It's pretty obvious why a guy would crossdress...

[Mink]

because he wants to feel pretty!

who the hell wouldn't!



every girl is a princess

every one

and boys can be princesses too!

eyah!

[Dana44]

Yeah but men can be Kings. LOL Still some boys like to crossdress. I do not want to be a Princess.
A woman that enjoys life.

[katieann1]

Some guys like the way the clothing feels

[Maria 60]

Men who never tried on any women's cloths, if only they knew what they are missing.

[CynthiaD]

It's always been obvious to me, but some people just can't see the obvious!

[docrobbysherry]

"Regular" men don't try on women's clothes for one particular reason: It doesn't ever occur to them!

I was a guy for 50 years. And, I had countless opportunities to try on girlfriend's or my wife's clothes.

I just never thot about that until later on in life!:brolleyes:

[Sara Jessica]

Men who never tried on any women's cloths, if only they knew what they are missing.

Nothing.

Most dudes are perfectly content being the dudes they are.

[paulaprimo]

woman live longer... :D

[Jenniferathome]

"Regular" men don't try on women's clothes for one particular reason: It doesn't ever occur to them!

...


Nothing.

Most dudes are perfectly content being the dudes they are.

Ding, Ding, Ding... And we have some winners! Non-cross dressers are missing NOTHING. Only a cross dresser would think guys are missing out.

[JODYLEGGS]

I've been wearing nylons, garters and heels my entire life and I've never had a better feeling in my life . I lost my virginity to a pair of ultra sheer nylons and nothing else makes me feel as hot, sexy and feminine as wearing women's clothes. I couldn't have lived without them. They make me feel complete. Those guys have no idea what they're missing. If they knew they would never want to stop either.

[ChristinaK]

I agree, most men would not consider the thought, although I think many have tried on a thing or two as a lustful event.

We are wired differently, but I think we're better off for it.

[ashley-2501]

I can understand why most men never think much of it. Its cind of like math, for some people they just get it others learn it but most Its difficult dont think much of it. But you can do beautiful things with it like calculate air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow.

[Lilian Sport Lover]

It makes us feel pretty, attractive, sexy.. Men get the same thing by hooking up with a beautifully dressed women, ( sending messages that this beautiful girl chose me so I must be sexy, attractive,...) or driving an expensive Mercedes to feel attractive, to feel good about themselves when people stare at them in their cars.

If you ask most women, even women in their 70-80 s, why do you invest hours daily doing makeup/grooming, suffering from tremendous pain ( waxing,high heels,...), and waste most of your savings on non-nutritional items they would tell you it is all worth it so can I FEEL pretty, attractive to others, in order to get attentions from others. I can only imagine how many serotonin pills equal to The rush that women get by attracting hundreds of admiring looks from men and women, from knowing that today 50 men in the metro, on the streets, at the office,... All had the thoughts " she is pretty and I just wish I can have her".

[audreyinalbany]

You really think so, lovepink? I know an awful lot of women, and I don't think there is a single one of them who spends hours doing grooming/make up or is all that interested in getting attention from others. Most of them want to look 'nice,' but that's about the extent of it.

[Dana3]

I've always been drawn toward women, girls, femininity ~ the feminine if you would. Its been with me since I was a young child, much more than just about sex, indeed even before I had any conception of the idea of such. I just liked women, girls, and all of that ~ that entails along with any and all of the trappings. Its was never about attracting the attention of someone else, nor about finding someone that I could "Trap" into believing I was a true GG. For me? Its not about the idea of having sex with a man as a woman. I simply like women and all that goes with EXPRESSING my own personal individuality and preferences ~ and that lends itself more toward the feminine than it does the masculine.

[Robbin_Sinclair]

I recently saw a Diego Rivera / Frida Kahlo exhibit. Other than the art and the interesting relationship that they had, Rivera is quoted as having said something that resonates on this, for me. It was something like, a man has one erogenous zone but a woman's whole body is an erogenous zone.

I may have missed the essence of the quote but, I feel that I was a one dimensional person as a male. In fem my whole body feels a sense of pleasure and life. The more I dress, even if it is casual, the more I feel like a sensual being. Meditating in drag also heightens the experience.

Love to ya, girls. :hugs:

[Krisi]

The average male doesn't want to feel or look pretty. Most men want to feel and look the opposite - strong, rough and masculine.

Those of us who crossdress do it for many different reasons, but we can't explain why we do it because we don't know. If you want to feel pretty, there's an underlying reason for that because it's not normal male behavior.

