Do you cry watching movies?

[Sarah Louise]

I think I've always been quite a sensitive soul. I always find myself welling up at those Hollywood movies that pull on the heart-strings. Up to now, I've always stopped myself or hid it from others as boys don't cry. Or at least they don't here in England (stiff upper lip and all that). So much so that my wife thinks I'm quite hard-nosed (if only she knew).

Last night I was getting teary watching Miracle on 34th Street for about the 10th time. For crying out loud, I'm a father of two in my forties!

Now, I've been thinking, do I cry at movies because of my inner femme self or is it just some other reason? What do you all think? Are those who cry at movies more likely to be cross dressers?

Now where's the tissues?

[Jennifer-GWN]

'Ties the season for weepeeness. :brokenheart::brokenheart:

[Christina Alice]

If you cry watching movies, it means the story got to you and meant something. Surely that's the best kind of movie....

[Annaliese]

Yes, old yeller come to mind, and many more

[2B Natasha]

I only cry when there Re children or animals involved. That goes for cartoons as well.

Is it the femme me doing it? Doubt it as it started years ago before I came to grips with myself.

[bimini1]

I'm super sensitive. Hell I've welled up during episodes of Gunsmoke.

[Rachel_B]

I am going to admit that yes.. I do cry when watching certain movies. The movies in question have to be where the main character is a military member and dies at some point of the movie (which most of the time its at the end of it). The only movies I can think of are Act of Valor and Gladiator, there are others but I can't seem to remember them.

[franlee]

Yes me too, it was Old Yeller and I was in second grade. I remember it well, I think it traumatized me for life.

[kimdl93]

Oddly enough, the two that still get me are Jeremiah Johnson and A River Runs Through It. Robert Redford is the common denominator...once as actor the other as director and narrator. Ok, I admit, I have a gay crush on him to this day...but something evokes tears that has nothing to do with Redford the matinee idol.

[Michelle 78]

I do sometimes, I'm pleased to say there is nothing wrong with showing your emotions sometimes, but I know exactly what you mean as I'm from the UK too and men aren't allowed to show emotions! if you do there must be something wrong with you!!

[Diane Douglas]

If you are old like me, you probably remember those AT&T commercials about the family being reunited. They probably played in the 70's. The first movie I remember getting weepie eyed seeing was ET. Stupid movie. I have cried at the end of several movies since.

[Brynna M]

I don't cry at movies but I do with books. Go figure. I don't think its a femme thing except in the way that we might accept that emotion more than a macho guy.

[BarbDriscoll]

I cry at movies, sometimes. Also sometimes cry listening to music, especially opera, but there's a lot of other music that gets to me too. I know my emotions have been manipulated and I get annoyed with myself sometimes for having bought into it. But we feel what we feel.

[justmetoo]

Yeah, I don't think it's a femme thing either.
But I do cry at movies, books, sappy commercials, news stories where justice and fairness or generosity are the main ingredient. I just don't try to hold it back and let the tears flow if they want to. :)

[heatherdress]

I only cry when I have to pay so much to see a movie.

[Eringirl]

Movies?? Heck, I get teary eyed with commercials!! :cry: :heehee:

["Gabriela"]

I cry a lot with movies! Although my fave genre is sci-fi, I love taking my time to see one of those -as my mom says- "crying movies". I cry with music, poetry, even my nephew's laughter makes me cry of joy! But I don't think it's related to my femme side, it's just a thing of being sensitive ;)
Cheers!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sarah, Now that I'm getting older I sometimes get a little misty eyed.:hugs:

[Nadine Spirit]

Smetimes, it depends on what it is.

But I have always been a crier. Heck I spent many a year before puperty bawling my eyes out over everything. My sister would tease me relentlessly about it. Eventually when puberty hit, I just became an angry -----. While working through that the water works came back! I have it all undr much more control now. So is it my fem side? I don't think of myself that way. Is it a more sterotypical female attribute of mine? Sure.

