Oh no I hate technology

[Jordan1984]

Hi all

Hope you are all well just something to remember as it happened to me this morning.

I had a Samsung galaxy 4 about 2 years ago as my normal phone now have the galaxy 5.
Had all my emails linked to the old phone through my Gmail account. Then upgraded and linked it to my new phone. Totally forgot about it and my girlfriend of 8 years who I have a son with lost her phone so I gave her my old galaxy 4. I took so photos of me dressed on my new phone but as it was still linked to my other phone she received the photos. Can't believe when I have 13 missed calls this morning and message saying can't believe u would cheat on me. I rang back and told her the photos were me, it's was just my bum in underwear and legging but still.
Now got to tell her about me as I am stupid and forgot.

just remember tech is good bit also bad lol

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jordan, Alexandra Graham Bell sure didn't see this one coming.:devil:

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes I wonder if it's really accidental. :battingeyelashes::)

[Jean 103]

Easy access for you can sometimes = easy access for others close to you. I know, first hand, when me wife using my phone found this site.

[Andrea Chenowith]

Having recently upgraded from an iPhone 4S to a 6+, I'm going to be passing the 4S on to our toddler to use as an iPod touch. Thanks for the reminder to do not just one, but two full resets of the phone. (For good measure... :-) )

[Carolana]

I have an I pad which both my wife and I use, but only I have an I phone. I have taken photos and then deleted them after downloading onto my computer. The first time I did this I found the pics on the other device on time and deleted them. Since then I have been diligent. However, I do miss the time when we both had I phones, because I was always able to check her location on the find I phone app. Her work phone is now another brand and we are no longer linked. But I am enjoying technology. I love the recent op system that has introduced the camera timer. Cheers and good luck with your girlfriend, Jordan.

[Adriana]

Yeah, technology has a way of making our other side known :). Something similar happened to me several years ago. Also, I hope all went well after she found out.

[kimdl93]

I'm not crazy about my picture anyway, but taking selfies on a smartphone seems a sure fired way to share way more than you intend to.

[Adriana Moretti]

This thread pops up every now and then...and gals in the closet are getting caught like this all the time. I always send my pictures to myself via email, then delete them off my phone right away....you can keep them in your girly email, or make a folder called 2012 taxes and stick them in there if you need to hideem on your comp too...just a few options. I dont even need to hide them but I do because my 4 yr old nefiew LOVES to play with my phone when he comes over...and I dont want to have to explain to him.

[Alice Torn]

One reason why i only have as low tech phones as possible, with no camera.

[Melissa_59]

There are some antivirus programs out there (example: Webroot) that will allow you to connect to your mobile devices through a web console and wipe or lock out the device so that no one can access the device. This is handy if you lose your mobile device (I use that term because it works with my cell phone AND my Kindle, along with protecting my PCs at home) or if it's stolen... or if you've inadvertently handed out more information that you wished. They even allow tracking of your mobile devices and can make them "scream" (emit a sound) so that if you've misplaced it somewhere in your house, you can find it by sound.

~Melissa

[Teresa]

Jordan ,
There's always the question of what Google is doing with your stuff !
Things were far easier when we used Morse code !
I a problem recently when I borrowed my wife's laptop to sort some pictures, I thought I'd offloaded them onto a memory stick and deleted them on the laptop, when it went into screensaver up popped my pictures ! Delete doesn't always mean what it says !

[Jorja]

Sorry Jordan,
You know what they say, Live by the sword, die by the smartphone. ;)

[Megan Thomas]

One simple way to avoid this scenario but still do what you want with the phone, is to set apps to save stuff only on the SD card. Removing the SD card removes the data from the phone. Oh, and yes, I am aware some phones don't have an SD card slot etc. It's a generic suggestion only and up to the user to figure out the best solution for them.

[Annaliese]

I deleted picture of me from my Camera Roll, but not My Photo Stream, granddaughter was looking through the phone and ask me who the woman was, is it your sister. I did not react vary well took the phone and started to delete, leaving the picture on then the way I acted, stupid on both counts.
Girl good luck, let us know how it turns out.

