I'm Bringing *SISSY* Back!

[Mink]

yeah!

frilly pink dresses!

poofy and girly!

petticoats!

and silky pink panties!

sissy panties!

ruffles!

and lace!

eyah!




it's not so much Sissy Culture as Sissy Couture!

faux-forced feminization and sissification!


vintage pink babydoll nightgowns!

chiffon!

satin gowns!

oh god!


it does make me wonder

this type of stuff is SUPER popular on the webby and so hidden

and on here?

disdained!

shamed!

kept secret & not talked about!

I find it kinda funny

(I find it kind of sad)


the dreams in which i'm dyeing!

(my hair! pink! pukey punk prock pink!)


sort of the anti-goth!

Lolita? BROlita?

more like SISSlita!

sissy erotica!

and a bit of the ol in out exotica!

ahh!


or should I say CISlita?

oh dear god!


eyah!!!



so what do you fine folks think of so-called self-identified "sissies" ???

and not JUST the fetish types

ones who generally like that over the top Ultra Femme look

as stereotyped as it may be!

(sure sometimes in movies or special events girls might dress like a pretty pink princess but it surely isn't some every day thing!)

having a larf!

[Jenniferathome]

"sissy" has a very negative connotation to me. Basically all the things you wrote. Over-the-top anything is not appealing to me.

[Mink]

but would it bother you all that much if others liked it?


how about the fact that the way YOU feel about "sissies" or the way I feel about say "adult babies / diaper lovers" is how the mainstream public think about CDers?

how people used to and still do feel about The Gays?

I mean it's all the same for the most part!

that whole I don't get it but it's fine by me as long as it's not in my back yard / not my brother!

gah!

[~Joanne~]

this type of stuff is SUPER popular on the webby and so hidden and on here? disdained! shamed! kept secret & not talked about!

I don't know about that. While talk about Sissy dressing and Drag Queen looks aren't posted about daily doesn't mean there isn't a place for them here, or they haven't been talked about before. Thing is, If we don't relate to the subject matter, chances are we aren't going to post a reply to such threads. Doesn't mean we have outlawed the topics after all, they are just another label on the TG spectrum.

[Jenniferathome]

but would it bother you all that much if others liked it?...

Of course not. I don't get it but it doesn't affect me. What I wrote is that the word "sissy" has a negative connotation to me. The word is derogatory, to me. As far as one wanting to dress up in pink frilly frocks, I could care less.

And no, it's not "all the same for the most part." Life is a bell curve. The farther you leave the high point, the weirder things get. There are undoubtedly points on the curve that I can not even imagine.

[ReineD]

The sissy culture among CDers has been going on for a long time and it never stopped. It's tied to the fetish culture. It's not talked about here so much because this forum is more about support and less about having fun with a fetish, although fetishists are welcome to discuss their fetishes as long as they keep their posts free of sexual content. But I think there are lots of fetish CDers who aren't interested in discussion or support. They just want to find sites where they can have fun with their fetish! :)

The sissy culture is not hidden, just google "sissy wear" and you'll get just under one million websites.

[kimdl93]

Doesn't work for me. I guess it's a fetish style that appeals to some. For me, it seems demeaning and childish rather than feminine. But to each their own.

[Samantha Clark]

I wonder whether there isn't a parallel to be drawn between the sissy culture and the drag queen culture. Both could be understood to be over the top charicatures of girls/women in contrast to respectful homages to the feminine, perhaps?

[Mink]

I don't see why "sissy" style ALWAYS has to be a fetish?

sometimes it's fun to wear a big poofy princess-y dress or a petticoat!

and pink is def. the girliest of colors!

and silky / satin fabrics feel great!

and lace is cute!

[Donna June]

I don't think of myself as a fetish dresser at all, but I have a few prom type poofy dresses with petticoats and love it. Like Mink said, it's fun. It is fun to feel a little extra girly from time to time.

[Abbygirl]

"Sissy" never went anywhere. It just doesn't get talked about too much here. I love it!