[Beverley Sims]

Yes if something strikes a chord, it can be very upsetting.

[Heather_Shirly]

I do.

What really gets me is stories of self sacrifice, great accomplishment or great love(and we all know love has so many things wrapped up inside it).

Hell I cried at the last scene of Lost in Translation.

[Sarah M]

When I watch some movies I have a tear or two. !!

[LelaK]

I like to cry when I'm really happy. When sad too, but sadness often seems comforting somehow.

[Jaymees22]

I was watching "Trans America" today and got a little weepy, I'm really bad..Hugs Jaymee

[SherylB]

I cry in almost all emotional scenes that happen in a movie. More so than my SO. She makes fun of it every time. Has it got something to do with my female persona? I don't know. But I feel it shouldn't matter. If the scene touches me and I feel teary eyed then I cry

[flatlander_48]

I have, for a long time. Some of the scenes that have touched me:

Red Tails:

We count our victories by the bombers we get to their targets, by the husbands we return to their wives, by the fathers we give back to their children. Through adversity, to the stars.
from the last plane, to the last bullet,
to the last minute, to the last man, we fight.
We fight, we fight we fight!

Daniel Craig's version of Casino Royale when Vesper drowns to death.

The scene at the end of GLORY when the soldiers make one last charge, you know (and they know) that no one is coming back.

The scene in GRAVITY when George Clooney disconnects himself.

[Diane Smith]

I was a sobbing, shaking, gasping emotional wreck after seeing the last twenty minutes of "Dances With Wolves" for the first time -- from the point the wolf and the horse are shot until the end (I guess "animals in peril" has something to do with it). And, like kimdl93, don't make me think too much about "A River Runs Through It" -- one of my favorites of all time -- or I'll melt right here at the keyboard. Neither one of these is what you'd likely call a "chick flick," but they sure push some emotional buttons for me. I have the soundtrack albums to both and can escape reality for an hour by listening to either one.

- Diane

[docrobbysherry]

I'm a sucker for those emotional, heart rending, bits in movies. And, tear up often in the dark.:doh:

But, cry in real life? Can't remember the last time that happened. Including at the death of my mom last year.:straightface:

[Marissa]

I am going to admit that yes.. I do cry when watching certain movies. The movies in question have to be where the main character is a military member and dies at some point of the movie (which most of the time its at the end of it). The only movies I can think of are Act of Valor and Gladiator, there are others but I can't seem to remember them.

It took a great scene (romantic, war, or emotional) for me to shed a tear (Saving Private Ryan as example)..then..well Iraq and a divorce combo..now a movie, a show, a presentation of award (especially military), and a few commercials.. i have to whip the water works away. Well do my best to hide it when company is around.

Clint Eastwood "a man has got to know his limitations"..ok, that was just for a laugh.. :)

And don't get me started on songs..lol.. so...where is that couch again???? :)

[paulaprimo]

Movies?? Heck, I get teary eyed with commercials!! :cry: :heehee:

me too!! this commercial always gets my tears flowing!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRMHNlL0StI

[bridget thronton]

Yes I have been know to cry during movies

[GeauxStacy]

I have been known to open the water works on movies such as Saving Private Ryan. The one that really gets me is not a movie, but when I see the missing man formation at an airshow, that gets me every time.

[Marcelle]

I have been known to get emotional during a movie but it has to strike a chord with some experience in my life if I can't find relevance to my own experiences it doesn't affect me on an emotional level. I don't believe it is a "woman thing" as I have seen plenty of manly men welling up during certain movies. Crying is an emotional outpour and can be triggered by a variety of things - normal realm of human emotion. We just tend to think it is more a "femme" thing because the world for so long has said "boys don't cry".

Hugs

Isha

[Teresa]

Some of the old films affect me more ! "The Glen Miller Story" never fails to put a lump in my throat !

I find I get emotional when I see sportsmen receive their Olympic medals and tears are flooding down their faces, I relate to the hard work and dedication that got them there !

