Xmas wish list ! In your dreams !!

[Teresa]

Sorry to use the dreaded word but I can't believe it's almost a year since I posted my cynical thread about Xmas presents !

Last year as usual the manly cords and trusty check shirt appeared again ! Wouldn't it be nice if it was a cord skirt and matching blouse ! OK only in my dreams ! After a talk earlier this year I did make a comment about something nice would be a great way of saying I understand and I still love you !!

I realised this places my wife in a dilemma, if she actually bought me something would it be allowed to hang in my wardrobe ?

Some member may smile at this question as their wardrobes or closets are overflowing ! I'm sure some other members are in the same position and it would be a big step in acceptance if they were allowed to hang their first outfit in view ! The nighties she gave me are now washed and folded in one of my wardrobe drawers, so whether other stuff will be allowed to follow ?

This may be all in my dreams and I'll have to find room for the cords and shirt !!

I will celebrate my first year on the forum shortly, I certainly have no regrets about that ! I have made some very good friends so CDing can't be all bad !!

[reb.femme]

Hi Teresa,

My wife has bought me a nightie and 2 dressing gowns, plus gloves and a scarf over the last couple of years, so here's hoping your dream comes true too. It would be an enormous step for your wife and an epic leap forward for you.

My big present would be my wife offering to get my ears pierced. I'm out to my wife, sons and their partners, but that's it by agreement. My eyebrows are plucked and thinner than they grow naturally, so my wife would see ear piercings as one more step toward outing myself. She mentioned the shape and length of my finger nails last year, so had to curb that a bit too.

I hope you get something really femme for Xmas.

Rebecca

[justmetoo]

Some presents for this other side of ourselves is a nice thought. It doesn't take much (and could be an option for the people who think we are hard to shop for... lol)One of my favorite presents ever were some cool earrings from one of my loved ones, for my femme side. They are perfect and I think of the person who gave them to me whenever I wear them. :hugs:

[bridget thronton]

I have gotten a few girly gifts from my wife over the years (dresses, jewelry, flannel nightgowns). They are quite special to me.

[Marcelle]

Hi Teresa,

Has it been a year already . . . goodness time flies. Well I certainly hope that you may get your wish . . . you never know.

Hugs

Isha

[Teresa]

Isha,
I'm waiting for a reply on the dilemma ! I'm intrigued to see what will happen if I'm faced with that one !

I guess you're knee deep in the white stuff again ! I know you can't wait to get all that fur lined stuff out the closet again !!

[Claire Cook]

Hi Teresa,

Well, I guess that is an Xmas wish / New Years' resolution to be fulfilled! Having your clothes hanging right out there in the open really is a big step toward acceptance, or at least tolerance. We share a closet -- my half is half guy and half gal. Her half still has more clothes than mine!




I will celebrate my first year on the forum shortly, I certainly have no regrets about that ! I have made some very good friends so CDing can't be all bad !!

It certainly is not all bad, and Happy Anniversary!

[mariehart]

Well my wife usually buys me a nice a top, male of course. But this the first Christmas since I told her and I can only hope for a little something else. But I imagine I'll be disappointed. I'll get her something nice though now that I don't have to pretend I'm clueless about women's clothing any more.

[heather ann martin]

Same wish I've had all my life. I wake up on Xmas morning and I'm a real woman.

[Samantha_Smile]

White satin 3/4 length sleeve blouse that shows just a little bit of cleavage.
Tailored pencil skirt suit in grey (knee length skirt, single breasted jacket) with a pink satin lining.
A blonde lace front wig.
Some Louboutin heels in size 11? LOL
Britney Spears Fantasy EDP.

[Sara Jessica]

What you are describing Teresa is something that I moved on from a long time ago. Your wife buying something for your feminine side represents a degree of acceptance in your mind, and rightfully so. So she buys you the skirt and top, are you happy? What comes next???

I spent the better part of nearly 20 years hoping/wishing/praying my wife would come around, that every day I'd wake up thinking this would be the day where she would find the ability to accept this side of me to a greater degree and to even participate. Every day I'd go to sleep disappointed.