[Rachael Leigh]

I was a part of the sissy side for a while even into the adult baby crowd and loved my little girl dresses but I finally realized I wasn't being really myself, I mean yeah I was crossdressering as a baby but for me I understood I was an adult.

[Kate Simmons]

Whatever floats your boat I guess Mink. I had my head handed too me on here some years ago for suggesting we were sissies. I guess I'm not a sissy but a MAN in a dress but a MAN, or am I?:heehee: You decide. :battingeyelashes::)

[franlee]

I hope you the best with that style, it is some pretty stuff. It is even amusing and I can see where it could be fun to experience but it wouldn't feed my needs. But there are so many different "things"in this that everyone can find a style to fit their taste.

[Ressie]

Mink baby, we have talked about this from time to time, and there are a few members here that love being sissies. But since it is mostly fetishistic and sexual in nature this isn't the place to talk about sissification etc. There are sissy sites out there that are completely different than this website where the talk is mostly about promiscuous sexual behavior if you get my drift.

But I loved your creative opening post! Was that by Justin Timberlace? Talk about sissy clothing in the clothing, shopping and beauty section if you'd like. I kind of like some of it myself!

[MissTee]

I CD and I like pink, but that's about as far as I go. Not interested in the sissy culture, either. That said, if that's how you choose to express yourself then by all means do so. It does not offend me in any way.

[AllieSF]

But since it is mostly fetishistic and sexual in nature this isn't the place to talk about sissification etc.

Why not? Is it against the rules? If not, then it doesn't really matter what you or I think about what is proper here. The Site's rules govern. The sissy part of our TG spectrum is not my area of interest, but I do respect their right to be here and to discuss it. I read their comments and try to learn something new.

[Erica Marie]

Labels, labels, labels. They dont define who we are but they do define how others see us. Personally I prefer not to be related to the "sissy culture". But to each there own, remember it takes all kinds to make the world go around.

[Mink]

I guess i'd just be interested in smashing the possible misconception that ALL that favor a sort of sissy style are doing it for sexual jollies

or fetishistic reasons!


I believe it very much is possible to dress more "normal" but also enjoy the ultra girly

I mean we read about guys who like wearing formal dresses or ballgowns and this is really just an extension of that in a way!

wishing to be a princess versus wishing to be a bride! or a hooters girl / school girl / etc

it doesn't have to just be either A or B!


also while it may be sexual for most if not nearly all it doesn't always have to be!

just like how it was sexual in general for most when they were a teen CDer and then it subdued!

there's also the difference between private time / private life and arousal and being in public or knowing when it's not ok to be in such a state

the body & mind are both vast and mysterious!

[ReineD]

I guess i'd just be interested in smashing the possible misconception that ALL that favor a sort of sissy style are doing it for sexual jollies

or fetishistic reasons!

You're thinking that fetish is necessarily sexual. It is for some people, but not always; some people are asexual or have low libidos, or it may start out sexual but it becomes comforting over time. Look at the very first definition here (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fetish): "A strong and unusual need or desire for something".

Most people would consider adult men dressing up like little girls (http://broadblogs.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/stanton-grayson-perry-3.jpg) unusual. Maybe not so much dressing up like a girl, but an adult dressing up like a child. And if a person does this regularly then I'd say the desire is strong too. Nothing wrong with it of course, whatever makes people happy. If on the other hand you're thinking about trying it but it doesn't do much for you, then I guess you won't start a revolution. :)


Edit - Something just occurred to me. Some Manga (http://cdnlava360.saturn.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/manga_animegirl6.jpg) is like sissy wear, isn't it? And it's hugely popular among the younger crowd?

But I don't think that people doing cos-play and CDers donning the old-fashioned sissy wear come from the same place.

[Katey888]

Most people would consider adult men dressing up like little girls unusual.

Reine, this place can spin a web of strangeness... MOST people would consider ANYTHING on this forum weird in the extreme!! :eek:

Panty collections numbering in the hundreds (or thousands)...

Shoe collections that must have cost thousands of dollars to accrue...

Pretend bobs, hip padding and female bodysuits... for MEN! :facepalm:

And some people think 'sissy' has negative connotations...? :lol2: This is what the vanilla world thinks of us...