[Erica Marie]

I can tear up watching any movie or tv show when something heartfelt happens. Actually it happens quite often. Especially when someone does something nice for another person.

[BOBBI G.]

I have a hard time not crying. I cried, as a child, watching some episodes of Lassie and Rin Tin Tin. As an adult, I cried in some of Disney's movies when I was with my daughter. And with my grand daughter, as well, the latest was the movie Moulan, a story of a girl's unrestricted love for her father. And then, of course, the Chick Flicks are always good for clearing the tear ducts. Christmas movies are great for getting me to bawl like a baby. Now, I am starting to collect movies that create an extreme need for Kleenex. Movies are an escape mechanism, and I see myself in them. We are all a combination of male and female, and tearing, crying, or just plain bawling is good, even if some people get a chuckle from your emotion.

Bobbi

[Rhonda Darling]

Always have, always will. Just now I don't try to hide it, no matter what mode I'm presenting in. Stereotypical female trait? OK, I'm down with that. I like my emotions. I embrace the comfort of feeling things and not stifling any slight showing of sincerity when among others.

Rhonda

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I know my emotions have been manipulated...

Gosh I never thought of it like that. It seems rather a cynical way to look at it. Was Beethoven being manipulative when he wrote passionate music?

I've always been a crier, I'm a total sap when it comes to movies. I quite like the release.

[Carrie R]

Depends on my mood. I can even cry when HAL 9000 gets shutdown. Daisy, daisy...

[Sharon B.]

Not only at movies but some of the news that has been put on.

[jjjjohanne]

I am not a very emotional man. However, I did cry at the end of the dirty dozen when they were dropping those grenades down those shafts....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7aZl-uBcufM

(but seriously)
I don't sob and flow with tears, but I do well up somewhat easily during touching movies. I enjoy watching chick flicks with my wife, but I don't know if I would watch them without her. ...I might, but I would probably lean toward Iron Man (which didn't make me cry) over a chick flick. In truth I am not very emotional. But when I have an emotion, it seems strong. When my father died, I cried, but I don't think I cried any more than my siblings did.

[donnalee]

I do, and it's horribly embarrassing; not so much that I cry, but what I cry at!
I cry at the most trite emotional drivel ever excreted by the pens of the worst hack writers Hollywood has to offer; the "made for TV - direct to video -especially made for Christmas - movies that play on every trite emotion there is.
I know all this while I am doing it, but I can't stop myself from crying; as I said, it's embarrassing!

[Ressie]

Balled like a baby the other night during the end of "To Sir With Love". Some movies just turn on the water works!

[Vala]

In my opinion there is no link between crossdressing and crying because of movies or what so ever. It only shows that the person in question gets caught by the story and feels the emotions that the writer has written.

And I also have certain movies that will start my waterworks. Fir example if there are no hankies around i will not watch "message in a bottle"

[samantha rogers]

Short answer...yes! All the time...lol
Movies, cat videos, Hallmark commercials...sometimes for no reason at all.
Sigh...lol

[CONSUELO]

Yes, frequently.

[Lori Kurtz]

Yes, I cry a lot at movies. And when I hear beautiful music. And when I see another person crying. Sad things, inspiring things, beautiful things, joyous things--any of them can bring me to tears. My emotions are always close to the surface. I think it's a result of the accumulation of a lot of experiences and relationships--maturing and aging and accepting the amazing mix of wonderfulness and sadness that is life as a human being.

[Lady Catherine]

Movies books, heck, live in general. I've always been a bit emotional. Always have been. Nothing wrong with that.

[Isabella Ross]

Absolutely. But during my denial years, I would never let anyone see this...I suppose because I felt it related to my self-image and doubts. Since I came clean, I feel like I have given myself permission to be the emotional person I guess I've probably always been.

[ReineD]

Are those who cry at movies more likely to be cross dressers?

No. My ex-husband used to get emotional occasionally, as have my adult sons. But then they gave themselves permission to feel their emotions, they were raised in an environment where they were told it was OK to do so.

