PretzelGirl
11-29-2014, 07:39 AM
I can't remember where I first heard that, I think from my voice therapist, but I have been using it more lately. I just looked over my posts from the point of deciding to transition through now to trace my thought processes. It is interesting how my mindset has changed.
One of my goals that I always wanted out there was to be an educator once I came out. I wanted to be able to help others learn and through that learning I felt there would be more acceptance. Plus I also planned on being a local advocate and felt I would be open about what I was doing including on Facebook posts. A few weeks ago I was at a point where I hadn't posted anything on my Facebook since coming out and I discussed it with my wife as I was hesistant about it being the right thing. After the discussion, I decided to post something related to awareness month. After about 10 minutes, I noticed the tears were welling up in my eyes, so I thought about it and deleted the post. I wasn't sure what was going on but it was better to stop and figure it out.
So the next day I had a discussion with my sister and at the end she just said, you are a woman now, live it. I don't ever foresee cutting ties with the community and I will certainly always be known as being trans, but I could see her point. I was always prepared to educate and for the most part, that hasn't been needed. Going back to where I said I was looking over old posts, there was one where I said I was preparing to be an educator and I had several replies that said they weren't asked one thing after coming out. Sigh....how soon I forget.
It is an interesting experience as I have been accepted at work and in my social life as Sue and that was that. It just is...... The battle then is solely within myself. I have been told by family and friends that I look and sound like a woman and anyone meeting me wouldn't know. Looking in the mirror, I see the basic features of my face so my mind thinks male and I hear the general sound of my voice and I think male. So in a strange twist, I thought I would transition and would be working on other's perception of me and instead I am working on my own perception of myself.
One of my goals that I always wanted out there was to be an educator once I came out. I wanted to be able to help others learn and through that learning I felt there would be more acceptance. Plus I also planned on being a local advocate and felt I would be open about what I was doing including on Facebook posts. A few weeks ago I was at a point where I hadn't posted anything on my Facebook since coming out and I discussed it with my wife as I was hesistant about it being the right thing. After the discussion, I decided to post something related to awareness month. After about 10 minutes, I noticed the tears were welling up in my eyes, so I thought about it and deleted the post. I wasn't sure what was going on but it was better to stop and figure it out.
So the next day I had a discussion with my sister and at the end she just said, you are a woman now, live it. I don't ever foresee cutting ties with the community and I will certainly always be known as being trans, but I could see her point. I was always prepared to educate and for the most part, that hasn't been needed. Going back to where I said I was looking over old posts, there was one where I said I was preparing to be an educator and I had several replies that said they weren't asked one thing after coming out. Sigh....how soon I forget.
It is an interesting experience as I have been accepted at work and in my social life as Sue and that was that. It just is...... The battle then is solely within myself. I have been told by family and friends that I look and sound like a woman and anyone meeting me wouldn't know. Looking in the mirror, I see the basic features of my face so my mind thinks male and I hear the general sound of my voice and I think male. So in a strange twist, I thought I would transition and would be working on other's perception of me and instead I am working on my own perception of myself.