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I Am Paula
05-04-2015, 07:29 AM
I have just copied this from my Facebook page, so those of you that follow that, sorry for the duplicate.

Thank you all for so many birthday wishes. Happy Star Wars Day to people who celebrate that. May 4th. has become the anniversary of something much bigger to me.
It was two years ago today that I decided I could not go on any longer, and had to ditch my old well worn male persona. It had served me well, and even fooled some people, but I was done with it.
Although I had been presenting female on occasion for many years, I was no longer able to be both.
For some time I had known that change had to come. Fear, and denial, kept me from making the leap. I had tried to hold on to both Paul, and Paula, mostly to please other people, but pleasing myself had to come first.
It all came boiling to the surface on my birthday. Another year older, and still living a lie. It was then, the proverbial moment of absolute clarity, I decided Paula had to be my only personality. The true one.
These have been the best two years of my life.
Thank you, all my friends, for sticking by me. I am truly blessed.

This part is not in my Facebook post, because business colleagues, and some other people don't really need to know- It's been a busy two years for me- I am still with my wife of 19 years. It took her a while to grasp this, but she finally calls me Paula, and her. She will not call ours a gay marriage, but is OK with same-sex marriage. Almost two years on estrogen, and cyproterone. Boob job, and a little facial work. New teeth all around. Coming out to everyone, even my uber redneck in-laws (who have reluctantly accepted). I live and work among totally accepting, loving folk (Believe it or not, one of my employers is the Catholic School board, who welcomed me back with open arms). My friends, every one, have stood by me.
I have had my ups, and downs, my weepy moments, my WTF moments, but other than a small surgical detail, I'm done. There's just Paula left, and she's the happiest woman in the world!
My birthday has been May 4th. for 57 years. My re-birthday is two years old today.

Jennifer-GWN
05-04-2015, 07:51 AM
Let me say happy birthday in life and happy birthday in renewed life. You are a beautiful bouncing 2year old babe with a ton of life and happiness. I'm happy to know you and call you a friend.

Best wishes.

Cheers... Jennifer

Megan G
05-04-2015, 08:15 AM
Happy birthday Paula!

I Am Paula
05-04-2015, 08:17 AM
Thanks Jennifer. You have had some amazing milestones lately, and we will celebrate jointly shortly.

Rianna Humble
05-04-2015, 08:49 AM
I'm really glad to read that you're still with your wife and that she is content to call you Paula.

Do you think perhaps that today would be a good day to give her an extra special hug?

Enjoy your second birthday!

I Am Paula
05-04-2015, 09:09 AM
Thanks Rianna. It was not easy. Although she had seen me in women's clothes, makeup, etc. our whole married life (I made no secret of it), it is a different thing when I announced (not negotiated) my transition. I think she held onto the possibility of me 'coming back' for a long time, even after beginning hormones.
While we often say that no cis person can truly understand what is going on in our lives, conversely, how can we possibly understand the feelings of our loved ones? We muddle along, doing what we can, keep the conversation open, and hope for the best.

Heidi Stevens
05-04-2015, 12:04 PM
Sounds like you got things going your way, Paula! Happy anniversary and more happiness for you in the coming year.

Bria
05-04-2015, 12:17 PM
You've come along way baby! Thanks for the update, Happy Birthday!

Hugs, Bria

Rachel Smith
05-04-2015, 02:37 PM
Happy b-day Paula and thanks for being a member here and posting about the good and not so good on your journey.

phylis anne
05-04-2015, 05:31 PM
happy bday Paula ,
congrats on your journey as I read this board more and see all the people it is hard to imagine what some have gone through to achieve their inner self it is even harder to imagine some of the losses many have faced and makes one ponder if it all was worth it ? To that I say yes time will hopefully heal the casuties that occured while the new you would great feel at finally being free would be most definitely worth it . now if I could practice what I preach LOL !! like many with unsurmountable issues family etc I am still peeking out .
hugs phylis

charlenesomeone
05-04-2015, 05:47 PM
Happy birthday 2/57 in that order.
Mega hugs

Eringirl
05-04-2015, 06:46 PM
Paula....Happy Birthday girl!! Great to see that you are doing so well. A milestone indeed. Now, let's see if the "terrible twos" kick in and if we have our hands full with you!! :laughing:

hope to be able to celebrate with you soon. And by the way....great photo in your avatar...

Erin

Leah Lynn
05-04-2015, 07:17 PM
Happy Birthday, Paula! And many happy returns! You have been an inspiration to me, and I pray that you live a long, lovely, wonderful life being your true self.

Hugs,

Leah

kimdl93
05-04-2015, 07:20 PM
Happy 2nd, Paula! You've come so far!

Adelaide
05-04-2015, 07:39 PM
Happy B'day! You seem so happy....you're very fortunate to have a supportive S.O.

PretzelGirl
05-04-2015, 11:49 PM
If it feels like this at just a half a year, I can't imagine what it is like at 2 years. I am so happy for you Paula! Happy Birthday!

Karen62
05-05-2015, 12:47 AM
Sue, tell me about it! I'm in for just 2 months tomorrow and am very pleased so far. I can't wait to see what 2 years brings to me!

Happy birthday, Paula!

Karen

P.S. Paula, I really like your new avatar! You are lovely!

Cindy J Angel
05-05-2015, 06:45 AM
So glad to here happy birthday gf. Love your new avater

Laura912
05-05-2015, 09:04 AM
For your first birthday, someone else had the labor pains. For your second, you had the labor pains. Congratulations!! It's a girl!!!!!!

becky77
05-05-2015, 10:43 AM
Woohoo!

Never thought of it like that, was this when you made the choice to transition or when you started the transition, or are those one and the same?
If you have been on hormones for two years you must have started the process before your 1st birthday. What a baby lol.

I Am Paula
05-05-2015, 04:08 PM
becky77- At that time I was pretty much full time, but still just considering myself a really gung ho crossdresser. It was on my birthday that I decided that I was never going back, and you could say my transition began that moment. You might say I had drawn the line in the sand. I began HRT at the end of may, that's why I said coming up on two years.

Suzanne F
05-06-2015, 12:45 AM
Paula,
Happy birthday! I love that you have been able to stay with your wife. I hope that my story sounds like yours a year from now.
Suzanne