My SO on the other hand, who identifies as dualgender, does not experience teariness when watching emotional content, ever.

Read the following article. I know this is pop-culture and the statistics they use are questionable, but it gives you an idea that even at the popular AskMen.com, it is admitted that men do cry, enjoy girly drinks, watch chick-flicks, preen, etc.

http://www.askmen.com/daily/austin_150/158_fashion_style.html

[Tammy Lynn Tx]

Yes, I cry over nearly anything anymore. I was always taught boys/ men don't cry and I was as tough as a man was supposed to be, then I met my wife who loves the old tear jerker movies and started becoming more at ease with myself and now cry at the drop of a tissue.

[Henriette7]

Yes I cry a lot. Once my family caught me crying to Disney's spirit. Since then it has gotten even worse. Today I cry to almost anything that is a little sensitive. If it has anything to do with a female persona I really don't know. :-)

Hugs
Henriette

[JerseyGirlDonna]

Absolutely! I always have, ever since Bambi's mother was shot. If the film calls for it, if I don't react that way I sometimes feel cheated out of something.

[wanda66]

Oh my...I've found myself crying even when iam reading . Ive always had this side,younger people would call me a little girl for crying . It's ok tho it just shows that i have deep feelings

[Katey888]

All the time... sometimes for the very obvious chick flicks - 'Love Actually', where Colin Firth's character is proposing in his broken Portuguese... 'The Holiday' - when Jude Law reveals the other woman is his daughter.... :cry: also the passion of Gene Kranz in 'Apollo 13' when he tells his 'Tiger Team' that "Failure is not an option..." (Even though he never actually said it IRL... :doh:) Films with animals get ya right there too! And then some odd movies that just strike something emotive in me... like when I was a teenager and saw 'Silent Running' for the first time, when the last trees and flora and fauna of a dying earth are saved from destruction... I can cry when reading books - rarely bodice rippers, I might add... And many other reasons... I think some of it is associated with getting older too...


Read the following article. I know this is pop-culture and the statistics they use are questionable, but it gives you an idea that even at the popular AskMen.com, it is admitted that men do cry, enjoy girly drinks, watch chick-flicks, preen, etc.

Questionable...? Hmmmm... Aren't these stats just the rogue CDers who also respond to surveys for men's magazines... ;)

Katey x

[Michaelasfun]

I do. It's another part of me that I embrace, I would rather be sensitive than insensitive...

[Robin414]

Not openly but yes I do...hey I'm a girl after all!! :)

[ronny0]

What really gets me is stories of self sacrifice, great accomplishment or great love(and we all know love has so many things wrapped up inside it).


Not sure what it is, I try not to show it, but when alone some times I will cry for the simplest reason.
Could be lack of human contact, as my SO has been out of town for an extended trip......
Could be Old Age and hormone changes, could be realizing all the "Good Stuff" in life that I have missed out on...........
Some times the tears are of joy, other times of depression and loneliness.
Just seeing others expressing their emotions will at times bring me to tears.......

[LilSissyStevie]

I tend to cry often without any warning or apparent trigger - PTSD! The only way I know to control it is to make myself sad on purpose. I listen to sad music or watch depressing movies and have a good cry. Then I'm good to go for a while. Does that make me girly? No, it just makes me a barking lunatic.

[Sarina Curtis]

I don't cry often but it's usually for the movies that show me the kind of father and/or teacher I want to be. Mr. Holland's Opus gets me every time.

[Alice B]

Always if the story gets to me. Which is always

[DeeDeeB]

I apologize for not reading all the responses, but you hit a nerve. I've cried at the end of Miracle on 34th Street, It's a Wonderful Life this week and many other seasonal oldies in the last week after the 40th or so time seeing them. It may be a girly thing, but many of us humans are sensitive. Are we sensitive folks more likely to be trans? I'll wait for the tabloids to tell us.

