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PretzelGirl
01-09-2015, 11:36 PM
For the Christmas holidays, my daughter invited me to fly out and spend it with her family. This was close enough so that my mother could come visit for a day. Now my family has been very supportive, but it is new to all except my daughter and her husband. They used to go out with me during my CD days. Even still, there is a big difference between accepting me as a CD and accepting me as a full-time woman. So to this point, they were the only ones that had been around me at any time. I was excited for the trip and nervous also because of the possible reactions.

I flew into the airport and my daughter and her family were all there. Her and my son-in-law (who is awesome and wrote a college paper on transgender studies right after I came out to him) came right up and hugged me. The 9 year old and 5 year old grandsons stayed back a little, but would talk. The 2 year old grandson let me come to him. So the first night was a good start, but we had to see how it would go on the two older boys.

The next morning, the boys came out of their rooms and hugged me and called me Grandma Sue (I know, I don't look that old :D) and we were off. They treated me the entire time like it was always that way. There were two exceptions. One time the 9 year old came up and goes "You know your name is Steve". I could tell he was trying to joke with me, but I took it as an opportunity to have a good conversation. So I explained it all to him and that was the last time he said anything like that. The other was that the 2 year old inexplicably called me Papa a couple of times after I had been there over a week. How does a 2 year old remember that?

I saw my mother a couple of days after Christmas. Out of everyone I came out to, she was the only one I busted in tears on and couldn't talk. So I was already emotional about this as she said the tough part would be seeing me for the first time. But we hugged when we first saw each other and the conversation flowed. She called me Sue and generally did well with a couple of misgenders (I sure am not going to blame her). So it was a very heartening visit.

At the end of the trip was my birthday. I managed not to cry in front of them and held it to when I was alone, but these are the cards I got.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=239061&stc=1

Rachelakld
01-09-2015, 11:55 PM
So sweet, and a "happy ever after" :)

justmetoo
01-10-2015, 12:19 AM
Very sweet! I love the cards and all of the support and love you received! I'm sure it reflects well on who you are as a person. :)

arbon
01-10-2015, 12:27 AM
Thanks for sharing this Sue, really happy the trip went so well! Those cards are awesome :)

Zooey
01-10-2015, 01:39 AM
That's lovely, and it sounds like everything went super well. I'm semi-dreading the talks with the family, so encouraging stories are always very welcome. :)

Persephone
01-10-2015, 01:58 AM
:love:

So cool! Thanks for sharing!

Hugs,
Persephone.

Nikkilovesdresses
01-10-2015, 02:27 AM
That's lovely to read, thanks Sue- and many congrats.

xNikki

Karen62
01-10-2015, 03:35 AM
What a treat it was to read this story. So uplifting, so encouraging. Thank you for sharing, Sue!

Karen

charlenesomeone
01-10-2015, 06:15 AM
Sue that's a wonderful story you had me crying at the end. You are so blessed.
Hugs

I Am Paula
01-10-2015, 08:20 AM
Thanks for the wonderful feel good post. I'm glad it went so well.

steftoday
01-10-2015, 08:20 AM
I'm so very happy for you Sue. That was wonderful!

Jonianne
01-10-2015, 08:39 AM
What a wonderful experience, Sue! :)

PretzelGirl
01-10-2015, 08:43 AM
Zooey, it is hard not to have some level of anxiety. We are doing something uncommon that only has a small amount of people that have really learned about it. Now that we have more advocates in the media and more people come out, I feel it will keep getting better because the awareness will be there.

Charlene, I have always felt that I am very blessed. My family is awesome!

Jorja
01-10-2015, 09:29 AM
So happy for you, Sue! When it works, it works.

bethw49
01-10-2015, 04:13 PM
That's just beautiful Sue. I'm so happy for you.
Hugs Beth

Eringirl
01-10-2015, 09:19 PM
Hi Sue. What a lovely story. So happy for you. :D The best Christmas gift! Thanks for sharing.

Erin

becky77
01-11-2015, 05:05 AM
That's lovely Sue. I posted my first cards too, It's a good feeling isn't it.

PretzelGirl
01-11-2015, 08:58 AM
I actually expected more of a settling in period instead if just being there Becky. So it has a little extra "great" to it because the switch just flipped instead of a gradual change.

Rogina B
01-11-2015, 09:25 AM
It couldn't have gone any better!

kiwidownunder
01-12-2015, 12:00 AM
OMG That's amazing!
Having grand children I now how hard it can be
good on you


Hugs
Kiwi

Suzanne F
01-12-2015, 02:40 AM
Very happy for you. Great family!
Suzanne

Kris Avery
01-12-2015, 08:39 PM
That is so awesome. It's amazing how some can be so accepting and other peoples families (cough) can't even handle earrings (gasp)..for real..:o