Looking for suggestions

[Kandi Robbins]

I am looking for suggestions of things to do en femme that don't include shopping, eating (drinking, coffee, etc.) or the bar/club scene. I'm pretty good at those things so far.

As I progress in my dressing, I'd like a few go to things to do where I can go myself and have an simple activity for a couple of hours. It is a decent investment of time for me to spackle on my face and look presentable, so I need an activity worth that time investment.

Any suggestions?

[AllieSF]

Do whatever you would do in male mode. Museums, theater, movies, shopping of course, walks in parks, Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland, train rides to someplace and back, State and National parks, roller skating, bicycle rides, good restaurants, ballet, live performances at a local university or city, indoors and outdoors, flea markets, garage sales, photography excursions that may or may not include pictures of you, auto shows, expositions of whatever products from home to fashion to antiques, Niagara Falls out to Niagara on the Lake for dinner, lunch or when in season there a play, the beach, factory and brewery tours, boat rides, whatever you can find to do that peaks your interest. It really is a lot easier than we think. Unfortunately, if you are like me in the moment of decision, none of those suggestions can be remembered! Go figure. Pick one or more and just do it and have fun. Good luck.

[Amy Fakley]

Go to a symphony show. That's one on my bucket list. Open mic night in girl mode is, as well :-)

[Dianne S]

Go the the library. Go to a movie with a friend or by yourself. Go for a walk around your neighborhood (if that's a possibility... not sure if you're OK with that.)

[kimdl93]

Well, I can suggest a couple of things. I run errands...groceries, bank, oil changes, Fed Ex, pretty much anything I would otherwise do. For a special outing I like to go to museums during the daytime and to live theatre at night.

[Terri Andrews]

I also volunteer at a near by food bank twice a month.

[michelleddg]

Boudoir shoot! Hugs, Michelle

[~Joanne~]

Amusement park, spend the whole day :D I only bring this to the table because I had one of those dreams/nightmares last night lol

[Allisa]

Now that the weather has broken I enjoy going to smaller somewhat local greenhouses to pick up some plants and other things for my garden, just being out in the sun and the smells are great. Never seem to have any problem with others there and we all have something in common and small talk is great and relaxing.

[lingerieLiz]

Go to car dealerships and look at cars. Don't waist the sales person's time but wonder around all the pretty cars. You can always ask someone to take a picture next to your dream car and post it on your mirror. Have you thought of taking dancing lessons. Find a place to volunteer your services. A really good place is a charity store that resells clothes. Many are more than happy to have help and some let you buy first in line.

[Kandi Robbins]

Thanks girls!!

You all gave me some things to think about. I am just not an idea person.

I have often thought about volunteering somewhere that I can do so dressed, I may have to actually do that.

Uhh, Michelle, I think if I did a boudoir shoot the camera lens might break! Tempting though......

[patti.jean]

Kandi,

This is a great question, over the last year I have worked on expanding my venues to go to while en-femme. I use to volunteer at local LGBT Community Center which gave me a lot of opportunities to be out. Since then I have expanded what I do as Patti by starting a book club "LGBT Reads" that meets once a month that has been a real pleasure. I have also done a couple of symphonies and some plays this past season. Art museums are a favorite, I have a membership as Patti and have participated in opening events and other member only events. I have also attended LGBT events at a local collage, some were workshops that included a Friday evening event and 8 AM to 4 PM event on Saturday.

Patti

[MsVal]

Kandi, since you were ambitious enough to get to S.E. Michigan for a GNO, I can be ambitious enough to go to N.W. Ohio to do something with you.

Best wishes
MsVal

[Bridget Ann Gilbert]

Here's a fun idea. Try taking dancing lessons. Its a fun activity and nothing can make you feel more feminine than dancing with a strong male lead. Plus, think of it as an excuse to find new shoes:heehee:

Bridget

[Lilian Sport Lover]

Belly dancing lessons

[Kandi Robbins]

Kandi, since you were ambitious enough to get to S.E. Michigan for a GNO, I can be ambitious enough to go to N.W. Ohio to do something with you.

Best wishes
MsVal

Don't tease me young lady!

[StephanieinSecret]

I always wanted to go see a play en femme. It's a good time to dress to the nines and still fit in, plus theatre folk are as accepting as they come.

[flatlander_48]

Poetry Slam
Farmer's Market

DeeAnn

[msniki48]

I would love the amusement park also BUT

as much as I would love to ride the roller coaster....there is not enough tape to hold down my wig....I think I would have to abandon that idea... lol

[flatlander_48]

Scarf...

