Does your family know?

[JeanetteX]

Hi ladies,

I'm new here so let me introduce myself first...when 'en femme' I'm called Jeanette and I'm from the Netherlands, so please don't mind the mistakes I'll obviously gonna make with my english!!!

My question for you girls is if your family knows. I have been CD'ing for years but have never had the guts to tell my mother, father, brother or sister-in-law about it. I'd love to tell my parents but they are pretty old fashioned and religious people and it would break their hearts if they would find out. My sister-in-law is a real lady, often dressed classy, and at times I can be so jealous of her! Would love to talk to her about all her beautiful items of clothing!! But I'm afraid she's married to my brother, a bit of a loudmouth 'macho' kinda guy. I love him to bits but I'm certain if he knew he would make fun of me, or even ridicule me to others.

I do have a very dear female friend who knows about my dressing and I always find it so refreshing to talk to her. Her advice however is to not tell the family and keep the peace.

Any of you out there who have the same dilemma? Or did you dare to tell? And what was their reaction like?

[Alambi]

Hi Jeanette,

I kind of have a similar dilemma, My brother is really narrow-minded as is my step-father. My mom is more open-minded I guess, but I'm not ready to tell her yet. For now it is my own little secret.

btw I'm also from the Netherlands, I hope we can get along :)

[Erika Lyne]

Well, Hello JeanetteX,

The short answer is: Yes and No I am out to the family.

The long answer is yes to some. I am out to my wife of 14 years, our two girls (ages: 12 and 10), my mother in law but, I think she told my father in law as well. I am also out to a few close friends, mostly women. Most of these people are accepting with only a few reservations. My wife is on this site, has known since I was 15 and has stood by my side for 27 years. Our daughters have known for over 2 years. It is customary in our house to call each other, "Weird." as a form of acceptance for other people's differences. It is a compliment to each other. My daughters haven't said anything to their friends that I know of but I've heard them cover for my differences by saying to their friends,"That's just my 'weird' dad."

I've tried to approach my mother when I was in my early/mid teens about dressing and she refused to hear of it. "It'll pass." she would say...it hasn't. My older brother is very closed minded and loud mouthed, like yours. Everything is either black or white to him. He would be quite judgemental if he knew. Plus, the family thinks highly of him because he's a bit higher educated than the rest of us. My younger brother is more passive but still has a huge phobia of those that are different. More of a "Not In My Back Yard" type of person. My father would never understand and probably remove himself from my existence. I've tested the waters by dressing publicly for Halloween (a big costume day in the US) and none of my birth family was very accepting. The year before last on Halloween, my mother in law was fine but my father in law was very "stand-offish" and withdrawn.

So, Yes and No.


And, welcome to the site!

Hugs,
-E

PS: Your English was fine.

[flatlander_48]

Hi and Welcome!

I've thought about this from time to time, but so far I have not been motivated to make the disclosure. My father is in his 80's. My mother passed away close to 30years ago. My stepmother is in her 70's. My daughter is 39 and she and her husband have 2 girls. My son is 33 and he and his girlfriend have no children. Anyway, if I were to tell, these would be the people.

My father is ex-Navy from WW2. He is also a child of the Great Depression. Those 2 things worked to create a very macho sort of personna. My stepmother is quite religious, although not of the fundamentalist variety. I see no real upside in coming out to them as a bisexual and a crossdresser. From reading between the lines with them, their attitudes towards gays in general are not good. Crossdressing would be even more foreign to them.

I think my kids would be OK with it, but as soon as you begin to make disclosures, you no longer have control of where those disclosures go or don't go. Again, I don't see an upside.

Looking at this another way, coming out would have significance if I wanted to interact with my family as DeeAnn. However, I do not want to do that. I think it would be a constant source of questions and challenges that wouldn't really have a good purpose. I doubt if life would ever return to anywhere near calm.

[NicoleScott]

No, they don't know because they don't need to know. Except for my wife. She knows because she needs to know.

[Marcelle]

Hi Jeanette and WELCOME! I am completely out to my family, friends and most of work but that is a choice I made based on my own personal circumstances. From what I read, you tend to do your thing and have found a nice niche. If you feel compelled to tell your family that is one thing but if you think it is best to keep it your secret then I see no harm in doing so.

Hugs

Isha

[JeanetteX]

Hi Alambi,

Sure we'll be getting along. Funny to communicate in another language while we're both Dutch....are you on any Dutch forums?

