50 shades of Grey and the courage to go see it!

[Nicolesmyth]

Well I did it! I actually went into a 24 screen theater with two floors in it. By the time I mustered the courage(and motivation from some nice ladies on my previous post) the only thing showing at that time was 50 shades of grey. Having not read the book I only knew a little about the movie from people (primarily woman) that had read and seen it. Well let's just say it was a soft porn candy coated. If you're into that then its probably the movie for you. Anyways, thanks to the ladies that encouraged me I was able to get out of the car and go for it. So, I went into the lobby and walked up to a kiosk (no cashier) so that was good. Went to the ticket attendant and he was very nice. Let me tell you up close and sometimes from a distance I don't pass, but I'm working on presentation and to go for it(easier said than done) no matter what. So, once pass the ticket attendant I went pass all the concessions no standing in line, because it was a rainy day here in Houston and that means people are going to the theaters. I was in screen 17 and of course that meant continuing through the theater and up the two story escalator with all the other movie goers. Finally, made it to a seat up high and in the back. The theater filled the previews started and I settled in for the movie. I have to say my heart was beating out of my chest going through that lobby and up the really long escalator. As the movie ended I searched for the exit behind the screen (as I couldn't get the nerve to go back the way that I had came in). Went out the door and I was up about two plus stories with stairs to navigate. Fortunately, it wasn't raining at that time and I was able to make it down with out a slip or a fall. Made it to the car exhaled and started to plan the next outing! I'm not sure what compels me to want to get out in public, but yet be so scared to do it. They say it gets easier the more you do it and I'm hoping so, because it's so much fun. Next I have to work on interacting with the general public and retail associates.
Nicole

[Ceera]

Congratulations! I was actually debating the same excursion today, but with the added fun of first trying a stop at Sephoria in the mall where the theater is, for a makeover. I have yet to dare to set foot in a mall at all while en-femme, but the idea of a makeover and then treating myself to a movie sounded good. Unfortunately, I did my bills first, and... well it really should wait until next payday. But sometime soon, I will try that too!

[Charlyne]

Thanks for posting Nicolesmyth, I have never done that public in your face walk. It was exciting to read of your adventure. Hope you post your next outing!

[JayeLefaye]

YAY Nichole!!! I couldn't respond to your earlier thread, but I was rooting for you!

Congrats! After a time or two, you won't be looking to sneak out the side door, you'll be strutting right back through the lobby while trying to think of another stop you can make on the way home, because it took soooo much to get ready that it just seems as shame not to max out your time:-)

Jaye

[justmetoo]

Congratulations! I go out shopping without much trepidation, and I've dined en femme with others, and stopped for hot chocolate (no coffee for me), but I've never been to the movies en femme.

[Allisa]

I knew you could do it, congrats. See just another face in the crowd. My first movie was "too Wang Fu, thank-you Julie Newman" so I was just another "queen" in the crowd.

[Eryn]

Congratulations on taking this step. I haven't seen 50 shades yet but will probably get around to it soon.

[chelyann]

way to go Nichole, and you lived to do it again :)

[SharonDenise]

Thanks for your posting. I have yet to try going en femme to a movie but I would like to eventually try. I've read all three books but have a criticism about them. Due to my specific "hard-wiring" I would have preferred it if the roles had been reversed in the book with the man being the submissive. Do other cross dressers feel the same way?

[ReineD]

I'm not sure what compels me to want to get out in public, but yet be so scared to do it.

I don't understand it either. I remember how scary or rather nerve-wracking it was for my SO in the beginning, and it didn't look to me like she was having fun. But, she always wanted more.

Can anyone explain this?

I was thinking about seeing the movie. My SO is gone this week, maybe I'll go by myself!

Congratulations on your outing!

[Rachelakld]

Congratulations.
I made it to the foyer, but decided I didn't actually want to watch 50 Shades, went back home to watch tv with wife & kids.
Wednesday is a good chic flick and it's promoted as a "girls night out", so that's my next target.

