AbigailJordan
05-01-2015, 08:10 AM
Okay, so recent events got me to thinking. As anyone who read my previous post will know, I revealed my dressing to another close friend last week to total acceptance, despite some worries that her boyfriend might be less comfortable with it.
Now obviously this allowed me a little more freedom when visiting to not restrict my feminine side too much.. a bit of jewellery.. a discreet jumpsuit etc.. so it created some opportunities. But obviously, so soon after revealing and with our natural instinct to not "push" our dressing on others, I wouldn't even dream of going round there en femme without careful planning and notice etc.
However.. what happened 2 nights ago blew me away completely. I had decided to doll up and try some of my new makeups and earrings out etc. did the full transformation including my new long dark hair which is a big change from the mid length blonde I used to be.. I was quite happy with the result.. gorgeous nails.. good cleavage etc etc. I would have considered going out for a quiet drive, but I knew I was low on fuel and didn't feel like facing the garage attendants in my hometown just in case.
So as a result.. there I was.. sat all gorgeous looking, watching the new GoT and playing a little poker online, when I get a facebook message from the friend mentioned above. She's having problems with a USB stick (I'm an I.T. tech by trade). I explain she needs to copy everything off and reformat the stick so she needs a laptop.. she doesn't have one.. I say that I would need to bring mine round and sort it for her sometime.. she says "ok I'll stick the kettle on".
Obviously this put the question in my mind that often comes about.. "Do I fob them off, or do I go and trash my gorgeous makeup job so I can go round".. I replied to her telling her I wasn't dressed to go out.. she says "put a dressing gown on then!!" I further explain that it's the makeup that is the problem.. And I waited for the response of "ahh ok.. no worries".. but instead I got a shock.
"I think we can deal with makeup Mr.. even (boyfriends name) knows about it and he's cool xxx". And I realised she wasn't going to give up. And so I found myself, doing the old fashioned "get everything I need in a bag" scoot round the house, and.. much earlier than I would normally exit my front door en femme, I stepped out and went to visit friends who had never seen Abi except in one picture.
I had a great night, and of course it was fantastic to be able to go out as Abi and just hang out with friends.. I had a fantastic night. But it made me realise that my reveal hadn't just created an opportunity to dress, but had actually incentivised me to go out on a night that I would otherwise have stayed home alone. Ultimately of course we would all love to be able to go out as much as we want, but it took this random set of events to encourage me to step out. I was wondering if anyone else has found that after confiding in a friend they have been encouraged by those friends to freely express themselves?
I saw my friend again yesterday and we talked about the previous night.. she said it was great fun to have Abi round and that at one point she actually started thinking of Abi as a different person to me.. and also that she was jealous of my legs (what girl doesn't love to hear that from a woman???). She also told me that when she told her boyfriend that Abi was coming round he'd freaked out a little.. but not in a bad way. "ummm.. what do I say to him when I answer the door? What should I call him?? or her is it??" she explained that "Hi mate.. fancy a brew?" was probably a safe opener lol
And apparently his comment to her once I'd gone was "He doesn't look half bad as a woman does he???" I even got a text saying "We have to say we think you look great as Abi". Now this is from an 18 year old male who although not homophobic, has always been a little uncomfortable around gay issues and although I'm not gay, we all know how many people link the two when they don't understand.. so for a young man with some reservations about aspects of the LGBT community to openly accept a CD without any real issues I think is a positive sign that the next generation really don't care too much.
So, sorry for the rant, but I just wanted to share.. see if anyone else had experienced a push to dress from friends etc. Or experienced acceptance from an unusuaol source as I did?
Now obviously this allowed me a little more freedom when visiting to not restrict my feminine side too much.. a bit of jewellery.. a discreet jumpsuit etc.. so it created some opportunities. But obviously, so soon after revealing and with our natural instinct to not "push" our dressing on others, I wouldn't even dream of going round there en femme without careful planning and notice etc.
However.. what happened 2 nights ago blew me away completely. I had decided to doll up and try some of my new makeups and earrings out etc. did the full transformation including my new long dark hair which is a big change from the mid length blonde I used to be.. I was quite happy with the result.. gorgeous nails.. good cleavage etc etc. I would have considered going out for a quiet drive, but I knew I was low on fuel and didn't feel like facing the garage attendants in my hometown just in case.
So as a result.. there I was.. sat all gorgeous looking, watching the new GoT and playing a little poker online, when I get a facebook message from the friend mentioned above. She's having problems with a USB stick (I'm an I.T. tech by trade). I explain she needs to copy everything off and reformat the stick so she needs a laptop.. she doesn't have one.. I say that I would need to bring mine round and sort it for her sometime.. she says "ok I'll stick the kettle on".
Obviously this put the question in my mind that often comes about.. "Do I fob them off, or do I go and trash my gorgeous makeup job so I can go round".. I replied to her telling her I wasn't dressed to go out.. she says "put a dressing gown on then!!" I further explain that it's the makeup that is the problem.. And I waited for the response of "ahh ok.. no worries".. but instead I got a shock.
"I think we can deal with makeup Mr.. even (boyfriends name) knows about it and he's cool xxx". And I realised she wasn't going to give up. And so I found myself, doing the old fashioned "get everything I need in a bag" scoot round the house, and.. much earlier than I would normally exit my front door en femme, I stepped out and went to visit friends who had never seen Abi except in one picture.
I had a great night, and of course it was fantastic to be able to go out as Abi and just hang out with friends.. I had a fantastic night. But it made me realise that my reveal hadn't just created an opportunity to dress, but had actually incentivised me to go out on a night that I would otherwise have stayed home alone. Ultimately of course we would all love to be able to go out as much as we want, but it took this random set of events to encourage me to step out. I was wondering if anyone else has found that after confiding in a friend they have been encouraged by those friends to freely express themselves?
I saw my friend again yesterday and we talked about the previous night.. she said it was great fun to have Abi round and that at one point she actually started thinking of Abi as a different person to me.. and also that she was jealous of my legs (what girl doesn't love to hear that from a woman???). She also told me that when she told her boyfriend that Abi was coming round he'd freaked out a little.. but not in a bad way. "ummm.. what do I say to him when I answer the door? What should I call him?? or her is it??" she explained that "Hi mate.. fancy a brew?" was probably a safe opener lol
And apparently his comment to her once I'd gone was "He doesn't look half bad as a woman does he???" I even got a text saying "We have to say we think you look great as Abi". Now this is from an 18 year old male who although not homophobic, has always been a little uncomfortable around gay issues and although I'm not gay, we all know how many people link the two when they don't understand.. so for a young man with some reservations about aspects of the LGBT community to openly accept a CD without any real issues I think is a positive sign that the next generation really don't care too much.
So, sorry for the rant, but I just wanted to share.. see if anyone else had experienced a push to dress from friends etc. Or experienced acceptance from an unusuaol source as I did?