Megan G
04-11-2015, 05:59 PM
So Friday marked the first day of what I assumed would be four long days of difficult conversations. As I have posted about I am out to my family and a few close friends (females) and so far I have averaged a 50% acceptance rate with the casualties being on the family side.
The pressure of the GD has been slowly increasing for a while now and after a few conversations with my therapist I had come to the realization that I had to start coming out to more people so I made a list last week and classified them into two groups...
1. In person
2. Email
3. The rest will learn about it via a Facebook post.
So in the end I have 3 people that deserve to be told in person. All lifelong friends and all male. These have always been my closest friends and the 3 people that I stressed about the most. So yesterday I went over to friend #1's house to have the talk.
We have been lifelong friends, our parents all grew up together and him and I were fast friends all our lives. I was the best man in his wedding and godfather to his children. We did everything together for our 40 years of life so far. So needless to say I was very stressed out about coming out to him. He divorced his first wife who I was very close with and in fact she already knows about me and has been my biggest supporter along this journey, short of my wife.
So a long story short I had difficulties separating him from his new girlfriend and kids but eventually I managed to get him alone and dropped the bomb on him. He did not say much as I descibed how I had knew since I was very young that something was different about me and how I fought it, denied it, repressed it and hidden it for all my life. After talking with a few people here by PM I utilized their advice and balanced the bad with the good, how I had suffered internally but how I plan on living the best damn life possible from here on out.
In the end he said that he was shocked and had no idea. He also stressed that he would support me however he could and would stand behind me 110%. Then he tossed in a few jokes such as I was still allowed to go moose hunting but I could not wear a dress...lmao. I knew right then that all was going to be ok as that has always been his way of coping during a difficult conversation.
Today I was planning on doing another friend but he is out of town for the day so I plan on talking to him and friend #3 tomorrow.
Then Monday is an appointment with my family doctor in the morning to request a referral to CAMH in Toronto. Then followed by an appointment with my current endo at noon and then an appointment with my psychologist at 2.
So as the title says I can see the light at the end of the tunnel about coming out to everyone.
Megan
The pressure of the GD has been slowly increasing for a while now and after a few conversations with my therapist I had come to the realization that I had to start coming out to more people so I made a list last week and classified them into two groups...
1. In person
2. Email
3. The rest will learn about it via a Facebook post.
So in the end I have 3 people that deserve to be told in person. All lifelong friends and all male. These have always been my closest friends and the 3 people that I stressed about the most. So yesterday I went over to friend #1's house to have the talk.
We have been lifelong friends, our parents all grew up together and him and I were fast friends all our lives. I was the best man in his wedding and godfather to his children. We did everything together for our 40 years of life so far. So needless to say I was very stressed out about coming out to him. He divorced his first wife who I was very close with and in fact she already knows about me and has been my biggest supporter along this journey, short of my wife.
So a long story short I had difficulties separating him from his new girlfriend and kids but eventually I managed to get him alone and dropped the bomb on him. He did not say much as I descibed how I had knew since I was very young that something was different about me and how I fought it, denied it, repressed it and hidden it for all my life. After talking with a few people here by PM I utilized their advice and balanced the bad with the good, how I had suffered internally but how I plan on living the best damn life possible from here on out.
In the end he said that he was shocked and had no idea. He also stressed that he would support me however he could and would stand behind me 110%. Then he tossed in a few jokes such as I was still allowed to go moose hunting but I could not wear a dress...lmao. I knew right then that all was going to be ok as that has always been his way of coping during a difficult conversation.
Today I was planning on doing another friend but he is out of town for the day so I plan on talking to him and friend #3 tomorrow.
Then Monday is an appointment with my family doctor in the morning to request a referral to CAMH in Toronto. Then followed by an appointment with my current endo at noon and then an appointment with my psychologist at 2.
So as the title says I can see the light at the end of the tunnel about coming out to everyone.
Megan