"Stupid little story" but had to post

[AndreaCalifCD]

I've only been crossdressing for - hmmmm, around 35 years(ish) and finally, tonight, I went out for a short drive.

Nothing much in the great scheme of things, and many of you go out and socialize etc,
But for me, stepping foot out side the front door - Woah!
The clocks change soon, I may be tempted to do it again!

[Nadya]

Sometimes you have to start small to realize the world won't stop because of what you are doing. Maybe you'll end up taking it further when you get comfortable leaving the house dressed. :) I'm glad you got to go out and it sounds like you had fun doing it.

[justmetoo]

What Allaryce said. It's not a stupid story. One short drive for Andrea, one giant leap for CDkind, or something. :)
The moral of the story is you got out.

[Jean 103]

I started out going for a drive, then stop buy gas at the pump, next go in but anything. Small steps, before you know you’re out there. One of the hardest for me was standing in line at a checkout. The more you go out, the more you will want to, and you will become more at ease with it. You’re in SoCal? Come to join us in Vegas in Three weeks. It will be my first time there. I go out a lot into the vanilla world. It’s really not that bad.

[chelyann]

congratulations, se the world did not end.
now that you let the Jennie out of the bottle have fun, just be careful :)

[Rachael Leigh]

Now you've done it Andrea it's all over, pretty soon you will put on your best look and head to the mall shopping but that's ok shopping is a girls best friend right?

[bridget thronton]

Well done Andrea thanks for sharing

[AndreaCalifCD]

Yes, I had fun, even got out a couple of times! The local post office to pick up a few envelopes and a largish strip mall
I'm already planning a little shopping trip tomorrow for my next night time drive!
(Note to self, 3" heels are not that bad to drive in, but something a little more sensible next time!)

[TinaZ]

Congrats! And remember, everyone has a different journey. An occasional drive might be just enough. Or it might lead to more. It's all up to you - not about what other people have done.

[vickim]

I was there two years ago. My first drive. Only below the waist at first. Then fully clothed with wig but no makeup (but still had the moustache ACK!!! ). Sooo worried the cops were going to pull me over. I still remember seeing a "Stupid Police Chase" video from 10 years ago where the person was finally caught and was a crossdresser :(. They made a big mocking deal of course....... Suffice to say I lived and no cop pulled me over. While I'm only to the point of going out twice so far to safe environments, I applaud you on pushing your envelope!!!!

Central Cali here. Represent! :)

[kimdl93]

We all start somewhere. Congratulations on your first!

[Allisa]

I thought I felt a shift in the CDing force, another one set free. The world did not end, the sun will shine again(soon I hope)and who knows going out may just become routine for you and shopping is too much fun in femme.

[Beverley Sims]

Andrea, start dark and work your way towards daylight. :)

[pamela7]

One short drive for Andrea, one giant leap for CDkind.

"what she said."

[docrobbysherry]

Wow, Andrea! 35 years? Aren't u the patient dresser! (Said the CD who dressed alone in a complete vacuum for 10 years!)

U have to be more careful when the clocks change. I do anyway. That means pulling out of the driveway for evening events while it's still lite and the neighbors can see Sherry driving my car!:eek:

[Teresa]

Congtrats Andrea, it is fun ! I hadn't done it for a while and I was stupid enough to wear my 4" boots, it really felt as if someone had messed with the pedals ! I'm glad it's automatic ! The problem I have is the panic attack I have when I start thinking " What if ? "

[Alice Torn]

What? No crowd with torches and pitchforks waiting when you got home?

[Helen_Highwater]

Well done you. It's how so many have begun their journey into the wider world inc me. Don't rush, take small steps and let your confidence and experience grow. Many trips, small pushed on the boundaries. That way you'll avoid getting into situations where you feel threatened.

[Jaymees22]

Congratulations on your first ride it does take some courage and then it becomes easier. Hugs Jaymee

[michelleddg]

Yay! By the power not vested in me I officially declare today to be Andrea Day here on cd.com. Congratulations! Hugs, Michelle

[Cheryl T]

I've only been crossdressing for - hmmmm, around 35 years(ish) and finally, tonight, I went out for a short drive.

Nothing much in the great scheme of things, and many of you go out and socialize etc,
But for me, stepping foot out side the front door - Woah!
The clocks change soon, I may be tempted to do it again!


Only 35 years?? A Newbie huh? LOL....
Don't feel your first venture was "nothing much". That first time out the door can be a "Freddy Kruger" moment for any of us. That's how it began for me. One step out, a short drive, a longer drive...and so on.
Even Neil Armstrong began with "One small step"....

[Caden Lane]

It took me thirty-eight years to realize what I was missing. Then I realized the only thing holding me back was my enemy inside me, fear. Glad to hear your world got a little bit bigger!

[Claire Cook]

Indeed Andrea, as Doc said you have been the patient one! So you've taken a deep breath of that good air and the world did not end .. I'll bet it's just beginning!

Hugs, Claire

[CarlaWestin]

And the fun begins! Andrea, I bet you can't wait to do it again? Next time, maybe a walk through the mall.