I think I could get into ball gowns (pardon the pun... ;)) - but I'd probably prefer satiny slinky over poofy taffeta... but that's just personal preference - and if only I had the budget, and the venues... :D

Allie's right when she says this is all within the rules and is wholly appropriate material. But a forum is most heavily influenced by the nature of its members, and in this place we tend towards the mid-generational, out to spouse, 'femulator' CDers, who shop a fair bit, do social stuff and... well... pretty much try to behave like mid-generational GGs... Nothing wrong with this - it is what it is here... :) But I bet a fair number of muggles would consider us ALL to be sissies whether we like it or not...

Perhaps we need a ball or prom gown underground movement heyah...? :devil:

Katey x

[Carrie R]

If someone called me a sissy, I'd hit them with my purse! :)

[CarlaWestin]

The "SISSY" thing (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?222258-Close-call-stories&p=3652887&viewfull=1#post3652887)for me is probably fetishistic in nature but, I really prefer to label it as just a theme that I'm preferring at that particular time. It's mostly like cosplay and certainly a lot of fun. I'm considering it for Halloween next year. Of course, there's stiff competition from Maid, Cheerleader, Buxom Skater Girl, Business Woman, Dominatrix, Wonder Woman, Naughty Nurse, etc......

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Mink, The only rule is that there are no rules, If it feels good and makes you happy then just do it.:hugs:

[Ressie]

Why not? Is it against the rules? If not, then it doesn't really matter what you or I think about what is proper here. The Site's rules govern. The sissy part of our TG spectrum is not my area of interest, but I do respect their right to be here and to discuss it. I read their comments and try to learn something new.

Yes, what I'm thinking of would be against the rules! The word 'sissy' has different meanings which most of us are aware of. Sissification in the sense that I used the word is about being submissive to a master etc. The topic would be pushing the boundaries on this site and I'm not interested in talking about it anyway. The topic never takes off very far here probably for that reason.

[Jari]

right with you Mink, I love all the Sissy stuff - that's a larger part for me, the sexual thrills and playing games. When I cant express this side of me I feel pent up, depressed and low. To me sexuality is directly linked to divinity and self acceptance - its something we have to do to be complete. Others here are not like that, we are all different.

[vallerie lacy]

Loved your post Girl. People seem to be taking things a little too seriously. I don't find anything that you said to be "over the top". But than I also love the poufy look. If I had my way, the whole world would be dressed in petticoats, chiffon, taffeta, nylon and lace. As for the sissy look, I would love to be adorned in a pretty satin sissy dress every day. Make that every other day, must leave room for my pettis.
Hope you all have the happiest and the girliest New Year

[Crissy Kay]

I say, go for it Mink!!! I think the trouble with the word "sissy" to cders is the same as calling blacks, the "n" word. Its sort of the cd "n" word to most cds. Now I see blacks calling each other by the same word but ending in an "a". Maybe we should consider the same thing with the word sissy!!

[NicoleScott]

There ARE such things as a sissy style, sissy culture, and well,....sissies. And so it's a perfectly good word when used appropriately. Some of us don't mind being labeled as such, especially when dressed in that style. But all crossdressers shouldn't be called sissies. Using words appropriately is what's needed, not banning words some find objectionable. Some people don't want to be associated with the word sissy, just as I don't want to be associated with the word cardigan. haha

[Lacy PJs]

I like to feel extra girlie at times too and I think that pinks and poofs do that for me. But I don't particularly like the term "sissy" because it has had a negative image with most males. Not usually because of the way you dressed but because of your overall actions (he acts like a sissy) and your lack of courage (don't be a sissy, do it) kind of thing. So I'm OK with ultra feminine or even girlie but sissy just rubs me the wrong way.

Lacy PJs

[LilSissyStevie]

These threads are worth a few laughs whenever they come up. I especially like the responses that go something like, "I ain't no sissy, I just a regular guy that wears dresses and make-up and minces around in high heels." LOL!:eek: Tell that to the boys down at the VFW.:heehee:

[ashleymcculloch90]

I find it kinda funny

(I find it kind of sad)


the dreams in which i'm dyeing!