DeeAnn

[Heidi Stevens]

You seem like a girl who can think on her feet, think where your male side would spend some time and let Kandi do it!
Maybe you need a bucket list for things to do for a couple of hours? Works for me! Have fun.

[Sometimes Steffi]

How about golf. You can even use the women's tees


Belly dancing lessons

I've done that. I found it really helped me to move in a more feminine manner

[Beverley Sims]

Skiing and Golfing work for me.

Skiing is good as no one recognises you except the person at the lift gates. :)

[abby054]

Let's see. What have I done en femme? Run errands (post office, grocery, fast food, coffee shop, hardware store, ...), opera, theatre, movies, museum, city park, state park, the beach, take a long walk, Ren Faire, casino, museum village, concert, library, garage sales, do my gardening, golf, play horseshoes or softball in a long cowgirl skirt, amusement park, get a piercing (!!), church in a different city, Sunday brunch, dance recital, antique show, ball game, bike ride, visit the local tourist places that I haven't seen in male mode, take a road trip or an airplane flight en femme, see a bridal show, volunteer work as Abby, ...pretty much the same things that I would do as a guy plus a few more.

I have a membership at the Denver Botanic Garden (DBG), where I hang out sometimes en femme. Someday, I will wear a fancy dress to DBG on a Saturday afternoon, commandeer a young guy, and crash a wedding at DBG or at a big hotel downtown.

I would love to try Lovepink's idea: belly dancing lessons. How I wish I had the courage to do that when I had a great chance five years ago.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kandi, There must be some great museums around there.

[Kandi Robbins]

You gals have motivated me to get off my backside and do something! I have always wanted to volunteer, but always found a reason not to.

The nest is now empty, I am finished working daily at 1:00 and I happen to love getting dressed! So I e-mailed the Salvation Army and made my pitch, I am a personable, well educated, experienced person who wants to volunteer my time, but I would like to do it dressed as a woman. The head of the area SA volunteer department e-mailed me back and we spoke on the phone. Her only concern was that I would dress appropriately for the office, which I assured her is basically my style anyway. I told her all I wanted was someway to exercise my need to present as a woman and give to others at the same time. For me, it's a way to make a day dressed as Kandi be just a day, not a dressing event. I want to just "be" and not have the whole time dressed only about being dressed. My hope is to just be treated as one of the women in the office, nothing more, nothing less. I have to say, there was a little thrill being addressed as Kandi in a telephone conversation.

Monday I have an meeting with her and I will be attending the meeting dressed as Kandi. It feels almost like a job interview. I have a cute outfit all picked out, a black sweater/white blouse combo with a red skirt, a gold necklace with corresponding bracelets. I cannot wait! Afterward, I figured hit a new high-end Goodwill (yeah, I know, the competition) woman's boutique while I'm all dolled up.

Should be a fun and interesting day. Of course, I'll let you know how it goes.

Kandi

[flatlander_48]

Actually, I'm a bit surprised given the Salvation Army's history (or lack of same) with the LGBT community. Maybe that glacier is melting also...

DeeAnn

[Suzie Petersen]

Kandi,

That sounds like a great opportunity! Good for you taking the initiative and contacting them and good for them being accepting.

I completely understand your words about doing something instead of having the dress-up be the event in it self. It makes a huge difference when you have purpose and you are focused on something other than just being dressed up. The good old "All dressed up and nowhere to go".

I hope your interview goes well and that they continue to be accepting.

Hugs
Suzie

[Betty Jean Blose]

Good on you Kandi! So nice to see a person willing to give of themselves to help others! For me, it is volunteering at the local (and recently some not so local) LGBT community groups. In retirement I have become a mentor, teacher....and even an actress of video training modules!

[DanaR]

Very cool and an awesome idea. Good luck, I hope everything turns out positive; which I'm sure it will.

[AnnieMac]

Kandi, how cool would it be if you became an SA's SA. You would be the perfect SA for a CD to buy a pre-owned outfit from!

[Tricia Lee]

That is one of the best ideas I've ever heard! Please keep us posted on how it goes. Maybe you can start a trend :)

[StephanieinSecret]

That sounds great, and like others have mentioned, I'm surprised you got such a great response from the Salvation Army of all people. Keep us posted!

[Bridget Ann Gilbert]

Congrats Kandi. I always felt dressing with a purpose was immensely more satisfying. Glad you found a way to make a difference in the lives of others.

Bridget