DeeDee :fairy1:

[Barbara Dugan]

the only one that has make me cry is Graveyard Of The Fireflys

[Joni T]

Saving Private Ryan comes to mind.
Jon

[BillieJoEllen]

I cry at almost anything that is sad or that makes one super happy. Movies, music, books, you name it.

[Tiffany Jane]

Saving private ryan was the best ending, as I saw it, was my life worth the others to die for? Puts a lot into perspective. The judge, just came out and a lot of the character relationships hit close to home. Had to sit in theatre to compose myself a few minutes after it was over. Just cried reading On the day you were born to my son this afternoon at naptime. Have cried watching Oprah, espn, well almost anything that catches my emotion. Thankfully my wife has always realized that I am a deeply emotional person.

[Cristeen]

If the writer/authors have done an excellent job of developing meaningful characters with whom I come to care about I will ball without abandon. Doesn't matter what medium the story is in-books, movies tv shows- if all have a well written plot and fully developed characters I will become engrossed in the story and let my emotions go where the story takes them. Sometimes I find a good catharsis helps flush away some of the baggage I end up carrying around leaving me emotionally refreshed and ready for the opportunity to create new baggage.

[Ceera]

Yes, but to be honest I've done that for a long time before I ever started CD activities. I was raised not to be ashamed of my emotions.

[StephanieDragg]

yes i get wrapped up in some movies that make me cry

[justmetoo]

I'm almost started crying at Love Actually last night, but it was getting late so I turned it off and got ready for bed.

[sometimes_miss]

I do my best not to in public, but when alone, let the tears fall where they may.

[Stephanie Julianna]

I'm half Polish and according to an uncle we cry at our own funerals. I'm famous in my family for crying watching movies and TV. When my kids were younger they would rent movies just to see if they could get me crying. "Terms of Endearment", "Steel Magnolias" and "The Notebook" are killers. And "Field of Dreams" the list is endeless. But I'm really easy, Hallmark commercials can get the tears flowing in a minute, literally.

[SandraInHose]

Yes. Way too much...as my wife is much more stoic versus my emotional up and down personality. She rarely cries unless it's a really sad movie with kids involved. Me, on the other hand, cry at pretty much anything.

Field of Dreams...that part at the end when Shoeless Joe tells Ray Kinsella that it's HIS pain he's easing, and the 'Wanna have a catch?' line to his dad always gets me going.
That movie about the two dogs and a cat (Homeward Bound)...when the older dog appears through the meadow, limping home...pass the tissues.
and any other movie that has a sentimental moment.

My wife never fails to mention this trait whenever we have yet another deep discussion about my CDing. <smh>

[MeredithG]

I am sentimental in general and definitely cry and am emotional during movies. Any close or touching relationship or special moments involving family can usually do it. And Hallmark Christmas movies too - my family often calls me a softie ...

["Gabriela"]

I guess that crying is more normal on men than one could imagine, so the "boys don't cry" popular beloef is nothing but a myth! Anyway is so fun to read the replies on this thread! XD The last two movies that got me going in tears were "the rules of life" and "seeking a friend for the end of the world". Totally recommended for us weeping angels!

[Tracii G]

I do sometimes .

[JamieG]

I've always been sensitive. I've never broken out bawling from a movie, but I frequently get moist eyes that I try to play off as something else.

[Jean 103]

I use to control and hide it, now just pass me a Kleenex.

[donnalee]

I was watching a movie the other night that I hadn't seen before about a US Navy sailor who had been stranded when the US was leaving a Pacific island during WW2. He survived with the aid of locals and was able to use what he learned to help the USN retake the island. I don't know the movie's name, as I started watching after the credits were run. What got my attention was the lead character's name as it is the same as I use for my own business; the love interest was the daughter of one of the locals who were helping him. She was Asian with a petite and slender figure like my late SO. Then she started to sing, just something simple, and I broke down crying like a baby; you see, my love used to sing like that, but only when she was happy and content, so here I am begging a TV screen to stop singing, please stop singing!

