Boyfriend and dressing

[Chrissi]

Ok, so from last weeks post asking about the groups collective advise about telling my boyfriend about the scope of my dressing.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?226588-Our-neighbor-knows!

Well he was travelling but came home yesterday. I was lucky enough to spend a day of beauty getting ready for a local Spring Bling event hosted by Glamour Boutique in Auburn Massachusetts. This included a trip to the local MAC store at the mall for a complete makeover. Super fun time and my aesthetician really work her magic on me.

Well anyway, when I got home, my boyfriend was home...well, I was dressed casually, but fully made up for an evening of dancing. It went really well, and for the first time he met Chrissy properly. He had an haircut appt, so out he went, but when he returned, my nails were done, and I was ready to get dressed for the night.

He had lots of questions about the night, and of course I really wanted him to go with me, but he was a little tired from traveling, and I really had sprung this on him at the last minute. I kind of expected that, but he was really great about it.

An hour later, I emerged from the bedroom fully made up and well this is one of many pictures snapped by my BF :)

So this polka-dot girl thanks all you for your advise and help, hugs
Chrissy

PS, I am a little embarrassed to post a new picture, there was a professional photographer at the event and she just emailed my photos...I think I have to go back to my makeup artist and give her a much bigger tip!

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[Rachael Leigh]

You look great Chrissy, so glad it went well with the bf

[Chrissi]

Sorry for the sideways picture, I don't know why and don't know how to fix it...confused???

[AllieSF]

Great look and you have me with your great smile!

[Xframe]

You look great. Nice to hear about a great outcome. Lucky girl.

[Tracii G]

Such a pretty girl in that pic.
I flipped you over LOL

[skislopes-cd]

You look wonderful!

[Chrissi]

thanks and thanks Tracii...Im too blonde to figure it out...I mean I can rotate a picture...but then it goes the other way!

[Jenniferathome]

Got to love a polka dot dress! I like the fit and the 3/4 sleeve. Great outfit all around.

[SFRobin]

Awesome...

[RADER]

You look like a million; O wish I could look as good.
Rader

[Julie Denier]

LOVE it! You look fantastic ;)

[Natalie cupcake]

Love the dress Chrissy!! You have such a beautiful smile.:battingeyelashes:

[Tracii G]

She does have a great BF sounds like.
Awesome dress.

[Diane Smith]

The polka-dot girl is absolutely stunning! And it sounds like she has a pretty open minded boyfriend. Congratulations to you both.

- Diane

P.S. I want that dress.

[Rhonda Darling]

You look truly happy. Oh, and did I mention awesome?

With your bf's acceptance, you now have so many possibilities open to you that it is mind boggling.

Best regards,

Rhonda

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Chrissy, You are such a beautiful young lady:hugs:, I'm so glad that everything worked out for you.:daydreaming:

[Stephanie Julianna]

You look incredible "dahling" as Zaza would say! I hope your boyfriend is bi because in that pic you are all girl. Incredible dress and what a figure.

[EllenJo]

Wow you look absolutely great!!! Love the dress, and you wear it well.
Hugs
Ellen Jo

[Michelle 78]

Love the dress, you look really nice:)

[MissyRocks]

Yeah you look amazing! Love the dress too!

[natalie_cheryl]

Good for you its great to have an understanding SO and you look so cute! Wish I hadn't missed the memo about the spring being though

[Raychel]

Love the dress Chrissy. :thumbsup:
So glad you had a good time and the BF took it well.

[Kate's at home]

Soooo pretty!

Good for you!

Kate

[CostaRicaRachel]

Chrissy, you look completely lovely. I'm glad your boyfriend is accepting.
Have fun!

[Linda Leigh]

You look great and I love the dress and shoes :)

[Sarah21]

You look lovely Chrissy, cute dress!

[katie elouise]

WOW Chrissy you are staggeringly pretty ,one of if not the prettiest girl, I have ever seen here or anywhere else you really are very beautiful , enjoy . Katie x.

[Chrissi]

The polka-dot girl is absolutely stunning! And it sounds like she has a pretty open minded boyfriend. Congratulations to you both.

- Diane

P.S. I want that dress.

Thanks Diane...coquetry clothing...it was basically custom made for my measurments and is a mix of two styles of dresses they do. So in that regard, it is unique and custom for me :)

The owner was delightful to email with, was very patient and understanding, and turn around from ordering to receiving in the mail was like 3-4 days, I don't exactly recall. She absolutely knew I was a guy ordering for myself. I wouldn't be surprised if she gets a lot of crossdressing customers.