References to the song "Mad World?"

[AnnieMac]

Yeah Right on Crissy Kay!! So we are like Siss-ahs, as in the song, "I got mah b***hs, now where's mah Siss-ahs" Let's own the word sissy. I'm not offended by it, I rather like it. Much better than the word "Gurl" (dumb). For Gosh sakes, I wear Party dresses and heels, kind of comes with the territory, so I am indeed a sissy and proud of it!

[georgia20]

I noticed some people saying that's not what they are into, that is fine and what not, but the way some of your are wording it makes it sound like it's too weird or like one girl said already "it's on the far side of the bell curve" which would mean it's not normal? Is anyone here normal, and if so what is normal? I like dressing and presenting a woman much as anyone, but also have maids dresses and other things because that's what got me here today, wanting to be as girly as possible. That's what we're taught growing up is women wear frilly and lacy things. So I'm sure we've all been there or at least given it thought. If you haven't, then fine, but I know I was younger, I wanted prom dresses and princess dresses not because I had a fetish, but because it was the thought of being girly. We don't want labels but I see a lot of the pot calling the kettle black. We want to progress, we need to allow people to express themselves without telling them they have gone to the other end of our bell curve.

[ReineD]

Most people would consider adult men dressing up like little girls unusual.

Reine, this place can spin a web of strangeness... MOST people would consider ANYTHING on this forum weird in the extreme!! :eek:

Katey, I went on to say the unusualness is not about wearing feminine things (at least not to us), it's more about an adult dressing as a child.

I do understand if it's done for sexual reasons. People have all sorts of kinks so whatever floats their boat is perfectly OK. But if regressing to childhood is not sexual and it is part of an adult's core being, it's an indication there are perhaps stability issues? CDers do not like being seen as mentally unstable.

I also mentioned cosplay which is more easily accepted by the mainstream. I don't know why it should be, or why people who dress in historical reenactments or who don crazy costumes at Halloween are better accepted, unless people generally look at these forms of dress as entertainment or hobbies more than expressions of a core self?

I have a feeling that the OP might have been referring to the pouffy dresses more in line with cosplay than what most of us here understand as the traditional sissy-CD fetish?

[Jenniferathome]

...it makes it sound like it's too weird or like one girl said already "it's on the far side of the bell curve" which would mean it's not normal? Is anyone here normal, and if so what is normal? ...we need to allow people to express themselves without telling them they have gone to the other end of our bell curve.

Georgia, my bell curve comment is an absolute truism. Ask a million people and all million can apply their interpretation of normal to the curve. Normal = typical. You will have close to a million versions of "normal" but you will also find that a million people would put cross dressing OFF the normal median. Cross dressing is NOT typical and therefore not normal. It's different from the norm. There is no harm in stating the truth. In fact, denial of this obvious truth is futile. Everyone is free to express themselves as they like but to deny that some expression is not typical (normal) and this includes cross dressing, is silly.

[PaulaQ]

I'm pretty feminine in my presentation, but I never really "got" the idea of forced fem / sissy. The idea that someone would make you do somethihng you desperately desire to do anyway is kind of silly. I mean, I get the appeal - responsibility is taken away from you, you are given permission. And in a D/s relationship, I guess a partner could have fun taking power away from you, stripping away your manhood, etc.

For a while, I thought I wanted this - I signed up on a site dedicated to that, sissies, forced fem, etc. at about the same time I joined this one. But once I started to really be honest with myself about what was really going on with me, I realized I just had no interest in that stuff. This wasn't some fetish. I didn't need to play a game to "pretend" to be a woman. I simply needed to be the woman I'd always been inside. I never ended up checking out that other site.

There are plenty of people who enjoy these games. I have to wonder, though, how many of us get stuck playing them, pretending to be a sissy, rather than simply being who they really are, because reality is so hard to face.

