Merry Christmas, and Cody and I celebrate 6 month anniversary

[Michelle789]

I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas. I know this is like the 3000th holiday thread this week.

After a hectic week, and it has been hectic with lots of Christmas parties, a trip to Universal Studios, me rushing around on Christmas Eve doing last minute shopping and errands, and Christmas Eve service last night at church, and then Cody and I went home and relaxed at home and ate dinner and opened some gifts. Today has been a pretty quiet and relaxing day. I feel way more relaxed now than I did a few days ago.

This morning I drove Cody to work, as he had to be at work at 8 am. Bummer, I know. The silver lining is when I drove on the freeway there was literally no traffic, there were no cars in sight. I felt like I was in the middle of the desert rather than the middle of Los Angeles. I spend most of today listening to Christmas music, a bit on this forum, I called my mom, and rested.

Normally I would be going to visit my family back on the east coast, but when I came out to my family nearly two months ago, my dad told me that I am to never come visit their town dressed as a woman. He is so concerned with what the neighbors will think. So I ended up staying in L.A. for the holidays. I am still talking to my mom, although I don't think my transition has yet sunk in with her. She is going to see the family psychologist in early January.

I'm going to pick up Cody in two hours, and we're going to go for a drive to see Christmas lights, and then home to relax, have Christmas dinner, sing Christmas carols, and otherwise just relax and cuddle. Oh, and finish opening the presents. Oh, and did I forget to say, and cuddle :)

Today also marks my six month anniversary with Cody. This is my first time ever in a relationship, so I am navigating newly charted waters. There have been lots of ups and downs, but more ups - most of the downs are because I have never been in a relationship before and I have to dismantle my "single persona" in addition to my male persona. Actually, dismantling my single persona was more challenging than dismantling my male persona. The female inside is coming out pretty easy, but the lover inside is having difficulty as the bachelorette is fighting the lover.'

But yes, we officially started going out and became a couple on June 25, 2014, making today, Christmas Day, not only my first Christmas living as my authentic self, and our first Christmas as a couple, but my six month anniversary with Cody, who is a transgender man that I met in my support group.

Anyways, I can't wait to see Cody tonight. Two more hours and we'll begin our celebrations!!!

[Persephone]

Merry Christmas, Michelle, and Happy Demiversary!

Y'all are a great couple!

Have been lost in a swamp of my own for quite a while so there hasn't been a chance to get together with you and Cody but I do look forward to seeing y'all in the future.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Diane Smith]

What kind of cruel and unusual job does Cody have that requires him to work from 9 to 5 on Christmas Day? (Sounds like his boss must be named Scrooge.)

Other than that, congratulations to you both! Merry Christmas and Happy Anniversary!

- Diane

[Nicole Erin]

Kind of nice to have someone special to spend the holiday with. For me and my new sweety, it was christmas eve. Not much going on really but just kind of made things nicer.

6 months is a good amount of time. I think you two have a real good chance at building something lasting.

[Michelle789]

I just got back from my AA meeting tonight. I just wanted to post about last night. I picked up Cody from work shortly after 5 pm, and we first went over to a friend's place, and spent a couple of hours there. We afterwards went back to my place. We had Christmas dinner - which consisted of Ginger & Carrot soup, sweet potatoes, the salad I mention in my signature, and a couple of frozen Indian entrees. We drank Martinelli's (non-alcoholic) since I don't drink and Cody doesn't really drink either. We danced and sang Christmas carols. We finished opening the presents. Then we ate ice cream with whip cream. We finally finished watching Polar Express, which we started watching the other night. I didn't have work today - in fact I'm off for two weeks, and Cody didn't have to report to work until 7:30 pm tonight, so we were able to stay up as late as we wanted to and sleep in as late as we wanted to without worrying about being at work in the morning. We were up until 2:30 am last night, and slept until about 1 pm this afternoon.

I really had an amazing time last night, and it felt magical. I cried on and off several times, tears of joy. This was the first time I truly enjoyed Christmas, especially Christmas Day, since 2006, and the second time since 1995. We will always remember this magical night of Christmas, 2014, and our six month anniversary. And to top it off, it was freezing cold and the weather felt more like Christmas in a cold climate than Christmas in a tropical climate. I am presently crying as I type this up.

[PaulaQ]

I'm overjoyed for you Michelle - really for you and Cody both. I'm so glad you had a good holiday. You both deserved this. You both deserve a lot of happiness. I'm glad you have one another.

[Eryn]

Michelle, thank you for sharing your holiday with us! You and Cody are a cute couple and I hope that we can get together again soon.

[Michelle789]

What kind of cruel and unusual job does Cody have that requires him to work from 9 to 5 on Christmas Day? (Sounds like his boss must be named Scrooge.)

He works in a public facing industry, although I cannot state what industry nor what company he works for. His job schedule changes from day to day, week to week, and he works frequent nights, weekends, and holidays. See my post about workplace scheduling. http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?222898-Workplace-Scheduling&p=3663479#post3663479

And for some people, there is nothing unusual about this. At least Cody gets his schedule a week in advance. My neighbor Sabrina gets one hour notice of her shift. And according to her "most jobs are like this." So I'm not so sure if this is unusual. Cruel, yes, absolutely, but it may be more normal than we think.

However, I am grateful for the time Cody and I did spend together on Christmas day at night. I didn't have work on the 26th, and he didn't have to work until 7:30 pm on the 26th, so we were able to stay up very late to celebrate, and able to sleep in late on the 26th :)

[Cheryl123]

Happy Holidays to you Michelle. I love reading about you and Cody ... I can feel your happiness and your Christmas seemed so wonderful. About Cody's work -- well we all do what we have to do and I think your relationship will be just fine. All relationships have their ups and downs -- although maybe ours are a bit crazier than most!