Her party dresses are fun and flirty, and she seemingly has an endless supply of patterns and styles. Will absolutely be ordering more.

Chrissy

[victoria76]

You look great! :)

[Isabella Ross]

Chrissy, you're gorgeous! Love the style and smile.

[Beverley Sims]

Chrissy,
you present very well.

[Nadya]

Aww, you look so nice. Glad that it went well telling your boyfriend! I was hoping to hear how it went. :)

[Kandi Robbins]

First off, beautiful is not an accurate enough adjective, but it's all I got! What strikes me most is the very feminine figure you have in that adorable dress. It seems we have a real infatuation here at CD.com with polka dots, and I can see why.

Speaking as a straight man, you certainly would have turned my head if you walked by me! Speaking as a part-time girl, you also would have turned my head in admiration.

Love to see that happiness coming through my screen!

[CONSUELO]

Chrissy,
The dress is so elegant and your grooming is exquisite. I'm so pleased that your boyfriend liked it. Very happy for you and you look radiant too.

[Jamie Christopher]

Really cute Chrissy, you look beautiful!

Jamie

[justmetoo]

Congratulations! Good to hear it went over well with your boyfriend! You are radiant! Looking gorgeous in that polka dot dress, with your beaming smile!

I think pictures get auto-rotated if they don't fit in the 500 pixel picture height limit (I think it's 500), because the width limit is a little bigger (600 pixels?).

[Barbara Dugan]

You look great Chrissy.Its great to know there are some of us with accepting boyfriends:thumbsup:

[Jennaristow]

Wow, you look lovely

[Chrissi]

You look great Chrissy.Its great to know there are some of us with accepting boyfriends:thumbsup:

Hi Barbara! How are you? Oh so many years ago when I first joined, I think you were one of the first to friend me. I have never forgotten.

I am truly sorry to hear that your BF/husband is not (as) accepting. Although I was nervous about it, I never thought he would reject me.

Biggest hugs from afar
Chrissy

Edit: now I may have misread your post: your BF is fine with you as you...I hope?

[Barbara Dugan]

Hi Barbara! How are you? Oh so many years ago when I first joined, I think you were one of the first to friend me. I have never forgotten.

I am truly sorry to hear that your BF/husband is not (as) accepting. Although I was nervous about it, I never thought he would reject me.

Biggest hugs from afar
Chrissy

Edit: now I may have misread your post: your BF is fine with you as you...I hope?

Hi Chrissy, yes my boyfriend is more than accepting, we just returned from a weekend getaway:hugs:

[Tracii G]

Wow you two are so lucky to have found a Mr Right.
Still searching here :)

[SharonDenise]

As others have stated you do look fantastic! How do you keep such an attractive figure?

[Chrissi]

Thanks all for the compliments...now I am embarrassed. The dress is super cute and I gather it had it's intended effect of taking your eye away from the wearer and focusing on the cute dots! So, many thanks to the designer/seamstress. :)

Yes, my worries were just that, my boyfriend is very much accepting and we'll see how things progress from here on out. But I suspect that all will be well.

Also the beautiful day we had today brought many of us outside to attend to those necessary early Spring yard work projects: and yes we still have snow in the yard! Well the neighbors were out, and lets just say, that it is a complete non-issue with them too. Yes, Mr. Neighbor told his wife, and now she is anxious to meet Chrissy :)

[Tracii G]

Sounds like the neighbor lady is cool with it.
Let us know how that goes.

[suzanne]

It's already been said a lot, but I'll say it again. Fantastic outfit! I hope your bf loves it, because it should be enough to taje your relationship to another level.

[JessicaJHall]

You look positively gorge Crissy! Wish I was your boyfriend.. girlfriend.. CDfriend.. or something.:eek: Glad you are my CD.com friend anyway!!

[PaulaQ]

How do you think he'll feel about your CDing?

BTW, there are a number of gay CDs here.

[Chrissi]

How do you think he'll feel about your CDing?

BTW, there are a number of gay CDs here.

Hi Paula, he is absolutely fine with my CD'ing. From the other thread, he was already aware of it, just not the scope of it and the extent to how much I needed to let my girl side out. I know, how do you hide that? He travels extensively for business and is away a good ½+ of the year. So that afforded me plenty of me time.

However, over the last year, I have really felt the need to press forward and come out of the closet so to speak. I fully accept now that I am TG or more like a non-girl/non-guy, somewhere living in that middle space. I am happy as a non-girl, and I happy as a non-guy. I don't need to be a girl to shop for female items, but it's just more normal. Actually it is just more normal to stay that way.