[Bima]

Hi Jeanette and welcome,

My parents and my sibling do not know, and I'm not sure why they should know, unless I plan to transition or be dressed as a woman and family functions (which I don't intend)

I think my parents and my sibling would be fully accepting, but not really understanding.

I know that my brother with a male friend, and with the help by two gg friends, spent a full day out as girls in their teens, but I think that was more of a fun and "crazy" thing than anything else.

My dad and mum are very accepting to most things, but judging from some comments perhaps not 100% understanding to transsexualism and crossdressing.

My mum and dad may know that I CD anyway for various reasons.

Often borrowed items from my mums wardrobe as a teen (she had been given the most stunning classy clothes by a rich relative, a woman, but she never used them), and months later I accidentally overheard her telling a sister of hers that an item had been missing and that she thought it was so strange. Oooopsss!!!!

I also accidentally showed my maternal grandmother a photo where my face was photo shopped onto a woman's face (hence wearing her hair and body :-). This was of course by mistake as I was going to show some vacation pictures on my laptop. That darn photo just automatically popped up by itself as I started the image presentation. Ooooopppss!!!! Not sure if she recognized me, and if she ever told my mum. If she did, my mum knows.

And once, I got a mobile phone call from my dad telling that he had been in the neighborhood just minutes ago and wondering (quite angry, concerned and agitated) what I was doing? Well I was dressed up as a women and sat there wondering if peeped through the narrow gap between the blinds and the window frame. I think he did, and that he was quite shocked what he saw. He never brought this up again, and no hints afterwards that he knows.

Perhaps I also outed myself once to my aunt and her husband some 20 years ago. Started my PC and forgot that I had put three "hot" ladies from the 80s (dressed in skirt-blouses / dresses and with long fur coats :-) as the background on my desktop. Perhaps my relatives thought I just had a fling for that kind of women, but it was more to that. Really loved their style :-). I just brushed it off and said a friend placed this picture there and I did not know how to get rid of it.

But, to answer your question again, and not rambling about my own outings, they don't know and from my point of view I see absolutely no reason to tell them.

I think the main question to ask. Why do you want to tell them, the benefits, and weigh that against the potential disadvantages that you may experience. A cost-benefit analysis :-)

/Bima

[sterusjon]

Jeanette,

The only soul that knows I am TG is my wife. She is really good about it all but would prefer (as would I, I think) it be otherwise. My parents have long been gone from this world and never were told. All my living relatives, including two daughters, are many miles away and there is no reason or benefit for them to know since I do not interact with them very often. No animosity, mind you, Just distance.

My wife prefers that we keep this all under wraps from both friends and family. So when we are out as gal-pals, we are also way out of our home town. If, heaven forbid, I were to find myself without her, I would likely go 24/7. In that event, I am not sure how I would deal with a reveal to friends and family. I hope I don't have to decide any time soon.

Stephanie

[bridget thronton]

Out my my wife and adult children and a few close friends (parents deceased) but not my brother's family or my inlaws

[Sarina Curtis]

Hi Jeanette,

I'm in a similar boat to you. My wife knows, but that's about it. I do intend to tell my daughters, but waiting until they're at an age where they'd understand (hopefully). I've thought about coming out to my mother, I think she'd be a bit shocked and get stuck on the whole 'How can you like wearing women's clothes and not be gay?' for a bit but would quickly come around and not really give a damn. My father, he just wouldn't get it so why put him through the anguish this would cause, because I know he likely wouldn't get past the cross dressing = gay myth. My sister would probably be accepting but if I ever made her angry, she would use it against me as a weapon of mass destruction. My in-laws are uber-conservative, so they'll hopefully never know. None of my friends know, but most would probably get over it after a while. My wife is slowly coming around and has been accepting since I dropped my little bomb shell. She'll probably never be comfortable enough to let me dress with her around or buying me something girly as a gift, but neither has she issued any ultimatums or 'just a phase' babble. All in all I'm happy with the space that I'm in and the limits I have on my 'Sarina Time'. It keeps me from getting lost in the 'pink fog' and forces me to find a balance that has benefited both halves of my whole.

It's good to see that you have someone you can talk to and that you seem content with your situation.

[Lily Catherine]

My parents are aware and have warned me never to cross-dress for the sake of it. That said I have done so for junior college orientation (entire group, boys and girls crossed), competitions and plays (a perk of being in a boys' school in my younger days)

On the other hand a few trusted friends know but any references to Iris are entirely made in jest. One of my closest dislikes CDs but otherwise doesn't mind me.

