Losing a Loved one

[Shelby11]

When I told my wife I was going on hormones she left 3 days later , prior I was miserable, we had so many problems, I treated her like shit and I was never there for her, poor girl, I was so miserable suicidal, drank like a fish all because she wanted to come out and I would not let her, today I lost her for one reason and one reason only I did not tell her from day one, I know if I would of she would still be there today, so for those think you should not tell your loved ones, please do it is not fair to them, if you tell them from day one no one gets hurt tell them now and your with them they may stay or go , if they go, they will always go and they will find out sooner or later, so do your self a favor tell them, I wish I did years ago, I did not and she is gone, today we are friends and been out with her dressed and I hope one day she knows why I did what I did and she wants me as I want her, if that never happens and she never wants me back, it was my fault and all are bad times happened because I did not tell her from day one, please tell your loved ones trust me on this one, I love her and hope we find a way back to each other I want it but now it is her call, baby steps don't be me, please

[Dawn cd]

I think you are right. On the other hand, sometimes it's hard to know when day one is. For many people, the possibility of transition appears gradually, over time. Sometimes the transexual herself is in denial. It may be significant that you "told" your wife you were going on hormones. You didn't discuss the possibility with her.