In the end, clothes are clothes. I've been wearing panties for several years now and only wear men's briefs for doctor visits. After a while, the panties are just underwear, nothing more. I wore bras for a while under my shirt but now I only wear a bra if I'm dressing and wearing forms. Not much point in wearing one otherwise.

[Tracii G]

Is that a European swallow?

[Lilian Sport Lover]

If you travel in Europe, South America , Asia You would find that women tend to put more time and Energy focusing on their looks and clothing ( if they have the money to do it). Even men in Europe tend to wear tighter clothes, more trendy shoes, brightEr colors,... No man in Europe would walk in Tennis shoes to a restaurant. Tennis shoes are for gyms only.

[Stephanie47]

My life would have been a lot less complicated if I was not a cross dresser. Sure, trick question. "If you were not a man, what animal would you want to be?" My answer: A Woman. A man who is not a cross dresser is not interested in getting into women's clothing. He is interested in getting women out of their clothing! (A little levity there!)

I have no idea why I cross dress. I know what it does for me, but, it does not answer the question "Why?" All I know for myself is, if I am going to wear women's clothing, it's going to be a dress, heels, hosiery and all the proper undergarments.

[Sara Jessica]

...Those guys have no idea what they're missing. If they knew they would never want to stop either.


Ding, Ding, Ding... And we have some winners! Non-cross dressers are missing NOTHING. Only a cross dresser would think guys are missing out.

As the instructions on the bottle say...

Wash.

Rinse.

Repeat.

[LilSissyStevie]

...because he wants to feel pretty!

Makes me think of a song. Everything makes me think of a song. LOL!

https://youtu.be/L7BQRGXFLJs

[Jodi]

Must disagree with the OP that "every girl is a princess". In my lifetime I've met a few that were far from being princesses, in looks, attitude and personality

Also--sorry, but crossdressing does not make a guy a princess.

Jodi

[emily606]

I don't think it's obvious why we dress up. For me, I think it's more than simply feeling good when all prissied up. Since my first time ever crossdressed when was a forced to play a girl in a show when I was eight, I have to believe that there is this whole process of re-enacting the guilt and shame that occurred. I know that whenever, I've seen a boy dress up as a girl for Halloween, or fantasy play, it pushes all my buttons and my heart thumps as I feel anxiety and fear. I felt the same way when Dustin Hoffman first appeared in drag in the film, "Tootsie." Honestly, I find Drag Queens creepy.

It turns me on sexually to be all girlied up, but it also shames me because I am a man who adores women and a man who loves his wife and loves being sexually active with her. It's a mystery to me why I have this affliction. And yes I say affliction because as someone else stated, my life would have been a lot easier had I never put on girl's clothes nor had the desire to.

Emily

[lynnef]

I can understand why most men never think much of it. Its cind of like math, for some people they just get it others learn it but most Its difficult dont think much of it. But you can do beautiful things with it like calculate air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow.


African or European? :)

back on topic, women's clothes seem to be made to appeal to some of the senses - sight, sound, touch, (both to wear and with their effect on others), while guy's clothes are just..... kinda... there.

[Teresa]

Sorry Mink from the start I didn't know what was happening until the sex thing started, even then it's wasn't wanting to be pretty or the princess that drove me ! The clothes started to feel good after that ! It's only after accepting myself , which was fairly recent that I wanted to get the whole thing together and try and look my best but I still didn't strive for being pretty !

[NicoleScott]

It seems to me that for someone who has been on the forum for years it would be obvious that its NOT obvious why guys crossdress.

[LucyNewport]

For me, there is a huge difference in how I move about the world in guy mode versus girl mode. I find that dressing as a woman helps me unlock parts of my personality that ordinarily stay submerged. Partly it is by necessity- I need to adopt feminine mannerisms and body language to slip through crowds (mostly) unremarked. But also, as a woman I'm able to give myself license to display my femininity in a way I can't or won't in my male persona. Anyone growing up as a guy in our hyper-masculine society will internalize a lot of negative stuff. Femme behavior is seen as weak - something to be purged. I can't bring myself to act out how I really feel as a guy, I just can't. As Lucy however, I can be as swishy and flighty as I want!

[ReineD]

because he wants to feel pretty!

who the hell wouldn't!

Well, I strongly agree with that! :)




every girl is a princess

every one

But, I don't agree with that. Not at all. Most of us aren't raised as princesses, nor do we expect to be princesses. Most of us are average looking, with average bodies, and we don't have the time for daily pampering so we can go out and "look great". We go out without makeup, without a great deal of thought put into the clothes we wear, we just kinda slug through with our jobs, our kids, and life's cares and responsibilities.

