Zooey
12-24-2014, 01:06 PM
This year has seen a lot of change for me. I came out to myself about being transexual, and I've been coming out to more and more of my friends over time.
I feel so fortunate to have an amazingly supportive group of friends. Not one of them has reacted anything but positively, and if anything I feel like those relationships are stronger than ever. I'm sure a "failure" is waiting in the wings at some point, but all of my best friends are there for me. I could lose everybody else, and I'd still have more than I could ever ask for.
Last night, I finally came out to one of my oldest and best friends. I had to do it via email, as he and his wife are two time zones away, and it was late at night so I knew I'd have to sleep while waiting for a response. I had this waiting for me in the morning (edited to remove some private stuff)...
This. Is. Awesome. There is no emoticon to express how ecstatic I am for you. It's wonderful news and I thank you for being comfortable enough to share this with us. I couldn't be happier for you. You clearly are now more comfortable with yourself and truer to who you are and that's all that matters.
There is no level of freakout here at all and honestly, the hardest part about this is making sure my nouns/pronouns in proper alignment, so you'll have to forgive me and feel free to correct me (although, I don't ever foresee myself writing to you and addressing you in the third person). Is it surprising? Of course it is, but I'd also be lying if I said I never had an inkling about it. Will I have more questions that make me sound ignorant? Of course I will. I only ask of you to let me know if I ever step out of line.
You've always been like a brother/sister (see, nouns.) and I've loved you like one. You accepted me when I first moved to [our hometown] and that's something I still don't forget (remember I moved when I was in my brooding teenage-angst years, so wanting to find friends wasn't exactly top of my list). Even though we haven't hung out in a couple years (holy shit, it's been that long, we need to fix that), there is always a comfort with you like we have.
That's not the whole thing, but it's the part that made me happiest. It's easily the best Christmas present I'm getting this year.
I had dinner recently with another transwoman who hasn't been so fortunate, and my heart breaks when I think about it. I hope that I can share even a small fraction of the joy that my friends have given me with others.
Happy holidays, happy new year, and best wishes to all of you.
I feel so fortunate to have an amazingly supportive group of friends. Not one of them has reacted anything but positively, and if anything I feel like those relationships are stronger than ever. I'm sure a "failure" is waiting in the wings at some point, but all of my best friends are there for me. I could lose everybody else, and I'd still have more than I could ever ask for.
Last night, I finally came out to one of my oldest and best friends. I had to do it via email, as he and his wife are two time zones away, and it was late at night so I knew I'd have to sleep while waiting for a response. I had this waiting for me in the morning (edited to remove some private stuff)...
This. Is. Awesome. There is no emoticon to express how ecstatic I am for you. It's wonderful news and I thank you for being comfortable enough to share this with us. I couldn't be happier for you. You clearly are now more comfortable with yourself and truer to who you are and that's all that matters.
There is no level of freakout here at all and honestly, the hardest part about this is making sure my nouns/pronouns in proper alignment, so you'll have to forgive me and feel free to correct me (although, I don't ever foresee myself writing to you and addressing you in the third person). Is it surprising? Of course it is, but I'd also be lying if I said I never had an inkling about it. Will I have more questions that make me sound ignorant? Of course I will. I only ask of you to let me know if I ever step out of line.
You've always been like a brother/sister (see, nouns.) and I've loved you like one. You accepted me when I first moved to [our hometown] and that's something I still don't forget (remember I moved when I was in my brooding teenage-angst years, so wanting to find friends wasn't exactly top of my list). Even though we haven't hung out in a couple years (holy shit, it's been that long, we need to fix that), there is always a comfort with you like we have.
That's not the whole thing, but it's the part that made me happiest. It's easily the best Christmas present I'm getting this year.
I had dinner recently with another transwoman who hasn't been so fortunate, and my heart breaks when I think about it. I hope that I can share even a small fraction of the joy that my friends have given me with others.
Happy holidays, happy new year, and best wishes to all of you.