I think I'm done with this :(

[stacy956]

So in a chat room today I had my pic in my profile the one I have here and this girl messages me and starts telling me how I'm such an ugly drag queen and this this other witch was a lesbian tom boy also start telling me I should just stop being such a ugly dude dressed as a girl I feel so horrible sense I've been called ugly even as in drab and sense I was a little kid I've been always called ugly and now I wanna throw all my stuff away and Killy my inner Stacy for good :(

[char GG]

Just get out of those toxic chat rooms! If you truly want to be done, then be done. Otherwise, ignore the haters.

[Nadine Spirit]

Wow, what mean people. I'd say forget them! Who cares about the opinions of people who are obviously so internally ugly. What they look like on the outside is irrelevant with behavior like that.

[Marcelle]

Hi Stacy,

Please don't listen to the ramblings of small minded people have to say. It is likely these two clowns are just bitter people with an axe to grind and are looking to pull others into their drain of misery. My advice keep you inner Stacy alive and happy and ignore these two idiots. If they get stupid again, I would complain to the moderators of that chat room (if there is such a thing . . . sorry not a chat room person) and have their collective annoying butts canned. If no moderator, just ignore them. I realize that is easier said than done, but if you let them get the best of you, you will kill off a part of yourself and that is never a good thing . . . especially with this thing we do.

Hugs

Isha

[Jenniferathome]

A complete stranger says something critical and YOU feel bad? They're a dick! Write it off. You can't expect to get stroked every time you interact with someone. Let it go.

[Laura28]

Stacey

What matters is how u feel. If you let other people rule your life then I can assure u they will also ruin your life. What do you car what people on the Internet think or say.

[Katey888]

Just ignore them Stacy.... Who the heck are they anyway to judge you or anyone else! :)

Do something nice for yourself that you like doing... watch a good movie, make a favourite cocktail... spoil yourself a little bit and put this behind you... They're probably just envious... Karma will get them back! :D

Katey x

[Rachael Leigh]

Stacy the internet makes it easy to be mean to others, like all have said here just ignore them.
Hang in there and be blessed

[Petra222]

Stacey, just ignore them. They obviously have something missing in their lives if they have to resort to such abuse.
Hang in there, just eat up those comments and use them to make you stronger.

[wanda66]

move on girl. Don't let the feeble minds of others dictate your feelings...

[Alice_2014_B]

I say forget them!
There will always be mean people, especially in such chat rooms where it is very easy to get away with such derogatory comments. I would never give up anything just because of some immature individuals.
Surround yourself and chat with positivity and nice people.

:)

[CountessVF]

#1 - I agree with them others about ignoring hate and not letting cruelty on the Internet or in person define who you are or what you do.

#2 - I took a look at your profile photo. Better looking than a lot of cd'ers. I've never shared a dressed up faceshot. Partly because of beard, but more so for fear of rejection or job loss.

[Julie Denier]

^ What they all said. Don't listen to jerks -- you have friends here ;)

[Christi]

Hey Stacy, just to share it one more time, ignore them small people. Hold your pretty head high, GF...:hugs::hugs:

[Sarah Beth]

Internet chat rooms are full of "trolls" like that. They are so unhappy with their own lives and their own circumstances they want any excuse they can to make life miserable for others.

I just remember what I was told by mother years and years ago. The beauty of a person is found in how they treat you and not what they look like. Some ugly people are attractive on outside.

From your profile pic on here I don't see a thing for them to go on about. I've seen GG's who don't look as good as you do.

[Maria 60]

STOP! STOP! STOP! Really, it feels like I am talking to my ten year old daughter here. What happened to sticks and stones, relax it's not like it's coming from someone you really give a sh&t about what they really think. I don't think your ugly I wished I look as famine as you. Come on we have bigger shoulders then that and we are much stronger then that to.Look where's it's coming from before you get all bonkers on us.

[PaulaQ]

They are just jealous, Stacy. It's likely neither of them could present as femininely as you do. A butch lesbian? Shoot. Give me a break!

[pamela7]

there is "conventional beauty", something largely unattainable for 98% of us, and then there is a massive range and variety of human forms. Every person is beautiful to someone, it's just a matter of 1. finding that other person, 2. being with friends who accept you as you are not for how you look, 3. being above the opinions of anyone small-minded enough to think they can judge you.

