Flattering comment from my counsellor !

[Teresa]

The sessions are going well, you don't realise how much has been harboured in your mind until the right person unlocks it !
Cutting out the deadwood and realising what is important and beginning to see a way ahead had to happen !
I took some of my recent pics in ( Posted in the picture galley a few weeks ago ,) to go through some points they raised , at the end she said how surprised she was and would not recognise me if she passed me in the street ! She did raise the issue of how happy I looked and sadly I agreed, that side of me may never be fully opened up and enjoyed I really must try and do something about it !

[Nikkilovesdresses]

I'm very glad to hear the sessions are productive Teresa. Dig deep. I'll stop there- I can feel gardening analogies coming on.

[giuseppina]

Glad to hear your sessions are proving useful. Therapists are supposed to expose things that have been put aside.

[PaulaQ]

She did raise the issue of how happy I looked and sadly I agreed, that side of me may never be fully opened up and enjoyed I really must try and do something about it !

Really, that says it all, right there. Teresa, as far as anyone can prove, we only get one trip through this life. Why would you want to live it in a state of unhappiness?

[Beverley Sims]

Teresa,
It is heartwarming to see something positive happening for you.
I hope it continues that way.

[Suzie Petersen]

Nikki: ... well you have to get to the Root, right!! ;)

Good for you Teresa. Noone said it was going to be easy.

Hugs
Suzie

[charlenesomeone]

Glad to hear that Teresa, hope it continues.
Hugs

[Katey888]

:)

Kinda does say it all Teresa...

So remind me what it is again that is forcing you into perennial unhappiness as opposed to some degree of happiness in your remaining years and (we hope) decades...?

Yes - you really must try... :waiting:

Katey x

[Brittany327]

After many years (actually decades), I've finally opened to my therapist.
Work in progress I'd suspect.

[Vikky]

Hi Teresa

So glad it is going well. Carpe diem.

Vikky

[Adelaide]

Good for you Theresa!
Unfortunately, my experience didn't turn out as well. You see, my wife doesn't support me at all. So I followed her advice and went on therapy. The therapist confirm I was a real crossdresser...who may even turn the corner towards permanent changes one day. I got dressed for her in one of the session and she admitted that I look very feminine and could pass easily...which was great! On the last session, my wife was invited to attend to listen to her conclusions. My wife was sooo upset (I can't write what she actually said) with what the therapist said, including how feminine I looked when dressed. Our relationship has been rocky ever since. I'm sticking around due to the kids...

[Teresa]

Adelaide,
I posted recently about " Never the right time to tell! "
You stick around for the kids, now I'm sticking around for grandchildren ! It doesn't get any easier !
I'm seeing a counsellor, not a therapist but even so she is suggesting I should attend joint therapy ! Maybe my wife fears the outcome you encountered and can't or won't face the inevitable conclusion ! We all know I'm not going to change !

A counsellor can only listen but just giving the facts has prompted her to make me try and stick up for myself and stop blaming myself for everyone's problems !

[Bria]

Teresa, I'm glad to hear that things are on a positive note. In one of your previous posts your expectations were very negative, I hope that things continue to be positive for you.

Hugs, Bria

[MsVal]

Teresa, I am so very happy for you that I'm doing my "happy dance".

You have an opportunity to talk one-on-one with someone who is sympathetic and helpful; someone who asks gentle probing questions not issuing demands and acquisations. That alone is a really big thing. Plus, you're getting wise, sage advice. Good for you.

Best wishes
MsVal

[justmetoo]

Sounds like you have a good therapist, Teresa! I hope some good can come out of it for you!

[Marcelle]

Hi Teresa,

I am glad to hear the therapy is going well . . . stick with it as IMHO it is worth the time invested.

Hugs

Isha

[Stephanie47]

One consistent thing that always comes out in your posts is the expectation that, if your wife attends counseling she will see the light and give you a pat on the butt and tell you to go to it. Everyone is probably in agreement the counselor or therapist will say cross dressing is not a mental disease and you're normal. What is consistently absent from all this is the fact a woman, which includes your wife, is entitled to "her" opinion of the person she wishes to live with. I think you have pretty much concluded she does not want cross dressing and feminizing the body as part of her relationship with you.

Personally I think you are setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment. I really cannot see why you want to continue with your marriage when you have already set the goals as full acceptance of what you want and negate anything your wife wants. There is no middle ground for you.



Adelaide,
I posted recently about " Never the right time to tell! "
You stick around for the kids, now I'm sticking around for grandchildren ! It doesn't get any easier !
I'm seeing a counsellor, not a therapist but even so she is suggesting I should attend joint therapy ! Maybe my wife fears the outcome you encountered and can't or won't face the inevitable conclusion ! We all know I'm not going to change !

A counsellor can only listen but just giving the facts has prompted her to make me try and stick up for myself and stop blaming myself for everyone's problems !

[Teresa]

Stephanie,
I still feel if I can work out what is obsession and what is reality I will try and stick with my current marital status ! Some of my threads have been soul searching ones and I'm grateful for the all of the responses whether it's sympathetic or a kick up the butt ! I would like to put my marriage back together if I can but it needs some input from my wife, I appreciate she is not going to fully participate but I want her to try and think about it logically and calmly and give me some straight answers rather than the push until I explode attitude ! It's doing neither of us any good ! If at the end of it we can both agree to stay together or separate at least I have tried my best !

[Rhonda Darling]

Theresa:

You've stated the problem and didn't see it. "she is not going to fully participate but I want her to try and think about it logically and calmly and give me some straight answers rather than the push until I explode attitude !" You expect logic and calmness from a woman??! A woman who fears the unknown and sees her investment in marriage crumbling? Not likely. For many women, once the emotional response kicks into high gear, logic disappears. When it returns, you may find a cold, calculating response that spins you around.

I wish you you luck and nothing but the best. Be true to yourself and be all the woman that you can.

Rhonda

[MsVal]

We need to be mindful of the tendency to project ones feelings, attitudes, etc onto other people.

What may seem to be a perfect solution to one person may be something entirely different to another person. That doesn't make either one wrong, their sincere feelings are valid TO THEM and should not be discounted or invalidated by others.

Best wishes
MsVal