Bea A
01-30-2015, 06:44 PM
My wife and I saw a therapist with extensive experience in gender issues. I dress nearly full time at home (with a few exceptions). I accept not dressing at work as a necessary evil to pay the bills. We have negotiated what I will wear outside (no skirts/dresses). The session went well, but I was surprised that very early he asked when I was going to transition. I told him that even if that happened, it was several years away (kids at home, college etc.) for she and I to discuss that decision. But as of today, transitioning with surgery, hormones is not an option. He is FTM and also worked with my FTM son during his transition. Ironically, my son is the ONLY one of our children to not know. (He lived with my ex out of state). Her children all know. Our goal is for her to understand what she wants and can tolerate as I move further. We are also looking at other aspects of our relationship outside of gender too. She and he are scheduling individual sessions, along with couple sessions. I have a treating psychiatrist I have been seeing for nearly 20 years (military disability). I'm encouraged by where we are at.