[georgia20]

I never said the mainstream of people see us as normal, hell, some of us are still thinking ourselves as weird as why some if you hide it from everyone. But I know if someone said hey, I get you like it, but your weird, you'll defend yourself to a certain degree. Now we got people, who "normal" people call weird, calling our own weird. I always say it's only weird if you make it weird. Just like some think your weird and others don't think of you any different. If we ever seek to be accepted, we must accept not only ourselves, but others like us, no matter how much different they are from each other. I've seen enough shade from drag queens thinking we CDs are the more perverted side. So we just pass the baton to those who wear frilly and less sophisticated clothing. Doesn't seem fair does it. I don't want to argue it because I see others put others down for not having as good of makeup or things like that. I say be happy, accept those different because you may need those who are different than you help someday.

[Beverley Sims]

Mmmm! Like wearing a maid's outfit or a wedding dress,do it now and then when the situation is right.

[Adriana Moretti]

I have a few friends who are into it...it is their ( thing) ....not my thing, but hey.... how can a dude in a dress judge another dude in a dress....whatever floats your boat right? We all have our ( thing).

Katey brings up a valid point that the forum is most heavily influenced by the nature of its members...which explains all the S/O posts and wifey complaints.
Personally..... Although this forum is more for support...I like when a post like this pops up, for the responses....if you search back , some of the most popular posts EVER on this forum are about sexual fantasies especially those with men, being submissive, sexuality etc... and the responses are just classic....some waving the I'm STR8 flag....others wishing , and some complaining not to show this side of what SOME (keyword) do cause their wives read this forum and they dont want them to get the wrong idea....I say bring it on they actually been lacking here lately...just keep it clean and tastefull...and do what makes you happy.

[Ressie]

Yes Adriana, it's not easy for everyone to be completely honest about such things. It's nice having younger members like Mink to change things up a bit IMO. Of course I'm single with nothing to lose...

[AmandaM]

Ok, now I'm confused about sissies. Seems like if you google it, it can be anywhere from a French Maid, to adult babies, to enforce chastity and cuckolding. I'm like, what the heck! I used to think I sometimes have a sissy fetish, but the only thing above I like (or would tolerate) is French Maid, as well as Cheerleader, Beer maid, etc. Guess I got a "hot girl" fetish. What the heck is a sissy?

[Barbara Jo]

There is difference between being a " sissy" vs being effeminate.
Both in definition and general perception.

Yes, I can be very effeminate.......in dress, in action, and self perception but, I am not a sissy.

However who am I to judge others? :)

[carroll1967]

Beening a sissy is like a mommy's boy our supmiting to a man.

[Mink]

or just a girly girl boy!

you throw like a girl! (thanks!)

[Samantha_Smile]

I often go over the top femme (Lots of makeup, very femme clothing ie hose, heels skirts or dresses, lots of big earrings and loads of perfume) but I do not identify as sissy.
Nor will I ever.

I'm not keen on emasculating insults being used to identify with any subculture within a subculture.
If humiliation is your bag then more power to you, but it is not what most of us look for.

Over the top, in my case at least is the need to get as far away from 'masculine me' as possible.
If I could temporarily change my body completely for a few hours, then I would.
But as I can not, I will use any and every reasonable, temporary physical alteration at my disposal to achieve the full femme appearance I desire in order to escape my self for a while.
I don't perceive this to be sissy behaviour, and I'm not going to start listing the things I see to be sissy behaviours.
I like satin, but that's where the line is drawn.

I really feel bad for anyone who isn't​ into humiliation who gets default classified as a sissy because of their clothing preference.

[thisgal16]

I say bring it back. I personally, at times, fall into the "sissy" category. My dressing ranges from just casual under dressing all the way to full on sissy adult baby, depending on my mood and how much time I have to be dressed. Now the majority of the time I just wear everyday woman's clothing and the stuff at the extreme end of the spectrum is more sexual that anything for me. With that being said it is an awful lot of fun and its just one of my things that i have come to terms with that it is not gonna go away.(I've tried to stop)

[Tracii G]

If its your thing have fun with it.

[Mink]

in 20 years ALL CDers will be sissies!

the virus will spread!

[Jorja]

While I do not care much for the term "sissy" that does not mean you have to abide by that. This forum is about freedom of expression. If you see yourself as a sissy, by all means feel free to express yourself as one. You are still welcome to participate here.