Tomorrow will mark my 25th year of coming out. To me, it is a bigger day than my birthday (gay people understand this). I am going to celebrate by getting my ears pierced for the first time! Yay me. But it will also mark the beginning of coming out of my girl closet too.

Perhaps I should start a gay and TG/crossdress thread so those of us who identify can all say hello should they so choose to...

hugs
Chrissy

We are friends Julie...Your comment made me smile...and that is very hard to do! ;)

[Sharon B.]

Any man straight or not should be happy to escort you around town, ever get to the Midwest I wouldn't mind being your escort.

[Angie G]

WOW Chrissy You look great. and that last pic is sooooo SEXY" Your make-up artest should get a gigger tip.:hugs:
Angie

[Melissa18]

Wow chrissy
You look beautiful love the dress,

[Erika Lyne]

Chrissy,

First let me say Wow! I love it! The hard wood floors and wood ceiling, mix of glass rail and tall all glass foyer background are amazing. The dress is ok too.

Bwahahaha...just kidding. Your look is totally incredible. How did I miss this thread before?!?! Your makeup artist did an amazing job but I'm willing to bet your facial structure helpped a great deal too. Looking at you Boy vs Girl Mode shots, you look great in both modes and a great foundation is easier to build on. ;)

So I'm going to venture a guess here that you didn't get the token question about CDing that many of us get from your BF,"Are you gay?" but did he ask if you'll transition?

Hugs,
-E

[Chrissi]

Hi girls, and thanks for the compliments. Erika...what are we doing up at this hour!?

lol, no, no gay questions, and no, no transitioning questions either. Way back, when he first became aware that I like to dress, he asked me something I've never forgotten: "Are you happy?" To which, of course, I was. That was good enough for him. Perhaps no transitioning questions, because he knows my personality. Not sure what that says, but I fear that, so perhaps, I don't let myself go there, at least not yet.

On this last round of coming out to him, to the extent that I like to dress, it was the first time he had seen me with forms...he was cute, he asked what they felt like...so I grabbed his hands and well...you know. ;)

Chrissi

[Marcelle]

Hi Chrissi,

Late to this thread and all I can say is a jaw dropping . . . WOW! I doubt anyone gives you a second thought as potentially being a guy as they would be too busy wondering who that stunning gorgeous woman is. You have a great BF there.

Hugs

Isha

[LaurenS]

?..he asked what they felt like...so I grabbed his hands and well...you know. ;)
Chrissi

Lucky, beautiful, you!

[pattyjones954]

you look great

[Tracy Hazel Lee]

Awesome, awesome dress. It ticks all the criteria boxes for me... Good length, nice material, perfect sleeve length, and of course... DOTS! Beautiful!

And this goes without saying, you look amazing!

[justmetoo]

he asked me something I've never forgotten: "Are you happy?"

Best coming out question! :)

[Chrissi]

Yes, I agree, that is why he is a such a sweetheart. That or Congratulations or a warm hug if in person.

[Adelaide]

Wow, you look awesome, feminine...and most importantly so happy!

[Meghan4now]

Chrissi,

You really are stunning. Especially in that dress. What is it about dots this year??? Is it possible that we're actually in fashion?

Of course you could just about wear a burlap sack and have guys tripping over themselves to hold a door for you.

[Victoria Demeanor]

Hi Chrissi,
I have been following your posts, so many people were commented and thought I would just be one of the people who reads them smiles and moves on. also you are a bit of a enigma to me so wasn't quite sure what to say except you look great. I have a bit of a defect. something went wrong in my up bringing and for the life of me I can not find anything wrong with "none standard" relationships. the only thing I seem to care about is that people are happy... ya weird ha? You look happy, when you talk about all this you sound happy, your BF sounds like a great guy and for some reason your happiness makes me happy, Oh and also you look amazing in girl or boy mode. I wish we lived closer, as I would love to get to know you better and of course steal your makeup person......anyways love the photos and sorry for not chiming in earlier.

[AngelaYVR]

I don't know what to say, everyone else already said it!
But I do know that from one polka dot lover to another, well done!

[TinaZ]

Tomorrow will mark my 25th year of coming out. To me, it is a bigger day than my birthday (gay people understand this).



Wait ... so you came out of the closet when you were four years old?

Your pics are just gorgeous!