BTW,
I think you do fine as a woman, don't worry about the passing bit as there will always be something that gives us away to a super observant female.
Also when you interact with the public, never take offence, always smile, and if someone "spots" you, just have fun with it (use a super deep manly voice etc)
What you give out, is normally what is returned, so happiness and fun should be on your list to give out.

[docrobbysherry]

I saw Grey today, too. I don't go to movies dressed. Altho, I should have made an exception for this one. Then, I would have been too nervous to nearly doze off like I did. There was plenty of female nudity and the guy was topless some. But, I didn't get "porn" from any of it. Unfortunately!:brolleyes:
Mostly, it was a lot of closeups of the 2 leads staring!

If you're into SM or bondage at all, skip this one. But, if you're not, and r curious about why it's such a hit with women in general, go see it.


I don't understand it either. I remember how scary or rather nerve-wracking it was for my SO in the beginning, and it didn't look to me like she was having fun. But, she always wanted more.

Can anyone explain this? ------------------------------------

I can't, Reine. I don't get it either. Unless dressers can pass or simply enjoy the attention they get from being out as a man in a dress? Who would enjoy the stress of possibly being harassed, heckled, or see a lot of smerks and eye rolling at their expense?

Maybe it's moth drawn to flame thing? :doh:

[Jenniferathome]

I don't understand it either. I remember how scary or rather nerve-wracking it was for my SO in the beginning, and it didn't look to me like she was having fun. But, she always wanted more.

Can anyone explain this? ...

I think the "scared" part is more like the feeling I have when flying down a single track on my mountain bike. It could go wrong, I don't think it will, but being on the edge of disaster is an adrenaline rush and it is somehow "freeing." I think this is a guy thing for the most part. My wife doesn't understand my love of speed and risk of serious injury. Cross dressing in public is a possible disaster, we don't think it will be and it is a freeing feeling. Very similar. Of course, the more you do it, the less rush one feels but more free. My take, anyway.

[Cheryl James]

Going out to a movie dressed is on my list of things to do. A window of opportunity is approaching in about three weeks. I hope I can pull it off. Gray may no longer be showing, though. Finding a movie will be easier than the actual trip itself. Congratulations to you. That is a big step for you.

[JenniferR771]

To me its a form of acceptance. Even though the people who see me are unwilling participants and probably unaware much of the time that I am not as I appear.
Its also a validation--that I can appear as a woman and I have attained one of my goals... apassable woman (in appearance).
Mysterious, I know. Non-sensicsal, so true.

[Nicolesmyth]

Jennifer,
I like your take and I think you're on to something with that adrenaline and freeing idea.
Nicole

[taralynne]

I went with my wife to see 50 shades, mostly out of the curiousity of why everyone was so hyped up about it. I like the storyline and found it to be rather intense in the sex scenes, but not at all what I expected based on what my wife had told me about it. She said it was toned way down from the books.

[CONSUELO]

I think congratulations are in order for your fortitude in watching 50 Shades of Grey let alone doing it dressed.
I bought the paperback book and after reading one chapter I put it aside and have never taken it up since. The writing is appalling and some of the worst I have come across. I just could not go on reading something so badly written.

[Julie Denier]

Good for you, Nicole! ;)

[Nikki A.]

The first time out is always the hardest. I'm not a movie person so I've never been to a movie dressed. However I've done almost everything else and it's almost second nature by now.
If I'm "read" so be it, as long as I look the part I get treated as I present more often than not.

[Nadine Spirit]

Well I did it! I actually went into a 24 screen theater with two floors in it.

Good for you Nicole!



I don't understand it either. I remember how scary or rather nerve-wracking it was for my SO in the beginning, and it didn't look to me like she was having fun. But, she always wanted more.

Can anyone explain this?





I think the "scared" part is more like the feeling I have when flying down a single track on my mountain bike. It could go wrong, I don't think it will, but being on the edge of disaster is an adrenaline rush and it is somehow "freeing."

