dressing problems

[carrie2014]

When I looked in my closet this morning I saw clothes that a woman of about forty to fifty years old would wear. I am sixty five years old. and I look like a person of about 40 years old. Now my face is a different story. When I look in the mirror I see a 65 year old lady. Do older ladies dress to look there age or try to look younger. Some times I sit in the mall and look at women that look about my age. womem in their 60's or older look so plain black pants single color tops. and shoes to fit their age and not wearing nice boots or hight heel shoes. My question is do a lot of ladies her try to dress to look younger or act their age?

[Crissy Kay]

Yeah, I kind of know what you mean. I try to have my wig partly cover my face, so I do not see my whole face in the mirror. The rest of me does not look bad at all, at least to me, when I"m dressed up. I tend to ignore my age, when I dress up, as I like costumes and stuff younger women may wear. Anyway, good luck and have fun while you can!!

[Lorileah]

no idea what clothes make you look your age...is there a 60+ department I don't know about?

Wear what looks good on you and makes you happy. As long as you don't step over the bounds of propriety in public, just wear whatever. Half MY clothes come from the "juniors". Two dresses I am getting in the mail today are "club" dresses. Here in Denver we have neighborhoods where people of substantial wealth (to me that is over 40$) live. The women there wear tennis dresses or long gowns or tight skirts when they go out to specific functions. They don't say "I'm 50 now, I need to dress like Mama on Mama's family." Age is a number not a lifestyle

[DonnaT]

I don't see any difference in what a 45~50 yr old lady wears and what a 65yr old lady wears. Seems to be all the same to me.

Some dress frumpy at 30, some at 60, yet many still want to look nice and don't wear frumpy at all.

And a lot depends on where one lives, like city vs. farm, etc.

[Cheryl T]

Why on earth would I want to look my age???
If women have plastic surgery to look younger and I can do much of that with wigs and makeup and tape why not???

You see, I'm a 65 year old that feels 45 and thinks 25. As Peter Pan said, "I'll never grow up"...

[Taylor186]

I guess it depends on where you are on the TG spectrum. Cding for me often includes fantasy fulfillment so my closet is full of clothing worn by women much younger. But my CDing is mostly a private solo affair so I don't suffer from issues like "do I pass" or "am I age appropriate." On the rare occasion I venture out the function needs to support the clothing I own and like to wear. If I, as a CD, wanted to routinely "pass" in public then I would dress much differently.

[Tracii G]

You need to realize when you dress up people always say you look younger so go for it.

[Jaymees22]

I'm a senior who likes to shop in juniors so I would say go for it. Hugs Jaymee

[jacques]

Hi,
My face doesn't match the clothes - so I don't look in the mirror!
luv J

[Dana44]

Carrie, I'm 63 years old and look forty. My face does also. I do wear mini's yet longer ones than my SO for coverage LOL.
Yet mostly, I'm in a pencil skirt and a nice blouse for movies and dinner out. I do wear heels and I like the wide heel platform pumps. That wide heal does not get into small cracks as the spikes do. I do have those also. I do dress as an older lady yet I will push the boundaries. I have long thin legs and like to show them off. So a tasteful mini is fun sometimes.

[Rhanda]

Being 87 I can't figure out what my age should wear. Everyone that says anything about my style complements me and can't believe that I am that old. I have shopped in stores that cater to older women and never have found anything that I would wear. Most women (and men) my age do what I call shuffle when they walk. They couldn't wear 6 inch heels if they tried. I'm not going to give up my heels!

It's time that us older ones stand up on our heels and fight! LOL

Rhanda

P.S. Forgive for my attempt at humor. I just have a silly streak today.

[Alice_2014_B]

Not sure if I can help much, but I feel that I dress my real age.
I will admit, however, that attempts are definitely made to look younger than I really am.
:)

[Tracii G]

I'm 62 and get comments all the time that I don't look 62.
In girl mode I have been told I look in my mid 40's.
I do think make up and smiling is the key.