[Leslie Langford]

Jordan, I am assuming from your post that your girlfriend has access to your regular Gmail account, and that all of your new pictures were being automatically uploaded to the "Photos" section of the pre-existing associated Google+ storage site that she can continue to view from the old phone. The only other way that I can see this happening is if the two phones are in close proximity to each other at times, in which case data transfer can occur wirelessly by a method called "NFC" (Near Field Communications"). This is one of the key features of the Android operating system.

All of this inter-connectivity and the associated automatic linkages can be big time-savers and greatly increase productivity, but the big downside with all that "sharing" functionality is that one can easily lose control over one's personal information without sometimes even realizing it, as you have discovered to your chagrin. This is one reason why I never take pictures with my smartphone - I can never be sure where they end up, or who might inadvertently see them.

Lesson learned, and I hope that everything works out well for you in the end with your girlfriend. Not the best way to reveal yourself, but all things considered, she will likely see your crossdressing as the lesser of the two evils, given that the other - likely less palatable - alternative would be that you are cheating on her.

[Beverley Sims]

Jordan,
I avoid social networks for a very good reason, you have just highlighted it.

[Crystal Beth]

My account always wants to upload my pictures to cloud. No way in hell! I take them off my phone right away after they have been loaded onto our computer.

[Glorialovesheels]

same ... I make sure I delete pictures on the sim card on the camera after transferring to my secret file and make sure they are deleted off my iphone... fyi on the new iphone 6 you have to delete them twice because now they have a trash file!..

[Ally 2112]

I do not own a cell phone and probally never will .it just seems more people can access your info .Once it go to the cloud it stays in the cloud

[Jilmac]

When smart phones were introduced I decided to keep my old stupid phone and just use it to make calls and receive calls. I believe I made a wise choice bacause a smartphone can lead to all kinds of trouble for a dummy like me.

[Zylia]

Any Android phone (that I know of) has this option called 'factory reset' (or, if you're a bit more careful/paranoid, encryption and factory reset (http://www.cnet.com/how-to/the-best-way-to-completely-wipe-your-android-device/)). As a matter of fact, my 15 year old Nokia had it as well. It's there for a reason. Nonetheless, sending your data via the internet is a surefire way to let other people know your secrets if you're not 100% sure what you're doing of if you're not 100% in control of it (e.g. some auto sync feature).

["Gabriela"]

If you have anything like Dropbox, for instance, you need to make sure that your phone camera doesn't upload the pictures automatically. Also, if you want to keep your CD pics, you'd better save them to a flash drive or some very secret place. Just try to avoid any dangerous exposing of your Mrs Hyde :P
It really sucks to have to hide this wonderful hobby of ours!

[Mink]

I do not own a cell phone and probally never will .it just seems more people can access your info .Once it go to the cloud it stays in the cloud

the future is already here... you're too late... you are already a part of it all and can't escape! they've got a file on you!

[Marcelle]

Well I have always said . . . technology is great, when it works. Unfortunately when it works it can be evil :devil: . . . Good luck.

Hugs

Isha

[Mink]

I for one LOVE technology!

I mean thank god for Cars and not having to walk everywhere and hospitals that keep people alive!

and movies / tv / music etc!

why if it wasn't for technology we'd all be doomed!

[Ally 2112]

I hear what you are saying Mink in regard to my post and you are right lol .But i figure the more i can do to protect myself the better but in the end it probally won't matter :)

[Aviatrix]

First of all I hope everything turns out ok and that she believes it is you and not someone that you were cheating with, and then hope it is acceptable. The biggest issue will likely be that it has been hidden for so long!