I agree that in the beginning it was like this for me, but it has not been for a long time. So while that was there, there was also something else. I kind of remember at the time, before I went out but had decided that I wanted to, that I was tired of hiding and thinking that I was doing something wrong. I decided to dress this way and I felt that by hiding and not actually living my life this way that I was indicating that I was somehow ashamed of myself. Thus so while it was terrifying getting out at first, it was something I needed to do for myself. To prove to myself that I am okay with myself and I don't think that what I am doing is wrong.

[justmetoo]

In answer to Reine, I'm not sure either. I suppose there are different answers for each of us. For me, it's probably similar to what JenniferR771 (post #15) said, with a little of what Nadine said in the latter part of post #21. The fear was because of society (or my perception of it), the need to get out was because of me. Like the song says, I gotta be me. :) There was never any kind of "adrenaline rush" or anything like that in it for me. It was more like self-expression that had to be let out eventually.

[Jenniferathome]

I'll second that Nadine! I've often written that going out is like screaming from a rooftop that I am a cross dresser without saying a word.

[lingerieLiz]

Glad you made it out in public. I can remember my first time and several others. By the way we get excited and the adrenalin kicks in from the stress and adventure of it. We also receive a great surge of endorphins to go along with it. Just relax and enjoy it.

[ophelia]

My movie dollars are sparse. I have only seen trailers which basically told the whole story. I've read and viewed some reviewers I respect. Apparently I made up a far better script in my head. "9 1/2 Weeks" covered all of that anyway.
Most serious reviewers panned it as badly acted and poorly written. If I went I would wear a bag over my head until the house lights went down for the shame of wasting hard-earned cash on questionable "art".
On the other hand, Bird Man, The Good Lie, The Book Thief, Belle, the Theory of Everything....money proudly spent.
That and the fact that I think the book ruined my last relationship....

[Dana44]

I went with my SO to see the Lazarus effect dressed for the first time out. I was dressed my age and the kids at the theater were as nice as they could be. I think they saw through me. Although when we arrived home, my SO said that she was not comfortable. I felt good out there and did not see anybody looking at me funny. That statement by her hit me hard and I talked it over with her. She said dinner and a movie next time. I said not for a while. We did go and see 50 shades of grey a few weeks ago.

[grace7777]

Congratulations, Nicole!

When I started going out dressed en femme, I first went to gay/tg bars, but After a while I got tired of the bars, and I found the movies to be a great replacement. There were times that I would see 2 movies in a night, so I could stay out dressed.

If one is starting to go out dressed en femme, I think the movies are a great place to start.

[Beverley Sims]

Well like the fledgling taking it's first flight, you have "done it".

Congratulations.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Congratulations!

I have a CD friend much braver than me, and she and her wife go out a lot together. I know that getting clocked increases as the square of the number of CDers in the group, but I think it goes down by the fourth power of the number of GGs in the group. So, it all averaged out.

So they talked me into going to see 50 shades today. And then we went to a Mexican restaurant for dinner. I went out in the shortest dress I;ve ever been out in. It's a gray sweater dress with 3/4 sleeves, but it's so short, it almost looks like a long tunic. No strange looks, no snide remarks, just 3 girls going to the movies. I could get used to this.

This movie was a startling revelation to me, not that I've never seen S&M or dom/sub, at least in herd core porn.

The girl asks the guy why he's likes it [dom/sub], and he answers, "That's just the way I am."

That's the same answer I could give if I was asked why I CD.

[PaulaQ]

Congratulations on your outing!

I convinced my boyfriend to take me to see 50 shades a couple of weeks ago. (I think he secretly wanted to see it, but didn't want to admit it.) It was OK, although I thought "The Secretary" was better.

I was really scared the first time I went out. It was to a trans support group in Tulsa. I looked awful. My second outing was a week later - I went to the sane support group, changed there, and then afterward went out to a Kilkenny's Pub in Tulsa. It was fine. I stopped worrying about it on that second outing.

[Mia001]

Well done Nicole. I'm glad you managed those stairs without any incidents.