Do you prefer very feminine or not too feminine partners? (Q from a GG)

[Morgana3]

Hi everyone,

I'm new on this forum and I have SO many questions to ask you, I can't contain my curiosity/excitement! :-) (BTW I am a GG)

Do the majority of you (Crossdressers) prefer feminine women as partners, and by that I mean with a feminine physicality, look, attitude, and so on or you tend to prefer women not too feminine, with a slight manly look, aggressive behaviour and so on? Or the answer is just "it depends"? :-)

[Sarah-RT]

I personally prefer ''girly girls'' which has no bearing on my crossdressing. For example I cant stand short hairstyles like bobs etc because they I dont think they make women look ''feminine'', only a few people can get away with it, Frankie from the girl band the Saturdays can pull it off.

I do like when a girl asks tough in a playful manner but I wouldnt go in for an aggressive type in a regular situation

Sarah x

[Megan b]

I would have to say I prefer a feminine woman. Kind of a girly girl.

[sometimes_miss]

Yes, I like feminine women. Long pretty hair, some make up, dresses, skirts, shorts, tops that show the figure. Women are beautiful. I like to look. And if the woman I'm with doesn't look nice, I'll be looking at someone else and she'll get upset. OTOH, I've seen what heels do to your feet, so I'm not a big fan of heels. Cute sneakers are fine, even though I know they might not look great with the other stuff. I don't think it's unfair to want women to look nice. I wear dress slacks, button down shirt and a jacket, and nice shoes, and keep the car nice too. I do my part.

[Nadine Spirit]

Such an interesting question. But a difficult one to answer well. I think women have worked hard to increase the depth of the feminine playing field. Meaning that just because one may have short hair, or not wear dresses or skirts, or does not wear makeup, she can still be considered quite feminine. But that may just be me being nit-picky as I do believe that I understand the gist of your question.

So... how to answer this then???? I prefer women. I suppose I prefer more feminine women, but again what constitutes feminine is debatable. My wife shaved her head once. And what happened? Everyone complemented her beauty. Its kind of funny how feminine long hair is, but her feminine face was so obvious and beautiful without any hair obscuring it, it was funny. And aggressive behavior? Hmm... I like people who stand up for themselves, who speak up for what they want, will defend their positions, are confident. Are those aggressive behaviors? As they are not typically thought of as feminine. Hmm..... I did say I thought this would be difficult for me to answer well didn't I?

[pamela7]

feminine, without a shadow of a doubt!

[Kristy 56]

Definitely feminine girly girl for me. Any chance I get I try to be one too. :)

[franlee]

feminine, without a shadow of a doubt!
I couldn't have said it better!

[Dana44]

Ah, I have always liked my women a bit feminine with the ability to have some male attributes. My SO is not too feminine, yet she does dress as feminine as me when we go out. I told her that I surly appreciated that. She wears shorter mini's than I do. And likes heels as well as I do. She is sometimes very feminine and loving. Best of both worlds.

[Stephanie47]

Definitely, I prefer a feminine looking and acting woman. Femininity is a state of being and not necessary reflective by the clothes she wears. I recently saw a very feminine young woman driving a cement truck: hard hat, steel toed boots, jeans, flannel shirt. What made her feminine? Her smile. The way she brushed some loose hairs from her face. Basically, it was as she carried herself, her deportment. Unfortunately, I have seen some very feminine women in appearance, but, oh my, they opened her mouths and talked. Run for the hills.

[Chris_Cross]

Definitely a feminine GG partner. And welcome to the site. I'm relatively new, and it's been very helpful to me. There are some thoughtful folks on here.

[LucyNewport]

Personally, I like women who are more androgynous in appearance and aggressive in demeanor. If always fallen for punk/goth girls, tough women. My SO is like that. She is nobody's fool and doesn't let anything past her!

[mykell]

that is a tough one for me, when describing women to crossdressing ive always felt that women are always feminine 24-7 but we just play with it (femininity) for a time.

do i find myself paying attention to a women who expresses her feminine side more assertively, yes, sometimes i even will stare/glare for to long as i admire her makeup skill, outfit, and hair ect. not in a creepy way but in appreciation....and i know it takes time and skill and alas money to put yourself together like that....soo yes it is a preference, not an expectation or demand and my "partner" is a loving caring casual soul, not a girly girl but nothing manly or aggressive about her, she does speak her mind and stands her ground when she feels she is in the right....hope that answers your question....

[Allisa]

HMMMM, not too girlie girl ,unless she feels like it, but definitely feminine and knows her own mind. Kind of ironic coming from a man who wears womens clothes, huh?