If you're thinking that women your age are princesses, this is a different matter. All young women are beautiful in my eyes (by virtue of the lack of aging on their faces and bodies), and young people are allowed to be carefree .... until life's responsibilities hit. :daydreaming:

[UNDERDRESSER]

The average male doesn't want to feel or look pretty. Most men want to feel and look the opposite - strong, rough and masculine.I would argue that most want that because that's how they feel attractive to women. I guess I do too, but I also want to look attractive in a physically sexy way, but that isn't mainstream thinking for men. I want to be a bit of a peacock. I'm currently having a bit of fun mixing and matching male and female items to find a look that works, it's fun, quite a challenge, but I'm getting a couple of outfits together that are starting to produce the effect I want. I don't want to be a princess, I don't even want a princess, I tend to go for more athletic, self reliant women.

I have found out that skirts feel wonderful for a guy, ( well this one at least ) and female underwear and hosiery are more comfortable generally, and can be a sensual delight.

My opinion only, YMMV etc.

[Rondacd4]

If it weren't for what others (family,friends, ect... ) I would wear women clothes all the time

[Diversity]

Go Cortina Wurst!
You are changing the world we live in for us! A legend in our own time - a 'Rising Phoenix'!

Di

[CrossKimmy]

I want to be King and Queen

[AbigailJordan]

It's Interesting that so many people suggest, imply or outright state that "most guys just never thought to try it" or similar. I once believed this to be the case too, and so I asked several of my female friends about it.. and quite surprisingly.. across the board, more than half of their collective boyfriends had worn their underwear once or more.. I think lots of guys try it.. some of us merely like it more than others.

[Beverley Sims]

I found wearing womens clothes was a great way to meet chicks.

Being a 98 lb weakling I was never one to attract girls but wearing dresses made them curious as I did look attractive.

[phylis anne]

well for one thing I have found that g/g's have the market cornered on comfort the jeans I wear are western cut lady wranglers and fit so much nicer than the man model and of course lets not forget panties as for whatever reason they fit me so much more comfy than the boxer briefs I would normally no if I could just find a panty style that I could slip past the wife:D I mean with me there is not the usual binding of the junkyard etc and besides they emit a forcefield of calmness and relaxation
hugs phylis

[docrobbysherry]

It's Interesting that so many people suggest, imply or outright state that "most guys just never thought to try it" or similar. I once believed this to be the case too, and so I asked several of my female friends about it.. and quite surprisingly.. across the board, more than half of their collective boyfriends had worn their underwear once or more.. I think lots of guys try it.. some of us merely like it more than others.

While I hate to dignify this with a reply, (because so many of u r into this panty fetish thing), I will. U r misunderstanding why most men mite put on women's panties, Abby. It's called, "playing around" in the bedroom, or "a joke". Women's panties r physically uncomfortable for me. A man can't even put on a pair of sexy panties and have them work unless u wear them backwards or tuck. (Which many of u don't do). I understand that CD's may get excitement or comfort from them. But, if u think regular guys get those same feelings, you're in the Nile. :eek:

[Tina_gm]

I tried beets. I hate the god damned things, My wife and her whole entire family loves them. I tried them again just to satisfy them that the way they cooked them would have made a difference. Nope, I still can't stand them. Relevance?? Most men are not going to want to have anything to do with dressing like, looking like or acting like a woman. Most likely because they are not transgender...

[Samantha2015]

I wish I knew why I have the urge to dress. Being hetero it's not to attract a man.
I have no inclinations for surgery to change my body in any way. If a genie could grant me
a wish and change me to a female in an instant I still feel I would want to return to male
after a month or so. I think it's all the different choices in makeup & clothing that
women have to express themselves that is so appealing. If I'm going to all the trouble
to dress as a woman I'm going to go all out. Not interested in dressing female & drab.
Dressing male is just a lot easier.
:2c:

[Paula Siemen]

If any guy ever hastles me about cross dressing, I've already got my response. "Try it you might like it too."

So you are saying wearing women's clothing is the "fountain of youth"?