[Suzie Petersen]

I am sorry that happened to you Andrea! I am afraid there is nothing any of us can do to save you now ;)

Have fun
Suzie

[AndreaCalifCD]

Perhaps I'm "reviving" an "old" thread, but I just want to thank everybody for their positive comments. I've just got home from another drive around town (one of several since my first).

It while while I was out, it hit me as to where I could possibly go for a walk...
I've been wracking my brains trying to think of somewhere "public", but "safe" but also where I could be (somewhat [hopefully!]) inconspicuous!

I'm wondering if any locals could perhaps point out anything I might be missing... As I live somewhat close to Huntington Beach, I noticed tonight that the parking area around Goldenwest and Pacific Coast Hwy wasn't very busy. There is a grass area along the side of the road (with lots of metered parking), then there is a very wide foot path, and below that the beach.

I'm thinking this much space (the grass area and the path), will allow me to walk, fairly privately, along the beach/bluff area for a while, and should I see anyone coming, I'll be able to move from the path to the grass and vice-versa, to hopefully avoid any close calls

I'm guessing this area is fairly safe around dusk time. I won't be out late (so as not to attract the attention of any passing law enforcement), but hopefully dark enough to at least partially hide I'm a non-passable 6' 2" guy out for a walk while dressed!

I'm a bit nervous about my first time outside the car, but I'm thinking this might work (especially before it gets even more busy with summer tourists)

Unless anyone can say otherwise!?!

[Sarah-RT]

Congratulations Andrea, one small step at a time!

[Marcelle]

Hi Andrea,

Any step, irrespective of how big or how long it took is a positive one in the right direction. CONGRATS!

Hugs

Isha

[Sometimes Steffi]

I read somewhere that there was a change in the Earth's magnetic field. Was that you?

I remember one of the first times driving, this boy in the car in front of me kept staring at me.

I decided it was more important to watch the road.

[Kirsty Louise]

Great start Andrea, well done, not a stupid story at all

[katie elouise]

Andrea that's great news and I am so pleased for you ,its not a race to be first out of the door ,but a journey to be taken at your own pace, in your own time ,well done lady .Katie x.

[Krisi]

Driving is fine (unless you have an accident, a breakdown or get stopped by the police). The hard part is getting to and from your house to the car without the neighbors seeing you. I underdress and finish dressing in the car in a parking lot somewhere. A PITA and it limits what I can easily do, but it works for me.

As for walking down a path and jumping behind a bush every time someone walks by, I wouldn't do that, just keep walking. Wear sunglasses to hide your face and avoid eye contact.

[Kristy 56]

Krisi,those have all been my exact fears when driving too. Haven't been out in a few years now,but I used to go out almost everywhere. Thankfully never had any problems.

[Michelle 78]

Well done you!:) it's not a small step at all, it seems I wasn't the only one that started out by going out for a drive.

[AndreaCalifCD]

OK - this is my last post on this - I promise! I won't be boring anybody with this anymore ;)

I've just got back from my "little" outting (literally, not metaphorically [well, I don't think so!])
I managed to get to the beach just as the sun was setting. Finding a parking spot was very easy, not very busy at all, surprisingly. So I parked, put a couple of coins in the meter and had a little walk up and down enjoying the ocean view. I'm not big on selfies, but I thought to commemorate the "event", I'd take one with the ocean behind me.
It was then a guy pulled up, and parked in the next but one space behind me!
All that space, and he's almost directly behind me... And I'm sure he looking... Anyway, I quickly took the pic, and pretty much dash into the car full speed. At this point I'm sure he's guessed, as this time I see him looking as I watch in the mirror as I get ready to leave. But first I check the pic - which looked absolutely terrible!! So I delete it and drive off.
Next is my plan to get gas. To cut a long story short, success at the 3rd gas station! The first didn't take cash, the second was wayyy too busy, but the 3rd was nearly empty.
This evening felt quite liberating - skirt and hair blowing in the wind (it was quite windy this evening), and doing something (everyday normal & mundane you normally never think about for 1 second in guy mode) in public.
Of course I did my best to stay out of view as much as possible being totally non-passable... but still... I did enjoy it.
Like I said, last word on the subject!

[Married CD]

Andrea, thanks for sharing, and congratulations.

[Samantha2015]

Congrats on your going out Andrea. Not boring at all. It's great to hear different ideas on venturing out. I still have to find the courage to do it.
I walked out on my balcony overlooking the apartment complex at 2am once and still had a small panic attack.
Thanks for posting your story. :)

[abby054]

I started out going for a drive, then stop buy gas at the pump, next go in but anything. Small steps, before you know you’re out there. One of the hardest for me was standing in line at a checkout. The more you go out, the more you will want to, and you will become more at ease with it. You’re in SoCal? Come to join us in Vegas in Three weeks. It will be my first time there. I go out a lot into the vanilla world. It’s really not that bad.

That is how I started also. Go for a drive. Stop to fill the tank. Get fast food at the drive through window. Before long, I was doing all kinds of things out and about.

[Dana44]

Andrea, yep it is a start. Thinking back I do have a lot of confidence and go out about twice a month for movies and dinner. Or shopping during the day. Be careful and try a little more each time.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Andrea, you are out there now there's no holding you back anymore:hugs:.