[Samantha2015]

I like a woman to be feminine but not to the point where she is an almost helpless needy "bimbo". If her whole world revolves around getting her hair & nails done and shoe & clothes shopping that gets old & expensive fast.
Smart, good sense of humor and can dress up nice when necessary is a good combination. :2c:

[Isabella Ross]

Definitely feminine. Particularly during romance and in the bedroom. Rapture is both of us in extreme feminine mode. Interesting question!

[Carole]

Definitely feminine for me Morganna.

[Pat]

I'll sign up for "it depends." I'm one of the minority CDs who you would probably call bisexual, even though that doesn't cover all of the bases. I like men, women, MtF, FtM and have significant relationships with all of the above. So, I'm just looking for an interesting person, really, and don't focus too much on their presentation and hope they won't focus too much on mine. ;)

[susan54]

I suppose it is complicated. Women are more than their clothes or even their femininity. Yes, I like feminine women who wear lovely clothes and it is very important to have a nice voice - and to smile and laugh. Laughing is the best of all. But they also have to be intelligent, good conversationalists, and make their own jokes as well as laugh at mine. High achievers are good but not essential. Too high a voice, too girly clothes, too giggly are all turn-offs. Am I too demanding? Well, I am single at present!

[Ceera]

In many ways I am still exploring what it is that really attracts me.

I've known I was at least somewhat bisexual since high school, but I repressed that side of me because my father was homophobic. So I tried to live the good straight male role and married a woman who knew I had those inclinations, but who also knew that I would hold to my vows and be monogamous with her. I kept that promise, we were married for 30 years, and only her death separated us. We raised a lovely daughter together, who is still very close to me.

The girl I married wasn't a particularly 'feminine' woman. More of a tomboy type. She enjoyed martial arts and tended only to dress up for special occasions, and rarely used much makeup. I suppose to some degree I might have been hedging my bets back then and had sought a lady that was at least somewhat more like a man than the norm. Yet she also had lovely long hair, loved to dance, and had a very romantic soul. It was the person she was that attracted me, more than her appearance, plus the fact that she accepted me, knowing my quirks and inclinations.

While we were married, I never strayed - but I did look and admire. My preferences seemed to remain largely for female partners, and from mid-range to very feminine. Among the males I found attractive, they tended to be either somewhat effeminate or were trim and well cared for individuals.

When my wife died about a year and a half ago, a few years after both of my parents had also passed on, I finally allowed myself to begin exploring the feminine side of me that I have repressed for so long. I'd been feeling some inclinations to cross dress, but had held back until she was gone. I suppose if she was still alive, I would still not be trying to cross dress yet. For me, the urge wasn't strong enough to risk jeopardizing our relationship just to try it.

When I am out en-femme at a nightclub, I am equally happy to dance with men or women. I've enjoyed it just as much when the lady was feminine as I did when she was very much a butch lesbian. I suppose that if I had the chance to date one of the women I've met while en-femme, the more feminine girls would have a higher place in my preferences. But having her accept that I like playing the female role on occasion myself would be a stronger draw than her own femininity. They guys I have found attractive were average to good looking, preferably slender and well groomed. The scruffy or very overweight ones don't appeal to me.

But in the long run, it's the person more than their appearance that matters to me. Someone who enjoys dancing with me, who likes talking with me, and who seems interested in me as a person and is willing to let me get to know them as a person will get a lot more attention from me than anyone else, regardless of outward 'beauty'.

[Confucius]

Very feminine....
I think females are so lucky to get all the pretty things.

[Kate Simmons]

I prefer a woman who is confident in herself and her own abilities. I accept her for who she is unconditionally.:battingeyelashes::)

[Laura28]

I prefer i a confident and aggressive woman but one that is very feminine.

[LilSissyStevie]

I definitely go for alpha females: highly educated, pretty but not too perfect, aggressive, energetic. I'm not necessarily attracted to "butch" women but I do like women that have many of the positive attributes traditionally associated with masculinity - but not machismo. I don't have any attraction to the submissive barbie bimbo type.

[Andrea_cd]

Definitely feminine and girly my wife is all of that and supportive and kind she loves pink yay and very fashionable

[Married CD]

Interesting question. You specifically asked what type of women do we like as partners. I have a very attractive, energetic, wife that is smart and outgoing. We are active and share similar interests. She does not dress overly feminine, certainly not manly. She matches her colours and waredrobe very well. I must have mental stimulation, not just physical, and I find the female friends we have are of a similar personality. I wouldn't want it any other way.

On the other hand, if you ask the type of women I look at that get my heart racing, it would be very feminine. Either young sexy outfits or very feminine "ensembles", not formal wear or evening wear,but dressy casual. That is the style I like.

Hope this makes sense.

Morgan

[Bridget Ann Gilbert]

My eye was always drawn to women who knew how to present themselves in an attractive manner (stylish clothes, tasteful makeup, etc), but what I am most attractted to is a personality that syncs with my own. I've dated women who would be described as tomboys and women who would never leave the house without makup, but in the end it was more impoorant to be with someone who gets me. I have a good blend of masculine and feminine characteristics and so does my wife. It works for us.

