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emilygirl
03-19-2015, 12:34 PM
I told the girl Im dating (although over text) that I like to crossdress and after a few puzzled questions...shes totally fine with it!!
I dont know why I never told a girl before!
So happy!
lisagurl
03-19-2015, 12:37 PM
that is awesome!!!! congrats!!!
emilygirl
03-19-2015, 12:38 PM
Thank you!!
Shes yet to see it yet, I kinda softened the blow a bit when I told her when I very first met her that I sometimes wear pantyhose under my work suit to 'keep warm' but i never thought she would be so cool with wearing everything else!
Emily, Just take it slow, you have dropped a big bomb on her and her true reaction may take a little time.
Hugs, Bria
Sandra
03-19-2015, 01:39 PM
I don't want to burst your bubble but just take it slow, when she sits and thinks about it all her view maybe different. I do hope it isn't but just be prepared for this.
Jaylyn
03-19-2015, 01:54 PM
Good luck.... I think I would have told her face to face as you could then read her reaction and if it was going sour fast you could at least explain what you like and what CDing is all about. Many will think of a perverted guy at first thought. Just a suggestion but I hope she wants to talk about it to you or will be accepting for you.
emilygirl
03-19-2015, 01:59 PM
Thanks girls, yes Im seeing her later...I guess i was getting ahead of myself slightly and planning what skirt to wear tonight but yes I think your right...dress in male clothes until she maybe asks what it looks like?
Beverley Sims
03-19-2015, 02:16 PM
Likewise, I advise caution, when you meet her do not bring the subject up yourself, wait for the questions, you will be better able to ascertain what her reaction is and the best way to answer her. Let her take it all in in her own time.
I do not consider texting such a personal message at any time but maybe times are a'changin'.
There are those that avoid responsibility by texting the end of a relationship with a previously loved one and I think that is abhorrent.
No! Gutless is the right word here.
~Joanne~
03-19-2015, 06:01 PM
Ok I guess i have to ask how old you are because only a teenager in 2015 would be careless enough to send something like that over a text. I'm sorry but that makes no sense to me at all. The fallout of such action could be enormous especially if this is your first girl friend. If you were looking to out yourself, this may have been the way to do it..
Patrica Gil
03-19-2015, 06:30 PM
A few years ago I made a decision to just be myself. If a lady didn't approve then it was okay I wasn't going to impose myself on anyone. Being alone was a better option. Oddly someone actually did not have a problem with it, and life is so much better. Besides women wear pants don't they. I don't wear women's clothes, when I buy them they become my clothes.
Jorja
03-19-2015, 06:33 PM
Yeah, but your going to have to quit borrowing my heels, Gilda. :)
kimdl93
03-19-2015, 06:36 PM
thats encouraging. How long has it been since you shared this information? You may want to give her some time to digest the new information and don't be surprised if her attitude fluctuates.
Be advised that not every person you tell is going to be as receptive. Thats ok. As long as you can accept the occasional rejection.
Jenniferathome
03-19-2015, 07:17 PM
I told the girl Im dating (although over text) ...
You TEXTED this revelation? Regardless the outcome, some issues should always been addressed face to face. This is one. Another is saying "I love you" for the first time.
kimdl93
03-19-2015, 08:29 PM
Jennifer, how postively "80s" of you ! You must realize that these days texts take precedent to that archaic "audible" communication stuff.
Paula_Femme
03-19-2015, 08:42 PM
...yes Im seeing her later...I guess i was getting ahead of myself slightly and planning what skirt to wear tonight but yes I think your right...dress in male clothes until she maybe asks what it looks like?
Hi Emily
As others have said, take it easy, you definitely want to be seeing her tonight in "Boy Mode;" the last thing you need to do is lose yourself in a cloud of pink fog (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?224660-The-Pink-Fog&highlight=pink+fog)!
Let your girlfriend ask the questions, answer her as openly and as honestly as you can, and if she asks a question you can't answer, such as "Why?" be honest and say you don't know.
If she asks what "Emily" looks like, well, some photos on your phone or a tablet would be a great way to break the ice! :battingeyelashes:
Good luck to you both!
Paula
Jenniferathome
03-19-2015, 09:34 PM
Jennifer, how postively "80s" of you ! You must realize that these days texts take precedent to that archaic "audible" communication stuff.
Yep. I guess wedding invitations get texted now. Nothing like efficiency. Cold, heartless efficiency
kimdl93
03-19-2015, 10:30 PM
Absolutely! Heck, couples these days text their vows.
Natalie cupcake
03-19-2015, 10:37 PM
I know I'm repeating what others have said but please take it slow. Explore it together. My wife and I did and are very happy together. I wish you the best very happy for you!! :)
Tracii G
03-19-2015, 11:39 PM
At least you are just dating at this point and not married.
Take it slow and don't push it.Let her ask the questions and be honest with your answers.
Don't go all out pink fog on her,just act likes its not a big deal even if it is for now.
I have told women on the first date and some were fine with it and thought it was "cute".
I told them from the beginning I was TG or "gender fluid" and only one lady had a problem with it.
We went out and had a great date and she asked if I had any pics of me in girl mode so I showed her.
She thanked me for a wonderful date and felt it would be like having to compete with another girl. We are still friends and talk frequently.
I hope everything turns out great for you two.
charlenesomeone
03-20-2015, 04:43 AM
Emily wishing you all the best, and as the others said, take it slowly.
Marcelle
03-20-2015, 06:18 AM
Hi Emily,
I won't beat a dead horse as others have pointed out . . . telling is one thing, saying she is totally fine in another thing, acceptance after reflection is another. I do hope it all works out and she is totally cool with it and continues to support you. However, it is possible that after reflection or fully understanding what this means . . . she may back away. The key is to take things slow and communicate with her (not by text though :)).
Hugs
Isha
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