[Mink]

sometimes I feel like i'm more of a CISSY!

oh god!

[Karen62]

I have to agree that I don’t like the word sissy, but I have a different take on it (well, at least one not expressed in this thread). The origin of “sissy” is sister. Calling a boy a sissy is effectively calling him a girl, and as a pejorative term, the implication is that is a very bad thing. It’s just part of the common culture of feminine being seen as being of lesser value than masculine, especially within a male. Culture tells us that to be masculine is to be celebrated and valued, but to be feminine is to be diminished in value. So when I hear the word sissy, I hear the target of the insulting term is of diminished value as a person because the accuser just said they were like a girl/woman (and when females are sometimes called sissies, that’s just a reinforcement of this negative value).

That little point has always bothered me, and there are countless other examples of this diminishment of women in our western culture (women are supposed to act like men to be successful in business, women can don menswear clothes (or at least menswear-style articles of clothing, clothing cuts and/or fabrics), but the world will crumble if a man wears womenswear (fabrics or articles of clothing). The pervasive diminishment of the feminine as a value is one of my bugaboos, and the word sissy is one of those triggers for me.

[Mink]

that's why we've got to EMPOWER the feminine / the word sissy!

like the whole idea of queer!

and how it has changed and is now something to be celebrated by those in the know!

take back the nightie!

[Samantha_Smile]

Empower the word 'tranny' by all means. At the end of the day it's an abbreviation of a complete word that started to become an insult.

'Sissy' however is a word used to insult, belittle and emasculate. While a degree of emasculation/feminisation is the objective, I'm uncertain that this is the type of word that needs 'taking back'.

It's like those idiots who say that white people can't drop an N-bomb, but if you're brown it's thrown around as a greeting to your nearest and dearest!
You're insulting your loved ones!

Take it back? Nah, you can keep it.

[NicoleScott]

It seems strange that so many who delight in emasculating themselves take offense in words they consider emasculating. I wonder how many have made "own it" comments.

[scarletcd]

I think a lot of people have their introduction to the CD/Trans world through the Sissy side. It was definitely my first experience as a Woman. It's definitely a really important part of the Trans spectrum despite any negative connotations people may put upon it.
I dress mostly in band Tshirts and things, I'm still firmly stuck in my Punk & Rock phase. However there's still that part of me who loves the frills and the pink stuff.
I agree with you all here. It's important for us all to express ourselves as we see fit.

[LilSissyStevie]

I have to agree that I don’t like the word sissy, but I have a different take on it (well, at least one not expressed in this thread). The origin of “sissy” is sister. Calling a boy a sissy is effectively calling him a girl, and as a pejorative term, the implication is that is a very bad thing. It’s just part of the common culture of feminine being seen as being of lesser value than masculine, especially within a male. Culture tells us that to be masculine is to be celebrated and valued, but to be feminine is to be diminished in value. So when I hear the word sissy, I hear the target of the insulting term is of diminished value as a person because the accuser just said they were like a girl/woman (and when females are sometimes called sissies, that’s just a reinforcement of this negative value).

That little point has always bothered me, and there are countless other examples of this diminishment of women in our western culture (women are supposed to act like men to be successful in business, women can don menswear clothes (or at least menswear-style articles of clothing, clothing cuts and/or fabrics), but the world will crumble if a man wears womenswear (fabrics or articles of clothing). The pervasive diminishment of the feminine as a value is one of my bugaboos, and the word sissy is one of those triggers for me.

I used to think this and to a certain extent it is true but go up to a GG somewhere and say "Excuse me, sir... Oh sorry, I thought you were a dude." She most likely will be offended. Is she offended because she thinks men and masculinity are inferior? No, she is probably offended because she identifies with and tries to conform to a different ideal (femininity) and mistaking her for a dude signals failure. So while feminine qualities are valued somewhat lower by "society" than masculine qualities, that isn't the main reason that people are offended when you mis-gender them.

Another point. Men generally assume that other men want to be or should want to be masculine. The same with women with respect to femininity. It's unsettling when someone cannot or will not (as in the case of CDs) conform. You're messing up their conception of how the world should be according to their brainwashing and they tend to lash out.