[Adriana Moretti]

I'm sure I dont count...but i perfer other crossdressers......or men ......I'd date a girl again if i could find one not needy, or annoying ......maybe one day...and she would be a girly girl for sure....

[Michelle (Oz)]

Feminine women ... took me three marriages to work that out though. Third is a keeper - style and class in abundance.

[justmetoo]

A certain amount of "femininity" is appealing to me. As that word seems to be defined by our society. By which I mean things like nice makeup (but not overdone), long hair (although some woman are physically/aesthetically attractive in short hair, too), lack of coarse behavior, and other superficial traits. But it also includes things like intelligence, a sense of humor, strength of character, playfulness, and ability to hold her own.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Morgana, The prettier and sexier the better.:daydreaming:

[Jenniferathome]

Morgana, my wife is not a girly-girl type woman but she is certainly feminine in shape, personality and most traits. That stated, she knows how to use a chop saw and isn't afraid to get dirty when necessary. We remodeled our home together and that was a dirty job. I have always been attracted to more feminine women but that does not preclude them from being a jock or being outspoken and such.

[Sometimes Steffi]

It depends. I met this really pretty woman who basically had a buzz cut. Is a buzz cut feminine. I don't think so, but she was pretty nonetheless and very confident in her buzz cut.

[JenniferR771]

I like feminine women--however--short curly hair is good. And I am a bit shy--so a take-charge-woman suits me--if she is intelligent, and has a thin build, like me. My wife is not afraid to tackle manly projects around the house. She mows 30 times per year. Has her own gas hedge trimmer, leaf blower, string trimmer and some tools.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Hi Morgana

I prefer very feminine women, with all the accoutrements. I grew up in a city where many women were fashion-challenged. In many years of dating I found few women that would truly take care of their appearance. Almost none would wear skirts or dresses and heels, bar the occasional wedding, and fewer still that would wear stockings or pantyhose. Fortunately for me I had a job involving heavy international travel. In many countries outside the USA, particularly Latin American and Eastern Europe, women would dress the way I always wanted to dress. Eventually I found the perfect woman, married her, and here we are 15 years later. Beyond being a great mom to 3 kids and a loving partner, at 45+ she still turns heads, including mine, and dresses exactly the way many of us on this forum dream of dressing. In fact, if I could look and dress like any woman on this planet, my wife would be right up there with Kate Hudson and Blake Lively.

Cheers

Shibumi

[Samantha_Smile]

I've always preferred 'girly' girls.
My soon-to-be wife is a girly girl.
Girly and feminine is the thing I try most to emulate when dressing, I see it as an attractive quality.

[Yoshisaur]

I also prefer a girly girl, but one that isn't afraid to be aggressive at times.

[Natalie cupcake]

I would have to say a feminine woman. :battingeyelashes:

[MissTee]

I like girls and I prefer my girl be feminine. Part of the allure of Cding for me is having someone appreciate what I am attempting to mimic and to have shared experiences. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and all that stuff, ya' know.

[DorothyElizabeth]

I like very liberal (and liberated) women with strong opinions and intellect. How they chose to present has little or nothing to do with my liking or disliking them.

The ability to dress for the occasion and be comfortable in the milieu is important to me, be it outdoors tearing down a old shed, frolicking on a "clothing optional" beach, meeting and greeting in a party setting, or attending a formal affair. I am just as comfortable in black (or even white) tie formal attire as I am in jeans and a tee shirt, or my birthday suit; I would want a partner who feels the same way.

I should add though, that when I am in my more female mode (i.e.) wearing a dress and heels, or anything really feminine, I want my woman to be more the aggressor, and maybe even a little "mannish".

[SharonDenise]

I was married to my wife for forty years for what she was. Unless femininity is high on your list of what you need to find in your date or mate, it needs to be balanced with her other assets. I miss my wife and don't care how she comes out on some kind of femininity scale.

[docrobbysherry]

I have Sherry copy the looks of women I find attractive!:daydreaming:

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[Joni T]

Definitely a womanly woman. Remember, I'm just a dude in a skirt.
Jon

[prene]

Definitely feminine all the way

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Morgana,
I suppose finding a desirable SO for anyone would vary as much among us CDers, as it would to the rest of the vanilla world.
As far as my personal preference..... I have to say my SO can meet all of the characteristics you listed, sans the "manly" look of course!
I love to see her all dolled up, and just as well, appreciate the fact that she's not afraid to break some nails now and then.
What does femininity mean? Awesome question!
Welcome to the forum.
Much Love,
Kristyn

[Meghan4now]

I tend to prefer an attractive woman that has feminine charms and pleasant mannerisms. However I don't consider many of the non physical attributes to be the sole domain of a woman. On a personality level, which is more important, I prefer strong women that are not afraid to get down and dirty with me. Real camping, power tools, watch a ball game, help me dig out a stump, and have fun doing it. But when it's time to get cleaned up, have fun doing that too.