[kimdl93]

Here's the deal. Chat rooms are perfect hangouts for trolls. They get their pleasure by (attempting) to inflict pain on others. Find a better place to spend your precious time.

[Greenie]

People are ass holes. Especially with the protection of their computer screen. I have been called some of the nastiest names. You see how people treat each other even on here some times. The internet is an awful and cruel place.

As a CDer you will always find oposistion to your general appearance on the internet. As a GG, I still find people who think its appropriate to call me names. It doesnt actually mean you are ugly. They get their rocks off being assholes to others.

If you are going to CD and post pictures of yourself online (or just post pictures online really) you will need to get a tougher skin when the assholes share their opinions.

[Rachel_B]

Those people must have been insecure with themselves in order to make comments like. Working at Wal-Mart, I see lots of people from very pretty to the not so pretty. It takes guts to go out in public and not get made fun of or get nasty comments thrown your way... even the pretty ones have to worry about that! The bottom line is that, like most of the other ladies here, dressing and appearing a female is a part of them. If Stacy is a big part of you, you'll never be rid of her for very long; she will come back no matter how hard you try to keep her away.

[~Joanne~]

I am going to agree with what everyone here has already said, there will be those people with nothing nice to say ever and that's how it is when you hide behind a fake screen name. You should just ignore them all around. Matter of fact, you should ditch the chatrooms all around. Nothing good ever comes of those things.

[JayeLefaye]

Hi Stacy,,I just did the math, and in 31/2 hours, 22 people here cared enough to log on try to give you cheer. 22 REAL people. REAL friends(albeit with pseudonyms:-). It's amazing how just a couple of ignorant, mean and wrong('cause you're a FAR FAR cry from ugly!!) comments can negate kind words. But they can only have power if YOU let them!

22 folks have taken the time to say kind words. That should mean so, so, so much more than a couple of anonymous trolls. Don't give the trolls the power.

BTW, I hate chat rooms for this very reason...Plus, things just move too fast and i can't keep up.

As the others here have said, let it slide like water off a lovely duckling!

Jaye

[GretchenJ]

Hi Stacy,

Chat rooms are just a warehouse for idiots and people trying to think they are funny, but they are just morons.
Hold your head up high, and just carry on!

[Kandi Robbins]

Stay out of the chat rooms and live in the real world!

You are a living, breathing human being and are worthy of respect. Any coward who hides behind their computer calling people names and does not have the balls to interact with real humans does not deserve even knowing you! Let alone have them effect you.

Be who you are and love yourself! You just have to say "F@#k it" sometimes.

[Robin777]

Stacy,

I agree with everyone else here don't let 2 idiots get under your skin. Don't go to chat rooms as other people have said most of them are full of a-holes just trying to pick a fight and they get their jollies insulting people. Hell,I will be the first to admit I wasn't treated the nicest when I was in school. Being an introvert I stayed to myself. I got over it. don't let someone stop you from doing what you love to do.

[Lauri K]

Like others have said "chat rooms" can be full of hate and discontented aggression.

Unless you really know the folks in the chat room and environment there; it's best to just stay away from chat rooms.

You will feel better soon, keep your spirits up ~

[NicoleScott]

Thanks to the anonymity of internet communications, I am able to discuss things that I could not discuss with people who know my true identity. It's great. You are experiencing the flip side of this anonymity, nameless faceless bullies who will not be held accountable. Blow it off.

[Angie G]

I've known people that think they are so "all that" and think everyone other then they are now good or ugly or way lower then they are. It makes me sick. Don't listsen to them. I don't think anyone hee thinks your ugly Stacy. Come on girl you've got it going hun. If you want to see ugly you should see me in mackup girl.I think it would bring a screamout of a lot of people.And get off those stupstupid chat rooms hun.:hugs:
Angie

[AndreaSC]

Stacy, those people are foolish, I think you are GOREOUS and you should keep up the GREAT work, from one BBW to another!!! ;)

[stacy956]

Thanx everyone for you lovely words for cheering me up and you ladys are right i have gotten off from that social media site and im just going to stick with my true friends here im really staying strong and once agin thank you all i needed this

[Bethany_Anne_Fae]

Stacy, everyone has given some solid advice here, and you should listen to them. If you enjoy getting made up, you like what you do and your obviously not hurting anyone... then live your life. But do it away from people like that. Seriously, block them, don't bother replying, etc cause that's what they want and they enjoy making others feel small because they can't get any gratification in their own lives without downing someone else. Be YOU and seriously LIVE ;)

[Tonya Rose]

Huge hugs stacy!!!! :hugs:

[Aprilweathers]

They're just transferring their insecurity onto you, or possibly feel threatened by the profile pic. Like you're trespassing on their turf or something. Don't give them the power though by letting their comments affect you. Hard because it's human nature to be offended by remarks like that, but look at all the positive feedback you got here. Letting this upset you is like ignoring the 99 people in your corner, cheering you on, and focusing on the one random idiot shouting you down. Don't ignore the positive aspects of Stacy and hold onto the negative opinion of a couple random idiots.