[kimdl93]

My family knows,but for most it's sort of DADT or simply not a subject we talk about. My immediate family...wife and grown kids...know and are supportive.

Yours sounds like a tough one I would avoid involving your sister in law. Think about why any of these family members need to know. If there is no need, then I'd find someone else to confide in.

[Tiffanyselkoe]

My whole family knows but we don't make a big deal out of it if I am in jeans or a dress.

[Bima]

:-)

As I said before, my family don't know, but I may just have outed my to a neighbor a few seconds ago.

Someone just rang my doorbell, and I am dressed up right now (high heels, leopard patterned blouse, brown skirt, and a blond wig etc), so I slowly walked away from my living room where people can see me from the outside, and intended not to open (just in case it is a relative or a friend). Then I hear a woman's voice saying "Hello", and I say "hi", seeing her peeking in through the small gap between a slightly open door and the door frame. She then says "I'm the neighbor above, and I just saw that the door was open and I thought it looked scary", to which I just responded "thanks, just please close the door". Kind, but slightly nosy, neighbor. She must have seen me though, LOL :-)

/Bima

[Danielle_cder]

My mom and wife know

[Linda Leigh]

My wife knows and doesnt like it but tolerates my crossdressing. No one else needs to know :)

[Tina B.]

The only ones I've ever told, where my first and second wives, and my older brother. I had to talk to my brother, because my first wife tried to use the knowledge of it in our child custody hearing, and my older brother was sitting in the courtroom. To the best of my knowledge he never told anyone about it the rest of his life.
My second wife knows and is very supportive.

[Cheryl T]

My wife is fully aware and thankfully fully supportive.
I think my mom knew but we never talked about it. I know my aunt knew as she caught me once when I was about 12 and dressing in her things. She (God Bless her) even offered to help me if that's what I wanted. I was of course too young, too scared at the time to accept her offer. Who knows where I would be had I done so....

No other family knows and there is no good reason to tell them.

[Katey888]

First of all, welcome Jeanette... :)

Does my family know? No...

Do I have a dilemma about telling? No, not really...

Similar reason to you, possibly - no need presently for anyone to know - and sounds like you have an outlet with your female friend, and offers good advice as far as your brother is concerned... :eek:

You'll find the biggest variety of opinions on this topic... ;)

Katey x

[flatlander_48]

Just to complete the picture, my wife has known since the beginning. Beyond other crossdressers, there are 3 women I know that I've told, but one has passed away. I consider them all very good friends. Reactions were all favorable and the friendships continued. Perhaps it is significant that 2 of the 3 are fellow Sagittarians...

DeeAnn

[Savannah_Skye]

My family and friends do not know except my supportive wife and a few friends. I know my family and friends would still love and care for me but b/c they are more old fashioned and religious it would probably complicate things a lot in my situation. Sometimes it's hard not to tell people closest to me as I feel I am hiding part of my identity. I'm kind of lucky though as most of my female friends and family do not dress overly cute so I do not get jealous but the fashion police in me seems wants to say something once in a while like purple tights and a lime green skirt....:Angry3:

[Rachelakld]

Hi Jeanette,
I'm out to everyone who lives in my house (wife & kids) as I'm often dressed
I'm out to my mum as she has always been part of my life, and she used to wash the clothes in my kit bag when I went home.
I'm out to my sister as we have always been close, and now her "macho" husband doesn't tease me about being a girl anymore (bit sad about that, I liked him saying things like that about me).
I'm out to my sisters kids, because my sisters husband obviously knows. my niece sent me a lovely letter when she found out.
My dad is old fashioned, and while I've worn leggings and girls top around him with his permission, I don't fully dress out of respect for him.

In general females are more sensitive and understanding, so telling your mum might not be an issue, and she will probably advise you not to tell your dad, and who else not to tell.
As many would say, once you have told someone - you can't decide that you don't want them to know

[justmetoo]

Telling anyone is a personal decision, with many factors to consider. It's up to you to decide who to tell and when to tell them.

I am out to most of my family and they are all supportive to varying degrees. Some very much so, some are okay but not interested in seeing me dressed. The few I am not out to are the most macho of the guys, who might very well disown me, or give me a hard time about it, or, you never know, also be supportive.

Erika Lyne, weird is a good word in my family, too. :)

[Beverley Sims]

Jeanette,
Keep the status quo and take your girlfriends advice.