Oh shoot, I just described my self. Seriously though, I've never liked divisive gender roles. I like people to act like individuals able to enjoy life as it comes and not conform to false societal stereotypes. There are some inherent behaviors that are more gender distributed and that's ok, but I think there are many that are unnaturally driven by the pressure to conform to societal expectations.

Oh and boots. Love to see a girl in boots.

[Dana3]

I've never gave it much thought actually? Certainly I prefer women, and am drawn toward and attracted to femininity in any and all of ways and means of expression, ~ that is to say not just in the appearance of the woman herself, but any and all of the trappings that comes from, well women being women, and femininity. Given my druthers, I would and do prefer women as friends, their preferences, and tastes, their perspectives, attitudes, tastes in thing and ways in expressing themselves. In short I'm attracted to women ~ but what is more? I'm attracted to the individual, and that's changed over the course of the years from what it was when I was younger. There was a time, when I would have acceded to the question by answering that I preferred "girly-girls" and ultra-feminine, but over the same course of the years, I've grown to be attracted to a mature woman who is settled in herself, isn't trying to live up to some almost mythical ~ stereotypical image of what a woman is or is suppose to be ~ or for that matter what masculinity or femininity is suppose to be.

[Helen_Highwater]

Intelligently feminine and by that I mean someone who understands how to dress well and suiting the situation without always being a slave to fashion. Has an understanding of what's going on in the world, politically and socially. Emphasizes with the needs of others and while knowing her own mind isn't aggressive or rude. Girly is a step too far.

[Athena_]

Interesting questions. I would say that I prefer women who are girly girls. My wife can fit that mode when she wants to. I must also say that it is nice when women are not afraid to go on a week long wilderness canoe trip, as an example. My wife has gone on such a trip, and she did great! I do admire the ability of some women to be very girly or not so girly as the situation call for.

[Amy Lynn3]

Welcome to the forum, but not sure my answer will be limited to one or the other of your examples. First, I must be attracted to a woman. Women who attract me come in all sizes and shapes and dress. Some have make up on and others don't. Some are educated and some not so much.

Having said that, I can say if I am attracted to a woman she can really put my desire over the top, by doing all she wants to look her best. Meaning, nice attire, make up, jewelry, etc.

[JennyTV]

My immediate reaction was "girly girl". But the implication there is someone that obsesses with their appearance. And that's not it. I would more likely say "low maintenance feminine". meaning a woman that is naturaly feminine but doesn't obsess over it.

Jen

[CONSUELO]

I enjoy the company of women very much and don't really examine the degree of their femininity. I do admire and enjoy women who have a great sense of style and who enjoy dressing stylishly and well. Femininity is fun and I enjoy it in its many forms.

[Lee Andrews]

Feminine for sure. If you could ever see my wife she just is, all the time. Whether getting all dressed up to go out or in track pants and an old t-shirt of mine helping build a deck. I'm in awe of her.

[StephanieDragg]

mmmmm very feminine !!!

[Jaylyn]

I find my wife very appealing to me and she is very feminine. She was the sexiest in our younger years and growing old she is elegantly aging. I'd say very feminine.

[claire_hollinger]

I think that this thread is prone to personal opinion in regards to the definition of "Feminine". We as crossdressers tend to go over-the-top on feminine, and can easily find the average woman to be less than our idea of feminine. Also, age can play into it as well. 50 years ago, a girly-girl was vastly different than a girly-girl now. My wife is probably more manly than me, but I love her, accept her no matter how she is. I like my women to be girly enough to for me to look up to, but manly enough not to take any of my BS lol

[Tina_gm]

definitely feminine. But, it does not have to be totally a physical femininity. (although I definitely prefer that as well.) Feminine to me though does not have to mean meek or helpless. Not at all. I think there can be feminine managers/bosses that can be that, but still strong in their own way, and that can be very attractive. It also doesn't have to be exactly what they do either. I think women can do a lot of things in a feminine way even though it is a predominantly male oriented job, or hobby.

My wife can easily fit most of my descriptions, and I guess that is a good reason as to why I married her. My wife is not afraid to do any one thing. Although her personality is quite feminine for the most part. While she is not a fan of dresses and skirts, I still think she dresses quite feminine. When she does do something that is not predominantly a female hobby, she pulls it off in a cute if not sexy way. Such as target practice. Good gosh how that can be sexy to me when we are doing that together.