I don't cry often but it's usually for the movies that show me the kind of father and/or teacher I want to be. Mr. Holland's Opus gets me every time.That movie has always puzzled me. Here's a composer who is forced by economic necessity to take a job teaching High School music, a job he claims to hate (incidentally the movie was filmed at the High School I attended; I was in the orchestra and also the All-State Orchestra while there). Nights and weekends, he does nothing but work on his composition, neglecting his family in the process, although they understand and support him.
Finally, economics force him into retirement after many years of teaching; among his former students are many influential people, including the state governor. As a surprise and a token of their esteem, they decide to premiere their mentor's composition at his retirement ceremony. The curtain opens and he is handed a baton and the orchestra starts playing. After about 8 bars, I realize that this is one of the biggest pieces of unadulterated drek that I have ever heard!!!!! Bill Conte on pablum! What could they possibly have been thinking? Was there no one with an iota of musical taste at all running this fiasco? WTF??!!!!

[KatieGG]

I have only seen my husband cry a few times in general, but we recently watched the latest episode of Revenge, I won't say what happens incase someone hasn't seen it that wants too but I looked over and I swear I saw a single tear on his cheek but he swears up and down that he didn't cry lol Men and their egos!

[LilSissyStevie]

The curtain opens and he is handed a baton and the orchestra starts playing. After about 8 bars, I realize that this is one of the biggest pieces of unadulterated drek that I have ever heard!!!!! Bill Conte on pablum! What could they possibly have been thinking? Was there no one with an iota of musical taste at all running this fiasco? WTF??!!!!

The moral of the story was: Don't quit your day job.:heehee:

[gwen55]

YES when i was younger it bothered me, but not anymore, love romantic comedies, and spent the Holliday season watching the Hallmark channel.

[CatCloud]

I will cry watching movies especially those with heavy emotional moments. Certain moments, events will just start the tears flowing.

[joanna4]

Yes, quite often. I've been doing it since I first started watching movies. Some dramas can be real tear jerkers if not movies. The ones that do trigger crying can be referred back to when I'm feeling sad so I can cry and let it out, it feels like I just took a boulder off my back when I'm done.

[vallerie lacy]

Great question. Not only do I cry watching a tear jerker movie, but watching the news these days with all the violence and suffering going on, there are many times that I have to leave the room and throw water on my face so that no one knows of my tears. Does it have anything to do with the fact that we are girly inside as well as outside?

[flatlander_48]

I don't think that's it exactly. Humans, men and women, are both well capable of emotional responses to whatever. However, the thing for us is all the macho B/S that society tells us we must emulate in order to be a Real Man. What I think happens for us, as we allow our feminine personnas to see the light of day, is that the walls we put in place to keep our masculine personnas intact begin to crack. When that happens, we start to see more emotional responses to events and less of the stoic male responses.

[Crissy Kay]

Yes at times for me too. I still tear up each time I have watched the Bab-5 final, "Sleeping in Light".

[bimini1]

I just saw the new Annie and bawled like a baby through most of the last half hour or so of the flick.

[Christie Camelle]

Serendipity turns me into a puddle of tears and runny mascara. I hate that damn movie! It makes me laugh til I cry and then turns around and makes me cry til I laugh. I tearing up just thinking about it! GRRR! *wipes my eyes* Where's the flippin remote?? Well, crap. *gives in and wraps my blankie around my head and falls apart*

[SophieBee]

I would agree with earlier comments that here in the UK real men aren't supposed to cry, so by perpetuating that BS we are forced to hide it away. I suspect it may be hormonal or something as I know I've become a real softy since I let Sophie into my life!

[Kelley Anne]

I am hypersensitive, I cry at fricking everything. It's really annoying at times.

[jamielynn_ca]

I am hypersensitive, I cry at fricking everything. It's really annoying at times.

I'm with you Kelley. I cried watching the "Good Luck Charlie" Christmas episode with my daughter. Sheesh.