[Paula_56]

OMG gosh you are pretty, your BF is a lucky man what a night that must have been!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Chrissi]

OMG, you are all so nice...and all so pretty. I am the one who is jealous of your femininity and sense of styles. I truly have found probably the best place on the internet to just be me, and it is helping getting me out of my girl closet in real life too.

Tina, you are funny. I have always been mistaken for much younger, a curse when younger, a blessing now. Victoria, thank you, that is very sweet to say. I am happy. I hope it shows. big hugs all
Chrissi

[stacey.eyes]

So very cute and put together!

[rosetyler]

he asked me something I've never forgotten: "Are you happy?"Keep him. :)

[SoMuchToLearn]

Congratulations Chrissi. I'm so happy that you could share this with your boyfriend.
Looking forward to pictures of your pierced ears!

[Rachel137]

OMG Chrissi!! You look smokin hot!
Love the dress, your shape and your look.

[weyburn]

You look absolutely beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!

[StephanieinSecret]

Keep him. :)

Agreed! I wish my bf was aa accepting.

[Chrissi]

Well my left ear is just a simple gold stud for now...but so can't wait for some fun danglies or hoops :) Probably won't be until the mid to late summer until I can do that without worry.

And thank you girls, I do intend to keep my boyfriend...like I have said, he is very kind and understanding and a total sweetheart. We go well together, but don't mistake anything here, Chrissi, to him, is the girl friend who comes to visit when he is away. Perhaps that will change in time, but for now, I am letting him get comfortable with the idea. He needs time with it too. hugs
Chrissi

[Stephanie_83]

Chrissi, you're the bees' knees! Your boyfriend is lucky to have such a stunner! I'm so glad he is into it and you both had a lovely night :D

[Paula Siemen]

So.....why would you BF have any issues with his beautiful girl friend?......AWin..Win situation I would guess....best of both worlds!

[Peach13]

I'm a straight male and even I say you look absolutely stunning!!! Good for you :)
Peach13

[cooljamespa]

Very pretty. Love the dress also

[laura.lapinski]

Very nice. You pass! Good luck with your boyfriend. Hope he like Chrissi too. I would.

[crashd0309]

Very happy for your Chrissi. You look stunning in your photos!!!!

[Chrissi]

So.....why would you BF have any issues with his beautiful girl friend?......AWin..Win situation I would guess....best of both worlds!

Hi Paula, the issue is more with the scope of my presenting as female, and that he is gay. When I am in male mode, no issue as we are both gay; but when I present as female, well...then I like to think of myself as a straight female, but what about him? I just can't leave him hanging or expect him to be the man I'd like him to be and treat me like a lady...the dynamics are just too complex. hugs
Chrissi

[paula123]

You look lovely lov your dress

[Christa]

Perhaps I should start a gay and TG/crossdress thread so those of us who identify can all say hello should they so choose to...



Yes, please!

I know how hard it is to come out to your own boyfriend, so good for you! And your boyfriend is what we all hope for in a partner: someone who just wants us to be our best selves.

My boyfriends knows I dress, but hasn't met Christa. Like you, I'm not sure he understands how important dressing is to me.

You're an inspiration!

XO

[PaulaQ]

but when I present as female, well...then I like to think of myself as a straight female, but what about him? I just can't leave him hanging or expect him to be the man I'd like him to be and treat me like a lady...the dynamics are just too complex.

Oh, you don't know the half of it.

I know many women whose wives are quite surprised to discover "what do you mean, I'm in a lesbian relationship." (Indeed, some of the trans women I know are surprised by this as well, even if I'm rather blunt about it.) And were you to transition, then yes, your boyfriend, should he stay with you, be a boring dime-a-dozen, straight guy. This is rather hard for a lot of gay or lesbian folks - for instance, some of the FtM's I know who identified as lesbian are rather unhappy to discover that they are just plain-ol straight guys as far as the world can see.

But if you think your boyfriend has it rough, imagine the straight guys who are married to an FtM who identifies as a gay man now.

Gender identity / expression issues tend to be challenging for partners of all sexual orientations.

[Barbara Dugan]

Hi Paula, the issue is more with the scope of my presenting as female, and that he is gay. When I am in male mode, no issue as we are both gay; but when I present as female, well...then I like to think of myself as a straight female, but what about him? I just can't leave him hanging or expect him to be the man I'd like him to be and treat me like a lady...the dynamics are just too complex. hugs
Chrissi

Yes it is complex, sometimes I kind of feel the same way, only that my boyfriend identify himself as Pansexual.... Maybe I think is a little less complicated because he like me both ways but still is at times complex