[carrie2014]

Ladies thank you for all the feed back so far, A couple of things that I noted when i was reading your replays is that a large percentage of you have been on this forum for many years. You are the ladies that all us new members to this forum look up to for advice. The other thing that I notice is of all of the faces I see in your pictures. you really spend time making sure you keep your faces looking young. you all must be doing all the things that gg's do to keep that young skin looking so good. I guess that I will need to get more concealer, foundation, and a puddie knife to apply my make up. or get the courage to go and get a makeover to see what I am doing wrong.

[Alice_2014_B]

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[Allycttv]

I love to dress age approximate but always want to look as d
Fem and appealing as possible. I'm 66 so if I can look 10-15 years younger that's a home run.

[Kandi Robbins]

I'm 62 and get comments all the time that I don't look 62.
In girl mode I have been told I look in my mid 40's.
I do think make up and smiling is the key.

Pardon my edited version of my initial reaction when I read this: NO freaking way you are 62!

[msniki48]

Carrie,

I believe the people you see in the mall at 60 -65, are dressed for comfort as it is an effort to cross the mall with a ton of bags... I guarantee if they were going out on the town, the heels would be on, the makeup would look just right and they would be strutting their stuff. my mom, in her eighties, would dress just as you described to go to the mall, but get her on the dance floor.... there was always a new dress. and she was made up to the nines.

I say go for it.

Hugs


niki

[kimdl93]

Take a look at the mall and see what women of different ages, but similar statuses are wearing. I think you'll see that there's not all that much wardrobe difference between a forty something and a sixty something.

[S. Lisa Smith]

My assistant is 66. She looks great and dresses like she is 45. I'm almost 66 and that's what I try for also...

[RADER]

Well I am 68, and still wear the same clothes that I got when I was 55.
My wife would advise me not to dress as a teen ager, because I would never pass as one.
Try to keep dresses and skirts at or just below the knee.
Blouses should not show to much cleavage, in short, keep it modest, and you will be fine.
Just look around some day, look at what gg's our age are wearing; you will not go wrong
by just trying to follow them.
Rader

[Diane Smith]

My style hasn't changed all that much since I was five and first discovered my mom's closet. (58 now.) The only difference is that now, I can afford nicer clothes that actually fit.

- Diane

[Crissy Kay]

Why on earth would I want to look my age???
If women have plastic surgery to look younger and I can do much of that with wigs and makeup and tape why not???

You see, I'm a 65 year old that feels 45 and thinks 25. As Peter Pan said, "I'll never grow up"...

Good one Cheryl!! Thats the way I think too!!!

[Allison2006]

My wife says occasionally that a dress I like is a "granny dress" which I generally disagree with. I'd say I probably dress younger than my age but not like 30 years younger. It's more because I don't have the body to pull those kind of outfits off though, than thinking I need to dress my age.

[Krisi]

We all have our reasons for dressing and we all have different closeness to "passing" or not, even in our own eyes. If you're not trying to pass (even for yourself), you can wear anything. Ballerina outfits, micro skirts, six inch heels, etc.. If you want to be able to look in the mirror and see a woman looking back at you, you need to dress as a woman your age would dress. Look around at genetic women your age and see what they wear. Some, of course, just throw on a sack dress or sweat pants and shirt, while others try to look good in public and play down their actual age a bit. It's your choice.

[sometimes_miss]

Hi,
My face doesn't match the clothes - so I don't look in the mirror!
luv J

^this matches my thoughts exactly. I have two mirrors; one in my bathroom, one on the back of my bedroom door. I don't look in either. Problem solved!

[Stephanie47]

The clothes you were describing as worn by women in their sixties may be said of women a lot younger. Have you been to Wal-Mart. The only stylish attire I see on women in Wal-Mart is military utility uniforms (fatigues). I know many women in their fifties and sixties who wear colorful tops and stylish pants. Most women do not wear heels or boots unless there is a reason. I'm in my middle to last sixties are I wear stylish dresses. Today I'm wearing a stylish Croft and Barrow knee length dress. My body looks a lot younger than my age, but, my face looks as if I'm fifties. Then, I can attest, I have seen many early twenties women, who look like they're in their forties because they smoke and have severe weight issues.

