alice clair]

I agree with BLUE ORCHID I do the same thing myself

[Claire Cook]

I can't say I look any closer. If you are presenting as female I treat you as female. If you are presenting as male I treat you as male. If I find you someplace in between I will treat you as a person until I know for sure how you want to be treated. I hope that makes sense.

Jorja, That make perfect sense. Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone felt that same way?

[Crystal Beth]

I do look more closely at people, but it is more to get a sense of their style. I really pay attention to eyes and makeup. On a funny note, do you see girls that you know are GG that look more like crossdressers than crossdressers?

[Katey888]

Since I've been on this forum (nearly a year) this question has come up several times - and after each time I go out looking.. seeking.. searching for those giveaways.. And with the exception of the one LGBT venue I've been to, I have still not seen one obvious crossdresser... I truly feel that I am missing something, but I should know all the cues, right? :thinking:

A female presentation but with: Broad shoulders, 5 o'clock shadow, masculine walk, poor posture, bad hair, questionable makeup... Funny thing is, I've seen all of those, but not a crossdresser in sight.. :eek: (let me say I've seen a much bigger majority of GGs that just look like stereotypical GGs too... :))

All that leads me to believe is that there really aren't many of us about out there - at least, not my part of the world - so I just spend my time looking at females in the same way I always have - with a sense of awe and admiration, and yes, particular attention to makeup, as that seems to be a dwindling craft amongst both genders nowadays...

And Nikki - I'm pretty sure the Right hon. George Osborne is an alien and therefore not of any specific gender... ;)

Katey x

[Beverley Sims]

I'm too busy looking at myself to worry what others look like. :)

[Dana3]

I take people as they are and don't intentionally look for other CD's although I do admire and envy women and their many The freedom they have for doing so, while as a man I'm limited and constricted to the blah~blah of expectations of masculinity. For me cross dressing is as much about being expressive of my inner persona as much as anything else, and it just so happens that a lot of that lends itself more toward the traditional feminine side than the masculine, although in the day-to-day world in which I must live and function? I have to do so within the confines of the Vanilla-only choice of masculinity rather than the multi-flavored, multi-colored etc of femininity.

Years ago I was going with a woman whose teenage younger sister came bouncing through her grandmothers house wearing men's boxer shorts as "outerwear" when such was the fashion. Just poking fun at her I asked her why she was wearing men's boxers as "outerwear"

I LOVED her response, (she was around 14 or 15 at the time) "Because I can and I want to!" as she bounced out the door like Tiger from Whinney The Poo!" Ditto when I asked a woman about why she painted alternating finger different colors of nail polish. "Because I felt like it!"

As a person and individual, as an enitity? That's what I want for myself.

[Seana Summer]

I don't know that I look any longer at anyone as in staring, but I do find myself looking at the telling features more than the manner of dress. For example the size proportions of hips to shoulders.

[Robin777]

On a funny note, do you see girls that you know are GG that look more like crossdressers than crossdressers?

I know what you are saying. I have seen that a few times.

[CharlotteP]

I do look for some of the signs, and have run across a few who were dressed and a couple of under dressers while out, seeing the outline of a sports bra under a tshirt and knowing it's one of us makes me feel a bit happy.

Charlotte

[sometimes_miss]

I have noticed since I have been dressing and reading posts here that I look more closely at people, females and wonder if it's a crossdresser. It's a strange feeling. Dose anyone else have this feeling.

Sadly, despite the wishes of those who go 'out' en femme, 99% are pretty easily read. The remaining 1% often also have visual give aways that signal to look at other items to verify, such as big hands, big feet, broad shoulders, facial shape, the list goes on and on. Voice is another obvious clue, as unconscious clearing of one's throat often comes out in a different tone than the voice. So it's usually pretty easy to spot someone even if you're not looking for it.

[firsttimedresser]

Lisa72
i have been looking at other women and thinking i can wear that dress better lol

Izzy

[Bima]

....that I look more closely at people, females and wonder if it's a crossdresser... Dose anyone else have this feeling.

Not looking for CDs, but seemingly got better at spotting CDs.

This Saturday however, I went to a small and close-by local restaurant/bar and the couple behind my table was a woman and a MtF CD couple. It was not very hard to spot; the CD guy was tall, had a manly posture and facial features, too high heels and short skirt (for this place), a male voice and hairy arms. Still I think he/she was extremely courageous, this area is way off the city, and that they came as a couple. An older drunk guy commented, as he did not reckon the situation due to his state, that "You were a tall gal" when the CD guy went over to pay at the bar.

Saw another CD in a thrift-store too, the other week. And, recently an extremely well dressed and passable CD waiting for the commuter train.

Then there have been a number of false positives too, women that I at first sight have thought where CDs but they were not. :-)

Before I started to dress myself, I would probably not have spotted them, or at least the latter two.

/Bima

[Marcelle]

I think the reality is that we (CDers) are minority in the population and from that sub-population and even smaller minority actually enter the Vanilla World. The probability of seeing a CDer (unless you look in the mirror) is probably the same as spotting the Ghost of Elvis riding a unicorn down main street. A lot of folks post they have seen one of the tribe out and about but can you truly be certain? I guess if you live in a place where it is more prevalent then I suppose. However for the most part, I believe we are very rare.

Hugs

Isha

[charlenesomeone]

I don't look anymore or less, but now I look and think, cute shoes, love that anklet.
So that's how you pair capris and dressy top, very nice.

[Pink]

Well, I can't say much because I just joined.

But at school, I never assumed anyone was a crossdresser. Not because I'm trying to be respectful or anything. I live in close-minded, redneck Arkansas.

[wiwaw]

I do the same. I think that i look closer because i secretly hope that there are many out there doing what i wish i could. Walking in public. The courage and evidence of local success in this area could lead me further.....

[Rhian]

I've not looked for it but I think I will make an effort to the next time I am somewhere busy, even if for a bit of reassurance that we are more common than first thought. I do wonder how many of us there are I suspect it's more than people would think but most of us are hiding in the closet, I hope at some point I can work up the confidence to go out and represent our community; although having said that if I can get my voice right I might be able to pass.

[VAWyman]

I work at a local hospital and personally know of three patients that are in transition. There are a couple others that I wonder about.