Tell no one close to your family.
It works if you have a separate social life with others.
Live as a girl with one group and remain a guy with the family oriented group.

[Alambi]

Hi jeanette, I'm only on this forum at the moment. Do you know any good dutch forums for CDing?

[jessicabf]

Wife is the only one who knows. I am fully confident that my parents and siblings would never understand. Just doesn't fit into their concept of reality. >.>

[heellover]

My wife, my 17 year old daughter and mom know about Natasha.
As well as numerous friends too. The rest of my family doesn't know...and I doubt they would accept it.

[Suzie Petersen]

My wife knows. I told her shortly after we started dating. Unfortunately she absolutely hates it now and it has been a huge issue for us over the years.
My parents figured it out when I was a teen I think, and they even pulled my then 'wife to be' aside and told her! Fortunately, she already knew and back then she was OK with it. Basically told them "Yes .. and ???". They never said anything to me and as far as I know newer brought it up to her again either.

Haven't told anyone else from my male life, family nor friends and have no intention to do so either. I don't see a good reason to do so as I don't think any of them would be accepting. Especially now when my wife has made it very clear that it is unacceptable.

I used to have a great group of friends in the CD community and had some very close TS friends too. I am afraid I made my self disappear some years ago and cut the connections.

I did have one very interesting friendship once. I used to travel to the UK a lot, and somehow got to know this older couple. We met somewhere at a sightseeing spot in England and got chatting. I have visited with them a number of times since and they were just the sweetest old couple with many good stories to share from a long happy life.
They only ever saw me as Suzie and I dont think they ever knew I was not exactly female! Certainly never treated me as anything but a female friend.

But, I went Under Ground and lost touch with everybody. Back in my shell now.

- Suzie

[MissTee]

Only my wife knows. She is supportive and understands my need to dress. I really don't need anyone else to know, so don't pursue telling.

[Barbara Dugan]

My parents and siblings know I did't ask them to keep it secret so if they tell anybody outside the family circle the word may spread like a wildfire, to be honest I really don't care since I started to change my physical appearance

[JeanetteX]

Hi Alambi, I know of a few Dutch forums but not on them as they are all gay and sex orientated. That's why I felt so glad when I found this one recently, only wish I had discovered sooner. Great forum with serious topics and serious CD'ers

To everyone else, thanks very much for making me feel so welcome and all your stories and advice.

[Taylor Ray]

Such a poignant topic to return to again and again!

My current situation entails living alone, so I have the freedom to dress and decorate as I please. I felt like I had to "tone down" my living room and kitchen decorations, for when guests come over. My office and especially my bedroom would be considered women's rooms by any "normal" standards, so I keep those doors closed when I have company over.

So on the one hand I have never had to "hide" my behaviors, at least not from my close, inner circle. However, in regards to 'neighbors' and 'acquaintances', I keep this part of myself private. I believe that people are inherently judgemental of lifestyles they do not understand.

[DAVIDA]

My wife was the first person I told and that was when I asked her to marry me.
She didn't have a problem then and she still doesn't over 24 years later.:)
Since then, we have told pretty much all of my family, her daughter, friends, and the neighbors know just from seeing me outside.:heehee:
I have yet to hear any negative comments from anyone.
I told my brother, who was a Episcopal Priest, before he died. I am so glad I had that conversation with him. He knew who his little brother was before his boss called him home.:)
I have never regretted telling anyone.:thumbsup:

[Claire Cook]

Hi Jeannette,

First, no need to apologize for your English -- you're doing very well indeed! (Actually my mother's parents were born in the Netherlands, but I never learned any Dutch, sad to say...) My situation is very different from yours and probably is irrelevant, but no, I've not told any of my family. (My parents passed away years ago, and my family is spread out across the country.) I am out to numerous friends. Just reading your post, I'd agree with your girl friend -- best not to tell them, at least at this point in your life. It sounds as though your CD'ing is largely private, and for now you may want to keep it that way. [But this is obviously your decision.]

Take care (what is the Dutch for that?),

Claire

[JeanetteX]

Hi Claire,

Thank you for your warm and friendly reply. And of course for the compliment on my English:) haha!!

Doe voorzichtig is Dutch for 'take care'. Good luck with trying to pronounce that one!!!

[donnalee]

Only you knows your personal situation and only you can make this kind of decision.