Be strong, and don't kill off Stacy, because she will probably haunt you and stuff.

[justmetoo]

Sounds like you've made a good decision to ditch the trolls and hang on to Stacy! Best wishes!

[Victoria Demeanor]

Hi Stacy,
unlike normal I read your post, but didn't read through the replies, but I know what they all say. Look girl YOU ARE CUTE. I went to your profile page and yes you have nothing to worry about. Seriously don't worry about what some neophyte on a chat site said. they have some issues about themselves and they are just taking it out on you, I"m sitting here looking at your avatar and baby you got it going on. your profile picture, damn girl beautiful and if I didn't know what site I was on, I would say all girl.... Please don't let this one little b....... get you down honey, you are just fine.:)

[valeriesue]

Stacy,

I am new here but I am impressed with the out pouring of support you received in this post and that should make you feel a little better. I do understand how words can hurt. I had a similar situation a couple of years back. I was chatting with a GG and we had talked for sometime and were really getting a long good. Until I made the mistake of telling her I was a cross-dresser. talk about 180 degree change. she called me every name in the book and some that were not even in the book. It too had a negative impact on me. I just remember all the people who did love me and the good friends I had (even though they don't know about my cding) and remember that I will never have to speak to that person again. You are beautiful and from the short time I have been here you are surround by people who care and support you. Grab on to that and put the bad out of your mind.

[Pat]

I'm sure you've gotten the message. ;) Let your inner Stacy shine. You don't do it for them; you do it for you. You have a place in the world, you have a right to be here. We all do.

[Hosstile17]

The Internet is the personification of a jerk with a megaphone. Please ignore it.

[stacy956]

You ladys are right we all have a place here and im glad we all have each other makes me feel much better

[docrobbysherry]

Glad to see u turned your umbrella upside down, Stacy!:thumbsup:

Anyone can find a pointless chat room filled with unhappy 1/2 wits. But, you've STRUCK GOLD! U found THIS "chat room". Filled with and run by folks who care and want to help u! Not tear u down so they'll feel superior!:thumbsdn:

[Suzie Petersen]

Hey Stacy,
Dont let them get to you. We love you! Nothing else matters :)

Hugs
Suzie

[Barbara Black]

I always wanted to chat with people, but NEVER have been able to find one that stayed on subject. They always degrade to trolling without any legit conversation. Stay here Stacy, as was said above, people who care about you.

[Eryn]

So in a chat room today

That was your mistake, as others have noted.


I had my pic in my profile the one I have here and this girl messages me and starts telling me how I'm such an ugly drag queen and this this other witch was a lesbian tom boy also start telling me I should just stop being such a ugly dude dressed as a girl...

How do you know that they are what they say their are? Behind the computer the "girl" might be a 14-year-old boy in Irving, TX and the "lesbian" might be a 60-year-old guy in Latvia.

Real life is much more fun and the people are, on the whole, a lot nicer.

[stacy956]

Thanx ladys for the support and eryn i hadnt thought of it that way

[Tina955]

Unbelievable, Stacy what I see in your pic is a very pretty lady, and I am dead serious. Ugly, NO WAY!
Just blows me away how creepy some scumbags can be. I don't even consider them to be people.

Tina

[ReineD]

I can see your picture too and you are NOT ugly, Stacy. Don't believe them, they're wrong. And very mean.

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

Worrying about the opinions of people I don't know, or care about, ranks very low on my list of 'things to give a shit about'.

Keep doing what makes you happy, and politely extend your middle finger to those who try to hurt you with their poisonous personalities and attitudes.

[DressyJenny]

I wouldn't put much stock in to what people say in chat rooms. The internet is full of people who just want to cause trouble and to put people down. A lot of times these people would never say these things in real life but hide behind the anonymous atmosphere of the the internet. These people often have self confidence problems themselves. It's not worth letting them get you down. They don't know you.