[Amanda M]

For me - simply feminine but not gushing girly. Intelligent, self sufficient, leaning towards elegant when appropriate. Oh, and it is better if she loves me - like my wife!

[Beverley Sims]

My partners have always been feminine, the more masculine appearing females I have met have usually become great friends.

[Susan Smith]

Very feminine but with a spark and some inner steel - just like my wife

[Stephanie_83]

My girlfriends have generally been pretty feminine, and my current gf certainly is - but she definitely prefers pants to skirts, and uses way less makeup than I do :heehee: Then again, she likes that I'm somewhat more on the submissive side (ie, I like being the little spoon)... So it's a nice balance.

[Rachelakld]

Feminine dress wearing, would prefer a skinny sports body for hiking, tennis, skiing etc, but I have a lovely larger lady who is still game for adventure (like white water rafting).
We drink wine together, not beer.
Manly girls are of no interest to me.

[AmandaM]

Definitely girly. The more girly the better. But if she is also strong-willed, like a CEO type, then even better.

[Lacey New]

I have no interest in a "butch" type of woman. Much prefer a woman who is all girl: nylon and lace and makeup and hair - a nice conservative package. She does not have to be model skinny, a fuller figure is fine - just a lady with class.

[desertrider]

Dressing more has made me think about this more openly. I grew up in standard cultural homophobe mode (towards myself that is, I've had plenty of friends of all orientations). Guys didn't have a body below the face. Public bathrooms: stare at the celing. Repressed. I can be much more honest with myself now. There are definately some cute guys & cd's out there. Mostly not so hairy though. Not into bears, male or female ;)

So, back to girls specifically, as you might guess, femininty isn't a real big determinant to attraction for me. I'm into the athletic look, really. If she can climb a mountain, paint doorjambs, then tease me and be a little girly, that's amazing...brains is a plus also, I talk alot =) Now I've described by partner too. She definately wears the pants around here, lol, but looks great in a skirt...

[avant1465]

The primary criteria upon which I decide if I like a woman is; IF SHE SHOWS UP!

[ClosetED]

Welcome to the site! Male crossdressers have been described as femophiles - men who love women and womanly traits. Drag queens have been described as making fun of women and their traits. So it is not surprising that the majority of crossdressers on this section of Male To Female Crossdressing would prefer to be with someone who displays the qualities they love and want to emulate. A transexual might be posting in the other sections and might desire a partner with traits opposite of what they are.
hugs, Ellen

[jeniinnylons]

Yes I love girly girls. The more feminine they dress the better but have to say sometimes a tight top and jeans is sexy~

[Jake880]

I have always dressed pretty feminine. Of course on occasion a little ****ty. I never thought about it until now but all of the women I am attracted to have been feminine. My current wife, of 25 years, is very femine but also quite dominant. I have always bought her clothes even before I started dressing. I can see now that I buy and have been buying her things that I would like to wear. She lets me dress at night in panties and, except for the hair and muscles we look very much alike. I would love to look more like her, she is very pretty!

[Rhian]

I only go for girly girls. I love loads of make-up, a skinny body, nice hair, sexy clothes and shaven. I like them to have something weird about their personality or an elemtn og their looks while remaining what society deems to be desirable. Oddly I dress like the girl I'm attracted to.

[Morgana3]

Wow, thank you guys for all of your replies! They are really interesting. Obviously, when it comes to choosing a partner, everyone is different and has his own taste, but, from your replies, it seems like the majority of you tends to prefer girly girls, that have a brain, strong personality, sort of determined and with ambitions, but also capable of been down to earth and easy going at times. Sounds like the perfect mix of qualities! :-)

[heatherdress]

Nothing changes because I crossdress. I am attracted to feminine women.

[Jennifer0874]

My wife has a very feminine appearance. Which is pretty much where here stereotypical feminity ends. She has a very dominant personality and I love it. I'm definitely more submissive so we balance each other perfectly. I'm the more nurturing parent. She has the great career as a partner in a large consulting firm.

She asked me on the first date, went in for the first kiss, made the first move to be intimate. So I need a feminine appearance and an alpha personality or my relationship isn't going to work.

[StephanieJ]

I would probably swing the other way (pun intended) and say that I prefer women who are more manly and less effeminate.

...Does that make me gay or trans? Probably...

[Jilmac]

My preference has always been feminine women.

[rockerreds]

Women who are somewhat androgynous are attractive to me-but also girly types.

[TrishaLake]

My wife is very femine but a strong women, I think you need a bit of both in this life.

[AlanaG]

The more feminine the better for me as well.

[KimBarely]

I would fall into the "it depends" group. Ultra femme doesn't really attract me in and of itself. For me it's more about confidence, personality and brains. For me, some good examples would be most of the ladies on CNBC, Helen Mirren, Christine Lagarde all the way to Rachel Maddow. I don't think many would describe Rachel as being femme but she is a very attractive woman to me.