Just for the record, the only person that knew was my late SO (significant other). I'm retired, there would be no negative consequences, so I have very slowly let a few others know. It's one of those things that has legs, so if you want to control the terms, once you're out, you're out.

[Rachel Morley]

Yes and no. My wife, step son, and wife's sister all know and are supportive. My parents, brother, and sister-in-law (who all live 5000 miles away in another country) do not.

[Lacey New]

Only my online family here and a few Sales Associates at Dress Barn who know a gentleman who buys dresses and pays in cash

[geek]

My family is N.I.M.B.Y. tolerant to things like this and in all honesty would likely have less of a problem if I were gay than they would if they knew I was a "dresser".

[Ressie]

I told my sister 35 years ago, but she's no longer living. She probably told my mom who also is no longer living. I never had the courage to tell my older brother, but he's probably heard something thru the grapevine or had suspicions. Same with my two nephews. Cousins etc., probably haven't a clue.

That said, family and ex girlfriends in the RW have no idea what level I'm at with crossdressing. DADT

[sometimes_miss]

My mom and sister know. Neither accepts it. Mom pretends it's something that I can just stop whenever I want, and seems disappointed in me that I haven't 'grown out' of it. Sister has removed herself from my life gradually after learning about my crossdressing. Communication is down to my making occasional phone calls, and she gives one word or short answers to any question, doesn't initiate any contact, and has no interest in me or my life at all.

[Dena]

I'm also in the yes and no category. I've told two of my sisters, they were cool about it didn't freak out or anything. As it is not a part of our relationship, it never gets mentioned...

[mechamoose]

Accidental exposure...


This past Thanksgiving I was cooking my a$$ off. I woke up, donned my skirt and sandals, and got about it.

Many hours later, I was still cooking. Dripping in sweat, still in swishies and anklets.

The family arrived, with me still in a long indian skirt and a cami. Oh, HAI!

Nobody blinked. I got 100% feedback on my food. NOBODY said a word about how I was dressed while I served it.

/swish!

If I love you, I will spoil you. I will spend all kinds of crazy effort and money to provide you a unique experience... because of YOU.

Your family is your family. You don't get to pick them.

<3

- MM

[MichelleDevon]

My immediate family know about Michelle. My wife, as I have reported before, tolerates having Michelle as part of life but is not especially keen - I can usually guarantee a sideways look if I suggest that Michelle would like a day out with her rather than Stephen. Both my married daughters know - one is accepting, one is not. Sadly, the one who is not lives only 20 miles away, the one who is lives several thousand miles away! The distant grandson has met his granny Michelle via Skype quite often and seems quite unfazed by this strange apparition who sounds like grandad! The much closer granddaughters have yet to meet their granny Michelle - when they Skyped a couple of weeks ago and Michelle was making marmalade they were told "grandad is busy".

My parents know but have never met Michelle - I think we are comfortable with that for the timebeing. My mother's sister (also my godmother) knows and has seen pictures. My brother, whose lives is split between Hong Kong and Singapore has met Michelle 2 or 3 times and is cool with this - but I would expect that from someone whose main job is in counselling. He was a little confused when he first met Michelle because, like me, he could see the family resemblance to our mother and aunt and he wanted to call me Audrey (my aunt and godmother).

My wife's family are generally unaware I think...sister in New Zealand knows but her sister closer to home doesn't...I was amazed last autumn when there was discussion about a handbag she had given my wife for her birthday. I was given the task of telling her that it wasn't really her style and, I added, it wasn't Michelle's style either. "Who's Michelle?", she asked. I decided just to gloss over it at that point but I shall be waiting the opportunity to enlighten her. She oughtn't to be too upset - her husband is regularly to be seen wearing a "skirt" - well, OK, a kilt - he being a Scottish Lowlander who is frequently called upon in his non-Scottish home to do such things as addressing the haggis on Burns' night.

There are quite a few cousins, most of whom are unaware of Michelle's existence. I think my wife is happier with it that way and I am content to let it ride for now...

So, it is "yes and no" for me.

Michelle
xxx

[abby054]

My wife and my daughter both know. Both found out by being nosy. My wife despises it, so,much so that I rent a heated storage unit without her knowledge and dress there. In an interesting take on things, my daughter considers the knowledge to be an unintended punishment for being nosy. (A nosy person's version of "be careful what you wish for because you might get it"). No one else knows. And I have an enormous family, all of them far, far away and little contact. I will not tell them. It is none of their business. They consider me to be an egghead and rather loony for other reasons, so I doubt that they would care if they found out.