PS: There are a lot of men who look the same.

[Ally 2112]

Everyone likes to look younger me included .If you are out then just don't go to young or stick out .If your in the closet dress what ever way you want which is what i do.Sometimes it's a miniskirt and top or a short dress and sometimes longer more age appropiate .Other times it is petticoats and frilly dresses :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Carrie, I am 72 and I don't want to dress like a woman of that age, I dress like a 40 or 50 year old.

Short skirts and 4 & 5 inch heels are parts of the program too, Age is just a number not a life style.:daydreaming:

[Beverley Sims]

dress in clothes that I feel comfortable in, yes they are a lot younger than my age but I do not dress like an old fowl in chicken clothes.

Yes I do use chick filletts. :)

[DonnaP]

I'm 65 and I dress in normal women's clothing not what the older women wear. I try to buy in the 40 year old brackets I would like 60 plus women to the same why try to look older.

[lesli]

i always find it interesting that people try to "look" and "act" their age. why? age is nothing more than how long you have been on this earth, do you really feel you are old and want to look like your grandmother now? i hope i never do! shop and buy what you look good in, bright vibrant colors, sexy--if that is you, things that make you feel good. just because you are not 25 any more is no reason to don sack cloth and look like you're just waiting around to die or be carted off to a nursing home.

be you. enjoy yourself at any age. nobody should really have any say about what makes you happy or how you express yourself--including what you wear. don't buy into that old sexist stereo-type, just be you!

[Krisi]

For all those who say that "age is just a number", I have a medicine chest full of pills and ointments that will prove you wrong. A friend of mine brought his new girlfriend to a dance one time and from the back she looked really hot in her miniskirt, heels and long blonde hair. Then he introduced me to her and up close, her face was wrinkled and she looked to be eighty years old.

Just like when you put together an outfit of skirt, blouse, shoes and jewelry that goes together, remember that your face and body should go with the rest of the outfit.

[Lily Catherine]

I'm 19 but to dress 'my age' apparently requires short shorts on informal occasions. Black leggings seem juvenile at times compared to stockings, but are actually no less common. In other words, uncommon but hardly rare. I tend to overdress (on hindsight) when presenting as female to begin with.

[Jorja]

Being 87 I can't figure out what my age should wear. Everyone that says anything about my style complements me and can't believe that I am that old. I have shopped in stores that cater to older women and never have found anything that I would wear. Most women (and men) my age do what I call shuffle when they walk. They couldn't wear 6 inch heels if they tried. I'm not going to give up my heels!

It's time that us older ones stand up on our heels and fight! LOL

Rhanda

P.S. Forgive for my attempt at humor. I just have a silly streak today.

Rhanda, at 87 you can wear whatever you want. You have more than earned it!!!

[ReineD]

Styles are constantly changing and there are also hundreds of different style types (for example casual, office, gala, grunge, nightclub) so it is difficult to come up with rules.

But, I think there is not much difference between the styles that middle aged women wear and senior women. The biggest difference is between clothes worn by the young vs the "older" lol. By this I mean short dresses, body hugging clothes, body-baring clothes worn by college and women in their 20s(ish), that would look out of place on someone in her 40s-50s or older. As we age, we don't need to become frumpy and cover ourselves head-to-toe, but good general rules are that hemlines should go down a few inches, heels should go down a bit too, clothes should fit well and not reveal every bulge and sagging skin, boobs shouldn't be spilling out. Young women can get away with these styles without looking like street-walkers, but not so much the more mature woman.

I'm in my 50s and I am noticing a change in the texture of the skin on my thighs and also the underpart of my upper arm is losing tone. I don't particularly enjoy advertising my age, so I choose to wear clothing that covers my thighs and my upper arms if I am going out. For just dressing around the house or with friends, it doesn't really matter, I don't mind wearing tank-tops when it is hot in the summer. But to a fancy restaurant on a date with my SO? No. I don't wear shorts out anywhere in the summer anymore, unless I am working in the yard. I'll throw on an easy care cotton skirt.