The thing is, many women top out at a level that is less than what we desire when it comes to their ability to get their heads around who and what we are. If I am reading your post correct, you have dropped this hint which is the pushing of the envelope, something many of us have done from time to time. Even if you haven't dropped the hint, the mere thought is there, that you'd do it if given the chance. Again, I'd have done the same thing years ago but it happens that somehow, I have moved to a place where I don't care in the least bit any longer if her level of participation were to increase and I am much happier because of it.

It is a tough place to be, on both sides of the relationship.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Teresa, At my age I have everything I need, If I don't have it I don't need it.
For my wife and I it's about the two daughters and the grand daughter.:daydreaming:

[docrobbysherry]

I think I was about 16, Teresa? When I stopped looking under the tree for, "that certain present"!

Since then, if I want something? I buy it for myself. 9 out of 10 gifts I've received since then? I wish they'd given their money to a helpful charity instead!

[carahawkwind]

I usually set up amazon wishlists so I can get what I want, although that generally excludes the girl things, although I've been thinking about setting up a private one for the people I'm out to. My wife usually gets me some girl stuff and her sister might too if she knew what to get me.

For girly things this year, I want boots, both ankle and knee, makeup, especially lipsticks and palettes, and accessories, right now I could use some necklaces in particular.

[claire_hollinger]

I just want a silky nightgown, and then sleep in it with my wife...mmmm comfortable.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Wow Claire, you and your wife must be very slim!

I want a lightweight black trouser suit, with bell-bottomed pants and a single-breasted jacket with wide lapels; a cream blouse with frilly cuffs collar and lapels to wear open to just above the waist, over a sizzling lacy black bra; and strappy black high heels. Oh yes, and a wide-brimmed black felt hat.

Easy, right?

[Beverley Sims]

Teresa,
You have something to liik forward to, Merry Christmas and Happy Anniversary in advance.

The Christmasmarkets are all opening.
Chicago last week and Le Havre today.
I will eat my way around Europe on Crepes and Nutella.

[CynthiaD]

I think that if someone gave me a girlie present for Christmas I'd start to cry. But that isn't going to happen, so I won't worry about it.

What I would really like is for the gifts I give to make the recipients deleriously happy. That would be the best gift of all.

[Lily Catherine]

At this time of the year I always receive clothes (male of course) As far as female clothing goes I would looking out for this gown (http://m.jjshouse.com/A-Line-Princess-Sweetheart-Ankle-Length-Satin-Tulle-Lace-Wedding-Dress-With-Sash-Flower-S-002042301-g42301) if not a corset styled tulle dress, plus a wig styled in a chignon - hands down my favourite hairstyle!!. That having been said bringing any of that home would raise many eyebrows.

[Teresa]

Just to add a post script, I overheard my wife on the phone to my son and he was asking what dad wanted for Xmas ? I replied in the background that I could give him a list but I don't think he'll understand it ! My wife waved her arms to quieten me down in case he heard me !

[njcddresser]

I can probably expect some new make up from my wife. In terms of wish list I'd wish for a new wig, a lace short night gown and of course the obligatory underwear!

[NicoleScott]

Mariehart, Beverly, Cynthia: Thanks for spelling out Christmas. My dad drove past lots selling Xmas trees and always bought from a Christmas tree lot.

[countrygirl]

Wish list: bridal gown and maternity wear, maybe even a brides maid dress.

[JamieQ]

My Christmas wish would be dressing up in my tan suede above knee skirt, white tights or nude pantyhose, red Christmas shirt, those red and white Christmas "stocking caps", high heels or boots and going to the Opryland Winter Display with another CDer, girl or guy and spend the day...other than that I have enough material things...I haven't yet found anyone to go with...a real good professional makeover for the face first would be nice...

[Brynna M]

I'd just like to have and honest non blow up conversation with my wife. We've got a don't ask don't tell policy on crossdressing. The only path toward even a little more acceptance is open acknowledgement and communication.

Stuff I can buy myself. Acceptance is priceless.

