The Mirror Can Fool

[deebra]

After checking myself out in the full length mirror modeling several outfits I decided to do a day out in public in drab. I thought wearing boot cut girl jeans and 3" tapered heel black boots looked very nice and would blend perfectly. First I went to DSW shoe warehouse and tried on several pair of 5" pumps and walked in them throughout the store, no one noticed or cared and the two SA's asked if I needed any help then left me alone. I was feeling oh so good walking in all those delicious sexy shoes and very pleased with my self at how well I maneuvered in them. None felt quit right so I didn't buy any.
Next since DSW went so well decided to go to a large mall and enjoy being out, it was 11 A.M. and the mall didn't have a lot of people in it, still thought I walked pretty good in the boots and I should blend like wallpaper, the older folks didn't even notice, the twenty something women made me in a heartbeat, their eyes quickly went from the jeans to the boots and I could tell they had just seen something to laugh, joke and gossip about, ME.
So what the he**, I'll go for #3, I went to a tool store with a fair amount of men and no one noticed. If the mall had been crowded at night would I have blended better?
My conclusion is keep doing what I want to do, pick your places and avoid young women. Any advice???????

[Kate Simmons]

I never assume that women are talking or laughing about me Deebra. Even if they are, I would be flattered they felt I was worthy of their attention. That's the way I would see it. :battingeyelashes::)

[Robert]

What are the three phases of personal acceptance?

Stage 1. Where you care about what people are thinking about you
Stage 2. Where you don't care what people are thinking about you
Stage 3. Where you realise people are not thinking about you at all

[Jackie7]

Give those saucy young women a wink and a wave. Kids these days are a lot more accepting than kids of yesteryear, in my experience.

[docrobbysherry]

I know exactly how u must have felt, deebra. Altho, when I go out dressed to blend, I go all 9 yards or don't bother. Still, I feel dressing to suit others, especially vanillas, is such a waste of time, effort, and is always very stressful for me!:sad:

While dressing in private is always a no holds barred, stress free, blast!:devil:

[Beverley Sims]

Your imagination takes over when looking in a mirror.
I agree teenage girls are the best judge, even if they are so harsh.

[Rachael Leigh]

I noticed today in the mirror how when I wear my GV jeans with my ankle boots I noticed how I looked.
I was like wow those boots with those jeans do make me look a little fem so I did wonder would others notice too,
Oh well.

[Miss Melissa]

I gave up judging how I look by just using a mirror a few years ago. Your iPad is you're friend when it comes to honing your look and ironing out the problem areas. Some things you don't even think about, you can see are glaring giveaways when you watch yourself on video.

[Carolana]

Yeh, Melissa. Had that experience just today. I was really happy with my new experiment with a homemade face lift tryout, and was enjoying myself in the mirror until I decided to do a selfie with my I phone. Reality check! But I am on the right track and will do more serious makeover the next time I get bold enough to venture out. Nice we can make use of some good old fashion camera-derie. (ok, that was a stretch)