looking at myself

[lynda]

hi girls, some times I look down at painted toes and nails , then at the shaved legs and my hair down to my shoulders and I just don't recognize myself anymore, I don't know I feel im at a crossroad in my cding. to go all the way with or try to break away completely. would anyone know a good gender therapist in nj , if you do please pm me. thanks lynda

[mykell]

hi lynda,
found this...https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_results.php?state=NJ&spec=187
and this http://www.lifescript.com/doctor-directory/condition/g-gender-identity-disorder-nj.aspx
with a quick search...

[Allisa]

I see your a tad older than myself but I have often thought that myself, I've tried to "break away" too but felt miserable and now I am at one with myself and all the femme things I do to myself i.e. longer painted nails, long hair, hair free body, pierced ears, etc...I hope you find your answers it took me along time to find mine. Sorry I don't know of any therapists. Soul searching can be quite a process and rather tiring. Again Good-luck in your quest.

[Beverley Sims]

I think these are feelings we all get sometimes so don't try to stop the world and get off, it probably won't work.

Consider carefully whether you need to see a gender therapist.

[taralynne]

I think back to a lot of times when I was dressing regularly and thought the same way you did Lynda. Then I would break away for a bit and feel incomplete. I broke away completely when I met my wife 7 years ago, and just recently started again. I suppressed it an finally I got to a point where I would see a woman in an outfit and say to myself "I want that outfit" or " I know I would look better in it" Or see a pair of heels and want them in the worst way. I realized it was a part of me, that it makes me happy, and that there is nothing wrong with it. I tried therapy several years ago when I was experiencing emotional and mental issues that I thought were tied to my dressing and quickly found out that they weren't. Instead I found that the dressing was appeasing some of the issues, and I felt and continue to feel at ease when I dress. When you go to find a therapist try to find a woman, they seem to be more understanding in my experience. I hope this helps you and that you find your happiness.

[Jaymees22]

Hi, You could try http://www.healthytransitionsllc.org/ they seem to do it all or would at least point you in the right direction. Jaymee