Kinda of Depressed and confused

[shawna0289]

Lately I have been depressed about my life and have been thinking about becoming female. But in my fantasy I am being forced to become feminized. I need some advice and help.

Hugs and Kisses
Shawna

[trisha kobichenko]

Becoming female is not a decision you should make without some professional consultation. Find a specialist and have some conversation about it.
Hugs,
Trish

[prene]

I agree.

See a Professional, I have/do and she is great.
Supportive and understanding.
Prene

[Sindyca]

Lately I have been depressed about my life and have been thinking about becoming female. But in my fantasy I am being forced to become feminized. I need some advice and help.

Hugs and Kisses
Shawna

It is something normal,every crossdresser sometimes have that overhelming thoughts about being female,it will pass and come again, you shouldnt be depressed enjoy in that feeling ,be woman for some time to saturate that feeling and you will feel great

[Love Dove]

Hello shawna, I was in the same boat like u couple years ago. My desire to transition got so strong I went to see a therapist and almost began taking female hormones because I thought that's what I wanted. Boy I'm happy now that I didn't go through it. I would suggest u see a gender therapist to help you figure things out, also maybe it's just sexual desire for the most and not like all the time?

[Teresa]

Shawna,
I would say the feeling stems from being depressed and wanting to be a woman is just crying out for some female attention ! Some times it does feel a way of escaping and being forced to do it means you didn't have a choice in the matter ! Also you may have a submissive nature and being dressed girly is like letting someone else take control of your life !
Just my thoughts but as others have said ask for some professional help before it becomes too much of a problem !

[Katey888]

Shawna - you should seek some professional counselling help right away - there is probably much more going on than you can relate here and the best we can do is encourage you to find a way to discuss everything you need to, in confidence, with a counsellor of some sort.. :hugs:

Fantasies often just remain fantasies - don't worry too much about that until you can talk to someone... :)

Katey x

[Marcelle]

Hi Shawna,

I took a moment to read over some of your past posts and the flavor of many is your desire to have a more feminine body and present more female. Now I am not saying the desire to appear more feminine means you want to transition (become a woman) but it could point to some gender dysphoria if these are pervasive thoughts. I fully agree with all who have suggested you seek the professional help of someone who deals with gender identity issues to help lead you through this emotional distress. When all is said and done, you might find you are just a classic cross dresser but then again you might find out otherwise. Regardless you will have answers and you can move forward with your life from there. Depression is not a good place to be so please do seek some professional advice as we are not qualified to help you in that regard as our experiences may be similar but they might not apply to you.

Remember we are all here for on another so don't hesitate to reach out as you navigate through this time in your life.

Hugs

Isha

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Shawna, There is more going on than we can possibly know from what you have said.

I suspect the fantasy kind of removes responsibility from the decision process.

This however is not something that belongs in a fantasy. You need to seek out the professionals for advice and see where it takes you.

[Jorja]

First, to take the steps to "become" a woman is not fantasy. It is a real life altering decision. I agree you need to seek professional help from a qualified gender therapist to help you sort out whether or not this is a need or a fantasy.

[Lorileah]

common enough fantasy that they make books and magazines about it. Most ways it takes the responsibility off you and puts it on the person "forcing" you. You do realize it takes years to transition right? I think it nothing more than an escape, like 50 Shades is housewife porn and would never happen in real life If it is just thinking...you are normal. If you are thinking of trying to find someone to do it...talk to someone.

[Tina_gm]

pink fog vs who you really are... A thereapist can help you determine this. Be honest with them. I would suggest a qualified gender therapist and one who is not seeking just to turn everyone they see toward transition. But, if that becomes a path you feel you wish to seek, they will be the people who can help you the most. I have seen a qualified gender therapist before and their feeling about me/it is that it is not how much being the opposite sex or wanting to feeling is which is most important, it is how you feel about yourself as your biological sex is. In other words, like, feel girly/female/feminine all you want... but if it is the male that drives you to your deepest frustrations that is where the idea of TS/transitioning should become more of a reality.

[TxCassie]

Yes, Dear, everyone gave the 'On Target" response. Get Thee to a Therapist. A therapist who specialized in gender issues is highly recommended, and even then, you must judge if you chosen the 'right' therapist for you.

The right therapist will no make judgment, tell you what you are, need, or is wrong with you. The right therapist is the therapist who will allow you to talk it out, connect with yourself, your feelings, your thoughts, you're authentic self... The provide information, direction upon your direction, and a clam space for you to discover you.

Good Luck Dear

Cassie :love:

[LilSissyStevie]

Oh, for cryin' out loud! This is a simple, run of the mill, garden variety fetish, not a mental illness. Forced feminization fantasies are just one of many types emasculation fantasies. Others include small penis humiliation, cuckoldry, the getting caught CDing fantasy, forced gay and etc. I agree that it's ridiculous that we get off on this stuff but fighting it only makes it worse. My advice is have your fantasy, take care of business, don't read too much into it and move on with your life.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Shawna, That is not something to be taken lightly.:daydreaming:

See line #3 in my signature !

[jsunic_1978]

I live as a woman 75- 80 percent of the time and i vtoo have fetishes (SHOES) that dosent go away, but its MORE IN CHECK now, that im being my true self. when is it time to see a gender doctor??? i sugesst living as a FEMALE for a full year, when not at work, but little by little, let your female side come out at work very SLOWLY. you see..., i just started with the eye brows and sometimes i have traces of eye make up ITS SO STUBBORN LOL no one gives me any trouble my hair is styled as FEMALE usually pulled back in a tail with a PINK hair tie. and i wear womens sneakers at the job.., plain black champions. this is a JOURNEY im not so sure when im or IF im going to transition. the time will be RIGHT when the time is RIGHT to discuss with a COUNSELOR :)

HOWEVER.., PEOPLE close TO US DONT TAKE THIS SO WELL, BUT THERE IS AN abundance OF THE WHOLE WORLD THAT loves us..., :) I never have ant negative happen to me out there.., just cheerful conversations with couples AND EVERYBODY :) just stay positive and people will remember how PLEASANT we are to be around :) take care and GOOD LUCK...GOD BLESS :) and the people close to us will COME AROUND they knew us ONLY ONE WAY..

[charlenesomeone]

Shawna, lots of great advice about seeing someone professionally, please do it if only to talk it out.

[Beverley Sims]

As everyone here is encouraging you to seek help, I advise the same.

Talk to someone professionally even if it is only your local doctor.

Depression comes initially from feeling alone and helpless.

You are not alone as attested by the replies here and there is plenty of help and advice to be gained by talking to others.

This is of course the first step.

[CherylFlint]

Be contented. Be happy with what you have.
The grass always looks better on the other side of the fence.
Be grateful for what you have and don't think it death.

[Barbara Black]

Hello Shawna: I've no experience with transitioning, or even considering it much, and therefore no advice about counseling, although I am sure that the other girls are right about it. But as Isha pointed out, "Depression is not a good place to be..." In that regard, I have plenty of experience, and it is a dangerous place to be, and I would seek counseling for that alone.

[Kirsty Louise]

Depression is a very bad thing, please get some Professional help.

Kirsty x