Not sure if outed or not...

[Tiffanyselkoe]

The other day my daughter was at a friends house working on a school project. My wife was a little under the weather and taking a nap while I made dinner. I was totally made up in Tiffany mode when my daughter called to be picked up. I told her I would be right there, not wanting to wake up my wife, but told her that I would honk in the driveway and to come on out when I got there. I got to her friends house, pulled in the driveway, and honked the horn. To my horror, her friend's father backed out of the garage, stopping beside me. I was like, oh crap, oh crap, oh crap! I figured I would try to play it out and see what happened. Her father came to the drivers window and I told him I was there to pick up Rebekah ( my daughter). He told me she wasn't there but he would look inside and ask his wife and daughter. He was very cordial and I never got any clue he thought I was really a guy in girls clothing. He checked and came back to the car, verifying that Rebekah was indeed not there. I thanked him and went on my way. Turns out I went to the wrong friends house! I got home and my wife was up and told me that I had gone to the wrong place and she went and picked Rebekah up as I had no idea where the other friend lived. Rebekah's first friend has asked her who the lady was who came to pick her up. My wife told her to tell her it was her aunt lol. Maybe I actually fooled someone. I'll have to be more careful.

[Suzie Petersen]

Thats almost asking for trouble Tiffany <lol>
I take it your daughter is fine with you dressed!

- Suzie

[Tiffanyselkoe]

Yes she is. My wife, my daughter, and I sometimes have what we call nail night doing pedicures and painting each other's toenails. Just fun stuff.

[Suzie Petersen]

That's wonderful!
So then .. does it matter if you are "read" by your daughters friends father? Would anyone really care?

- Suzie

[Marcelle]

Hi Tiffany,

It is hard to say. I guess it depends on how well you present female and your voice. I inevitably find that if you blend well enough people seldom process past the salient, hair, make-up, clothing . . . woman. It gets a bit more difficult when you have to interact because people tend to look you in the face and process a bit deeper (facial features) and then voice (femme or more male) is sometimes an indicator. Of course this also depends on how pre-occupied the man was with his own thoughts. I would suggest that if you were read by the man it is likely you will find out soon enough depending on how much the guy feels like sharing it with others. If it was no big deal to him, he might not say anything or he may choose to share with his wife only.

I would gauge the situation over time and see what becomes of it. If you are not concerned that others know I would not worry about it and let things run their course. If you have reason to be concerned and you hear it through the rumour mill, you may want to get out front of that rumour mill and control it on your terms.

I would also add that since your wife and daughter know about this side of you and are supportive, you may want to discuss this with them so they are not blindsided should the rumour get out. As well, your daughter might be able to gauge any potential release of information from her friend's father.

Hugs

Isha

[Beverley Sims]

Tiffany,
You might have been lucky this time.

[SamanthaSometimes]

If I understood your story correctly, Rebekah's first friend never saw you. The only person who actually saw you was the father. Therefore the only information relayed about you was from the father who must have reported you as a woman to Rebekah's first friend. Sounds to me like you got a "passing" grade on that test.