why do I have this need to let strangers know?

[Natasha V]

Lately i been getting this urge to show strangers and talk with them about myself I don't know why I feel like I need to do this any help welcomed.

[franlee]

My guess would be you are looking for acceptance. And don't want to chance rejection from the people you know and Love. But the need to present yourself is real and a need that you are trying to fulfill. I and most of the CDer's I know have the same desires on what ever level fits their personal life. Sharing and chatting on here is enough for some but for others it just aint enough. My question to you is Why Not? As long as you maintain control and think it out before acting on anything. But always consider the worst case scenario too!

[Natasha V]

I have been catching myself doing things that are extremely bad if I want to stay private but I am acting in a different manner wondering why I do such things that will eventually out me. I don't know why I get those compulsions. They seem to feel good when I do it and bad once its done.

[Jean 103]

Isn’t what this site is about? Wanting to share yourself with others and experience life while dressed, and so as not to be exposed to people that know you. Granted there is not the face to face of meeting someone in person and it is not a complete conversation. This is why I have been making weekend trips away from where I live.

[Natasha V]

Yes Jean, but the part I'm talking about is that I been getting more dating in my immediate surroundings. Without holding back then wondering why I did it.

[Jean 103]

I thought after I posted, that might be what you were referring to. I do not engage in risky behavior, other than dressing 24/7 for the period I am away. I have one basic rule on these outings, I am not allowed to sit in my room and watch TV. I must go out and interact with the world. This is effort on my part to fast track this, and try and find where if anywhere this goes.

[Natasha V]

That sounds like an idea because I tend to dress and just sit around and watch TV but I'm not sure how to get the courage to step out. Just the idea is frightening.

[Jean 103]

It is at first and still is sometimes. Start off doing something you know and do all the time, like take a drive and buy gas at the pump. Next time maybe you go in and buy a drink or something. Before you know it you are cursing the clothing rakes in thrift stores (one of my fav), buying makeup, groceries, and just living life. My job has me driving around town a lot and meeting people. I may not always remember them but they seem to remember me. This is why I tend to travel, I am more relaxed if I do not have to worry about someone knowing me. Quick story, my wife and I are traveling and we are about 4 hours from home and stop at a road side farm stand. We bump it to her brother who lives another 2 hours down the road. With all the people in CA in can still be a small world.

[kimdl93]

Is it strangers, per se, or a desire to tell "someone"? As was suggested earlier, strangers may seem a safe alternative to coming out among family and friends. True enough. On the other hand, I think we have to be careful not to reveal this part of ourselves simply for the excitement. Going out and engaging the public should be part of living...part of being in the real world as the person you are.

[Kate Simmons]

I don't know other than I'm guessing you are a people person Hon. :)

[Teresa]

Natasha,
I have the same feeling at the moment, It may be something to do with accepting my dressing and not feeling guilty and ashamed ! In the end I will have to curb the feeling because it will get back to my family and possibly upset them !
Somedays you do go out and say I don't care who knows

[ClosetED]

I feel the basic need is affirmation of the feelings you are experiencing - your femininity, beauty, happiness, etc. While just experiencing it is nice, you want an external affirmation of this. This site is one way to get it. I have begun to post pics that I felt showed the Ellen I feel and I am very grateful for the wonderful compliments. The number of views far exceeds the posts but that is life. If you went out in public, many more people would see you breifly and happily not register anything unusual and if you are lucky, a few may compliment you. If a few give a stare, it is like a post here that offers suggestions for improvement - not a bad thing. If you need a more interactive affirmation, then TG friendly events may be the next step. Or public situations where you are more in control - driving around dressed, a walk alone in a park, a walk with a friend. Going out to get your mail dressed is risky if you don't want to be outed.
Hugs, Ellen

[Natasha V]

Thank You, i thank you all for the replys.