[Lexi_83]

Wow, thank you guys for all of your replies! They are really interesting. Obviously, when it comes to choosing a partner, everyone is different and has his own taste, but, from your replies, it seems like the majority of you tends to prefer girly girls, that have a brain, strong personality, sort of determined and with ambitions, but also capable of been down to earth and easy going at times. Sounds like the perfect mix of qualities! :-)Oh, sure, that's their reply during the day. At night, after a few drinks....:o

[Tanya+]

I like to look at the very feminine, but when it comes to partners, All of my GFs and wife were/are more jeans and no makeup, unless work or weddings demand some dressing-up, generally feminist but 'proper girls' too, not aggressive or such. Heart first, the rest is details.

[Sabrina133]

Hi everyone,

I'm new on this forum and I have SO many questions to ask you, I can't contain my curiosity/excitement! :-) (BTW I am a GG)

Do the majority of you (Crossdressers) prefer feminine women as partners, and by that I mean with a feminine physicality, look, attitude, and so on or you tend to prefer women not too feminine, with a slight manly look, aggressive behaviour and so on? Or the answer is just "it depends"? :-)

First of all, welcome to the forum. What an intriguing question! Frankly, i am attracted to very feminine women. WOmen who are comfortable with the way they can be sensual without being overt. What attracted me to my wife was not only her femininity but how she was comfortable with it.

Bree.

[Katey888]

I've left this one a while, but no longer... :)

It's funny - but I probably think of all women as feminine... I think that means I just prefer my women to be women - if that makes sense... ;)

Given the relative sexual orientation of all us 'girls' here, that shouldn't come as a surprise - what matters more to me is what's going on beneath the makeup and 'feminine' exterior. I can't honestly believe that my crossdressing proclivities have really had any influence on the type of women I've been attracted to...

But redheads with freckles just floor me... :D

Katey x

[Teresa]

Morgana,
I think it's nice to be married to someone who can look good in a pretty sundress and yet have the ability to share in the everyday family life and keep a good home ! Also accept that hubby can look just as good in a pretty sundress too, but that's wishful thinking !!

[weyburn]

prefer somewhat feminine and assertive as opposed to agressive

[prettytoes]

I am very attracted to "sporty", yet very feminine woman. I love the "workout capri/sport bra" look (on myself as well as on a well toned GG). The neon colored sneakers are a nice added bonus! I am normally not attracted to women with very short hair, although some can pull it off.
It seems to me that the styles I like to wear...mini or short skirts; denim or "cargo" style, tank tops or camis, bright neon colors, etc., are what I like to see on a GG.
Pretty much, I like a woman that can sweat it off at the gym, then go home and get dolled up for a night on the town. I also like to see just a little makeup on a GG...smokey eyes, light lipstick, etc. I don't like to see makeup that is overdone.

[Mollyanne]

For me, the more feminine the better!!!!!! My SO is the most feminine, beautiful woman I have ever known. We are married over 50 yrs ( I don't know how she did it)

Molly

[Adelaide]

A very feminine woman....like I am!

[alwayshave]

Lacey, there is no doubt that I like women they way I would like to dress, very feminine. I know that I have commented about this on other like threads, but in 9 years with my fiancee I have only seen her in pants twice and she always wears heels, just the way I would dress...

[BillieAnneJean]

I prefer my SO because for me she is the perfect combination.
She ranges from a feminine GG when the occasion is appropriate through a tomboy when she does guy things with me like motorcycle riding, flying, boating, etc.
And when we are alone at home, she is always feminine GG.
Perfect.
And that is how she has kept my interest for such a long time.

[Sarasometimes]

I'm the exception to a degree. My wife rarely wears makeup and is fairly low maintenance other than that her hair is styled carefully everyday (various styles). She enjoys a range of activities from cooking, baking and crafts to riding the lawn tractor and digging in the dirt.
I had contended (before all of the above posts showed up) that most want a balance of masculine/feminine in their lives. Macho guys/girlier women...There are always exceptions.

[Jamie Christopher]

I also prefer very feminine women....

Jamie

[Jenn A116]

What an interesting question!

I can't say I've ever given it much real thought. I just know that there are some women that I'm attracted to at first glance. In my case it seems that the petite women with dark hair get a particular notice from me. Of course I also appreciate the tall blonds, spicy redheads, etc.

I suppose the more feminine woman appeals to me more, perhaps because I wish I could look like them. I also see some women out who don't do anything at all to look "feminine" and sometimes think "how sad". Its probably all that "grass is greener" thing...

[Stephanie Julianna]

In boy mode I only prefer feminine woman. In girl mode I enjoy the company of both feminine women and real gentlemen.