[Justice327]

I wouldn't mind a corset. A nice lace corset and some of my own make-up. Right now I'm using my wifes. Lol hey whatever works right.

[kymmieLorain]

Problem is that through out the year I buy Kymmie so much stuff. hard to save it for Xmas. One thing I want to find maybe for Xmas if I find it around that time. or could be for Easter or 4th of July. Or have the Great Pumpkin bring it. Is a Black satin and lace teddyette ( teddy with garters) I have a purple one but want to find one in black. or find again a green plaid teacher dress, mid calf, button down long sleeve. I had one but disappeared.

Kymmie

[Stephanie47]

If I get anything "girlie" for Christmas it will be because I bought it.

[Terry V]

I told my wife a long time ago and to say the least she was not to happy to hear that from me but as time went by and was asked what I wanted for birthdays or Christmas I always ask for what I wanted I would ask for something lacy. I almost gave up but one birthday I got a bra and panty set, I was speechless and did not know what to do, my wife told me to try them on and since then on every occasion I get something special and I wear them often.

[Teresa]

The reply from Terryv made me think I'm posed with another problem ! If she genuinely wants to buy me something how will she know my size especially a bra ? She doesn't know what size forms I wear !
Thanks for all your replies ! No doubt we will have a post Xmas thread on what we all received !!

[Tina B.]

It sure is great to have an accepting wife, mine finds it easier to shop for me in the women's department than anywhere else.
I always get a mix of both men and women's gifts. In the past it ha been anything from skirts and blouses, to scarfs, hat's and jewelry.
This year I've asked for a dress, I only have a few, and I have way to much of almost everything else.
But because my wife treats me this way. Christmas morning, I wake up as excited as a school girl, and when sitting there by the tree with my new clothes, wither it's a skirt, or a beautiful nightgown, or whatever, I feel loved.
Of course, it means I have to do a great job in shopping for her Christmas, I mean how could I not make sure she has a few things that make her say WOW, but then that is shopping I really enjoy doing.

[Terry V]

She took one of my shirts and figured out the blouse size and from there made and educated guess as to my bra size and guessed at the panty size. To tell the truth after I heard the story about how she came to my size I was trilled she did that much for me.

[Sarina Curtis]

I'd love to have a set of french garters and seamed stockings to go with, along with a nice corset. I'm not at the point where I would ask my wife for anything feminine having only come out to her a few months back. Maybe next year.

[Alice B]

My wife asked me what I wanted. I said a silk blouse. Fat chance as she laughed

[DeeDeeB]

I'm the one who buys the lady's fashions for the house - did before either one of us knew about Dee. My lovely and accepting wife has given me jewelry since I came out to her. There is always hope for us all.

And Merry Christmas,
DeeDee :fairy1:

[fiseldon5]

At Christmas I always hoped my mom would give me panties as a gift.
I am sure she knew I was experimenting.
Alas it never happened.

[~Joanne~]

My Drab side (not that I really have two sides mind you) is a very hard person to buy for this time of year> I usually have everything I want long before xmas comes around and it always left my SO upset because she never knew what to get me. Xmas is important to her, she feels disappointed if she can't get me things she knows I want.

Last year when I told her about this in October, One of the first things I said to her while out shopping one day was "look at it this way, now you a LOT more options open to you for buying me xmas presents". She didn't like the idea because she doesn't like buying clothes for herself let alone others but On Xmas there were plenty of girl things under the tree:D Just not clothes lol

ever Since I had that "talk" she has been more into her makeup than she had been in previous years, I don't know if it's because I was now wearing it or not but now I have a lot more options open to me as well and I know she has been to ULTA this year shopping this season ;)

The point of sharing this is that your wife may surprise you, it might not have happened last year, it may not happen this year, but at some point she may be more comfortable with all of this, realize it's not going away, and just may surprise you when you least suspect it. Never give up hope and it really doesn't prove whether she loves you or not.

