Second ex took all my crossdressing photos.

[cassiekat]

I do not understand why she kept all my pictures. I guess just to hurt me, luckily I had some on imagefap to capture for my profile.

[pamela7]

that is awful

possible reasons

1. punishment (for perceived crimes)
2. emotional blackmail (for financial leverage)
3. leverage (over children/money/house/...)
4. vindictiveness (woman scorned)
5. to use on social and other media to embarrass you/ruin your life

sorry to give these horrible reasons, but there aren't any good ones i can think of.

[cassiekat]

My defense against blackmail or embarrassment was just completely come out with it. I just can't believe I don't have all my old pictures. I had to show her pictures when we got more inclined to start dating because she thought I was telling her I was a crossdresser to blow her off. I always wondered why she thought that? But found out that weird games were her pastime.

[FrancineS]

I was thinking blackmail also.

[Beverley Sims]

Sounds insidious to me.

[Dana44]

Cassiecat,
I think its Vindictive. My ex took all of my photo's especially all of my ex girlfriend photo's. Pretty stupid I thought. We meet one time and she wanted to get back together. She passed me a couple photo's of my grand kids. Yep she had em all. Vindictive b....

[Brandy Mathews]

My ex girlfriend put my photos out there too, so I know the feeling. So I live with the whispering, giggling, because people are so hateful these days and don't have the guts to say it to your face. And you will be surprised how fast something like that can spread, it is truly amazing how mean people can be.
Bree :)

[Barbara Black]

Sorry CassieKat, If there was ever a reason to come out immediately, the vindictiveness of an ex. will do it.

[chelyann]

sorry to hear that ,, ( may i suggest stop collecting EX"s )

[cassiekat]

I was half out already anyway but it sucked. And yes I think my collection is complete;)

[Patrica Gil]

Sometimes it's just best to let it go. Most people won't even think about it. We are who we are and that's all. Just because I wear a dress doesn't mean I'm weak,or gay, or anything they want to think. Women wear pants, does that mean their men?

[RADER]

That will spell TROUBLE AHEAD, be careful.
Who knows, she just might summit your picture for a contest of some kind.
Rader

[Joni T]

sorry to hear that ,, ( may i suggest stop collecting EX"s )

I collect ex's. I have 2. Dressing was not a factor in either being an ex.
Now, however, I have found the most beautiful, wonderful, amazing lady in the whole world. We've been together almost 3 years, and yes, she knows about my dressing and is 1000% supportive. In fact, the first time we met I was dressed. We'll be getting married later this year.
There's nothing wrong about remaining single until you get it all sorted out in your head. Which ever way the fork in the road takes you, I wish you nothing but happiness and peace within.
Jon(i)

[charlenesomeone]

So sorry Cassie, would she have taken them just because they were important to you?
If thats not it, I agree with the others that it's for some unkind purpose.

[Katey888]

Sorry Cassie... this type of thing has been going on for years, hence the old quote:

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned..."

even if they didn't have Twitter or digital imaging back in post-restoration Britain, I doubt that would stop folk trying to take revenge.

Best hope she just wanted to deprive you of them rather than posting them as a slide show on Youtube... :eek:

The moral of this story? Password protect read-only access to your treasured files... :)

Katey x

[Kate Simmons]

Maybe she likes the way you look en femme? :)

[kimdl93]

From the way this relationship ended, I would strongly advise keeping your distance from this ex person. It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship.

[Krisi]

Well, she's got you by the you know what now. Come up short on alimony or child support and you can expect to see them on Facebook or other Internet sites. The harsh reality is, once someone knows about your crossdressing, they have a level of control over you that's uncomfortable at best. Unless you're out to the whole world. Then it means nothing.

[geek]

This is why I don't do pics of myself.

[Shaedow]

Hi Cassiekat & all others!

I am a GG & have been reading this thread with interest. It seems to me that there is an overall feeling that women can only be vicious, conniving, or vindictive. Is this really the opinion u have of women?

When I divorced (a straight man) I didn't want to give him ANYTHING. Was that being vindictive? I didn't see it as that, I just didn't feel that he was entitled to anything. I didn't do it to hurt him, I had no intentions of using it against him in any way in the future, and I certainly didn't do it as any form of punishment.

So okay, I can hear it already -- it doesn't compare because he didn't have a "secret" (crossdressing) that could tarnish his image in any way. My point is, not all women are that way, no matter what type of man they are involved with. Some women will b that way. It's really a crap-shoot.

Would I treat my current SO this way if we broke up? Absolutely not. Even tho I am not 100% behind his crossdressing (maybe 90%) at this time, I have more respect for him than I have most men I have encountered in my life. In fact, I would probly give him anything he wanted, even what could b considered "mine."

Okay, I just had to voice my opinion. Please b gentle with me in ur responses -- I am new to this world & am still sorting out my own thoughts / feelings.

Thx for listening.

Shaedow
GG

[Katey888]

Hi Shaedow,

I think the responses have been in the context that the GG here deliberately misappropriated images that she had no right to and that Cassie also no longer has - most folk have (I think) responded to that aspect.

I believe in general you'll find that most folk here think the world of women - both in general but especially for those who are prepared to try to understand us a bit more... so you're probably quite safe. :D

Of course, we also only rely on one side of the story here and respond accordingly... there can always be mitigating factors on both sides of a relationship chasm but we normally only get one side here. Not many folk freely admit to being complete jerks to their SOs - not that I'm saying Cassie has been, you understand... Two sides to every story... :thinking:

Katey x

[cassiekat]

You are totally right katey I was a jerk to her. It wasn't all sunshine and roses on my end. I just wish she would've given the pictures back, that's all. The sad thing was she liked the angry semi psychotic male side and loathed my passive female side. In the end she flipped because she perceived me being passive aggressive, before I was just either aggressive or not. She was aggressive and I had to be more so. She even told me she lost all respect as a man. Her losing respect was not due to my crossdressing I think, it seemed to be from my emerging female side.

[Valery L]

Is this really the opinion u have of women?

Unfortunately, yes. There are plenty of mean and mentally sick people (of both genders), they are a plague, maybe you are a good person but it does not change the fact that there are many insane women (and men). In divorces, the ex-wives normally have all the law in their favor and it is pretty common to take advantage of that situation to make the ex-husbands suffer. Also, according to the experiences shared here, malicious girlfriends/wifes are fairly common. It is obvious why Cassiekat's ex wants those pictures, crossdressers are in a terrible disadvantage, we are a vulnerable group. It is so easy to hurt us or to destroy our lives using the knowledge of our condition. It is a shame that even in this decade, something so trivial as the choice of clothing may be the subject of discrimination and segregation.

[Kerrie Sifton]

Good points Shaedow,
sometimes people are just malicious, and its not a female or male thing.
simply mean.
thus do what one can to move on. Sometimes an apology will net amazing results.
ciao
Kerrie