Ten-Year Plan...

[Miss Mandy]

I had a chance to discuss long term plans with my wonderful wife. In about ten-years time, we will be empty-nesters. We current live and work in the "burbs" but we both feel unsettled and are country folks at heart. So, about five days ago, I proposed that we sell our house in ten years time and purchase a fixer-upper Bed and Breakfast/ farm. I also proposed that I will begin to transition to living as Miss Mandy full-time while we spent our idle time antique shopping, salon visits, etc. I even went so far as to suggest that she, a medical professional, begin to administer androgen blockers and estrogen to slowly make me more fitting in my new identity. I have no desire for SRS but would like to lose body hair, gain curves, and grow boobies.

Surprisingly, she did not fly off the handle at this suggestion and even seemed mildly intrigued by it. We have not talked about it since, but we have a planning session scheduled soon. I am not sure if she will agree or if I showed too many cards to quickly. My question to you ladies: have any of you made similar plans with your wives? And how receptive was she?

Miss Mandy

[Paula_56]

Hopefully she doesn't bring a lawyer to your next planning session!

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Your plan sounds excellent...from your point of view. I think it's good and fair and honest that you told your wife how you see your future; now she has the chance to decide if that's how she sees her own.

I hope your plans work out together and that your dream comes true.

[Kate Simmons]

I would advise caution. Especially since I can't see what is potentially in it for her. :)

[Maria 60]

It's always good to have a plan, and then of course it can be fine tuned and altered if required. Just recently I was talking the same thing with my wife and I wish I didn't. I am hoping if God pleases me with health in a few years to slow things down and maybe start looking into escaping the cold Canadian winters and maybe spending a few months south. She stopped me in my path and told me that she looks forward and hopes our children will give us grandchildren and she would love the opportunity that she can watch them full time instead of making them go to expensive day care. Well that wasn't the answer I was looking for and now I am not planning to slow things down anymore and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but now there's a little bit of resentment, and looks like change of plans. I hope your plans don't take the same road. I don't want to burst your bumble, just telling you how my bumble bursted.

[kimdl93]

Well, no I haven't asked my wife to administer andro blockers. We have discussed where and how we would live and she knows that I would like to live as a woman at something approaching full time within a few years. We are committed to each other, she understands my wishes, and we are each making a good faith effort to accommodate each other.

[Marcelle]

Hi Mandy,

Ten year plan . . . yikes . . . I will be 60 (this is not a slight against others of this age . . . it just seems like yesterday I was 20 :battingeyelashes:). Well for us it probably includes a "Yurt" out in the bush somewhere with a once a month visits to a local city/town for groceries then returning to our "off the land existence" . . . well perhaps not that rugged (some yurts are quite nice and even have running water and plumbing). In all seriousness though we have plans to retire to back country living and my time as Isha will most likely evolve to "en femme" at home (less worry about make-up) with a visit or two to a major city for some public Isha time. Andro blockers and estrogen . . . not for this gal . . . love my guy's ability to achieve lean muscle mass too much.

Everyone needs a plan though and your sounds like a good one for you.

Hugs

Isha

[Krisi]

My ten year plan is just to live another ten years. As for the bed and breakfast, my brother and his wife did exactly that. It hasn't worked out that well, they are still working but instead of working five days a week they now work seven days a week, pretty much all day long. They can't retire unless they sell the place and then they will need to buy a home.

I, on the other hand, put my money into a retirement plan and I just do whatever strikes my fancy or nothing at all. The checks come in every month.

[Andrea_cd]

10 years....well the kids will be grown up and gone , we have talked about it a little , my wife gave the impression I could dress a little more but nothing over the top , but who knows in 10 years anything could happen , ill stick to today and my nitey thats under my pillow for bed tonight while my wife reads

[Vikky]

Hi Mandy

I think my Signature says it all – Adventure before dementia -. I am in semi - retirement now but some years ago made up my mind to take up some real challenges and travel to remote areas of this wonderful planet and do the things that had been on my bucket list.

After the latest adventure I decided I had to venture into the CD world having been in denial all my life with only modest, very amateur dressing over nearly 50 years. It is wonderful and I am so glad I took the risk and also came out to my SO.
Not sure about what and where it will all be in another 10 years but I listed my New Year resolutions in another posting a few days ago, so they will do for now.

My other favourite term is Carpe Diem- seize the day. Don’t think about it -just do it.

Vikky

[Rhonda Jean]

My ex-wife, you mean?

[SandraInHose]

Our kids are early 20's still living at home, but both are eagerly pursuing their first house/condo, so that day could happen sooner rather than later.

My wife's biggest fear is that the minute we become empty-nesters, that I'm gonna run up the stairs and come back down fully dressed, and stay that way 24/7/365.

I told her, "Don't be silly! You know I don't run on the stairs!" <groan>


Seriously, I wouldn't mind trying that exact scenario, at least for a couple of weeks, but there's no way on earth that'll ever happen. And it may be yet another of those fantasies that are better to remain a fantasy, as I don't see my marriage surviving such a jolt. And that would be tremendously selfish of me to push things that far.