[Sarah Doepner]

My late wife knew and was supportive but when she passed away almost two years ago I moved back in the closet. I wouldn't be surprised if my adult children know or at least suspect, but I haven't had the discussion with them yet. I expect there will be some embarrassment and maybe even shock when that happens, but in the end they will either accept me or not. I believe they will.

None of my old friends are aware of this in my life and they may not ever need to know about it. I have close friends who are crossdressers or T.S. and they have all seen me dressed both as male and female and I have posted every time in the boy mode/girl mode photo thread, and no one I know in my male life has ever approached me about that. I think eventually it will make life a little less complicated and stressful if I come out to my kids, but I'm still waiting for a couple of things to happen before I take that step.

[Sharon B.]

My ex-wife made it a point to tell my mother and my two sisters at the time when we were getting a divorce. They never said anything to me about it and I haven't said anything to them about it either.
When I was growing up I did confess to one of my sister's that I enjoyed wearing women's clothes. It was the sister that I used to borrow some of her dresses to wear.
Even after both of my sister's moved out my parents would always have the older sister drop by to check on me if they went on vacation. One day I spent all day dressed as a woman when my sister came by to check on me, needless to say she wasn't pleased to see me dressed as a woman.
She never said anything to our parents but the ex sure did.

[Michelle 78]

My Mother knows and has done now for 7 months, she accepts it but never wants to see me. Nobody else knows and they don't need to.

[SusanaO]

My family doesn't know yet, but I think a few may suspect.

My closest friends, however, do know and are accepting.

[Mary Poppins]

Hello! My gay brother and a few friends know that I am a cross dresser. My other siblings would probably stop talking to me if they knew this. The only reason I bring this up as I was at our last family reunion and most of them said that 'gay people love to dress up.' At that point, I was like it wasn't going to happen. I am straight but to be lumped into another category seems very demeaning. We don't choose to cross dress, I think the choice was not ours to make. The more I kept it inside from the closest people, it made more depressed. Side note: Most of my siblings are very religious and this is why I keep it a secret.

[Ceera]

The only family member I am out with is my 19 year old daughter, who lives with me.

While my parents were still alive, I refrained from even under-dressing. My father, especially, was homophobic, and I didn't dare show any gay, bisexual or otherwise 'not straight' inclinations, for fear he might find out. So from my teen or pre-teen years until I was in my 50's, I just didn't give in to those urges. I played it straight, married a nice girl, we raised a child together, and I tried to live a 'normal', monogamous and straight life.

After my parents died, I flirted with under dressing and with a few wigs and feminine clothes and shoes, strictly in the home and when alone. My wife and daughter only knew about me switching to wearing panties. I still didn't dare go further, because my wife only barely tolerated the idea that I was wearing panties. She would have felt threatened and uncomfortable if I went further, so again, I refrained.

About two years after my parents died, my wife passed away unexpectedly from a heart attack. That was 13 months ago. I knew my daughter had gay and lesbian friends, considered herself to be bisexual, and liked cosplay and cross dressing for anime cons herself. So I talked to her and came out to her. She's been very accepting and supportive, and she thinks of my en-femme persona, 'Ceera', as essentially her 'Aunt'.

I have a sister who lives halfway across the country. I love her dearly, and she might accept the idea if I came out to her. But I just don't want to risk the wonderful relationship that I have with her today. I'm sure her husband would scoff at the idea and probably be hostile toward me if he knew. He and I don't get along all that well already. And my three nieces and my nephew, while they might accept it... again, I don't want to risk it getting back to my sister or her husband.

Other than that, I have an elderly aunt and uncle, and several cousins about my age, and none of them know.

Other than my daughter, none of my relatives live anywhere near me. My future plans don't call for me being likely to live or work in any of the towns that my relatives live in. So since for me, cross dressing is an occasional thing that I do for fun, it simply isn't worth telling any of my other relatives.

None of my friends or co-workers who have known my male side know about my female side. There are three male friends that know I occasionally did on-line roleplaying with a female persona, and one of them does the same in one of the venues that I used to do that in. But none of them know I've allowed that to cross over into my real life.

The people I have met as Ceera, I don't tell about my male side in any detail. I don't yet have any really close friends that know my girl side.

[immike]

I would be petrified to tell my family.I wore mothers clothes for many years,in secret,and I'm sure she probably did not know