When CDs are offended by being called a sissy it's called cognitive dissonance or perhaps even self hatred. They engage in feminine behavior and are offended that anyone noticed.

[Gillian Gigs]

At the risk of starting a storm, I press on. In the world of men there is a pecking order, and it seems men get into this pecking game whether they are aware of it or not. Who is the Alpha... who is at the bottom of the pile... every man seems to be looking for his place in the order of things from the moment of birth. Names and name calling fit into the pecking game and words are used among the "civilized" to make a point, rather than everyone spending there time beating each others brains out. Women are lower in the order than men, hence calling someone a girl is an insult. Just look at the whole racial problem, it is based on one race thinking that they are better than another. Black men use the "N" word among themselves, not as an insult, but it is preceived as an insult coming from another race. From my point of view the word "sissy" fits lower than many words. Even on this site I have seen the pecking order rear its ugly head with some individuals. I use an extreme as an example to make a point, " I am better than you are because I go out in public, and you are gutless hiding in the closet". It is not said in so many words, yet an implication is there in the back ground. It just strikes me as being so funny that "a guy" gets all dressed up, looking so feminine, and bang the pecking order game is still there. We have an expression where I come from, and it goes like this, "you can dress them up, but you can't take them out". It doesn't matter how you dress, you are still the same inside! If you want to dress according to how you feel on the inside, fine. As kids we used to say,"sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me". I find that to be untrue, if you tell yourself something long enough you will believe it. If one person thinks being a sissy is ok, who am I to argue! Their idea of what a sissy is may be very different from my idea, if the shoe fits wear it!

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

If the topic of conversation was about my dressing and someone wanted to call me a sissy, would I be upset about it? Not really. I do enjoy wearing womens clothing after all, and so I can understand completely why that word would be used to describe my behaviour. And I would also be the first one to admit, I don't feel the need to pound my chest to prove my masculinity, I HATE pissing contests (my X is better than your Y etc.), and I am not at all interested in being the 'alpha'. I have always been a small guy, I am not an aggressive person, and I don't participate in a LOT of stereotypical guy activities. So the word sissy, while not entirely accurate, it isn't completely inaccurate either. It's just a word that someone else uses because it fits with their understanding of societal norms.

Would I use the word? No, I would use crossdresser.

[jessica33]

The general population think of us as sissy anyway . If you tell any female on the street about your crossdressing she will most likely think you are either weird and/or a sissy . I have no problem anyone calls me a sissy because its who I am . I love to wear female clothes . I hope one day to try out maid uniform and Lolita clothes . :):)

[rachael.davis]

Mink if the sissy culture floats your boat enjoy it, if it doesn't float other posters on this board accept that they are doing something else in their lives.

Funny I came out to one of my martial arts students a few years ago, her comment was OK that makes sense (I've had an odd Knack for teaching women), but if you turn into a Priscilla on me I'm going to be very upset with you. Which is when I found out that Priscilla or Priss seems to be a girls locker room insult

[maya1love]

I don't know -- I like being called a "sissy" and there is an eroticism about being treated like a sissy. For me, it has nothing to do with men's power or women's power in the real world. It is about my personal eroticism, which is not politically correct. I function well in the real world, and have strong boundaries. In my fantasy life, I enjoy being a sissy sometimes. I don't need to have the word "sissy" be "empowered", as I'm not trying to make a political statement when I enjoy this side of myself. I understand totally that other crossdressers do not see the eroticism in this, and that's their prerogative.

[Lacy PJs]

I can't seem to get this thread out of my head; I've been thinking about it a lot recently.

I like to wear certain types of women's clothing. I DO NOT LIKE to wear "sissy" clothes... "girlie" OK, but not "sissy." So if I see a vendor... say on Ebay who advertises "Crossdresser Clothing," I'm OK with that but "Sissy Dresses for the Crossdresser" is a real turn-off for me. But I sometimes wonder if that's because some have the perception that a male wearing female clothing is being a sissy. I don't know...

Lacy PJs