Jorga says that we can all wear what we want. This is true, we don't need to dress to impress but what impressions do you get from the following pics ...

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/09/17/article-2422328-1BE05BDB000005DC-695_306x554.jpg
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/09/17/article-2422328-1BDC1138000005DC-278_634x413.jpg

... compared to these?

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/09/17/article-2422328-1BE05D3F000005DC-391_306x678.jpg
http://i2.mirror.co.uk/incoming/article5185317.ece/ALTERNATES/s615b/The-Ticket.jpg
http://www.greenfield-sanders.com/files/images/Dell-Orefice_Carmen.jpg

Dressing well at any age doesn't mean to be completely style-less.

Older women don't have to dress like this:
http://www.sunnyskyz.com/uploads/2013/09/nhjed-old-ladies-joke.jpg

They can dress like this:
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/09/17/article-2422328-1BDC10F2000005DC-248_634x340.jpg

[docrobbysherry]

You're as old as u feel. I'm 70+ year old guy.

Sherry's 17. What's a young girl to do?:devil:

[cheryl reeves]

im going to be 50 and i never went for the hooker look,but the modest look which helps me blend in,not stand out.

[Jorja]

Jorga says that we can all wear what we want. This is true, we don't need to dress to impress but what impressions do you get from the following pics ...

No, I did not say everyone could wear what they want! I said Rhanda could wear whatever she wants. Honey, if I make it to 87 you can bet your sweet @$$ I'm wearing whatever I want.

[Brittany327]

I:ve always posted smart looking photos....243927

[ReineD]

Honey, if I make it to 87 you can bet your sweet @$$ I'm wearing whatever I want.

Jorja, sorry if I offended, it wasn't meant that way.

I was wanting to point out there are two things at play when we choose what to wear. First, how the clothes make us feel. This is indeed important and is what I think you are focusing on. Second, is the impression that we may also wish to convey based on various cultural norms for situations, age groups, etc. This second thing is what makes us decide to not wear ball gowns to the grocery store, or not show up at Church wearing a bathing suit for example.

So if someone wants to appeal to others (if they don't want to be stared at), they need to take the second thing into consideration. If it is not important to someone how others view them, then I agree they needn't worry about it and focus on wearing just what makes them feel good.

[DorothyElizabeth]

"Rhanda, at 87 you can wear whatever you want. You have more than earned it!!! "

One of my favorite poems begins with the lines,
"When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat that doesn't go ..."

Thank you Jenny Joseph

That said, I try to wear what I see other women my age (I'm seventy) wearing. If I go out dressed, the LAST thing I want to do is stand out as "odd" or wear clothing heat screams "MAN IN A DRESS!!!" eek

[donnalee]

You're as old as u feel. I'm 70+ year old guy.

Sherry's 17. What's a young girl to do?:devil:Usually, get older, sadder, and wiser or at worst, not get any older.
Myself, I have never felt that I was anything other than who I am, a guy in a skirt who likes skirts below knee to floor length, wears nice fabrics in somewhat conservative but well coordinated colors, uses no makeup, speaks in a somewhat deep and raspy voice, doesn't use or care for makeup (even on the women I like [which also looks ludicrous on me]) and am happy as I am.

[Angie G]

Carrie I'm 67 some of my closet looks on a girl in her 20'sor 30's. But I don't go out dressed so I can be whatever age I wish. If I had to dress like an old lady I think I'd stop.:hugs:
Angie

[Alice Torn]

I know a lady in her 80's that looks better than 80 % of younger women. She wears dresses that are modest, but she is wow!, And heels, and hose. She works hard physically yet. In a sleeveless navy blue knee length shift dress, she looks amazing! I would not worry what style, for age, but miniskirts and minidresses, maybe not, at 60, unless for in the closet.