[Melissa_59]

Definitely prefer feminine women. While in my past I've dated women who were... good golly Miss Molly what is a good way to say this? "Rough"? Um... "less feminine"? More feminine is definitely appealing to me, although please don't mistake this for someone who is weak. You can be feminine and strong at the same time. While I don't mind killing the Evil Moth that got into the house, and I commiserate with you over the broken nail, if you want to cut the grass or learn how to short block a 350 Chevy or put your own home built computer together I won't object at all. There's nothing wrong with doing a 3 angle grind on the valves in the day and then putting on a skirt later on.

:)

~Melissa

[Melissa_59]

But redheads with freckles just floor me... :D


Me too. And I have a daughter and a brand new granddaughter (1 month and 3 days old) who are both redheads. :)

~Melissa

[gailbridges]

I would kill to be with a truly feminine woman.

I was rather duped by my wife. She dressed girly when we first met, and then it went downhill rapidly because I thought it was "time" to get married.
Turns out she was never particularly girly, and never really learned the feminine arts (which annoys the crap out of my daughter who wants to be taught in the ways of the makeup/hair/fashion girly girl)

Now, however, with my wife's Multiple sclerosis being rather prominent in our lives these days (she's ambulatory, and she can drive, but her memory and cognition are always a challenge), she can manage her hair, and she can put on a bit of makeup. But the rest of her maintenance is fairly minimal. (She's never had good balance, so most heels aren't even a factor.)

[Mollyanne]

Very feminine and very girly. This is what attracted me to my wife and still does. Actually she IS my alter ego.

Molly

[Vickie_CDTV]

I would prefer a woman who dresses in a traditionally feminine manner... but unlike many, personally, I am attracted to women who are a bit... umm... how do I say, are a bit "tough" or "stern" looking. A woman who wears dresses and stockings and such but has a bit of an edge to her look (tall or big or has a distinct nose or short hair, etc.) I guess that is because I want a role reversal relationship, and want a woman who looks a bit... well, strong and in charge.

I actually once had a woman like that, sadly she is gone. I doubt I will find another like her, not many straight women who would want a role-reversal relationship.

[Lorileah]

I would kill to be with a truly feminine woman.

I was rather duped by my wife. She dressed girly when we first met, and then it went downhill rapidly because I thought it was "time" to get married.

You were totally innocent I'm sure. :facepalm: Holy cow, you guys amaze me. You REALLY think women trap you...


The premise of the thread amazes me. How you are all looking at the package and not the gift that is inside. Really, who cares what your spouse wears, isn't it about who you two are together? Let's switch something here....Does your SO want a guy who can kill a bear with his bare hands, or someone who can change a light bulb?

How's it feel to be wanted for superficial BS?

[Angie G]

I like my wife just the way she is 100% woman.:hugs:
Angie

[Anne-Sofie]

I love "girly girls" that express their feminity in every way they can. Especialy the kind that is elegant but very sexy. This is because when I'm in female form I try to be as elegant and sexy as I can. When I'm in male form I am really manly in behavior.

Anne-Sofie
x

[NickyLycra]

I had always been attracted to women with brains, a love of success, and long hair.
I ended up always taking the submissive roll. (Given I'm here you'd think that was a natural fit)
I'm not proud of this but by my second divorce I worked out perhaps I needed to change something about what I was looking for.

Turns out, I like girly girls who like have a submissive tendency and like me to be in charge of stuff.
I had to learn how to become more of an Alpha Type Guy and when I did I attracted what we would all describe as the perfect wife.
The girly girl side means she has a love of fashion, and she has always loved my deep knowledge of what goes with what.

The girly girl loves my Ying and Yang: Alpha by day Glamazon by night.

[Lily Catherine]

Intelligence and a strong mind would be first and foremost, above all, to me. The ultimate icing would certainly be a partner who, beyond acceptance, appreciates and embraces my cross-dressing. (That's honestly one in a million though!)

In sole terms of appearance, I'm especially attracted to short-haired women with long legs, but these are bonuses and little more.

Of course, I feel it'd be unwise to simply pen these down as expectations.

[Judith96a]

I was about to reply saying, "very feminine" and then I saw this from Samantha...

I like a woman to be feminine but not to the point where she is an almost helpless needy "bimbo". If her whole world revolves around getting her hair & nails done and shoe & clothes shopping that gets old & expensive fast.
Smart, good sense of humor and can dress up nice when necessary is a good combination. :2c:

Couldn't have said it better myself!
Oh for a 'like' button!

[Candice June Lee]

I have to agree with a couple people, one of whicn is LoriLeah. Anyway, the looks, mostly the clothing of a gg is not as important as her acceptance and support. Now going around as FtM all the time may be much or maybe not. Us MtF wanting to around as fem all the time is no different. So look at the whole pie not just the slice. Personality goes a long ways. I like everyone if they arent pushy, no matter their dressing and thought habits.