[Angie G]

I really hope you get what you wish for. And a place to hang it. I'm wishing for more space in my closet.:hugs:
Angie

[Jeninus]

I'm really fortunate. My wife and I went to the jewelers a couple of months ago to do our Christmas shopping. I bought her the gold bracelet she wanted, and she bought me a beautiful set of earrings (of course they're pierced) and a ring we sized for my pinkie finger that also perfectly fits her right ring finger. There is also a matching necklace to the set. As it happens, the set is for me, but she will probably get far more opportunity to wear it. As for the closet, my side is half skirts and blouses and half Drab. As I write this, I'm dressed in skirt, hose, top, bra with forms, earrings and a necklace, while 'She Who Must be Obeyed' is baking Xmas cookies - in jeans, of course. Yes, no question who wears the pants in this household - or the skirts, for that matter! It's wonderful having an accepting wife.

Theresa, all of us here are hoping your dilemma is resolved so that you have increased happiness and acceptance. Life is too short for the other.

[Tonya Rose]

Teresa, your dream will come true one day. i hope this is your year for Teresa to shine @ CHRISTMAS... I totally understand where your coming from... ya see. mmmm my wife totally understands my CDing and has bought thing for me for years and shared her closet with me gone shopping togather etc.. but never recognised TONYA @ CHRISTMAS.. That all finally changed this year for me. You see me step daughter found me out earlier this year and was very accepting in fact happy to have a GF to go shopping with (me too) lol. this has brought she and i closer :hugs: anyway she text me a month ago with a pic of TONYAS first CHRISTMAS stocking that she is making just for me. and TONYA is making one just for JEN Yea!! and yes that is great. but it gets better... jen and the wife went CHRISTMAS shopping fri. and the wife told me today that she couldnt think of a thing to buy her husband but shopping for TONYA was way easy. i:m pretty sure it has a lot to do with who she was shopping with .LOL..but for the first time in 12 years TONYA is going to be a part of CHRISTMAS. So all i can say is Dont ever GIVE UP HOPE Your time will come GF.. :hugs:

[Ally 2112]

I usually buy for myself so i guess i know what im getting and when i do shop i have an idea what i want but mostly it is something that catches my eye .Also never give up Teresa it could happen for you i hope it does .In the meanwhile if you are able maybe get something for yourself :)

[Erika Lyne]

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Teresa,

I was searching for something different but I instantly got hooked on reading this thread and I was hoping to read some conclusion. What happened? Anything magical or just the same mundane holidays gift giving? (The suspense is killing me!)

As I've said before, I have been out to the wife for almost 3 decades (an amazing feat since I am only 42!) and I'm also out with two amazing young daughters. Every year I open gifts for my fem side. All of my gifts have,"To: Daddy" or to my male name on them no matter what the contents. I usually give a few girly gifts to my wife with, "From:Erika" on the tag. When Christmas rolls around every year, I give my wife a lLONG list of wishes and follow it up with, "These are the things I'd like but I don't expect them NOR do I 'expect' anything. Pick and choose if you'd like or go way off list if you find something you'd like to get me." No matter how my family goes about it, as long as I spend the holiday with them I'll be content. Then, as an agreement with my wife, we always get a gift for ourselves from ourselves under the tree labeled, "To: Daddy From: Daddy" or "To: Mommy From: Mommy."

Anyways, I say all this as a manner of communication to lead towards some level of acceptance and I share with you the picture I took of my pile of gifts from both my wife and daughters. Many things to laugh about but several items are from the heart and show acceptance of both my sides. There was a pair of shoes I have been eyeing for some time, a couple of wire free bras that hide even under a light polo shirt, a workout outfit, a book on sewing patterns (a dream that I have not been able to fulfill), a few pairs of panties and more for my feminine side. For the male side: a Star Wars spoof book, a humorous bumper sticker, calendar, winter gloves and a few more things. It was a good year and I love that I can wear my Victoria's Secret silk pajamas to open gifts on Christmas morning with my family.

I hope it was a wonderful gift giving season,
-E

[Zeldamoonflower]

There is this voice training tapes that help you get your voice in a higher pitch that would be good. And a make over by a special cross dressing store