[Stephanie47]

I engaged in a chat room all the time. It's called my living room in my house where I entertain family and friends. I don't belong to any social media sites-PERIOD. They are a total distraction from real life experiences.

[donnalee]

Why, in the name of all that's holy, would you care what these people think? Idiots are subject to Darwin's Law; all you need to do is to wait until they p*ss off the wrong person; problem solved.
Someone had this in their signature:
" If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by."
Take heart; you have friends here.

[BOBBI G.]

I would kill to have your looks. As you can tell I don't have any I care to share. I broke my last two cameras trying self portraits in my studio.

Bobbi

[phylis anne]

as what others have said stay off the chat rooms and be yourself that is the most important thing look into a mirror dressed and say this is me this is who i am , the hell with the rest of the world so chin up and strut your stuff
hugs phylis anne

[Amanda M]

All I can say is that these two people must have mislaid their spectacles as well as their sense of decency. Chin up, beautiful!

[Beverley Sims]

Stacy,
Internet trolls are everywhere, it is far easier to hand it straight back to them.

Trouble is you are then sinking to their level.

I would just go away and talk sense with others out there.

There are places you know. :)

[Annaliese]

Your going to listen to Jealous Mean girl, bulling has to stop, the first step is to not give them power over you or any of us. Girl you are beautiful.

[Nikkilovesdresses]

What makes you think they're girls Stacy? They could both be one angry guy in Nebraska.

Not that I have anything against Nebraskans I hasten to add.

[Khora]

As I'm sure it's been already mentioned, the internet is full of trolls. These are people that hide behind the anonymity of the internet and spew out vitriolic garbage because they just love getting a rise out of others or making others feel bad. Ignore them Stacy, they mean nothing to you and keep yourself surrounded by the positive people who care about you.

[Tracii G]

Don't let those jerks get to you they are just trying to make themselves feel better about how they look.
I have had that happen too and I didn't leave because of one or two haters.

[stacy956]

so heart warming to see im not alone here im feeling much better today and im not gonna let them get the best of me thanx ladys im much better because of each and every single one of you ladys :) you girls are the best

[giuseppina]

Go get 'em, Stacy.

[JocelynJames]

I will say what Ive said to others, and I usually don't do the advice thing. If it makes you happy and it hurts no one, go for it. Some people are only happy when making others miserable. If you enjoy it and want to be happy, hang with those who accept you for who you are (period). This is that place and we're the people!

[Genny B]

Truth be known I'll bet she was upset because some other CD'er just stole her girlfriend because they could please her so much more! And you just happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time!

Genny B

[taossane]

Sorry to hear that.

[meganmartin]

OMG i am so sorry and from that picture you look wonderful.
Just like when we were kids some people only can rise themselves up by knocking down others....

Hugs girl again I am sorry.

[Kate Simmons]

Who cares what they say Stacy. Your beauty comes from within my friend. :)

[Isabella Ross]

Can only repeat what I've already read here, Stacy. 1. Stay out of chat rooms and 2. blow it off...you're a little too old to be insecure about a couple of idiots trying to get under your skin.

[siantv2003]

A complete stranger says something critical and YOU feel bad? They're a dick! Write it off. You can't expect to get stroked every time you interact with someone. Let it go.

I think Jennifer sums it up. You dont know these people they dont know you - they probably troll chat rooms looking for reactions. Walk away and dont let them get to you

[CONSUELO]

Don't stop what you love to do just because of some nasty comments by Internet trolls. What they said says a lot about them and nothing about you. Please don't let these evil little trolls get under your skin, blow them off.

[Brandy Mathews]

Stacy,
Good luck trying to stop dressing, I can't do it. I would advise you to stay out of those nasty chatrooms. I dress because I want to and it makes me feel pretty. Love that feeling. Hope things get better for you.
Hugs,
Bree :)

[Denise Mary]

I feel similarly. I dress because it makes me feel feminine and pretty.

I love the way lace and silk feels. I don't have many skills or much of a wardrobe. Me st of the time I'm on my own, but my one girlfriend loves it

[cheryl reeves]

me i never put much stock in what people think of me,if they want to be around me they accept me as i am or stay away from me..did y'all totally losr it when you dress up? im still one mean bitch in whatever clothes i wear.