On a lighter note, it reminds me of a similar situation with an ex girlfriend of mine. We had only been dating for a couple of months but I hadn't told her about my girly self yet. Well after doing some laundry I had my clothes in a basket in my car and had a pair of panties hanging on the side to dry. I forgot about my clothes being there and went to pick her up and after a while she noticed and asked "Who's panties are those?" It caught me off guard as at that time I wasn't ready to let her in on the secret but after fumbling I said "Would you believe they are mine??" Surprisingly she said yeah, I figured that. She then let me knew that she already knew. Turns out a few months before when I had to go on an extended trip, she was looking though my pictures to save some of me while I was gone. She game across my "Girlypics" folders and said at first she thought it was my porn collection and was curious to see what kind of porn I'm looking at only to discover that my girly pics were me dressed up. Surprisingly it didn't bother her and she let me come out on my own terms and then fully supported me. Though the relationship didn't last, we did remain friends and before that I never used a girly name, but she helped to come up with Charlene and it stuck!

I hope for the best in your situation, I know it must be nerve racking!!

-Charlene

[Genifer Teal]

Phones often have a reset built into them which erases everything - maybe not external memory. I bought several phones off ebay to find family pohotos and full phone lists on there. You'd be surprised how few people check for that.

[MissTee]

I simply never take pictures. The image of me dressed in my mind is far, far better than an actual picture. (Yes, I've tried.) My imagination has me presenting younger, thinner, and hotter. I'll go with that and live the illusion!

[jjjjohanne]

My phone does not know I am a CD. I think that is a very good policy.

[JayeLefaye]

My wife is a therapist in private practice. The majority of her clients who come in for "couples counseling" are there because of something that someone found on an electronic device. Sad, but true.

Jaye

[~Joanne~]

Sometimes I wonder if it's really accidental.

Sometimes it does make you wonder doesn't it? I don't think it's purposely done but I don't think enough precautions are taken. Like JJJJohanne says: My phone does not know I am a CD. I think that is a very good policy. and I agree.

With all the sharing, collecting, and selling of your data, I just don't see the logic, if your closeted, of posting anything to any social network or taking pictures with your phone that is connected to same or clouds or the like. What ever happened to good old fashion CAMERA'S. They still make them, I know, I have one. Even a camcorder.

I hope all turns out well in Jordan's case but let this be another of many lessons to all the closeted girls here, You need to take better precautions if you plan on staying closeted and stop being careless. These phones do alot more than you think they do. You can be careful as you like but SOMEONE can always get your information, pictures, and even turn on your video if they really wanted to. Assuming they haven't already.

[donnalee]

the future is already here... you're too late... you are already a part of it all and can't escape! they've got a file on you!


I don't worry; they've had me on file for decades and it just doesn't matter; I think they've decided that whatever they want, it ain't me!

[Alice_2014_B]

Ouch Ouch Ouch

[vickim]

I have rules that I abide by to cut down on this. NO photos on my phone. No photos on any device which accesses my male Facebook. Vicki's facebook (Vicki Dunne, btw, I have no friends, come friend me <g>) is not accessed on any device which accesses my facebook, etc. Compartmentalization to increase the risk of this happening. I can't say it is for sure, but it minimizes risk. No Vicki gmail access on any device which anyone else has access to. Computers have a weird way of saving passwords and account names grrr...... Lastly, I have a shredder app on my phone to overwrite unallocated space and run it at times

I know there are plenty who would say that this is too much work and you should just "come out." The unfortunate truth is that for many of us "coming out" is not an option... and so we play the dangerous game. Maybe the danger is part of the allure?

Best of luck and I hope it all works out for you

[VAWyman]

There's an app for that :)
On my iPad I have a calculator that is just that, and a very good one at that. But enter a code and it opens up to private pictures and videos. I haven't looked in android, the calculator is by Digital Mind. I know there are others, but this is the one I use. It does have its limitations, ie. It copies the pics, so you will have to dele the public pic. It may be visible to Dropbox, etc. so you still have to be careful.

I also agree with Vickim, compartmentalizations is the key.

[Lily Catherine]

As long as I post any part of my narrative and experiences, that's one more inch of me being out of the closet. I've accepted that as inevitable.



On my iPad I have a calculator that is just that, and a very good one at that. But enter a code and it opens up to private pictures and videos.

I use something similar; a pity it keeps the phone unlocked thereby allowing for unintentional exposure and requiring a greater degree of secrecy and carefulness.