[Jayne]

Regular guys would never think about wearing their girlfriends or wife's clothes so it would not enter their head they were missing out.
It is their loss really isn't it?
Hugs
Jayne

[Lilian Sport Lover]

Most of us do not know exactly what people have in their heads. We act just to fit in, go with the flow, survive physically and financially. I once read that 50% of college girls tried at least once a homosexual experience. Yet more than 50% of our society is prejeduced against homosexual people. I once had a good doctor friend who, on occasion, like once a month, worked in the emergency room. He was telling me that he was completely shocked as to how many times he encountered emergency men patients who had inside female clothing of some sort. This doctor was not even a full time emergency doctor. So do the math. I have also read on Opra s site that at lease three percent of kids in the U.S. Belonged to other men and the fathers never knew. Yet we claim to live in a conservative society where it is accepted as a fact that mostly women do not cheat. I guess 3% illegitimate fathered kids is higher now because of the Internet. So let us do the math 3% non fathered kids means at least 30 women cheating rate since most women are super careful of not getting pregnant when cheating. I guess what I am trying to say to you is that just because people maybe against crossdressing. Crossdressing 1-100% like any other social experience/taby does occur more than you think.

[Lily Catherine]

While I doubt cross-dressers are a majority, the prevalence will always be unreported due to a plausible link between embarrassment and the public perception of fetishistic cross-dressing (the most visible form to the vanilla world). Conformity is always a high ideal, for that matter, so there will always be CDers sufficiently deep in the closet not to be out even online.

Also, I doubt it's as obvious as OP makes it sound; feeling pretty is at best an effect in my opinion.

[PennyNZ]

If any guy ever hastles me about cross dressing, I've already got my response. "Try it you might like it too."

Nice - it might cause to think differently

[Married CD]

I like the way lingerie looks, wether on the rack, on my wife or on me. It feels great too.

[irene9999]

Totally agree that we do it to look pretty! As guys we rarely get to experience that and it sure feels great!

[icantwait24]

I have been wanting to go try some bongos on. I do belive you are right about the comfort, my wife let me try her MissMe's on and I loved them. They fit very well! I will be replacing my regular male wranglers with women's jeans for sure. Though here in Florida we don't wear jeans that often. As far as the panties are concerned I wear lacy boy shorts and I love them, I'm lucky my wife loves women's clothes expecially panties on me.

[Monique53]

I think that I first became attracted to women's clothes when I was about 5 or so years old and used to watch my Mom putting on her undergarments. I was just fascinated by her slipping into her bra, girdle, and hooking up her stockings before putting on her dress and heels. When I got to be about 12, I noticed that the girls were starting to wear the same kind of clothes whereas I was still wearing the same old drab pants and shirts. I so wanted to be able to experience the same thing. I used to daydream in school about what it would feel like to come dressed like the girl next to me in my bra, girdle, stockings, and a dress. My parents were good friends with the parents of one of my female classmates we used to visit often. One day, I noticed her bras and panties folded up on top of her dresser and I just couldn't resist taking a bra in the bathroom and trying it on. It felt so strange and of course I got somewhat aroused but knew then that I wanted to explore further but couldn't, at that time. I think it was the thrill of doing something forbidden, that really turned me on. From that point on, I started my adventure as a CDer. I think that I'm not trying to feel pretty but rather that women's clothes bring on a whole different sensory feeling, which is true to this day. The arousal part is long gone so that's not what has enticed me to continue crossdressing all these years. I guess I will never really figure out why I do it,but, who cares. It's just fun!!
Monique

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Mink, I've been in this program for over 68yrs. now, It's just who I am and it's just what I do.:daydreaming:

[weyburn]

For me iy I just a plain fact that I would like to be as feminine as possible and be as close to a woman as I can possibly be

[heatherdress]

I crossdress because I like to - it makes me feel good, really good - but I don't know why it makes me feel good. I accept my feelings and totally enjoy them. I am glad that I discovered the joys of crossdressing.

I also suspect that many "regular" guys might discover they would enjoy positive feelings if they somehow tried some aspects of crossdressing - silk underwear, nylons, perfume, maybe heels. Certainly not everyone, but more would if exposed or encouraged, as I was. There is simple excitement of doing something that would normally be different, naughty, exciting, sexy.

[suzzi]

I've been doing it for 40 yrs and it is still exciting and sexy I love dressing up and being feminine! I guess if I dressed all the time it would become a routine and it wouldn't be so exciting.

[Jenniferathome]

...I once read that 50% ... I once had a good doctor friend who... I have also read on Opra s site that at ...

have to call bull on this. You are using anecdotes and bad math to make a quasi-scientific point. You have no science nor data to draw conclusions. You, have an opinion, which is fine. We all have them. Please don't *******ize math and science.