[Cassandra*]

The feminine the better. The other day I saw a woman pumping gas fro afar and was just in aw. I have a real attraction to the 60's look and this is what attracted me to my current wife she resemble Doris Day. Our relationship is kind of opposite in gender. When we were dating she was always made I and sexy, wouldn't even use the restroom at my home. After the marriage and one child no makeup doesn't shave during the winter until she can wear shorts. Me on the other hand I shave daily, wear panty's and painting my toes. I love my wife and we are great friends but sometimes I think I'm the real GG in our relationship.

[joanna4]

I prefer very feminine girls. Makeup, hair, and fashion along with natural beauty. I myself am also high maintenance. Nice clothes waxed denim and leather jackets along with clean shoes, and to top it off, cool haircut.

[adrienner99]

I am with my girlfriend more because of personality and character than looks or dress. We invariably laugh at the same things. Do I wish she would dress more feminine? High heels, dresses, lipstick...ABSOLUTELY. There is a reason why cosmetics is a multi-billion dollar business and newsstands are filled with 50 fashion magazines...

[Angie G]

My wife is all woman and I love it that way.:hugs:
Angie

[nevarrie]

Depends on what is going on. The easy answer is that I like a girly girl, but my wife of 14 years is not always a girly girl. She knows how to be very girly, but she also can enjoy going camping and not having to be all girly girl, she is a jeans and tee shirt kind of girl most of the time. We can be all girly girl together picking out new dresses and getting all made up or we can go camping and white water rafting and not worry about being feminine at all.

I know I am attracted to girls that do not require the makeup and fashion to look girly. It maybe that I am a small town kid from the midwest. I saw girls that worked the farms that looked great is jeans and tee shirt and then could go to a dance in a dress looking like a princes. In many ways that is how I see my CD. I dress how I feel at the time. Sometimes I want to be a princes and other times I want to be the tomboy playing with frogs. That is the type of girl I am attracted to.

Before I got married I dated several girls and guys. I found I liked to have someone that can enjoy being dressed up from time to time. They do not have to be girly all the time but at least some times they need to be and must be able to handle me being that way to. Most of the guys I was with I missed having them be more girly that I found I get more with a real GG. Though I will admit I know a few butch girls that I enjoy being friends with but I do not find it as attractive for them to be my prince in shinning armor to my princess. I prefer a girls night out together.

In the end I found I needed to find someone that I could be best friends with and enjoy doing things together wither that was going out all dressed up or shorts and tee shirt going hiking.

[jigna]

I will wear al possible things, make-up, dresses, ornaments etc.

[cinderellaman]

I am very attracted to "sporty", yet very feminine woman. I love the "workout capri/sport bra" look (on myself as well as on a well toned GG). The neon colored sneakers are a nice added bonus! I am normally not attracted to women with very short hair, although some can pull it off.
It seems to me that the styles I like to wear...mini or short skirts; denim or "cargo" style, tank tops or camis, bright neon colors, etc., are what I like to see on a GG.
Pretty much, I like a woman that can sweat it off at the gym, then go home and get dolled up for a night on the town. I also like to see just a little makeup on a GG...smokey eyes, light lipstick, etc. I don't like to see makeup that is overdone.

+1!! I love toned, muscular women.

[JessMe]

My girlfriend is the type who gets ridiculously excited about makeup sales and cute, frilly clothes... she can justify almost any expense in some way... but when it's time to get dirty... she also knows the torque specs on a small-block ford... she's as girly as they come, but ain't afraid of getting a little dirty either. She is ultimately the kind of woman I want to be.

[Lilblondecutie1407]

I love girly girls but also want someone that shares my less feminine passions and isn't afraid to get dirty and go camping our out for a rip on my motorcycle.

[Hilde_Morales]

My past partners, whilst all being female, have run the gamut of femininity, but at the time, I was attracted to each of them.
Personality is a massive part of that.

I do like it if a girl likes to pull out the stops occasionally and glam herself up, and act like a lady. regardless of how she dresses/acts generally.

[Edie Palmer]

I've always wanted to be involved with someone who has the same gender fluidity that I've had in life -- someone who likes hitting both ends of the spectrum. I've met a couple of women like that, none who were available for dating.

[Jilmac]

My preference has always been, and still is a feminine woman. Although I have had friends who were tomboyish or borderline masculine, I never would have considered them as a signifigent other.

[PaulaQ]

I prefer very feminine women, or very masculine men. Neither of the women I married was highly feminine. They could dress up when they wanted to - they just mostly didn't want to. It wasn't really them.

I wouldn't date a woman like that again. There's nothing wrong with being a more masculine, or at least less feminine, woman. But I don't seem to be happy with compromises, unfortunately. Life would be simpler if I were.